• Welcome to the forums, Guest. Please note that you must make a post in the introduction thread and upload an avatar to gain full access to the forums. You must post a real picture of yourself, your face can be blurred or cropped out.

AC's Seduction Journey WEEK 1 12/16-12/23

ACplays

ACplays

Member
Joined
Jul 21, 2023
I'll be using this log as somewhat of a personal diary to document my journey into cold approach pickup. I went through a bad breakup last year and have been relying on apps since. While I can and do get some results on the apps, it's not very satisfying and I have a feeling I could be getting higher quality girls and quicker results in person. Since I am currently struggling with being able to approach, I'm going to set a modest goal of 10 approaches a week for myself. My current location has been pretty stark pros and cons,

Pros:
Live next to a relatively large college campus 25k students.
Living downtown next to the campus and all of the bars.
Smaller city so I feel like a big fish in a small pond.

Cons:
Small city 250k population.
No busy street that I can just go to and spam approach.
Have to do a lot of indoor approaching. Mall, target, grocery stores, etc. .. although I suppose I can approach on campus.
Might repeat approaches and could possibly gain a reputation (oh well)

Either way I'm going to find a way to make it work. I should be able to definitely meet my approach goals. My goals that involve approaching would be a 3 girl rotation and be able to maintain that. I'm also looking at going back to graduate school at the college near me, which would make college daygame pretty accessible. Anyways, I'll be posting my social and approach field reports here. Cheers!
 
I'm realizing that I have pretty extreme approach resistance. PMO is definitely holding me back. I've signed up for a 10 day vipassana meditation retreat that begins on the 29th. This will be a nice reset and hopefully help me with some of my inner game issues, challenge some deep seeded beliefs that I have. Ross Jefferies has a great video on this where he talks about the different types of confidence guys have when they get into this stuff. Specifically he discusses performance confidence and how we strive for and expect this kind of confidence with women, but you can only achieve this with many repetitions.

 
Have you tried doing cold approach with a wingman? This could easily take away 50% of your approach anxiety
 
Last edited:
Perseus said:
Have you tried doing cold approach with a wingman? This could easily take away 50% of your approach anxiety
Click to expand...
I live in a smaller city in the Midwest, and the friends I have here are either married or in LTR. I don’t really have anybody I can go out and approach with unfortunately. Feels like I have to get this started on my own
 
Week 1 2/16 - 2/23

Finally made an approach. Saw a beautiful brunette in an aisle by herself, went direct and told her she was cute etc. She got smiley and red, said thanks but that she has a boyfriend. I asked her if it was serious lol she said yeah, I told her have a nice day and left. Stoked I actually had the nerve to do it.

I’m going for 10 approaches a week going forward. That was number 1
 
Last edited:
Approach 2

Walmart parking lot in the midst of a blizzard and 12 degree weather
This girl (20yrHb8) is about to walk past me in the parking lot whilst it's snowing down.
me "Excuse me, I know this is random and it's freezing but I had to say hello"
She lit up and we had a quick chat. I sort of froze up (literally) and wasn't great with leading the quick convo. But, she essentially tried to snapchat close me but I told her I don't SC and got her number instead. I texted her about 6 hours ago and haven't heard back, so who knows. She did question my age super early on (28) so maybe she didn't like that. IDK. Glad I just went for it once again though.

Lessons here are I need to lead the interaction as she was basically the one that led the convo and tried to close me so she could get inside lol.
 
Well boys, I just started diving into this world of cold approach but it's possible I met a hinge girl last night that is going to take me out of the game lmao. She's just my type. We'll see what happens. I suppose I should continue trying to meet my approach quota
 
ACplays said:
Well boys, I just started diving into this world of cold approach but it's possible I met a hinge girl last night that is going to take me out of the game lmao. She's just my type. We'll see what happens. I suppose I should continue trying to meet my approach quota
Click to expand...
Slow the hell down.

It's been one date. Don't let yourself get complacent with approaching.

I kinda let that happen with my ex, and it bit me in the ass.
 
Squilliam said:
Slow the hell down.

It's been one date. Don't let yourself get complacent with approaching.

I kinda let that happen with my ex, and it bit me in the ass.
Click to expand...
haha you're probably right. We hung out again today because she works right next to my place so she came over during her break. We're both pretty smitten and she's bi which is interesting. You and your ex move too fast?
 
ACplays said:
haha you're probably right. We hung out again today because she works right next to my place so she came over during her break. We're both pretty smitten and she's bi which is interesting. You and your ex move too fast?
Click to expand...
There's something in relationships called the "honeymoon phase".

Until you've known a girl for at least a few months, and in many cases, longer, you don't *really* know her.

At this point you're gonna overlook each other's flaws. They might seem perfect to you.

During the honeymoon phase, you're both on your best behavior. Over time, you'll get "comfortable" with each other, and the real versions of yourselves will emerge.

That's the point where your relationship really will get tested, and you're gonna see if you really like them or if you were just horny and/or desperate.

To me this just tells me you're inexperienced in dating. Every time you're like, this can be the one, on the first date, you need to take a big step back, and say, it's only the first date, I'm gonna go with the flow and see where things lead.

I'm still conflicted about this topic, but I do think it's optimal to not invest too much too fast. I personally think it's better to keep dates simple and short at first. Once she proves herself worthy of it, then you can take her on a nice date every so often.

With my ex I invested way too much too fast. Made me complacent with approaching girls (although it was also winter so that's a factor). Once I started taking her on nicer dates she began to expect that. So going forward, I vowed to take things slower, and not invest too fast.

For the second meet it's fine for it to be shortly after the first. If I were you I'd probably wait at least a few days before seeing her again. Doesn't mean you shouldn't text her to just check in and stuff, but I wouldn't go for another date tomorrow.
 
Squilliam said:
There's something in relationships called the "honeymoon phase".

Until you've known a girl for at least a few months, and in many cases, longer, you don't *really* know her.

At this point you're gonna overlook each other's flaws. They might seem perfect to you.

During the honeymoon phase, you're both on your best behavior. Over time, you'll get "comfortable" with each other, and the real versions of yourselves will emerge.

That's the point where your relationship really will get tested, and you're gonna see if you really like them or if you were just horny and/or desperate.

To me this just tells me you're inexperienced in dating. Every time you're like, this can be the one, on the first date, you need to take a big step back, and say, it's only the first date, I'm gonna go with the flow and see where things lead.

I'm still conflicted about this topic, but I do think it's optimal to not invest too much too fast. I personally think it's better to keep dates simple and short at first. Once she proves herself worthy of it, then you can take her on a nice date every so often.

With my ex I invested way too much too fast. Made me complacent with approaching girls (although it was also winter so that's a factor). Once I started taking her on nicer dates she began to expect that. So going forward, I vowed to take things slower, and not invest too fast.

For the second meet it's fine for it to be shortly after the first. If I were you I'd probably wait at least a few days before seeing her again. Doesn't mean you shouldn't text her to just check in and stuff, but I wouldn't go for another date tomorrow.
Click to expand...
I agree with everything you’ve said here. I’ve had multiple LTR’s the last one of which lasted 4 years. I’ve been single for a year since that relationship ended. I also have a lay count of 20 so I’m not totally inexperienced by any means. But this is the first girl since highschool that has been like a 9 or 10 in terms of atttaction for me. I do need to play it a bit cooler but she’s coming on strong too haha thanks for the slight course correction. I’ll keep approaching and dating around until I get a clearer picture of this girl.
 
ACplays said:
I agree with everything you’ve said here. I’ve had multiple LTR’s the last one of which lasted 4 years. I’ve been single for a year since that relationship ended. I also have a lay count of 20 so I’m not totally inexperienced by any means. But this is the first girl since highschool that has been like a 9 or 10 in terms of atttaction for me. I do need to play it a bit cooler but she’s coming on strong too haha thanks for the slight course correction. I’ll keep approaching and dating around until I get a clearer picture of this girl.
Click to expand...
Another thing is, if she's treating you like you're literally a god, as if you're perfect and she's basically idealizing you, that's a red flag. She could be BPD. Time will tell.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top