repeated day 8 again
and it took me
13 approaches to get through the first set (4 reps).
the first chick i tried to ask the time from, she looked at me and then NODDED no and accelerated ahead.
another chick, i asked for the time a couple times, and she looked away and kept walking in the same direction. i decided to imitate her walking style, then i was like "why won't you tell me the time!!!" then she stopped, looked away from me, and point blank jaywalked across the street.
the 4th rep was a grind because you have to talk to girls until one says they've actually been there. and even though i would indeed get the time from girls, they would storm off when i tried to continue the drill. "where is the mcdonalds?" "idk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" *speedwalks ahead*
i realized that i was overreacting too much, and just having this thought of "these bitches won't even tell me the time, imagine if i genuinely needed to know!" clouding my head wasn't helping. the reality is i'm doing these drills in one of the most notorious spots for pickup in japan, dressed like a nampa guy myself.
and i failed to mention that there were plenty of nice, sweet girls who did actually indulge me in my quest to find the elusive mcdonald's of ikebukuro.
i remembered this post i made 2.5 years ago when i was approaching in america
colgate said:
I've talked about how I think "rejection is mileage" several times, but the concept really crystallized today in a hallucinogenic dream I had after my 2pm date left. I saw myself 400 miles out on the Interstate in the desert. And my exit is 163 miles away. I could sit around (e.g. like how I did in Nashville for about 2-3 weeks) and complain about how I'm not at the exit yet, or I could keep going and see the rejections and adversity as necessary prerequisites for the positive outcomes.
the same thing applies here. i mean the guy who originally coined this "rejection is mileage" concept literally approaches here in japan. the only difference is really that girls don't try to be nice and smiley on rejections, unlike america.
it's funny that japan is considered some "indirect culture" and westerners are considered more "direct", but when it comes to girls being approached, they will let you know straight up that they are not in the mood.
i pressed forward. i need to do these drills. there's no other option.
indeed there were plenty of girls who pulled out their phones and used the map app to guide me to mcdonalds. some also knew the mcdonalds and gave me thorough directions as if i was actually a tourist here.
it's funny that my post started off with blackpill rage energy, and that's what seemed to stick more in my head. i guess even if you eat 20 pieces of candy but get punched twice in the stomach, you'll remember being punched in the stomach more than the tasty candy.
at the end of the day, one factor of success in cold approach is the ability to recognize being able to brush off bitchy girls and forge your path forward anyway. they exist, move on!
it's also difficult to overcome this if you have some kind of childhood trauma or issues to resolve. because then you just mentally map negative reactions to some traumatic past event in your life. you have to be careful not to misdirect negative reactions to those types of emotions and memories. and do the work of resolving those issues separately, as they come up. every guy who seriously does cold approach has dealt with thousands of bitterly negative reactions, especially in japan, but now they've hardened like steel to it. and they can use that hardness INSIDE THE HOT CHICKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
this is the process i must also go through.
