Ravi, Year 3: Self-Improvement Log - Data-Driven, Incremental Growth. Feedback Welcome. Ego & Defenses, Dropping [XMAS MESSAGE FROM MAC]

Terraqua said:

When I read this I was instantly like "Damn :-D", because it sounds so casual.

Last time I did shrooms (1,25g) almost 6 years ago it was just for shits and giggles but I met God, became permanently sober and quit my job to apply to uni. I want to hear a trip report!​

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You bet!

So, so interesting that your trip gave you that kind of clarity - met God....my man, epic.....

Lets make it transformative and life changing today!

MAC

Really fun day so far. It's been hustle-mania since I got to NYC, and I've barely had a moment to sit my brown ass down and think.

DOING is one part of the journey. Actions, pushing oneself, getting out of the comfort zone.

And the other part?

BEING.

Just BEING.....

In community. In brotherhood. In friendship.

Many of us, have great personalities, and have built ourselves into people with great energy, vibe, presence and charisma.

It's like, we have this ability to connect with people and be social, that many of us had to learn - and we're using it on the streets, and on dates, but not with each other.

Not to enjoy the men we are, and the friendship and brotherhood we have.

Loved the meetup. It was with one of my clients in IW, who is a leader and a man whose energy and mission I deeply support.

Being in service of others, you expand your own life and view a lot.

Most of the people around me today, do not know what self-improvement is. We talked about travel, culture, our hobbies and pastimes, and our life experiences. I felt connection and community from everyone who attended, and could see why my client values in-person community and connection so much.

Life is about people. It's about connection, being out and social, and BEING.

Much of self-improvement, is us DOING.

A timely reminder, that we need both.

-MAC

Been thinking quite a bit about my journey.

Was this all about just overcoming my anxiety, and becoming a leader, being a social person?

Is it even game anymore?

Or is it about truly enjoying humans, and community?

Is there a level of community I am still not actualising?

What if I took the work I do on the forum, to the real world, and build something real, in person, and enduring?

I've done it before, in different projects, and I feel like this is something that is maybe missing in my life.

The happiest I've felt, is just being with people.

Yesterday, just stood talking with various guys. Including a guy I see as an absolute legend - a brown guy in NYC, from India, who we will just call V, who has built a sex and dating life better than 99% of men who ever lived, through working with Dante and working on himself. Banged 20 brown women in one month - in my world, something of a real feat lol.

Shooting the shit with these guys, not even approaching but just chatting and laughing, are times when I am happy. Laughing about the blowouts and lack of matches. It actually felt good.

Same thing today, just being around people and talking, laughing, being human.

These are times when I feel happy.

Because I'm not trying. I'm not working on self-improvement. I'm not chasing any goals. I just get to BE.

I really enjoyed chatting to this super lovely Asian gal today, and enjoyed the conversation a lot. This is a non-game scenario, and I was just pleased to be able to see so many aspects of her humanity, outside of a game context. How warm, personable, and kind, giving, and community-centred she was.

In the game, we're dealing with women in approaches and on dates for the most of our contact with them. We're getting rejections daily, blowouts, and having sets to nowhere. We're getting fake numbers and dealing with all sorts.

We stay with it, and there's this time in the journey we start to mature and just look at it as a skill - it's practice for the big show.

And then we FEEL the social skill and mindset improvements.

Listening to feedback from the seasoned NYC guys, who "made it" by all accounts, the opinion among the cohort is, my main issue is that I need more inner game work.

Which serves me, beautifully.

Because much of my life now is addressing the inner world. Most of what I am infact doing in my business, is going very, very deep with my clients, and myself also.

Most of our highest performance is about shifting our energies and our headspace, so we can operate at the highest level.

I am setting my intention for my shrooms trip today to go deep into my limiting beliefs and finding healing and processing of them.

To wake up to the next evolution of myself.

-MAC

Shrooms trip was fucking insane

One of the most powerful experiences of my life

Feel a level of inner peace I've not felt in a long time.

The inner work, is helping.

Letting go of some very strongly held limiting beliefs, and had major insights into my relationship with my Dad which was the first destabilising factor in my life

I think a conversation with him is quite long overdue.

This is going to take place this week.

Reflecting on my experience of dating S, and how I did self-sabotage that experience like a champ, wasn't only helpful, but it showed me how much S actually cared. Girls don't talk to their family about you, send them pictures, get advice from spiritual teachers on your compatibility, and make real efforts like she did, if they don't want to be with you. It helped me to process that. Plus, the many things I did to stop it becoming a healthy relationship, were down to me, and the insecurities I've been working through the past 3 years.

I realised, the situation was too complex, but in a year or two, if I was I found myself in the same position, I can see myself being able to make it work.

By all accounts, I am a major example of a former incel, hardcase success story.

I have done it through consistent hard work. And not failing to show up.

I give myself credit for it now. And can see why I get the respect I do in the community and in life.

I have a date tonight, with a girl I consider very pretty, and I'm quite happy about that. I have another one scheduled tomorrow, and there are two other girls who are chatting with me on WhatsApp, keen for a date.

We'll create positive experiences together.

I have spoken to Carl, and our commitment to inner work is so very strong, that he's agree that we're going to extend my stay in NYC, until we have made real, true inner progress. I think another 5 weeks will see us progress a lot.

We're doing inner work sessions, twice a week, which are quite deep dives.

And following a really successful mushrooms session yesterday, we are going to do another one in 4 weeks.

The sticking point for me, which everyone insists on, is inner game & past trauma. Which I do not blame myself for - childhood trauma is not the individuals fault. But it is an opportunity for growth & transcendence.

And to find inner peace, and the ability to form strong, loving, positive romantic relationships.

I am healing & growing.

Because I am doing the work.

It is my experience in life, that sometimes, winning is ugly. It's not neat. It's not tidy. It can infact, suck.

Embracing it. Doing the work. And taking it one day at a time, has produced a very, very interesting and fascinating life for me, that I am quite surprised I get to lead.................

Onwards.

-MAC

Monday 16/09/2024

(1) Business:
-Block 1: Coaching + Adding Value
-Block 2: Business Development
-Block 3: Partnership Project
-Client Call: Manhattan

(2) Body:
-Gym: Legs & KoT
-Diet

(3) Mindset:
-Date: Bring intent, man to woman, be calibrated and lead. Work on tonality and presence, and vibe. Create chemistry. Pitch the pull, bring her back.

Notes:

Well, this weekend was phenomenal.

The shrooms trip, was a resounding success. A peak life experience, and deeply, deeply healing. Getting inside of myself, and understanding the truths, and the fictions within myself.

Some powerful things that were profound, reality melting insights during the trip:

-I am quite an attractive and desirable person. I tend not to act as if this is true. A guy who is 6ft5, decent to moderately good looking, in shape, and whom is confident, hard working, and good with people, is not unattractive. I wouldn't have slept with as many women as I have, if this was the case. And some of the women, did actually like it. There are examples of where there was genuine interest; that is sufficient to put the matter to bed, when my deeper being is able to realise it.
-Low SMV, as a concept, is quite flawed. It is not the correct way to think about it. All males, have a market. Some do have a far larger market, but the real world data suggest, every male who is alive, DOES have a market, and genuine survival and replication value. My market, is a good one. I am able to attract intelligent, sometimes quite attractive, women, who are well-rounded, and of sufficient value, that they are able to see the substance I have, and look past mainstream and conformist notions of attractiveness, desirability, and so on. My image, is positive – those who are not a good fit for me, stay away from me, and those who are receptive, I am able to draw in, and will draw in more reliably when my inner game has strengthened further. While it does often take considerably more swipes, approaches, and periods of time to find “qualified leads”, so to speak, these are the only leads I would ever want. I do not require anyone in my life who does not see value in me, and see me as a catch. Because I am.
-I have achieved my wildest dreams and consistently hit my goals, year after year, without fail. I have built an unbelievably network and life, where high level people text me every single day wanting to hang out. Considering true incel, hardcases, who are virgins until 30 and who have an absolute wreckage of a life to claw back up from, there is a case to be made that my own personal transformation is one of the greatest hardcase success stories of all time, and I still in the journey, working through my long standing inner game sticking point.
-I can find the successful relationship I seek, with a quality partner, and the only reason it hasn't happened yet, is my long-standing patterns of self-sabotage. However, each time I awaken to the self-sabotage, the next round, is far weaker. They are becoming progressively weaker, and in time, like everything – they'll abate and leave me with deeper freedom and peace.

The outer work we do, pursuing goals, is great.

The inner work, creating a better Self, is everything.

Inner Game is KING.

This chapter of my life will be dedicated to building good Inner Game.

It'll happen.

-MAC

I really like your outlook on smv!
I've always been confused how some girls are completely indifferent but others seem to think I'm the next Messiah it just doesn't add up.
I've been looking for girls who are more compatible not just above my looks threshold and have been enjoying it a lot.

Ali said:

I really like your outlook on smv!
I've always been confused how some girls are completely indifferent but others seem to think I'm the next Messiah it just doesn't add up.
I've been looking for girls who are more compatible not just above my looks threshold and have been enjoying it a lot.

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Mate, TELL ME ABOUT IT!

Day Gaming, or Night Gaming for that matter, you'd think I'm from the moon!

90% of chicks who stop, are open to listening and maybe feeling if there is something, but they just can't process feeling attraction or desire.

On the apps, there are some lovely women who are just into me, and show genuine keen interest in coming to see me.

I will comment more, off to a meeting rn, but lordy, can your perspective get REKT if you're not looking at it the right way

Date was cuck.

Upon arrival, the girl was quite nervous, scattered. She later revealed she had ADHD.

I was tired, and not in my clearest head space. It was tougher to think, and hold tension.

The girl, was not vibey, very logical, and the conversation, lacked sexual tension.

There was a lack of base attraction here. She did admit to being stressed and having had a long day. So emotionally, she probably wasn't in the best of spirits. She didn't have the feminine energy or presence I often seek.

How I handled this:

-Frame: Didn't feel like I was in control, conversation was spiralling all over the place in her ADHD mind. Was doing what I could, but felt like it was hard to move things forward.
-Sexualisation: She was fine with touch, and didn't object at all.
-Intent: I would make sexual jokes and innuendo, and talk about sexual topics, but she just didn't respond, and would switch the topic.
-Future projection: Did some, which kinda just floated over her head.
-Soft pitching the pull: Was trying to find some way to pitch the pull, but she wouldn't give me anything.

As the date went past the 1hr mark, it was clear we weren't vibing.

I decided to tell her, we can call it here, rather than tell her we're not vibing.

Useful experience, first date since arriving in NYC. Really not the type of girl I would want to date at all. Not the energy I like.

Perhaps if I was in a better headspace, I could have done better. Nonetheless, practice, useful experience.

I do have another lead for tomorrow, and there is another chick who is asking me when I'll be taking her for drinks, but I am going to ghost that one - I know her type, busy, professional investment banker. Masculine energy and virtually guaranteed cuck. No thanks.

The girl tomorrow, I hope I like better as a person.

A decent day, but mentally not sharp. The shrooming, drained my mind a tonne.

Lets do better tomorrow.

-MAC

loki said:

And hold on - one more thing.

You barely found out shit about this girl.

You have no right to judge her likeability when you didn't actually find anything out about her.

Here's something I know about her based on your writing:

She's scared and insecure and wants to be with a guy who can protect her and her feelings. That requires a mentally strong guy. She filters for mentally strong guys by refusing to open up until the guy calls her out and guides her through the process. She donated you an entire hour of her time in the hopes that you were that guy. You were not, so she didn't open up, and didn't show you who she ACTUALLY is as a person.

All you know is surface level shit about her, and that her preferred defense mechanism against being with a weak guy is the "adhd" strat of slipping out of substantive conversation until she gets directly confronted about it. That's barely anything. You have no idea if she's actually a good person or what her deep values are deep down.

Stop assuming you don't like a girl just because you're too weak to crack her.

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Predicted objection: she'd open up way easier for a more good looking probably white guy.

Yep! That's totally correct.

In her world, guys have more power if they're better looking, or more white. Society gives them that power. She can only feel safe to expose her true self around a powerful guy. You aren't good looking or white, so she went on a date with you because maybe you have what the good looking white oofy doofs don't have - mental strength. You failed to demonstrate it so she passed. But don't think that she's she's a bad person for not opening up her true self around you, when she hasn't seen you demonstrate the mental strength necessary to make her feel protected.

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I find this mentality quite repellent

Dating is also about compatability

Not everyone wants to ‘crack’ people they do not like

It wasn’t a good fitment. I found out plenty about her. And it was a dull evening.

It was exhausting just sitting with her, let alone trying to pry into her being

Your thoughts on mental strength are you projecting massively imo.

Seeing the guys these girls date, they’re hardly the paragon of mental strength…..

I’m not particularly bothered about a boring date, and think the correct action was the one taken….leave and try someone else.

loki said:

Game is about being authentic and assertive.

When a girl does something you don't like, and you keep it in your head instead of communicating it to her, you are on the passive side of passive-aggressive. The more you passively build up resentment, the more it later comes out as the uncalibrated aggressive side of passive-aggression, usually long after the fact and emanating in a million subtle ways, like:

- holding tension in your body around women
- complaining about women when they're not around
- being overly paranoid and distrustful when you do start to get closer to women
- directing this pain into yourself through self sabotage

The nice thing about field reports is you can read the complaints you make about the girl, and simply actually directly say those complaints to the next girl that does the same shit.

After all, if you're walking away anyway, why not state your ultimatum of all the behaviour you don't like in her, before walking away?

(And if you're ready to state ultimatums before walking away, why not bring up those objections even sooner in the process? And so on until you're properly balanced in being assertive at the right time and in the right context and in a gentle, firm, light heated manner.)

But for now let's start with the whole, be honest with the girl right before you walk away stuff.

So let's take this report as an example:



Did you tell her that you felt like the conversation was going nowhere and you were failing to build a connection and intimacy because she kept distracting you and shutting her off?



Did you tell her that she was sending mixed signals by being open to physical touch but not opening up as a person?



Did you call her out on being weirdly asexual in her energy?



Did you call her out on not really paying attention to you and going along with good vibes?



Did you call her out on being slippery and evasive?

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Obviously none of this is an immediate "I win" cheat code. Your results are barely going to improve, if at all, when you start the process of ACTUALLY being assertive by ACTUALLY communicating your needs and how the girl is failing to meet them. But it's the obvious and natural first step to being more assertive and opens up a lot more space in the conversation to figure out her blockers and get her to bring up objections for you to work around. It's the path you HAVE to take.

All of this game stuff really just tries to point you into looking at your own needs and most effectively communicating them to the girl.

That's an INTERNAL process.

That's not a "listen to someone else's instructions and execute them" process where for example you hear that you have to "make the conversation sexual" so you execute "making the conversation sexual" in a detached way.

That's a process where YOU YOURSELF DIRECTLY KNOW AND FEEL this stuff, that for example you want to open the girl's sexual energy up, that this is who you ARE as a person, and that this is a gift to women, and that if they're rejecting this gift, it's a win for both of you to be firm in calling her out and exploring why she's rejecting it.

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Going deeper though, I'm pretty sure some part of you is repulsed by these suggestions, especially since I remember you tried working on this stuff a year ago and went nowhere. You've done a bajillion approaches and gone on a zillion dates of which like 90% you yourself claim go nowhere.

Why after all this time is it so difficult for you to be assertive to women who you claim are obviously not interested in you?

I'm saying this to point at something meaningful inside yourself. You're denying yourself permission to actually state YOUR OWN needs, based on what YOU want, instead of submitting to other peoples' rules of politeness and "not hurting girls feelings" (which is ironic because we do it way more when we're passive aggressive than when we show them who we really are), and following other peoples' game instructions so that you can blame failing to assert yourself on failing to pick the right system, rather than failing to actually show your true core.

(sorry if this is fragmented repeating myself I edited this post a bunch)

The lack of giving yourself permission to go for what you want goes really deep into your triggers, which is why more than anything I'm so supportive of you taking time off to explore these triggers and personality flaws, because as I'm going through this process myself I'm seeing it be so much more rewarding than anything else I did in game in the last 3 years.

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This was an interesting post however and one I think I’ve taken some helpful advice from

loki said:

Game is about being authentic and assertive.

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Yes, in part.

But here's the deal.

I can accept this position in day game, where you're approaching women you find desirable, and want to feel chemistry with.

I find it a lot less palatable for app dates, with women who are often considerably less attractive than those I'd approach. As you know well, my app quality, is & was, always quite low. The chick yesterday, was 1.5 points worse looking than her pics, and her vibe and energy, was exhausting to be around.

For an app date, with someone I'm barely interested in upon arrival, due to not feeling attraction or desire for them at my core, my feeling is to work on skills and practice.

Asserting my will and directing the interaction towards a specific outcome, becomes quite difficult, when there is an internal conflict about even wanting the person.

I don't actually want 99.999% of the women I meet on dating apps. And you know this, as well as others.

loki said:

When a girl does something you don't like, and you keep it in your head instead of communicating it to her, you are on the passive side of passive-aggressive.

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This is one perspective.

But isn't mine.

Mine:

I want to communicate with this person, to see if I like them, and if we're compatible. If we're not, I begin to progressively lose more and more attraction to her internally, until I just want to walk away.

That we can call a screening mindset, and is one I am falling into progressively more after a few years of this.

We all get more seasoned and a bit more jaded, and girls like this one, who are painfully dull, make it very easy to want to split.

I felt it from her, too.

In my opinion, there has to be some attraction. Otherwise, it's like speaking to a brick wall. We don't need that.

loki said:

After all, if you're walking away anyway, why not state your ultimatum of all the behaviour you don't like in her, before walking away?

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Again, many different takes on this.

I recall walking away from a date in Mexico, and people being up in arms about it.

loki said:

(And if you're ready to state ultimatums before walking away, why not bring up those objections even sooner in the process? And so on until you're properly balanced in being assertive at the right time and in the right context and in a gentle, firm, light heated manner.)

But for now let's start with the whole, be honest with the girl right before you walk away stuff.

So let's take this report as an example:



Did you tell her that you felt like the conversation was going nowhere and you were failing to build a connection and intimacy because she kept distracting you and shutting her off?

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I don't think this is how conversations for women work....

These are not yes girls, and they are not going on dates oftentimes because they're looking for someone or something.

The gal yesterday, told me openly she was not looking for anything.

Common with lots of women. She was quite jaded and distrustful of dating and was complaining about her experiences. She seemed cynical.

In her world, I don't think she goes on dates for them to go anywhere. As such, on the date, she is just going to chat aimlessly, and in the case yesterday, be on a date with someone she's not even attracted to (I wish they wouldn't do this), and we're both going to have to chalk it down to a lack of fitment.

You speak to people to see if there is a spark and some commonalities. And if there's not, you walk.

Your suggestion feels like you're going into dates. trying to contort them to your will, and slowly bash them into submission.

How isn't this as passive aggressive as your take on screening?

loki said:

Did you tell her that she was sending mixed signals by being open to physical touch but not opening up as a person?

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She was telling me more about herself and opening up. It's not like the picture you have in your head, dude.

But her energy was so ADHD, I felt nothing, and no tension was dissipating throughout the date.

I felt nothing from her, and she didn't express any interest in myself. Didn't ask any questions, and just spouted off a bunch of hot air to be quite honest. Her intent and attraction, wasn't there.

I call these "brick wall" sets.

They happen, when people are not at all compatible.

Welcome to human life.

loki said:

Did you call her out on being weirdly asexual in her energy?

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Example of what this would look like?

"I feel like you're not being open in your sexual energy?"

I'd imagine, from her perspective, her response would be:

"Well I don't know you"

Given how averse she was to discussing sexual topics, I expect she would have become very uncomfortable with being called out on this.

I think this would have been very uncalibrated.............And not a good experience for her....

loki said:

Did you call her out on not really paying attention to you and going along with good vibes?

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Again, this isn't how you're picturing in your mind.

She was trying.

She was just socially inept and had a horrendous vibe.

Some people, are like this, I'm afraid.

loki said:

Did you call her out on being slippery and evasive?

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No, because she wasn't.

Feels like you're projecting a lot and interpreting a tonne that wasn't there.

Social dynamics are not as rigid and black and white as you seem to think.

There is nuance and shades of grey.

loki said:

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Obviously none of this is an immediate "I win" cheat code. Your results are barely going to improve, if at all, when you start the process of ACTUALLY being assertive by ACTUALLY communicating your needs and how the girl is failing to meet them. But it's the obvious and natural first step to being more assertive and opens up a lot more space in the conversation to figure out her blockers and get her to bring up objections for you to work around. It's the path you HAVE to take.

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I do like this.

loki said:

All of this game stuff really just tries to point you into looking at your own needs and most effectively communicating them to the girl.

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Is it really?

Because my needs are to find someone who is interested in me and treats me well.

Which sounds a lot more like screening, than game.

Brick wall sets, if I am to look at my own needs, just have no place in my life. They need to go.

loki said:

That's an INTERNAL process.

That's not a "listen to someone else's instructions and execute them" process where for example you hear that you have to "make the conversation sexual" so you execute "making the conversation sexual" in a detached way.

That's a process where YOU YOURSELF DIRECTLY KNOW AND FEEL this stuff, that for example you want to open the girl's sexual energy up, that this is who you ARE as a person, and that this is a gift to women, and that if they're rejecting this gift, it's a win for both of you to be firm in calling her out and exploring why she's rejecting it.

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No one disagrees - stating the obvious.

loki said:

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Going deeper though, I'm pretty sure some part of you is repulsed by these suggestions, especially since I remember you tried working on this stuff a year ago and went nowhere. You've done a bajillion approaches and gone on a zillion dates of which like 90% you yourself claim go nowhere.

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It's not that

Context.

It's quite difficult to make someone who isn't compatible or attracted to you, interested.

It's a numbers game.

loki said:

Why after all this time is it so difficult for you to be assertive to women who you claim are obviously not interested in you?

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Who said it is?

You're projecting your own bullshit.

I walk away from plenty of dates, ghost women I don't like, and so on.

You are poor at understanding context and are very selective in your take.

loki said:

I'm saying this to point at something meaningful inside yourself. You're denying yourself permission to actually state YOUR OWN needs, based on what YOU want, instead of submitting to other peoples' rules of politeness and "not hurting girls feelings" (which is ironic because we do it way more when we're passive aggressive than when we show them who we really are), and following other peoples' game instructions so that you can blame failing to assert yourself on failing to pick the right system, rather than failing to actually show your true core.

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Feels like you're just off on a tangent and doing what many of my commentators do (@Crisis_Overcomer recently pissed me off with a post so stupid I couldn't fathom how an otherwise intelligent man could write such slop) - sorting through sparse historic examples of behaviour scattered here and there, and failing to parse the progressive improvements we make in this arena.

I'm not an example of someone who has passively followed game instructions.

I've been kind of doing my own thing for about a year

loki said:

(sorry if this is fragmented repeating myself I edited this post a bunch)

The lack of giving yourself permission to go for what you want goes really deep into your triggers, which is why more than anything I'm so supportive of you taking time off to explore these triggers and personality flaws, because as I'm going through this process myself I'm seeing it be so much more rewarding than anything else I did in game in the last 3 years.

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Again, not sure this applies.

My thoughts on the date, are a bit more succint:

-Not all people are compatible.
-It is OK to want to date women who like you, and find you attractive/desirable, and it is OK to walk away from those who don't

-MAC

Superb post @loki, one of the best I've seen anywhere!

loki said:

All of this game stuff really just tries to point you into looking at your own needs and most effectively communicating them to the girl.

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Well said!

Figuring out what you need romantically and sexually and getting comfortable communicating those needs to women, while also encouraging them to do the same, so you can both see if and where your needs match up, is a dating super power


I suppose one of my biggest worries about an over-reliance on game is that it puts you completely in the frame of "what does she want? what does she need? what turns her on?", without giving any attention to discovering and expressing you own needs


Might also explain why many women respond so enthusiastically to Andy's "hey, I'm looking for something very specific on here" line...

It's a way of communicating that you are a man who knows what he wants and is comfortable communicating it, which is honestly quite rare and attractive

loki said:

And hold on - one more thing.

You barely found out shit about this girl.

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Again, how would you even know this?

Were you on the date, did you listen to a live stream?

Your take seriously disturbs me, quite often to be honest.

And I think there are many who read your take who have a similar response.

Sometimes you come across as borderline psychopathic.

Not everyone wants to live this way, and your take is not helpful.

"You were too weak to crack her"

Do you realise how you sound like an absolute psychopath when you make this statement?

I'm not here to crack women, that's not what we do.

I am here to find someone compatible with me for a healthy adult relationship.

Which means, I am allowed to have my own standards

If someone would sit on a date with someone they don't want to sleep with, don't find attractive, don't like as a person, and don't want to continue talking to, to see if they can "crack" them- they are a sick motherfucker imo.

-MAC

Tuesday 17/09/2024

Actions

(1)Business:
-Block 1: Coaching Delivery
-Block 2: Biz Dev
-Block3: Content
-Admin
-Planning: 2hrs – Networking / Public Talk/ Gathering

(2) Body:
-NA

(3) Mindset:
-Possible date @ 7, she's not confirmed. She seems a lot more vibey, and I'veenjoyed chatting with her. Will see if she comes out, and if I am interested in her. If I'm not, I'll thank her and leave at the hour mark.

MakingAComeback said:

Tuesday 17/09/2024

Actions

(1)Business:
-Block 1: Coaching Delivery
-Block 2: Biz Dev
-Block3: Content
-Admin
-Planning: 2hrs – Networking / Public Talk/ Gathering

(2) Body:
-NA

(3) Mindset:
-Possible date @ 7, she's not confirmed. She seems a lot more vibey, and I'veenjoyed chatting with her. Will see if she comes out, and if I am interested in her. If I'm not, I'll thank her and leave at the hour mark.

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(1) Business:
-Block 1: Done
-Block 2: Done
-Block 3: Done partially - just uploaded a testimonial from a great former client who is now running his own biz, location independent. Fuck yeah!
-Admin: Done
-Planning: Done - Public talk, Networking events, Gathering

(3) Mindset:
-Date, cancelled. She is not in a head space where she wants to date, and I respect that fully. Thanked her and wished her well.

It's 7pm now, so about to unwind and shut down for the day.

Notes:

Locked this log from public replies.

Reason being – I wish to operate in a manner that is aligned with me.

Dating wise, I am not wanting to “convert” women who are not a good fitment for me, as just one example of many instances where my own perspective, and to be frank, what I actually want, can differ from that of my commentators, and can create unnecessary noise in my log that is both unhelpful to me, as well as the forum, where we should be allowing men to do non-judgemental work on themselves, to be the man they seek to be.

I do not want perspectives pushed on me, which are not what I want. I'm looking to build a meaningful adult relationship, through working on myself, and my own areas for development.

Feedback in general, is useful, when it is appreciative of the bigger picture, and what it is that we actually seek. I value certain principles, and will continueto develop them as I navigate my own way. This, requires space for me to do my own work, without being buffeted in different directions.

Building better relationships, going deeper with both men and women in general, and creating something real, lasting, and enriching, is really my own focus.

The personal breakthroughs I seek, are just that –deeply personal. And they have to be. It's what I want. This, has to be on my own terms, and through means which work for me.

You'll be able to read here, but not comment.

Thank you for reading.

-MAC

Wed 18/09/2024

Actions

(1) Business:
-Block 1: Coaching
-Block 2: Content
-Block 3: Biz Dev
-Block 4: Selfless Service
-Admin: Project

(2) Body:
-Gym: Legs & KoT
-Nutrition

(3) Mindset:
-Possible date tomorrow: An online date, maybe.

MakingAComeback said:

Wed 18/09/2024

Actions

(1) Business:
-Block 1: Coaching
-Block 2: Content
-Block 3: Biz Dev
-Block 4: Selfless Service
-Admin: Project

(2) Body:
-Gym: Legs & KoT
-Nutrition

(3) Mindset:
-Possible date tomorrow: An online date, maybe.

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(1) Business:
-Block 1: Coaching [Done]
-Block 2: Content [Done - YouTube Video, posted across all socials]
-Block 3: Biz Dev [Fail]
-Block 4: Selfless Service [Done, did work on the partnership project instead]
-Admin: Project [Done]

(2) Body:
-Gym: Legs & KoT [Done, but went to the gym at 4, and it was so busy I couldn't lift - just did KoT. Will try again tomorrow, and go earlier)
-Nutrition

(3) Mindset:
-Possible date tomorrow: An online date, maybe [Done, nice date, made out, agreed to 2nd date, let's see what happens]

Date Report:

28. Lived in NYC for 4 years. Goes on a lot of dates, experiments. Very confident, SMD chick. But, Brooklyn girl. Fun, slightly vibey, but has a hardness to her. Not chill, driven professional. Career woman. Not my archetype, despite being a Brooklyn chick. 5ft8, perfect height for me.

She actually had a mild facial deformity. But, I looked past it, on the basis of her text game (lol) and I still found her attractive, due to her being tall, having a nice body, and a nice style. The deformity, is noticeable, but you stop noticing it fairly fast once you're over it.

She was far. Would take an hour to commute to Carl's place. We agreed to meet closer, so in Brooklyn. Which is 2 stops for me on the subway.

We meet in Brooklyn, at a bar she knew. Which was quite a vibe.

I was a bit concerned about my frame, with her deciding the logistics, but it was alright.

She was confident and naturally tried to lead. After the tune-up date yesterday, no way was I going to get cucked to fuck again.

After spending 30 bucks on drinks for a lame date yesterday, I decided not to drink at all today.

She told me, go pick a drink for me. I said, I'm just going to drink water today. Yesterday was my first alcoholic drink for over a year, and it sucked. Won't bother again.

She said, fine, I'll go get myself a drink. She returned with a cocktail, and a water for me, and said I'd be welcome to try some.

She was a far better communicator than the gal was yesterday, and I enjoyed it.

The convo, is getting into interviewer mode slightly. She is smashing me with questions, but she seems genuinely curious.

She wants to know what I do, and I always find it hard to explain IronWill to women I'm dating, as I don't like to enter logical work conversation mode. It also often kills my frame as my company, with is an Accountability & Performance company, isn't often sexy to chicks - ask me how I know, lol. It's cucked many a data for me....

She tried slapping me by telling me it sounded like a load of bullshit, and she has no idea what I do, and then I just slapped her back, firmly, by telling her I didn't realise I was in a job interview. She said if I can't pitch to her, I can't pitch to anyone, and I told her, I don't need to pitch, I find the right people who I'd love to work with, and they align with me.

I then told her, let's not do the job interview right now, and deep dive into my business operations, let's talk about something else. She was testing me and being an annoying, pain in the ass NYC SMD, and needed a good slap. I am prepared to walk away from women when they're being rude and disrespectul, which is crucial....

She felt some strength, and couldn't get me to fold. She asked me what I'd prefer to talk about, and I said, about her. I want to know more about her as a person.

I kept probing deep, into her life, growing up, and connecting with her more.

I then told her about my past, with being an anxious wreck, and then she began to open up a lot more and be interested in me as a person.

She was totally enjoying physical touch, and we sat right close to each other. I had my arm around her, pulling her in, stroking her arm, running my fingers through her hair, that kinda thing.

We connected a lot more about music. She had an interesting taste in music, and we shared interests in many different artists. She also liked Elliott Smith, who is one of my favourites - a dude so sad and depressed, and who wanted to die so badly, he stabbed himself twice in the heart. Or so they say. The jury is out on whether it was a murder or a suicide. For me, something doesn't quite add up. RIP Elliott.

She did have some characteristics I liked. I like this kind of woman - alternative, Brooklyn kind of hipster chick. My crowd in University was mostly hipster type London people and we'd go see Tame Impala and go to raves to take MDMA and listen to Underworld - Born Slippy at pre-parties at absurd volumes, as Erasmas students on foreign exchange would flood our apartment in their dozens, and I was too mentalcel incel to ever get laid.

My God how far I've come sat writing this report as a business owner staying in Manhattan.

So, the date.

We connect more over music, and I tell her she should listen to some music together sometime. She agrees. We kiss a bit.

Vibe is getting quite sexual.

Give her a palm reading, and enjoy feeling her feminine hands. She has long, elegant pianist fingers, and I take some time to admire them, and we interlink fingers for a bit which was quite bonding.

One of my core litmus tests for testing how sexual a girl would be with me - I ask her if she's ever had a tantric massage. If she says no, I say I'll give you one sometime. If she's apprehensive or dismissive, she needs either way more comfort, or doesn't like me. This girl, was open, and she said I'd have to give her one sometime. These are very sensual and intimate massages which I enjoy and I used to give to girls when I lived in London.

I take her close, and start whispering in her ear, about my dominant side, and how I'd like to explore every inch of her.

She has opened up a lot now, I began to connect and get past her barriers, she went from tough, career woman, to becoming a way sweeter, more chill, pleasant girl.

She began to probe my location, and where I stay. I told her I'm 2 stops way, and I'll show her my place. She was giggly and said she couldn't come tonight as she has work the next day. But I kept whispering in her ear, telling she is so mean to me, and that we'd have fun.

She said, we'll see each other again, and she'll be free, so I need to text her.

Date ends shortly after that, but she expresses she would be open to see me again.

Maybe, maybe not. It's New York. You never know. Most, just ghost.........

Anyway, we head out, we hug and make out briefly, and then I leave.

I texted her at the end saying get home safe, I had fun, which she hearted.

Back to the streets, hustling tomorrow.

Today, was a good day.

Work, was very productive. Sat down and focused for many hours. The NAD+ supplement Uncle Kai has me and Carl on, has been hitting.

-MAC

Tomorrow's plan:

Thursday 18/09/2024

Actions

(1)Business:
-Block 1: Coaching
-Block 2: Biz Dev
-Client Call

(2) Body:
-Gym: Legs

(3) Mindset:
-Day Game
-Inner Work

Others:
-Admin: Call post office

Day Game was f**king insane.....

Dante bootcamp for 5 hours!

Major, major breakthroughs, the best day game session I ever had honestly in 3 years

Inner & Outer Game breakthroughs, like nothing you can imagine

The things that clicked today, took my sets from boring bullshit, which was where I regressed to with 6 months off the Game in Mex...to absolutely wild levels of attraction.

Dante said he very rarely sees women get that level of sexual stimulation during set, which is what happens when you are able to run Game at a solid level, and also be 6ft5 and find your most insane confidence

Exchanged with a bunch of HOT women, 2 actual models, who were just coming back from photoshoots, they did follow back on IG and messaging me back and fourth

One woman, I got just as she was on her way to a dance class, and the set was so powerful, she took my phone, entered her number, and texted me "hi". When she hot home from her class, she replied to herself "hey", and then she asked me out....!

This shit was happening in Budapest after my first Dante BootCamp, I had women asking me out and then I got with Suzanne

Then I took 6 months off the Game in Mexico just fucking Yes Girls off the apps and my shit regressed like fuck

Today was the first day where my performance was solid. Took many sessions and also getting Dante mentoring.

The stuff he helped me figure out today, truly, I wouldn't have figured out and it's the few moments of debrief where he explains some stuff, and when it hits, it hits

I will write a full report tomorrow. One of the most mind blowing experiences of my life.

Went from struggling in DG

To getting levels of attraction that are off the charts today

It finally felt like I am actually a 6ft5 guy (lol), first time I actually felt like a tall ass chad

I did this one set, she loved it, and I found her hot, cannot believe she asked me out. See if I keep working under Dante, eventually I will get so good. Gotta stay in a good inner game head space and keep working on this.

Today, I saw what is possible for me in DG. Top tier attraction with models.

Yeee.

Back tomorrow. Today I did my best at work and then day gamed 2pm until 930pm.