Sanam's Progress Log (AA focused for now)

What’s up everyone,

I’ve been bouncing around the self improvement space for some time now - but have always avoided the whole dating thing.

For at least the next few months I want to dedicate myself to beating AA.

This year specifically I have had brief tastes of social freedom - I believe it is the key to unlocking a better life.

Currently living on my own near a major city with solid nightlife - I may only be here for one more year so I want to take advantage of the situation while I can.

For now - this log will be dedicated to AA drills (but could change!)

I’ve already done a couple drills and will post them in succession (prewritten out on my phone lol).

My goal is to at least do the first few weeks of AA program w/no modifications, if I am comfortable just approaching by then I will.

The main reason I am posting this is to hold myself accountable - outside of work - this should be the main priority. I want to do this bare minimum 5 days per week to build momentum.

With that I’ll now post the first day.

With that said - the first day I went out to do this I failed. Might as well post tho.

For some context - I am in a hotel for a work trip and I was raining pretty hard so was mainly limited to the hotel grounds.

Walked around for 30 minutes before going back up and saying fuck why can’t I even approach a single one for something as simple as the time.

Paranoia was definitely getting the better of me.

I decided that I need to do at least ONE before I eat dinner (and I was starving). Walked around for 10 more minutes - kept fucking seeing chicks with dudes lol.

Finally two black chicks walking towards me - likely my age maybe a little older.

Asked them “do you happen to have the time” - took a sec and they gave it to me. One was carrying a bunch of food and looked frantically for her phone.

Then I had killer bolognese pasta at the hotel restaurant.

Definitely doing this day again (to get the full 5 approaches).

A hotel is not the best place to start as it feels like you are going in circles and are somewhat isolated.

Tomorrow night I’m going to try to do this either on the street or in a mall.

Tomorrow is real “day one” but at least we did something!

Going forward the “just do one” mentality will be good for when the struggle starts.

This is the first "real" completed day (also copied from my phone)

This time was basically day 1 - just needed to do the time drill 5 actual times.


This time luckily it wasn’t raining so I went out to the downtown area near the hotel - saw a woman from the distance who looked young but was actually a little bit older - she said “oh sorry I don’t have it either” and we had a good laugh.

Giving me a perfect excuse to ask the next chick - cute, Spanish around 30 years old. She gave it to me with no issues.

As I’m leaving the grounds - I see a black chick also around 30 year old with huge tits hanging out. Asked her the same and she politely gave it to me.

First three done in 2 minutes.

Kept walking away from the hotel this was tougher - took around 10 min of walking to see the next one. Around 20 year old white girl who politely gave it to me as well. I asked her in Spanish but she understood lol.

Walked a little more - middle aged white woman didn’t have a watch either.

“Ohhh I’m so sorry I don’t, maybe they do” pointed to two younger black chicks who gave it to me - giving me a free +2.

Total of 7 girls spoken to.

This shit definitely builds momentum as I had a bunch of other weird interactions throughout the day.

Keep it up!

Thanks man!

OK - now for day 2 of the program

Drill: Walk up to 5 women and ask them for the time. LEAVE.
Walk up to 5 women again and ask them for the time, but do the drill faster. LEAVE.

After you talk to the first 5 women, chill out for a while. Then go do it again and try to do it slightly faster.


Today I went to a beach volleyball group I recently checked out.

Played for a good hour or so - then went in the water, waves were strong and kept getting hit in the face. Nonetheless I had fun and talked to a couple people floating around me.

I decided that I might as well do Day 2 of the AA program on the beach.

Turns out that approaching chicks (even for the “time”) when they have less clothes on is a little more intimidating.

This time it took me a little longer to get the first one as I felt uncomfortable in this environment.

The first five were kind of a blur - they went relatively quick once I got started. Decent mix of ages.

After that I chilled by the beach - with plans to do the next five faster.

The opposite happened - the last five were like pulling teeth.

I kept walking around aimlessly pussying out at opportunities.

Finally spoke to a woman walking near the beach and she gave it to me with no issues.

Next couple were funny - a gorgeous milf who was in a rush and couldn’t give it to me - yet was polite either way.

Next was a russian? Chick who literally had no clue what I was saying - just said “No I don’t”

Even though I just did this - I honestly don’t remember the third approach of the second set.

The fourth one was either a cute mom/babysitter (maybe late 20s early 30s) who was supervising a bunch of kids.

I kept watching without doing anything - (pretending to pull ups lol) and eventually just awkwardly barged in on a conversation and she gave it to me.

Solid 10 minute gap before I did the last one - Asian girl with large sunglasses - she gave it to me quickly.

In total this took over an 1hr and 20 mimutes to do - first “Time” I got was 1:02 and the last was at 2:29 - I might repeat this day tomorrow as I’d like to do the drill faster.

I am starting to see the point of these drills - an approach is an approach - getting in there is the first obstacle.



Funny story - after doing these drills I forgot where I put my stuff on the beach and was frantically running around looking for it - ended up asking a few people for directions.

While I was getting closer a young (maybe 15/16 year old) girl waved me over

“Hey can you help my mom get up”

This woman was probably around 5’1 and 350 lbs - I tried from the front - clasping her hands - no luck.

I tried from the back - my hands sunk into her pits which triggered her back pain.

She ended up getting on her own but thought it was interesting how this type of shit happens just from being “out”.

AA Day 2 (REDO)

Drill: Walk up to 5 women and ask them for the time. LEAVE.
Walk up to 5 women again and ask them for the time, but do the drill faster. LEAVE.

After you talk to the first 5 women, chill out for a while. Then go do it again and try to do it slightly faster.


Went to another local event today that was absolutely mobbed.

Tons of people from all walks of life.

I decided to re-do the second drill (ask 10 girls for the time) as it took me too long to do it last time.

I really didn’t want to get started but just forced myself in there and spoke to two women engrossed in conversation - they looked a little shocked but gave it to me.

I heard them cackling as I walked away - seems like they found my request amusing!

Then I asked a few more people relatively quickly - did the first five super fast likely under five minutes.

Then as the drill says I “chilled” for a little bit walking around the area.

One issue I had is there were very few girls on their own - almost all were either in group or with dudes.

I didn’t want to repeat yesterday's taking forever so I started asking girls with dudes - which wasn’t too bad.

I hit ten by then but felt like I didn’t really do it because some of the times a dude gave me the time instead of the girl.

I saw a super attractive (30 ish) girl and challenged myself to ask her (as number 11). She ended up being really nice and we even struck up a short conversation.

All in all this took 35 minutes - less than half the time it took yesterday - Now I am ready to move forward.

SSanamRe said:

I saw a super attractive (30 ish) girl and challenged myself to ask her (as number 11). She ended up being really nice and we even struck up a short conversation.

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Perfect man. Slowly training your brain that what you're doing is socially fine.