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Living the dream/ Phase 1 - The first crossroads

Gonna take today off and get back to it tomorrow.
Found three new songs to add in.
Sent Rylynn and my latest playthrough to my old guitar teacher and asked to book a lesson.
Booked a singing lesson for Monday.

I've been using all my old contacts to ask the women I've seen about dating, it's been very interesting.
 
October review:
Played every day but three, including today.
Made some progress, was gradual.
Maintained pretty well at the gym.
Work was boring but I've saved 1k now.

November:
Keep up the practice output
Find a singing teacher - should be booked in for Monday finally
Diversify what I'm playing a little bit to keep things fresh.
Go harder at the gym.
Take a week off for full immersion.
Maintain diet and skincare routine.

Once I get another £1500 saved up I'm gonna find some part time work to do instead.
 
Practice went well today, everything felt refreshed and clearer after the day off.

I'll follow my standard weekend template again and also work on two songs to bring to the singing teacher on Monday.
 
Booked my week off.
Contacted 7 different singing teachers. I'll go for online lessons if this fails. If it's like this with guitar teachers too I'm gonna clean house once I start up. One teacher said he had a busy schedule but would take a look, I sent a follow up the next day and heard nothing back. These clowns are charging £50 and hour and are doing well enough not to respond to enquiries!

Looking forward to practicing today.
Will mog some squats later too
 
Practice and gym today.
Finally have a singing lesson booked for tomorrow and will get a song ready for the lesson.
 

I think this guy's got the answer to my women conundrum.

It has been fun getting laid basically using my body but there was a feeling of emptiness when I moved back home. These lust based interactions made me feel like a long term relationship might be quite difficult and I used the 'western women are cooked' men as a cope.

I will continue self improve for my own benefit but I think mastery over myself, my vices, morality and connection to God is what is missing from my interactions with people in general.

This is the first time these concepts have clicked for me, the man/woman dynamic. The similarity between religious teachings and game.

One significant moment was talking to me friend at work. Something stuck out to me when he told me he said to his wife 'im going to give you a baby,' I think game guys would call this frame. He would describe it as the dictates of Allah, what could give a man stronger 'frame' than a powerful conception of God?

Talking to a girl I was seeing was interesting too. She described an ex boyfriend of hers as 'trained' jokingly. But it's not a joke, there's a whole generation of men simping paying for only fans because their lack of self control. Vices have dominated the west for decades and now population collapse and unhappiness are the results.
Dogs are trained, and they are trained because they have less mortality than man. This means they live by their impulses as I have been doing on the dating apps and with porn.
A man can only lead if he has a stronger morality than a woman, not slavering over her body becoming a pet - endless looksmaxxing will just make you the best vibrator on the shelf. Even a jacked, handsome, rich big dick man is still a pet if he cannot control his vices and lusts for her body.
A man has a soul and a simp does not.

The only way to self mastery is to follow God first. The man follows God, the woman follows the man. The man does not break course and become complicit in sin like Adam, thus he can actually lead.
This is why I feel more dominant but also compassionate when I have my shit together, because I am more worthy of leadership.
A strong conception of God, right and wrong allows us to lead ultimately and move towards the best possible outcomes for ourselves, those around us and broader society.
Putting dating and thus women front and centre was incredibly useful short term, but God should be front and centre if we want to be able to reach the highest good in our lives.
In this sense God is a compass.

This failure to conceptualise the spiritual realm is where the red pillers falls short, assuming that more and more status will eventually be enough to secure a woman's interest. But the nature of Eve is to militate, even the garden of Eden was not 'enough' for her. Fucking Tom Brady got divorced, it's not a math question of more=more.

I will have an abundance of material wealth but more importantly I will be grounded in my spirituality and raised up from my vices and able to forge something meaningful with a clear head.
 
Hahah that guy, is the one D likes the best, and this is the core idea of D's philosophy: self-actualised masculinity and cultivating a deep internal sense of value.

Really awesome post brah

Dating & women is just part of this puzzle and it is just a foot in the door, so we can work on our actual purpose and development and growth as a man

Love it, and hope many more dudes come here working on their actual purpose and growth, beyond muhhhhh laycount......

KEEP WORKING BOYO

-Ravi
 
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The only way to self mastery is to follow God first. The man follows God, the woman follows the man.
I agree that having a strong set of personal values, sense of right and wrong, call it morals if you want, and living your live by those values is essential for fufillment. And we share the same belief re maximising good impact in life.


But I don’t understand why you need to find a god to do this.


I’m not even anti god, like if the belief helps you to accomplish your goals, great. But this idea that you need to follow someone else to have morals is bizarre. Think of your own values, following blindly is just a recipe for being taken advantage of.



I also saw some culty elements in this vid you posted. I’d be conscious that a lot of it is that guy trying to use a narrative (women = deviants) that resonates with his audience (discontented men who are unsatisfied with their love life) to gain notoriety/sell his course or whatever.
 
I agree that having a strong set of personal values, sense of right and wrong, call it morals if you want, and living your live by those values is essential for fufillment. And we share the same belief re maximising good impact in life.


But I don’t understand why you need to find a god to do this.


I’m not even anti god, like if the belief helps you to accomplish your goals, great. But this idea that you need to follow someone else to have morals is bizarre. Think of your own values, following blindly is just a recipe for being taken advantage of.



I also saw some culty elements in this vid you posted. I’d be conscious that a lot of it is that guy trying to use a narrative (women = deviants) that resonates with his audience (discontented men who are unsatisfied with their love life) to gain notoriety/sell his course or whatever.

Personally I see a hierarchy of reality where you get closer and closer to truth and stability. For instance think of the multiverse theory in which there are infinite realities, over time these will collapse or pop like bubbles - forming a hierarchy of stability or truth with the most stable remaining.
I believe that by definition the ultimate truth/reality/most stable is God. And by definition if something is false or unstable then it cannot be Godly. No matter how you look at things there will be a hierarchy and the way to get closest to the truth or ultimate reality is to align yourself with that.
For me I don't think of it as a belief to accomplish goals as everything that is good and worthwhile is already in alignment with God - which is the apex.
This is why religious figures triumph over adversity - such as Abraham following God over everything else.
I don't have a voice in my head telling me what to do unfortunately 😆 but I do think you need a true North. That direction and you will naturally course correct over time, but it will become a growing collection of superlatives: the most just, the highest etc
The closer you get to true North the more you are in alignment with God.
That is my view and why I believe there is a source of/to morality.
Where I take a leap and say God is I believe there is an ultimate entity necessarily beyond comprehension because everything I've just describes points that way.

In regards to blindly following I agree 100%
I've never really read any religious texts at length and couldn't possibly say if God himself doesn't want us to eat pork or shellfish for example.
However there is some serious knowledge/principles that can save us from bleeding decades away trying to work out what to do.

Yeah the title is really clickbaity but I think in this video at least he is dropping some knowledge. I've always heard things like 'don't put women on a pedestal,' 'you have to lead,' 'she has to take a backseat to your goals,' but they were just phrases people threw around without a deeper layer of meaning.
Hearing this guy explain why and realising it matches with what I've heard from guys with big successful families from religious communities was a big coin drop moment for me.
The spiritual aspect also helps me grasp it at a deeper level in a way that manosphere advice just can't.
 
Practice was decent, almost got detailed from too much caffeine in my green tea.
Prepared my songs for tm too
 
Excellent

Fully support people coming to their own conclusions and support this for them

Even if the intellectual rigour of these conclusions will never match The Bastard’s ‘Perfect Zygote Theory’ I am grateful to read genuine independent thought

And not the usual cooming blabber about muh laycount etc lmfao
 
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Guitar practice and singing lesson after work today.
Will get some cardio in if I have time as well
 
bet you've got a cracking voice on ya

all that cooming is good for the vocal chords

we used to build cathedrals brah
 
bet you've got a cracking voice on ya

all that cooming is good for the vocal chords

we used to build cathedrals brah

Let's build them again

Coom free day.
Singing lesson was good, really dissected my range and technique so I've got a proper starting point to build off of.
I think I'm further away from sounding good than I thought but it's 100% trainable. Very helpful for musicality and I can now go through scales on the guitar and match with my voice.

Quick practice today as I'm sleep deprived af
 
Big guitar practice later.
I'm also singing in my natural range like the teacher recommended and it's made a massive difference and will lay the foundation for pushing my range.
I succeeded in my sleep goal last night, still feel very groggy and the sleep itself was broken but another decent night and I'll be close to my full focus abilities when I practice.
 
Decent practice, really trailled off at the end. Sleep is fucked with this alternating shift pattern.
I made insane progress in the first two years I started playing by being obsessive, but I was also working and studying part time so I could get the focussed practice hours in.
I've got three vocal exercises I'm slamming as well.

I want to do some free cleaning of houses that look run down and community buildings and a form of altruism because I'm grateful that I can work and get money and have a living situation where I can play guitar for two hours plus in the mornings or evenings.

I'm going to try a cold plunge as a sleep aid as they really do knock me out when I'm warming back up afterwards..
There is also so much cloud cover here and gets dark about 16:30 which can't help when regulating my sleep as I get to work when it's dark and have about an hour and a half of dim light when I get back.

The songs are still slowly progressing though and even when I'm not operating anywhere close to good form I have an island of ingrained motor patterns which still work.
 
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Practice done. Sleep impaired again and try try again for another early night.
 
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