Ravi, Year 3: Self-Improvement Log - Data-Driven, Incremental Growth. Feedback Welcome. Ego & Defenses, Dropping [XMAS MESSAGE FROM MAC]

Starting the work day now. LETS FOCUS BOYOS!

SALES ASSET: DONE!

The Agency Owner's A-Game Blueprint: Double Your Productivity, Eliminate Burnout, and Increase Your Revenue in Just 2-6 Weeks

YouTube:

What do you think?

I've done more work on the sales asset.

Final draft:


I made the Dream 100 list, of agency owners I'd really like to work with.

My strategy is going to be to DM these 100 guys, with the following:

[Name],

I’ve got something I think you’ll find valuable:

The Agency Owner’s A-Game Blueprint: Eliminate Burnout, Master Your Time, and Boost Your Revenue in Just 2-6 Weeks [Gamma Doc & YouTube Embed: https://tinyurl.com/2jp8se2f ]

If a performance upgrade sounds like what you need to get (and stay) on your A-Game, I’d be happy to create a free, custom performance strategy for you.

I’ll record a Loom video showing exactly how you can consistently hit 10/10 days in your agency and scale faster.

Let me know, and I’ll make it happen!

-Ravi

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If they are receptive, I'll send them a basic intake form, and create a custom strategy for them.

And if they want help on implementing it, the next step is, to hop on a call with me and see if they're a good fit for IronWill.

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That's my 4 x 90m blocks done. Super good work day, focused as hell.

I will now do a little bit of work on the partnership project, and sign off on a great week.

-MAC

MakingAComeback said:

Plan for tomorrow:

Friday 27th September

Actions

(1) Business:
-Block 1: Coaching Delivery
-Block 2: Biz Dev –Draft Messaging / Cold Email Script Revision / Sales Asset
-Block3: Biz Dev – Sales Asset
-Client Call
-Block 4: Sales Asset
-Admin: Partnership Project

(2) Body:
-Gym & KoT
-Nutrition

(3) Mindset:
-Online Lead Gen

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(1) Business:
-Block 1: Coaching Delivery [done]
-Block 2: Biz Dev –Draft Messaging / Cold Email Script Revision / Sales Asset [done]
-Block3: Biz Dev – Sales Asset [done]
-Client Call [done]
-Block 4: Sales Asset [done]
-Admin: Partnership Project [done]

(2) Body:
-Gym & KoT [fail]
-Nutrition [done]

(3) Mindset:
-Online Lead Gen [in progress]

Notes:

4 x 90 deep work blocks of total focus.

Got really high quality work done. Drafted a great sales asset, got feedback on it, and created a pretty solid piece of work.

Created an accompanying video guide, and drafted a messaging script.

Awaiting feedback on my messaging, and if all looks solid, will send 100 cold DMs over the course of next week, and begin the follow up process. I will target ONLY Agency Owners in Oct, and see how that goes.

Nov, I will tweak slightly, and target Founders & CEOs that month.

And then just rinse & repeat.

Likely going to do an overhaul of my online branding and lean hardcore into the biz/professional look. Will hide my self improvement & dating type videos on YouTube, and IronWill will be a very performance based channel, as is aligned with my work and mission.

I am an expressive individual and often "need" to express. Which is why I log so much.

I would still like to record videos discussing dating and stuff like that, which I will just upload here for my audience on the forums.

I need to do a lot of work in growing this forum, and getting more active users. It's far too small at the min but I am in a real business focused mode and can't justify the diversion away from biz right now.

The intention is there and I'll find a way.

And we will have an amazing community.

Onwards

-Ravi

Weekend Plans:

-Gym: Back & KoT [Sat]
-Gym: Chest, Biceps & KoT [Sun]
-Cold Approach: 20 Sets [Sat/Sun]
-IG Photos: Plan locations in NYC
-Follow Up: J.Allen
-Clothes for shoot: ASOS
-New Laptop: All this travel led to mine getting it's screen cracked. Currently working using Carl's monitor plugged into my busted laptop. Need to sort this out for my next location, which will be 4 weeks of family time in California
-IW Rebranding: Hiding old YouTube videos
-Admin: IW, Slack migration
-Partnership Project: Testimonials.

Notes:

Body isn't looking good. Business grinding and Day Game is making it nigh on impossible to get to the gym, I'm getting one session in during the week, and two on weekends. Just about surviving. Diet, is clean, but not enough kcals I don't think.

I will dial this in a lot when I'm with family in a few weeks. Right now, NYC is just a major hustle.

I'll have 6 months of monk mode to just get my body right, get lean as hell, and start investing in tatooing.

One step at a time....

No "work" on weekends as such, just here and there.

-MAC

Photoshoot planning for next Sunday........

I'm gonna get one more formal pic, wearing a blazer/white tee

The other two, will be standard fuckboi looks, of which, I think I have 2 with me as it stands

Pinkish shirt, white trousers, beige shoes

And I'll come up with a 3rd look


Anyone got any ideas for me? Fire my way

Gym, done.

Partnership project work, done.

Lots of admin, done.

Laptop shortlisting, done.

NYC photography - For my IG:


Booked my ticket to leave NYC, 16th of Oct, which is when I'll touch base & commit to a mandatory 6 month monk mode.

It's rain cucked today. Will see if it stops in an hour, and then will go Game, go at least 10-15 sets, and just come back and chill with Carl tonight.

We'll do inner work.

-MAC

New profile pic looks good MAC, noice

Thanks @hush appreciate it!

Yesterday, was a great day in the life.

On top of my shit, nailed gym, diet, lots of good admin.

My approach session, was impacted by the rain. I did 2 sets, quite the battle in the rain.

The first, was nice enough, but super wrapped up in what she was doing and my approach wasn't strong enough to stop her.

The second, was a 2 set. Jay went in, an Asian girl and a Brown girl, they were liking Jay, but then I joined, and the brown girl took one look at me and expressed such disgust and disdain, she waved her hand in my face, and grabbed her friend and yanked her out of there. White-washed browns are my worst market & usually hardest, harsh blowouts ;-)

When approaching a brown chick I often just hope I hear an Indian accent. If they're native born, it's over, lol, my worst market by far. Might literally stop approaching them altogether man. The other women, treat me a little better, and I have no preference.

Rain REKT the volume after that.

Dating in NYC, is so polarising and harsh, and there is such little room for error, that you quickly learn what your sticking points are, and why you are where you are in your dating life.

For me, I can close.....

But, I need a girl who is at least kinda interested and attracted to me. I need a little something. Quality wise, what I'm getting is just too far below what I could psychologically accept.

Looking at the matter rationally as I now leave this place on the 16th, I have learned a bunch.

Firstly, I don't have a Minimum Viable Product yet.

I don't have a market. My product, doesn't have an appeal to women, which makes dating 10-100 times harder I'd say.

You have to have SOMETHING that makes her stop, and think, wait a minute.....I'm into this.

And if you're dealing with socially conditioned disadvantages, this has to be done physically, I think. It's too hard to persuade and convince someone to see value in something they can't see themselves.

I talked to Dante about my sheer lack of frame, and how much of an uphill struggle it is to get any semblance of attraction. He agreed, and said it's unrealistic me getting any success in DG in places like NYC until I can get some minimum level of frame/receptivity and have some level of market share

His suggestion?

Focus on business for a while, 6 months or so, and do a monumental image upgrade. Full body tattooing, style, jewellery, the lot. He told me, expect to spend 20-40k just on personal image next year.

...What other choice do I have?

Ten thousand more approaches?

5 new locations?

More photoshoots?

I believe Dante is on the money, and he's coached hundreds of men over the years, he's still coached more men BY FAR than the guys we know in/around our community and has had a lot more data points. And his thinking aligns with mine also: issue with me, is just a massive SMV deficit I have to deal with (brown-brown, lack of ambiguity, too Indian/ethnic looking) that is why my online never took off, and approaching was such a major pain in the ass.

At the end of the day, you have to do whatever it takes to win.

I've tried to shift this product all around the world. It is just far, far, far, far too hard. Done it 30+ times, but you see the grinding it takes, the ghosting, the lack of commitment & investment.

That, can't be my future.

I can't allow that.

The huge focus I put into the gym, and adding size, genuinely didn't do shit.

The level I'd need to get to, to make efforts in the gym count, would probably be a few years ago, and maybe need AAS....

From what I saw from that intervention, it just didn't activate attraction. Physical attraction is SO important. Like, RIDICULOUS. Relying purely on Game, is exceptionally tough. It's a fleeting form of attraction, and requires effort and skill to keep up.

Instead, in true GLL fashion, you want to see if you can become attractive enough to where some women actually give you a chance on the basis of how you look & present.

I have tried to crack that puzzle, for 3 years, and traditional means, didn't do it for me. Getting lean (which I've done in the past), gaining size, hair transplant surgery, skincare, botox, different fashion and image, so far didn't get me over the line.

Realistically, this is probably why I developed an absolutely cast-iron mindset of determination and hard headedness. I saw that it was going to be an uphill battle from the get go. But I don't know if that is serving me now. Longer term, I need them to put a little something in, it can't be 100% my effort, there has to me at least something coming from them too.

This level of absurd difficulty is what can kill Inner Game.

Before I left for Mexico, I was determined to fix my Inner Game. And I feel like it changed a bunch and I feel more at peace, and in the headspace of a winner. I feel like I still need to go far deeper and to offset my Low SMV, I think the level of internal mindset transformation required, is just far more than I had conceptualised. Might require me to become an absolute beast of a human being to get what I seek.

A tall order - but what other option do I have?

Image wise, things haven't hit yet. Not passing the basic attractiveness threshold yet, unfortunately. I'd have seen it here and there. Right now it's running into the odd miracle. You can't make it work like that.....

Gonna get my head clear, go monk mode, and figure this shit out. Two major sources of progression for me will be:

(1) Inner Game
-Building truly unbreakable IG through 6 months of hardcore, daily commitment

(2) Image Transformation
-Extensive full body tattooing
-Surgical interventions for the face
-Ongoing physical training. Next step, is to get lean. And then add more size once at a decent bodyfat.

The more of a niche product you are, the longer it takes to start seeing results and rewards for your efforts. The more complex the journey, and the deeper you need to go. Evolving way past mainstream paradigms and having to grapple with a lot more than most will ever know.....

And yet, it IS possible. I've banged a bunch, it's just, not what I want. Quality women, I've just not encountered. The women I'm getting are not dateable at all. All due respect, few men who aspirational would.

How I can make the most impact from the final 16 days here, is via ongoing approach/desensitisation, and possibly gaining some useful reference experiences of possibly a small handful of chicks who are interested or attracted. Feeling this a few times, will help my inner core a tonne.

I then need to go away, again, and focus on my sticking points and attack the actual problem areas, and re-emerge again.

Sticking Points:

(1) My image & SMV isn't even at a point where I can even implement Game, because the frame I'm getting is not there, there is 0 receptivity most days and I can count on 1 hand how many girls gave me frame over the past 4 weeks. That is not workable. You can battle and see if you can make something happen, but most likely, it is an futile exercise in a lot of work, for nothing.

I'm going to just have to get my looks to a point where there is a possibility of being able to sway them with Game & vibe. Have done it on many a date, sketchy quality, sure, but have seen that if I maxx out properly, there is a future where it turns around.

(2) Inner Game: As a Low SMV guy, with a poor archetype, and seriously poor social conditioning (women are actually ashamed with the prospect of dating a Low SMV guy), there is still a way to win, but you have to become an Exceptional Low SMV guy. You have to become an outlier type person, the likes of which, she she has never seen before. So she can pause for a moment, and say, wait, yeah, he doesn't look like a guy I'd want....but fuck he is cool as hell and kinda turning me on right now.....That, requires a monumentally tough mindset where you have decided to compete and see value in yourself at a delusional level. Pushing past lived experience and cultivating a delusional, unrealistic, insane self-belief and self-love.

So be it....................

Back to work.

-MAC

MakingAComeback said:

But, I need a girl who is at least kinda interested and attracted to me. I need a little something. Quality wise, what I'm getting is just too far below what I could psychologically accept.

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MakingAComeback said:

I'd say she was a cutie. Carl, gave her a 6. She was a petite little thing, 5ft2, but had a cute face, nice long, curly hair, great tits and ass.

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You clearly do get some girls you're into. Yeah they may be online layups, but still.

Squilliam said:

You clearly do get some girls you're into. Yeah they may be online layups, but still.

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I don’t know man. She was a bit of a head case.

We had fun and she completely ghosted.

7 years of anti depressant use and therapy her end, and a fair share of head issues

Normal attraction and bonding, I’d say, involves some staying power

Actual, meaningful interest and engagement

It can’t be this superficial and base. SOMETHING should happen, some of the time.

I’d say that happened for me twice, over 3 years.

That, isn’t a trend that is workable, and trajectory I don’t like at all.

Something needs to change significantly.

END OF DAY REPORT

Today was solid........

Gym: Chest & Biceps / KoT [done]
Nutrition: Done [done]
Inner Game: 2 hour deep dive session with Carl @JourneyToOptimal
Admin: Partnership Project - Minor editing, images, etc

Gonna wind down now and get to bed.

Just hustle and message. 2 gals are having an online convo with me.

May turn into a lead.

We'll be out of this funny position one day. I didn't crack online, but I will.

That jacked & tatted version of myself, with solid inner game and a successful life, is gonna crush.

Realistically I am a 6ft5 brown Chad, yeah my SMV is not ideal in the West, women here have their own preferences and I could give a fuck about that honestly, who wants someone who doesn't want them....But I am recognising my own massive, massive elite tier hardcase success story (I don't know former incels @ 30 who have done what I've done) and this shit is just getting started so I feel like once the beliefs and inner game is solid, I'm gonna crush it all

And there will be locations, versions of my profile, and a level of game and social skills I eventually gain, that let me get to where I know I got outcomes in alignment with my value and what I know would make me the legend I was born to be

Success is inevitable.............

Onto another killer week

Plan to come below

-Ravi

COMMITMENT FOR TOMORROW:

Monday 30th Sept 2024
(1)Business:
-Block 1: Coaching
-Admin: Onboarding Adam D, Shane follow up, John follow up
-Andy Call
-Block 2: Biz Dev
-Block 3: Biz Dev
-Block 4: Content
-Partnership Project: VSL Script

(2) Body:
-Rest Day
-Nutrition

(3) Mindset:
-Inner Game Session: 2hrs w/ @JourneyToOptimal
-Online Lead Gen: 30m
-Reading: Fanatical Prospecting(1hr)
-Journalling & EoD Report

Notes:


YOU DON’T KNOW HOW FAR YOU CAN GO UNTIL YOU PUSH YOURSELF

Most people quit when they hit resistance.

That’s not in our DNA.

We don’t stop when it gets hard.

We thrive in that space.

How many of these people thought I was insane because I kept trying.

Pain? Failure? Frustration?

I will take that ALL DAY LONG

ALL FUCKING DAY LONG

That’s just the admission price for the next level.

NOTHING STOPS US

The childhood trauma, mental health battles, physical breakdowns.

So be it......

The only person who can make this person GREAT, is me. The only one who can stop me, is me.

I’ve been at the bottom. Obese. Housebound. A prisoner in my own mind. People wrote me off as a lost cause many times in my life. I've had it happen to me, again and again.

When I was a housebound agorophobic, it took me 2 years to recover. I lost all my "friends". They didn't want to know me anymore. But I knew I was going to change, and I was going to rebuild my network.

When I was obese, it took me 5 years to lose the weight. Every year, I was determined, but kept failing. Everyone lost faith, my own family told me, I'd never lose it.

And yet, I knew deep down, this was not going to be it for me. I lost 100lbs.

Same thing happened with dating, people told me I was insane to think I could go from being a virgin to getting 10 lays in my first year as a hardcase. I banged 9 and turned 2 down. I have more than tripled my lay count since then and through the long, long grinding to become good in Inner & Outer Game, the same thing that always happens did take place at various times: people losing faith, they stop wanting to be friends, etc. The people who are not good people inside reveal themselves over the course of years.

FUCK 'EM

No matter how much shit life this brutal, brutal life has threw at me, I have always refused to stay down.

My drive is what separates me.

It doesn’t come from talent or luck. I don't have that. My drive is born from pain and hardship. I built it in the trenches, brick by brick, from nothing, because I had nowhere else to go.

That is my why.

Because I am going to build a man so great, he will be legendary in underground self improvement.

Because I have a point to prove in this life......

That the underdog in life, can make it too.

The world is full of excuses.

People blame their circumstances, their upbringing, their lack of opportunities.

I’ll tell you right now, NONE OF THAT MATTERS. If you want it bad enough, if it burns in your soul, you can push through any and all obstacles to find success.

I’ve accepted the harsh realities—the superficiality and hypergamy of women, the endless pursuit, the unfair systems stacked against some of us.

I can accept all that.

But what I’ll never accept in this life is fucking quitting.

You think you’re broken? Good.

I am too.

Use that as fuel

Because those cracks are where drive grew for me.

No one is a product of their past.

We're a product of how fucking hard we're willing to work for our dreams, to break the cycle, and to re-write our story.

Talent - Not required.
Support - Not required.
Good life circumstances - Not required.

What IS required?

Inhuman, relentless, otherworldly drive to keep getting back up when the world says you can’t.

Just downright refusal to fail.

I’m proof of that.

You’ll see it one day.

And you’ll know a guy who had every reason to give up fucking made it anyway.

You only have to make it once

It just takes one knockout blow to win the whole fight

It does not matter how strong the opponent in front of you may be

Nothing in this world is able to resist something that is truly f**king relentless.

Let that be you.

NEVER FUCKING QUIT.

– MAC Daddy, The Godfather of Grinding

Work about to start.

Let's kill it today lads.

-R

Boyos, there are a few of you who would do really well in IronWill, and now I've decided to raise my rates (double) to get myself and my biz to the next level, I'll take a final cohort, and we can reach new levels in our goals across finance, dating/relationships, and life, and get you on your A-Game, connected to your mission, and waking up ready to attack your goals.

It's time to COMMIT.....Happy to serve this final cohort at this price, you'll be locked in and good for the long-haul.

If you're actually ready to get serious about your goals, this ones for you

Time to Commit: Prices Double on October4th


Things are going well at IronWill. I’m servingsome incredible people, and the results we’re getting together are creating a real movement.


Clients are hitting record-breaking months, achieving big goals, and finding true satisfaction in both their business and personal lives.


With the demand and the results I’m seeing, it’stime to step up.


After years of building this business, it’s time to raise my prices to reflect the next level we’ve reached together.


As of October 4th, my program rate will increase to $1,000/month.


But, before that happens, I’m offering a time-limited deal to those of you who follow me, are part of my groups and communities, and know that working together can get you on your A-game.


For the next 5 days, you have the chance to lock in my current rate of $500/month for atleast 6months, saving you $3,000. This offer is for my final cohort from this community—after that, future clients will be on at my new rate.


This is about commitment.


You know my philosophy: high levels ofaccountability, relentless commitment, and pushing ourselves to reach the highest level of our game.


That’s how you build an empire, have fun doing it, and live a life that’s incredible, satisfying, and deeply connected to your mission.


If you’ve been waiting for the right moment totake action, this is your time.


The price is going up, and I want you to join me now and lock in the current rate before it changes.


Don’t wait. Commit now. This is the moment to take your business, life, and potential to the nextlevel.


Book your spot here:

FREE Consult Call ⚡ - IronWill: Accountability & High Performance

On our consult call, we'll simply see if we're a good fit to work together.If you're having trouble scheduling, email me at ironwillcoach@gmail.com

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-Ravi

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MakingAComeback said:

COMMITMENT FOR TOMORROW:

Monday 30th Sept 2024
(1)Business:
-Block 1: Coaching
-Admin: Onboarding Adam D, Shane follow up, John follow up
-Andy Call
-Block 2: Biz Dev
-Block 3: Biz Dev
-Block 4: Content
-Partnership Project: VSL Script

(2) Body:
-Rest Day
-Nutrition

(3) Mindset:
-Inner Game Session: 2hrs w/ @JourneyToOptimal
-Online Lead Gen: 30m
-Reading: Fanatical Prospecting(1hr)
-Journalling & EoD Report

Notes:

YOU DON’T KNOW HOW FAR YOU CAN GO UNTIL YOU PUSH YOURSELF

Most people quit when they hit resistance.

That’s not in our DNA.

We don’t stop when it gets hard.

We thrive in that space.

How many of these people thought I was insane because I kept trying.

Pain? Failure? Frustration?

I will take that ALL DAY LONG

ALL FUCKING DAY LONG

That’s just the admission price for the next level.

NOTHING STOPS US

The childhood trauma, mental health battles, physical breakdowns.

So be it......

The only person who can make this person GREAT, is me. The only one who can stop me, is me.

I’ve been at the bottom. Obese. Housebound. A prisoner in my own mind. People wrote me off as a lost cause many times in my life. I've had it happen to me, again and again.

When I was a housebound agorophobic, it took me 2 years to recover. I lost all my "friends". They didn't want to know me anymore. But I knew I was going to change, and I was going to rebuild my network.

When I was obese, it took me 5 years to lose the weight. Every year, I was determined, but kept failing. Everyone lost faith, my own family told me, I'd never lose it.

And yet, I knew deep down, this was not going to be it for me. I lost 100lbs.

Same thing happened with dating, people told me I was insane to think I could go from being a virgin to getting 10 lays in my first year as a hardcase. I banged 9 and turned 2 down. I have more than tripled my lay count since then and through the long, long grinding to become good in Inner & Outer Game, the same thing that always happens did take place at various times: people losing faith, they stop wanting to be friends, etc. The people who are not good people inside reveal themselves over the course of years.

FUCK 'EM

No matter how much shit life this brutal, brutal life has threw at me, I have always refused to stay down.

My drive is what separates me.

It doesn’t come from talent or luck. I don't have that. My drive is born from pain and hardship. I built it in the trenches, brick by brick, from nothing, because I had nowhere else to go.

That is my why.

Because I am going to build a man so great, he will be legendary in underground self improvement.

Because I have a point to prove in this life......

That the underdog in life, can make it too.

The world is full of excuses.

People blame their circumstances, their upbringing, their lack of opportunities.

I’ll tell you right now, NONE OF THAT MATTERS. If you want it bad enough, if it burns in your soul, you can push through any and all obstacles to find success.

I’ve accepted the harsh realities—the superficiality and hypergamy of women, the endless pursuit, the unfair systems stacked against some of us.

I can accept all that.

But what I’ll never accept in this life is fucking quitting.

You think you’re broken? Good.

I am too.

Use that as fuel

Because those cracks are where drive grew for me.

No one is a product of their past.

We're a product of how fucking hard we're willing to work for our dreams, to break the cycle, and to re-write our story.

Talent - Not required.
Support - Not required.
Good life circumstances - Not required.

What IS required?

Inhuman, relentless, otherworldly drive to keep getting back up when the world says you can’t.

Just downright refusal to fail.

I’m proof of that.

You’ll see it one day.

And you’ll know a guy who had every reason to give up fucking made it anyway.

You only have to make it once

It just takes one knockout blow to win the whole fight

It does not matter how strong the opponent in front of you may be

Nothing in this world is able to resist something that is truly f**king relentless.

Let that be you.

NEVER FUCKING QUIT.

– MAC Daddy, The Godfather of Grinding

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So, this was interesting....The gal I had scheduled for Friday last week, who asked if we could reschedule for next week, replied at about 1pm Monday responding affirmatively to my text, where I pitched her to either do Mon or Tue.

She replied letting me know Monday works, so I give her a location, and she's down.

I'm excited. It's a good feeling to be genuinely excited before a date. It's a super rare thing for me, but it happens. She is gorgeous, so the prospect of getting laid with her, hits switches in me.

Work is good, focused, and getting some good stuff done.

(1)Business:
-Block 1: Coaching [done]
-Admin: Onboarding Adam D, Shane follow up, John follow up [done]
-Andy Call [done]
-Block 2: Biz Dev [done: 1 reel, 1 lf, 25 cold DMs]
-Block 3: Biz Dev [done: as above]
-Block 4: Content [fail - was going to work on a sales asset, but had to get myself right for the date]
-Partnership Project: VSL Script [fail]

Hit my diet, hit my habits.

Date was scheduled for 8pm. Work was wrapped up about 6pm, there were also lots of little admin things taking place. The 90m blocks were super focused though. Mondays are the crucial days. Weekends, are off in IronWill, so Monday is where me and the group get our momentum back.

When it was date time, had to get on my A-Game. Been feeling really good, and in a great mental space. Me and Carl (JourneyToOptimal) are doing daily Inner Game work, which is doing wonders for us both.

It is helping me solve some of my deeper subconscious issues, and changing my energy, I am walking around very vibey, chill, and in a calm, positive head space, and in this state, I catch women taking longing glances at me and things like that.

It's these times, the words of various friends of mine, ring true in my mind

"Ravi, you're a Chad, you just don't know it yet"

A true brown LEGEND, Vinny, who lives in NYC and has slayed 150+ women.

A few of the guys echoed the same sentiment, and these are experienced guys I consider the best of the best. The NYC Game community, is head and shoulders above anything else in the world, and these men are smart, high quality, and have such a tremendously deep understanding and awareness. It is extremely valuable to be in this circle.

I recall when sat talking about some of my lays in Mexico, to Carl who is now posting on the forums, when I told him about the 22 year old law student and how she couldn't keep her hands off me in the bar and started making out with me so heavily, he made the same off hand remark other guys do

"You're attractive bro you just have inner game issues"

We've been seeing it a lot in our inner game sessions together.

It's a hard game.................

But, it rewards true grit and determination.

The Queen I saw last night, was worth the conqeust.

26. Complex back story. Grew up very internationally, spent a lot of time in Malaysia. Best friend is a brown girl. She likes tall brown guys. Very, very rarely do I meet a woman who actually like brown guys. My lays happen oftentimes due to a curiosity various women have (I am equal opportunity and my lays are all types of girls), I think my height (6ft5) has saved me to some extent, and also, the power of Game & Social skills can help a tonne.

Masculinity & core presence. Having heart, being a strong individual. That actually outweighs everything else, and is the most powerful thing we have as men.

A truly powerful core, is built through living this game, and going through the process for years. Until you are strong, stoic and mature.

I am not there yet. But I will get there: strategically, I will need to get my biz to a solid ass level, and then, I can do a year long day game world tour and get myself to a far higher level socially and in Game. That should be enough for me to be the absolute G I need to be, to get what I seek.


Final Thoughts

This experience, was simply amazing. A truly positive life experience, because of such strong mutual attraction, chemistry, and vibe.

The thought of having a girl like this, as a girlfriend, is an extremely powerful one.

S, didn't cut it for me. Which was why it didn't really "hit" and help me overcome some of my internal worries about my long term prospects.

And I suppose, until I finally do get long term retention, and there are women who stay with me, I suppose I will have some degree of fear over finding someone.

It's a deeper connection that I seek. With a girl who I can get genuinely curious about. I want to find someone who I am fascinated by as a human and whom I can learn everything about and enjoy a deeper part of the human condition. S, I will say, was the closest I had to this: we'd have conversations that would last 10-12 hours, and we had a strong connection, but the deal breakers were too much for me and my insecurities at the time.

Seems like it is necessary to have these "close calls", and to keep pushing, to find what it is we seek.

Being able to deeply connect with someone I find so alluring and attractive, exploring them and being able to have a great time together, is too much of a life WIN to not pursue whole fucking heartedly. I know how amazing it will be.

I always talk about my 2nd lay, which was this gorgeous girl back in London, who honestly changed my life. She did ghost, but it was so inspiring and motivating I hustled for years to get the same experience again.

It took THREE FUCKING YEARS

But I had an experience last night, that actually beat lay #2.

Let's dive in, just the high level details here, this is one I am going to replay in my mind for years I suspect..

The Queen:
-26, Swedish & American
-Lived in NYC for 3 years, and got out of a LTR in April
-She actually lives in the same apartment village I'm based in (lol)
-International upbringing, across Asian and Europe, her closest girlfriend is brown, who seems to be a super cool & badass chick, and evidently, these kind of deep bonds with other people, broaden a persons emotional horizons, to where she is clearly absolutely not under the same social conditioning I am coming up against a lot in my journey. Where a gal is genuinely open minded, I make it happen.
-Facially, gorgeous. Body wise, gorgeous. Not a single thing on her I'd change: great, perky boobs, soft, kissable skin, un-believable pussy, lovely peach of an ass. About as good as it gets. She gets a 7.5/10 for me, because she was also vibey and funny, and everything flowed well, a sign of chemistry and interpersonal compatability.



Some of the chicks we're meeting, are confident baddies who know they are hot girls, and have a line of dudes thirsting for them at any given time. It's ridiculous, but she was open about it.

We meet for drinks at 8pm. She's vibey, fun, and is giving me the occasional strong IOI, laughing at my teases and jokes, tossing her hair back, which is one of the strongest IOIs a gal can give you. She was getting turned on. We're sat close to each other, and in typical MAC fashion I start holding her hand, and can tell how much of a Yes she is, and start feeling her legs too. Which she enjoys. She kinda takes my hand, and puts it in her lap, which is where it stays for the date.

She has lots in common with me. We're both in therapy for our Inner Game issues, had traumatic childhoods (her mother was abusive, it was the flip for me), very social people and she also enjoys some of the same music as I do. Interestingly, she seems to have responded to her trauma the same way I did: wanting to be a really good parent in the future, and getting into self-improvement. She's on a reading, journalling, meditation and Inner Game hype like me. As ever, those with the same kind of trauma, attract each other, as if there is a cosmic web pulling us together.

I look forward to healing as fully as I can, so I can be healthy and be in deep relationships. I still seek that rom-com type experience, with an attractive and fun gal.

And as we often conclude in our daily Inner Game sessions:

"You're close, bro....."


We do 2 x rounds of drinks. I've been pitching the pull throughout, holding tension, creating moments of quite blunt sexual tension, so we are fully on the same page. After the 2nd round, she gets up to go to the bathroom, and I've soft pitched a few times now and compliance is there, so we both know, and we're both down. She tells me, alright, you take care of the drinks, and we'll head. I already paid for them when I went to the bathroom a few mins before. She she knows, all is clear.

She gets back, I lead her, pull her in, hug her, we walk. Down the road a little, we pause the convo, I bring her in again, and kiss her just a little. She's got great, full lips. A true hottie. Last few girls had no lips, and didn't kiss with any passion. She was a great kisser, as am I, and I have very full lips.

We get back to Carl's apartment. The scene I see when I enter, wasn't ideal. Carl's tech-bro nerd housemates are all in, and another friend of theirs, and they're playing video games in the lounge. They are so palpably awkward when a pretty girl walks in, I don't even bother introducing them or having any convo other than "Hi gentlemen, good to be with you" and take the gal through.

These guys, are cucked to hell. They are not good with women, and it was remarkably how the energy in the room just shifted when a hot girl was in the place. Madness. Carl did me a solid and hung out with these dudes the whole night, and let me have wild animal sex in his room, even though he found his housemates cringe and awkward as fuck. Legend.

So, back to the pull...

Take her in, put music on. Stand her against the wall, and start making out. She's really passionate, moaning, and super turned on.

Start kissing her neck, which I find to be one of her areas. She's loving it.

She disrobes to her underwear. Throw her on the bed, and foreplay is quite long and exciting.

Stand her back up, and we disrobe each other. She has a good feel of my big cock, and she's excited to her it in her.

Back to the bed, and it's a long, long process. First hour is just foreplay. She is making little statements which are very revealing about hot girl reality, and the situation these gals are in. I'm unphased completely, as you'd expect, and it's these little moments of strength that increase your value in her eyes. We did the work, we get the rewards. Period.

She knows how hot she is. She's dropping little flexes, "I get that a lot", "most guys tell me I'm stunning in real life" (she was off the apps, a rare miracle for moi).

When I'm about to go down on her, she tells me "Just wait until you taste me, it's an award winning pussy, and very addictive" - she was't wrong. It's unfair how good some girls have it. Her pussy was lush. And I was boasting about my oral skills vida text earlier on, so we both knew I'd be down there a while.

Eat her out good. Eat her ass, which was absolutely amazing.

Only 2 girls this whole time were attractive enough for them to bring my animal lusts out. So, good job to her...

It's eventually time to get deep inside her. I wrap up, and she cannot wait to have me in her. She has felt my strength throughout our time together, and knows she is with a masculine man, "I cannot wait for you to fuck the shit out of me"

Pound her hard and in lots of different positions, for about 2 hours. "You've got really good stamina" - she clocks on to the legendary MAC stamina after about an hour. I could literally fuck a girl all day, for probably 10hours if I wanted to. I've gone 3 hours in one go, a few times. Cock stays super hard, and I can really get the job done.

She has some interesting kinks. Which were turning me on a lot. Her core desire to handle her shit and become a person who will be a good mother, manifested in some curious sexual fantasies, of wanting a strong, tall guy to get her pregnant. Throughout our night, we were playing into that a lot, me talking about how I can't wait to get her pregnant, her losing her mind over that, she was super turned on by it. "We have to procreate"

We agreed to see each other more. She doesn't know I'm leaving. I left that detail out due to my wounds with getting ghosted a lot. I don't like it, and want to spend time with someone after sex, and get to know them as a human being.

Funny how many of us are seen as pure players who just lust after women

But there are plenty of us, who have just been looking for a relationship with ONE girl. I have been looking for just ONE girl for 3+ years, and nights like this one tell me, there are women out there who are attractive and desirable, and whom I myself want quite a lot, who may give me a chance..........

Many thanks to her for creating a great experience with me. Lovely woman, and I sincerely hope we spend more time together. Though I respect it may not occur, and will be fine in any event.

I am pleased with my time in NYC. It's hard work, but I slept with 3 new girls, and have made good business progress.

I am also making well-needed Inner Game progress.

This is the perfect high note to start to wind down this chapter of The IronWill Project. This project, will go into Monk Mode soon, and I look forward to the simplicity of being with my parents, being able to spend lots of quality time with my amazing Mum and brother, and totally block the world out for 6-7 months.

I don't state my lay numbers, because I find that to be not aligned with my ethos, but I've slept with over 30 girls now. Was a virgin incel at 30. And literally never believed I could be where I am today.

And I'll only get better from here.

Life is good

And success is around the corner.

The deeper player identity, is shifting, man. It's the little things I say to these girls, which tells me how much I've shifted.

I will find what I seek.

For those who have read this lot long-term, seem me complain about quality here and there, and other assorted whinging as I decompress and focus my mind each day: do you see how this never stops me?

I got the quality I am looking for, due to work ethic & determination. The first quality lay I had was like Feb 2022. During The Pheonix Project.

And it wasn't until Sept 2024, that I got another one of that level.

I WORKED FOR FUCKING YEARS

DID NOT QUIT

THAT is why I succeed

Quitting is literally not even in my world. I NEVER, EVER QUIT. Despite all else, I am still hard enough as a man to willing to fight until the last man, burn the boats, and do whatever the fuck it takes to win, or die trying.

That is what got me through 10,000+ approaches

200+ dates

And why I simply will wear the Universe down until it gives me what I seek out of sheer force of will

Debrief in the morning with Dante.
-Archetype: Dante said, look Ravi, you're closing. See how Feeld works for you due to your BDSM pic? Dante told me, the BDSM pic, breaks my negative archetype, and gives me some halo effect, which is enough to compete. He said, it's not realistic for me to close on Day Game effectively, until I build a real archetype. We're going to do the full body tattooing thing.
-Relationships & Sex Addiction: Dante was clear, if you want a relationship and a wife, you can't develop sex addiction. He is clear, and advised me to find alignment with my life goals, and defocus my mind from Game for a while, rebuild my archetype, and then do another sprint. My goal with Dante right now, is not even getting more women, it's actually Inner Game. The Inner Game work I did, has allowed me to get some good results.

Self belief is the most powerful weapon in the world.

Good times for us boyos.

And we're gonna sign it off soon, go on the attack with biz and body, and come back for one last day game world tour so I can get my day game lays, find my first proper girlfriend, and know in my heart of hearts, I have slayed the dragon within, and become the hardcase legend I started this journey to be.

I didn't start this to be an average self improver.

I wanted my story to be like The Bastard's or Andys.

A man who came back against all odds

Through fucking nasty work ethic and determination to turn his shit around.

This log will be taken to the private section now, as I am beginning to think more in terms of, what will my future girlfriend think, it's time to clean my brand up. Because eventually one of these chicks is going to become Missus MAC and produce some beautiful offspring.

-MAC DADDY

Forgot to add, yesterday's outputs:
25 DMs sent
1 Reel Uploaded
1 Long Form UploadedReel:
Long Form:

Tuesday 1st Oct 2024

Actions
(1) Business:
-Block 1: Coaching Delivery

(2) Body:
-Rest Day
-Nutrition: Hit kcals & Protein

(3) Mindset:
-Inner Work: Session w/ Carl

Notes:

Today, I intentionally took a “Minimum Effective Dose” day.

Yesterday, was a significant win for me. I worked for it.

Was up having mind-blowing sex until 20mins past midnight, and then chatted with Carl until about 1-ish.

As you can imagine, I was destroyed after that. I also want to be accoutable to myself, and highlight I had 2 drinks last night – A spicy margs, and a light beer. I've been teetotal on most of my dates in NYC, but broke that last night. There were reasons for this; the girl, was a very social, party type girl, and drinks quite often. To build the vibe we were sharing, and to strengthen our real commonalities, I opted to drink, and feed into the mutual spirit.

This, was in part, a strategic decision I was willing to make for her specifically – when I like a girl, I will make more of a concerted effort to win, and to create a positive experience for us all. Dates like this, are not learning. They are intentional. They are real, raw, and about playing to win.

What that looks like, for me, is to create a brilliant mutual experience, and to feel real chemistry and sparks. My mission, is to crack retention, and I am exploring a few things, which I believe will enable me to facilitate this:

-Stronger and more authentic future projection
-Deep connection & Intent: During sex, there is a lot I do to create deeper intimacy and connection, when I want a girl. I will make sure, in subtle ways, she knows, I feel something here, so let's explore it, together. These are subtle, but powerful things: prolonged, deep eye contact, sensual touch and caress, learning more about what pleases her, and finding her deeper, raw, animal parts. The sub-communication is, this is our space, for me and you, to explore us. It's not just sex, it's real chemistry.

In terms of Inner Game, more deliberate work to internalise my progression as a man, is necessary.

I am in NYC, which is by all accounts, hypergamy hell and the world's hardest dating market. When I am my “Winner” headspace, I am chill, and vibey, and I notice there ARE women who will take a particularly longing and scintillating glance. This really only happens if a man has truly raised his value. Which I have through years of self-improvement.

I do believe, as I continue to work on myself, an upper echelon of life experience, will be attainable.

Very much around the corner.

I am in my hard-work era, building a platform for success. And expect, the fruits of this labour, will compound, until I have truly ascended.

I feel a lot of gratitude at this time, as I understand how the world works, how to perform, be focused and consistent, and the deeper game of progress.

Great outcomes, are inevitable. I predict, 2 more years is what it will take, to see me live at a high level across the metrics that matter for me. Fortunately, I do have the intelligence, and my areas for development, which are many, I have found great resources for which have allowed me to progress. Various excellent mentors, past and present, and things have begun clicking for me in terms of areas I needed to confront directly.

Focus, will remain the key theme in my journey over the next 6-9 months. Shutting the world out, and keeping my entire mental effort concentrated within the confines of this amazing journal.

When I am top 1% in life, there is a MAC who is going to read this entire log back.

I may be 40-45. I'll be in elite shape. I'll have a beautiful wife and 4 gorgeous children. I'll be rich, successful, and a leader. My story, will have inspired many, many people, to awaken passion and drive within them to go high in life.

And it will be because of the guys who inspired me with their own online journals, Andy and The Bastard From Glasgow.

Long may the tradition of men's self-improvement journalling, stand strong. I am proud to be doing my part in flying the flag of underground, hardcore men's self-improvement, and hope to serve many, many men in these forums.

When I go monk mode, we will make concerted efforts to increase our forum's membership, and save as many men as we can!

NOTHING WILL STOP ME

-MAC DADDY,
THE GODFATHER OF GRINDING

MakingAComeback said:

Tuesday 1st Oct 2024

Actions
(1) Business:
-Block 1: Coaching Delivery

(2) Body:
-Rest Day
-Nutrition: Hit kcals & Protein

(3) Mindset:
-Inner Work: Session w/ Carl

Notes:

Today, I intentionally took a “Minimum Effective Dose” day.

Yesterday, was a significant win for me. I worked for it.

Was up having mind-blowing sex until 20mins past midnight, and then chatted with Carl until about 1-ish.

As you can imagine, I was destroyed after that. I also want to be accoutable to myself, and highlight I had 2 drinks last night – A spicy margs, and a light beer. I've been teetotal on most of my dates in NYC, but broke that last night. There were reasons for this; the girl, was a very social, party type girl, and drinks quite often. To build the vibe we were sharing, and to strengthen our real commonalities, I opted to drink, and feed into the mutual spirit.

This, was in part, a strategic decision I was willing to make for her specifically – when I like a girl, I will make more of a concerted effort to win, and to create a positive experience for us all. Dates like this, are not learning. They are intentional. They are real, raw, and about playing to win.

What that looks like, for me, is to create a brilliant mutual experience, and to feel real chemistry and sparks. My mission, is to crack retention, and I am exploring a few things, which I believe will enable me to facilitate this:

-Stronger and more authentic future projection
-Deep connection & Intent: During sex, there is a lot I do to create deeper intimacy and connection, when I want a girl. I will make sure, in subtle ways, she knows, I feel something here, so let's explore it, together. These are subtle, but powerful things: prolonged, deep eye contact, sensual touch and caress, learning more about what pleases her, and finding her deeper, raw, animal parts. The sub-communication is, this is our space, for me and you, to explore us. It's not just sex, it's real chemistry.

In terms of Inner Game, more deliberate work to internalise my progression as a man, is necessary.

I am in NYC, which is by all accounts, hypergamy hell and the world's hardest dating market. When I am my “Winner” headspace, I am chill, and vibey, and I notice there ARE women who will take a particularly longing and scintillating glance. This really only happens if a man has truly raised his value. Which I have through years of self-improvement.

I do believe, as I continue to work on myself, an upper echelon of life experience, will be attainable.

Very much around the corner.

I am in my hard-work era, building a platform for success. And expect, the fruits of this labour, will compound, until I have truly ascended.

I feel a lot of gratitude at this time, as I understand how the world works, how to perform, be focused and consistent, and the deeper game of progress.

Great outcomes, are inevitable. I predict, 2 more years is what it will take, to see me live at a high level across the metrics that matter for me. Fortunately, I do have the intelligence, and my areas for development, which are many, I have found great resources for which have allowed me to progress. Various excellent mentors, past and present, and things have begun clicking for me in terms of areas I needed to confront directly.

Focus, will remain the key theme in my journey over the next 6-9 months. Shutting the world out, and keeping my entire mental effort concentrated within the confines of this amazing journal.

When I am top 1% in life, there is a MAC who is going to read this entire log back.

I may be 40-45. I'll be in elite shape. I'll have a beautiful wife and 4 gorgeous children. I'll be rich, successful, and a leader. My story, will have inspired many, many people, to awaken passion and drive within them to go high in life.

And it will be because of the guys who inspired me with their own online journals, Andy and The Bastard From Glasgow.

Long may the tradition of men's self-improvement journalling, stand strong. I am proud to be doing my part in flying the flag of underground, hardcore men's self-improvement, and hope to serve many, many men in these forums.

When I go monk mode, we will make concerted efforts to increase our forum's membership, and save as many men as we can!

NOTHING WILL STOP ME

-MAC DADDY,
THE GODFATHER OF GRINDING

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Evening Checkin:

Tuesday
Actions

(1)Business:
-Block 1: Coaching Delivery [done]

(2)Body:
-Rest Day [done]
-Nutrition: Hit kcals & Protein [done]

(3)Mindset:
-Inner Work: Session w/ Carl [N/A, seems like he stayed late at work]

Plan for tomorrow:

Wednesday 2nd October 2024

Actions

(1) Business:
-Block 1: Coaching
-Admin: 1 Hour
-Client Call: Ken
-Free Coaching Consult – In Person: Eva P
-Block 2: Biz Dev – 25 Cold Dms (w/ONE iteration – nothing hit yesterday, I'll make it more personal by sending an audio note where possible) / One Reel
-Client Call: Jack C
-Block 3: Biz Dev – Social Media Training

(2) Body:
-Rest Day
-Intermittent Fasting: Breakfast, and then just coffee.

(3) Mindset:
-Inner Game: 2 Hours.