Recent content by Holden

Yeah that makes sense. I made it very clear beforehand the first date was just one hour, during the afternoon, and if I didn't go for the pull anyway, I made sure the date was really just one hour long and then I ended it.

Happy birthday. I used to do the whole two-date model but when you screen more actively (Fet/Feeld = screened) it's not really necessarily I think. Even then, I still pulled if it felt right (which was like 70% of the time) If they have primary partners you just need to move as fast as...

Actually I think you're right and you should keep hanging out with her, but you have to forget trying to do anything with her. But the social status that she gives you just by hanging out with you, is indeed worth a lot. Your problem is that you're too focused on her as a romantic prospect when...

SMV always matters. Rather than assuming you witness the equivalent of a miracle (where the laws of nature suddenly stop existing so an exception to them can occur) better to assume there is something happening you don't know about. That Squirmy and Grubs couple for example. First of all they...

People say phenibut is addictive and there are horror stories out there, personally I always stuck to the old wisdom of taking it once every two weeks max and I never had any issues. Nowadays I only take it on very special occasions, like a handful of times per year. It's definitely pro-social...

I used to take ashwagandha too but apparently it's quite bad on the liver, and it's not like I noticed a lot of effects so I just stopped it. Chris GLL and Derek from MPMD both swear by hyaluronic acid (the pure liquid you put on your face, not the creams with 2%) and so I use that, but I can't...

This reminds me of something I did last year where I tried to do something extraordinary with low odds of success every day, the logic being that if you do something every day with a 99% failure rate, you'll still end up with 3-4 amazing things/stories in a year. Reaching out to a really big...

Please never stop sharing the Fetlife stuff you're doing. I don't really have time atm but in the near future I want to max out my profile there and once I'm settled in a new city semi-permanently I'd want to do events too (but in a slightly different way than you.) Really cool to read all this...

No one is making anyone do anything. Just sharing my own experience. Clock ticks for everyone. So we all have to make a choice how to spend our time. I've said how I spent mine and how it turned out for me, others and OP can do with that info what they will and form their own conclusions, obviously.

I'll just finish by reiterating that it was a tough awakening for me to realize that getting an apartment didn't translate to significantly more success, and to see with my own eyes that when I talked about my (relatively high status) job and biz, girls put me in the provider bucket whereas...

That's why I said you need to make money for its own sake, but it's a mistake to think it will help with girls. Yeah, you should cultivate these traits (social skills, creativity, not giving a fuck attitude). If I could go back in time I'd get a job as a bartender 100%. As it turned out I got...

OP clearly wants to have sex with girls

You should make money obviously but it's a persistent lie, borne from ignorance and lack of experience, that making money will help with getting girls. You need enough money for your own place to stay, and enough time to hit on girls. That is enough. Obviously you need money in life. But not...

Not really. If I get ghosted I either saw it coming, and I'm glad I don't have to do it myself, or I'm confident enough to know the problem wasn't me. Like, either the problem is me, in which case I know why, and her giving me the reason is redundant. Or the problem has something to do with...

Mechanically repeating the same date format ad nauseam like the top online guys, for sure can lead to a high lay count and also being socially weird. But even if the system doesn't allow for a lot of variance, it still allows for some. You're still improving. Hey, fucking 100 girls after a 1...