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Before starting, is it better to do the GLL AA program or to just approach girls? I've done about 60 approaches without much success (got a few numbers but that's about it.)

What do you think?

IMO, if you can do it, you're better off doing real approaches.

Cool, went out to a mall near me and approached 2 girls.
First one: blonde w big butt.. told me she was flattered but married and to keep going..
Second one: walked up to girl on phone, she looked up, I was trying to give her shit/be cheeky, I said in a commanding tone "you can't do that here", she got up and just walked away. Blimey.

Squilliam said:

IMO, if you can do it, you're better off doing real approaches.

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Okay, got it, I appreciate the reply Squilliam.

Approached 3 chicks today at mall, keeping momentum going.

Approached one girl at park after my workout \, Got her Instagram. Ill be supplementing approaches with DOING THE ENTIRETY of the AA program because I'm bored with run of the mill approaches.
Starting tomorrow with day one of the AA program..

MCGOOBINS said:

Approached one girl at park after my workout \, Got her Instagram. Ill be supplementing approaches with DOING THE ENTIRETY of the AA program because I'm bored with run of the mill approaches.
Starting tomorrow with day one of the AA program..

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Cool man, im doing the AA program as well. Let's keep each other accountable!

Fuck yea brotherman lets get it

Approached a few girls, got 1 number. Will start AA program tomorrow.

MCGOOBINS said:

Approached a few girls, got 1 number. Will start AA program tomorrow.

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Just curious why you are doing the AA program if you're already doing real approaches and getting numbers?

One benefit is the extra social freedom boost it gives you. Otherwise, the way you get better at cold approach is by doing cold approach.

I've decided to focus on real approaches. I set a goal to do 30 a week exclusively on campus which does pose its own set of challenges.

Decided that after yesterday I will do one more approach than the preceding day. This should leave me with with lot of residual growth. Also I am in need of completing the go out to bars alone program of GLL because of magic erroneous beliefs about the evil powers of alcohol and booze. That's all.

Went out again during the day, after class, kind of said fuck it, and got loosened up. After receiving feedback that I should really try to just have fun rather than being outcome dependent and focusing on getting the number I’ve been trying to implement that so I tend to go in not as Stoic sounding or flat sounding, so I try to smile, and try not to be as overt about why I’m talking to the girl. Did like 6 approaches before finding a girl that was down to meet up later. ( a few were lesbian (so they said) and some had boyfriends. But I still pussied out of approaching the hot ones even though I did approach a pretty hot girl and got her #. Happy I’m taking action but I think I need a soul surgery to implant some fvcking new beliefs lol. But I def felt a lot better going out today than in the past so I’m going to recreate that flow tomorrow

Had the opportunity to chat up. chicks but I I didn't.. Naturally, I am quite frustrated with myself, but tomorrow will be a better day and I intend to double the amount of action I'm taking. So we shall see, but I will. envision good things.

I am recommitting to completing the AA program in its entirety. The reason is simple: I’ve noticed a regression in my social skills. Despite being capable of approaching people, I’ve lacked motivation and fallen into the trap of comfort. One area where this has been particularly evident is in setting up dates.

That said, there’s a silver lining. On the last day of class, I messaged the hottest girl in my class and asked her out. She responded positively and agreed to grab coffee.

I later found out she lives on campus, This explains why I think I saw her one day after class, sitting outside, just waiting.

I prefer to approach strangers—people who don’t know me or aren't in my classes. Looking back, it sounds like an excuse. No more of that.

Yeah, reading this 6 months down the line hurts to know that I didn't take as much action as I thought I was going to and if I take a deep dive on it and really think to analyze myself, I'm learning now that I did have a problem with anxiety, I thought I squashed it, but I couldn't approach the girls that I wanted in 95% of situations

So. it means it's a problem that has to be handled.. On the topic of past experiences Now I do have much and many misses in my history. all the way back to 7th grade. This girl was telling me some very personal and sexual things. and I didn't say anything, but I realized then that I probably could have lost my V card that early. or at least try to do something.

Oh, this spans all the way to my most recent experience flirting with girls working
several jobs.

I also came across Good Looking Loser being made fun of from some pussy Youtuber. never thought that GLL was actually a fucking gold mine of a community and at the time I wasn't wary of pickup/developing social skills until after my fucking brain injury in 2020.

I didn't join this forum to look for reasons why I'm broken. I joined this forum to take action in getting this shit handled. The clock is ticking.

With love,

MCGOOBINS