I too got around zero matches when I started using Tinder.
Then I did some preliminary photoshoots, but I was still getting only a few here and there.
Then I followed @Radical's style guide, got new photos again, but the results didn't improve.
I hit the gym on-and-off for around 9-10 months (you could do way better than I did if you take it seriously).
After a couple optimizations from @pancakemouse and learning the flow of messaging it took me
11 months to even get my first phone number off of Tinder.
I got ~110 matches in around a month after this much effort
https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=39817#p39817
https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=40299#p40299
colgate-chan's take（＾Ｏ＾☆♪
I'm going to be real and say you have to start with a lot of self-improvement to even get your foot in the door with dating. You have a somewhat similar background as I did so I think I can provide some guidance (skinny, nerdy, glasses, university boy).
I'll also just write this self-contained comment so if you're serious, you can literally just follow everything I list below and show us in your progress log. (others have already said the below in one way or another)
I promise you if you do everything I tell you in this comment without making excuses, you'll have accelerated progress. This is from my own lived experience and things I have personally done.
Fitness
Your biggest priority needs to be hitting the gym and focusing on that. Bare minimum at your height, you should be able to squat ~225, bench ~175, and deadlift ~275 to even get in the door.
You should see your current fitness level as synonymous as an obese person's, except you have to gain weight. I had to do it too, and that's just how it is.
You can research how to do that, plenty of resources online for fitness, just pick a plan and stick with it until you have the above results.
And then some more.
Vision
You
must get contacts. Non-negotiable. (that was one of the first things I did joining the forums too, you can see my first video log in my thread where i still had glasses). It used to take me 30-60 minutes to even get my contacts in and I would be late for everything, but eventually you'll get them in quickly.
If you are really serious, go get LASIK or SMILE eye surgery. It will change your life beyond just the vision improvements.
I got it,
and then I literally lost my virginity the same week (sans escort lol).
You will honestly do this one day or another so you might as well just get it now while you're in the self-improvement phase. Take a bank loan if you have to. @KillYourInnerLoser did it.
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Style
Toss out your wardrobe and get the following as a starter style pack. You might already have some of these but I'm just going to make the list (mostly) exhaustive for inventory purposes:
- 2-3 plain gray t-shirts from a department store (zara, express, just go to the mall lol)
- 2-3 plain black t-shirts from a department store
- 1-2 grey jeans, 1-2 black jeans, at least one ripped, distressed, slim fit
-
white sneakers
-
rings
-
pendant necklace
- go to a watch store to get one properly sized rather than purchasing online, but
silver watch
Dating
You won't get any results with online as you are right now.
However, you will definitely be able to start getting dates through daytime cold approach. I think it has the lowest barrier of entry and will get you some formative experiences with talking to girls, in addition to boosting your general confidence.
I wrote this comment to @Hard2Focus on how to get started with that, sans AA program: https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=40142#p40142
He has been following it and has been making approaches.
Escorts
I'll put this clause here just for the lolz: "the below information is purely for informational purposes and in no way is it condoning illegal behavior or actions"
If you're a virgin, this will massively help you beyond how you think it will.
It takes a lot to get over your ego and just pull the trigger and do it. But doing it will not only show you a "simulated" experience for what's in store, you'll gain a decent idea on how to escalate on girls when you have the chance.
Additionally, you can just get it out of the way and if you have a bad "first experience", it'll at least be on a "practice" girl. And then you can hire a second one to "try again" and feel more confident when you have a real girl with you.
https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=36391#p36391
https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=37513#p37513
dm me if you want more deets on this
