nyaztecwarrior
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- Jun 2, 2020
I posted in the introduction site a couple of months back but unfortunately i wasn't working towards my goals as i wasn't committed enough and in a really bad state mentally. I am still not in the best place either but better to work on my goals now little by little than not do anything at all. even though I said I was committed to my goals,
my heart truly wasn't in it and i felt i was just stating those goals so i could focus on something other than my problems. Little by little i put my goals off to the next days, then they turned into months and here i am.
I am coming off a pretty bad breakup (3 year relationship ) and although i tried not to make it into a big deal by telling myself they happen to everyone and that i am no different, everyday it ate at me and led me towards a negative path involving drugs and mild depression, i can certainly say i hit rock bottom in terms of how unhappy and bitter i felt.
I am still currently unemployed (though thankful the state is helping me out and i have no bills and still haven't moved out of my parents house which were my two main goals at the beginning of the year as they pretty much went hand in hand. As for the dating thing, it's not something i am looking for at the moment as i want to heal myself first, though i am open to quality girls. I am looking to focus more on my career and simply mature more and become a more independent version of myself. I am posting this to hold myself accountable to my two major goals in life .
As I stated earlier, me and my partner were together for close to 3 years but we had to end it due to the distance and not being able to travel. I don't know if it is healthy or not but part of me wants to believe that perhaps one day in the future our paths will cross again, however I'm not holding onto that(haven't spoken to her in 5+ months ) and regardless if one day we meet again, i need to better myself as a man.Right now one of my most important priorities is to heal from the inside out and i'd like to do that by working on myself and accomplishing two things that have held me back fo awhile.
GOALS:
1.Find a long term job in my field ideally, if i can't find something full time i will have to find something part time.
-How will I accomplish this? By applying to at least 5-8 different jobs monday - saturday ( 30-40) and tweaking my resume at least once every week, i will also try and keep myself accountable to that by updating it here once a week.
2.Move out by early February 2022, How will I accomplish this? By looking at different neighborhoods , trying to find roommates and saving at least 10k ( have about 7k saved up) I live in the New York area so everything is more expensive than most. Off course i have other minor goals but right now these are my main two focuses in life. There's a good chance that i wont accomplish this by this year and that's okay.
Minor goals ( again i'm okay if i don't accomplish it this year: get to 160lb ( currently at 147ish lb ), get at least one tattoo, learn the basics of a third language , take martial arts or BJJ classes and growing out facial hair.
I hit rock bottom this year due to several different circumstances but I'm certainly going to make the best of the months left in 2021.I am trying to be as detailed as possible because I want this to be like my rough draft and give me the kick in the ass that I needed. If you guys have any suggestions or questions, feel free to ask Thank you if you took the time to read this! All the best ,J.
my heart truly wasn't in it and i felt i was just stating those goals so i could focus on something other than my problems. Little by little i put my goals off to the next days, then they turned into months and here i am.
I am coming off a pretty bad breakup (3 year relationship ) and although i tried not to make it into a big deal by telling myself they happen to everyone and that i am no different, everyday it ate at me and led me towards a negative path involving drugs and mild depression, i can certainly say i hit rock bottom in terms of how unhappy and bitter i felt.
I am still currently unemployed (though thankful the state is helping me out and i have no bills and still haven't moved out of my parents house which were my two main goals at the beginning of the year as they pretty much went hand in hand. As for the dating thing, it's not something i am looking for at the moment as i want to heal myself first, though i am open to quality girls. I am looking to focus more on my career and simply mature more and become a more independent version of myself. I am posting this to hold myself accountable to my two major goals in life .
As I stated earlier, me and my partner were together for close to 3 years but we had to end it due to the distance and not being able to travel. I don't know if it is healthy or not but part of me wants to believe that perhaps one day in the future our paths will cross again, however I'm not holding onto that(haven't spoken to her in 5+ months ) and regardless if one day we meet again, i need to better myself as a man.Right now one of my most important priorities is to heal from the inside out and i'd like to do that by working on myself and accomplishing two things that have held me back fo awhile.
GOALS:
1.Find a long term job in my field ideally, if i can't find something full time i will have to find something part time.
-How will I accomplish this? By applying to at least 5-8 different jobs monday - saturday ( 30-40) and tweaking my resume at least once every week, i will also try and keep myself accountable to that by updating it here once a week.
2.Move out by early February 2022, How will I accomplish this? By looking at different neighborhoods , trying to find roommates and saving at least 10k ( have about 7k saved up) I live in the New York area so everything is more expensive than most. Off course i have other minor goals but right now these are my main two focuses in life. There's a good chance that i wont accomplish this by this year and that's okay.
Minor goals ( again i'm okay if i don't accomplish it this year: get to 160lb ( currently at 147ish lb ), get at least one tattoo, learn the basics of a third language , take martial arts or BJJ classes and growing out facial hair.
I hit rock bottom this year due to several different circumstances but I'm certainly going to make the best of the months left in 2021.I am trying to be as detailed as possible because I want this to be like my rough draft and give me the kick in the ass that I needed. If you guys have any suggestions or questions, feel free to ask Thank you if you took the time to read this! All the best ,J.