Recent content by Zug

Just my 2c, but my therapist is pretty good, and was gung-ho about never doing couples counseling again. It was his opinion that it was a waste of his time. There is too much room for people to offload responsibility while simultaneously demanding you mediate their different brands of bullshit...

I really, really liked the book "The Courage to be Disliked" by Fumitake. It's more philosophical than No more Mr Nice guy, but it really cuts through the false beliefs we all hold regarding our ability or power to change others or why it isn't a good idea even when possible. Then it really...

Sterling Cooper has a fantastic video series on dirty talk, but it is pretty expensive.

You don't keep the promises you make to yourself, or you're literally not doing anything meaningful with your life. IMO, those are the only two things you need. If its the first, stop. Whenever you make a promise to yourself, do not let yourself break it for any reason. If you tell yourself...

Retraining your language/word choices is not easy. You have to constantly pay attention to how you speak internally and externally, then self edit yourself constantly. I think I've been working on changing my submissive wordings to dominant for 2 years now and it's still ongoing. You have to...

I struggled with all of this too. Here's the hard truth I had to swallow for myself. My anger, bitterness, and resentment is never an asset in any situation. Even when I am right, even when she is wrong. Even when I'm justified, even when she isn't. Those emotions have never helped me with her...

All the guys debating getting a coach or lamenting their lack of progress would change their lives overnight if they found 2-3 other guys from this place and got an apartment or airbnb together for a few months and just be immersed 24/7. I never thought of it early, but if I somehow had to...

I don't know what Barcelona is like, but the quality doesn't "run out" anywhere in the way you're describing. Ideally, you want to swipe through literally every woman within your dating radius so that there are literally 0 profiles left. Then each day when you login you will see only brand new...

That's you though. I'd be ready in under a month too. Be careful with thinking everyone different from you is flawed. I agree with pancake. I do like getting to physical touch soon, but you can go to fast, and when you do they go defensive for the rest of the date. At last get past initial...

This is really good advice that has a lot more mindspace to explore. If parts of your life are not fitting together, it is virtually always a sign of a mistake or that you're trying something new. If you're trying something new, then give yourself room to be incongruent. However, lack of...

My thoughts on this are a little different. AFAICT, if at anytime she wanted to fuck or expected to fuck, and you didn't, and you could have through taking the lead and/or solving logistics, you're not going to see her again. The most important part of that statement is that if has A LOT to do...

Awesome!. Happy things are going well!

100% this, eventually I realized 98% of the women attracted to me were all after a very similar constellation of qualities I possess. I started leaning into it a little more and got more results. I enjoyed letting that part of me develop further, and I kept promoting it further and leaning into...

You're taking big steps and making a ton of progress on these. You'll have some good photos soon if you keep improving like this. Great job

I think you look good and the picture idea has potential. I got 0 useable pics out of my first few shoots. It's not about attractiveness or technical photography skill, it's about how to frame the photo and put elements together to make a good profile photo. I don't think you have any idea how...