bloomer
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- Mar 1, 2023
Hey so this is my first post so I feel I should quickly outline some goals I would like this progress log to keep me accountable to. Goals in not particular order: Get an aesthetic body, move out of parents house, quit porn, get laid.
What I've done to achieve above goals:
Aesthetic body - Started going to the gym seriously in March. I did workout for a roughly a year before then but hated it (wasn't consistent with it at all, so saw no results). I then found a program that I really enjoyed (an Upper/Lower program); I haven't missed a day yet, my diet is on point, my motivation is sky high, and I'm finally seeing result I'm proud of. That simple change of program made I world of difference.
Lesson learned: Don't give up; experimentation is key; if something isn't working, change it to work for you (i.e. don't be a victim of circumstance or expect someone else to fix it for you); I don't have shitty genetics
Move out of parents house - Still need choose a city. That part is complicated because of work so this will be a slightly longer term goal that originally thought, but still do-able. As for more actionable steps to achieving this goal, I've started to budget and save money for an emergency fund, deposit and moving costs for when I can finally make the move.
Lessons learned: Not much expect a fair amount to personal finance and that I'm not sure I really care what city I'm in as long as its a city - anywhere is better than my home town.
Quit porn - I'm half way through reading The Easy Peasy Method book. Listened to the Your Brain On Porn and The Porn Myth audiobooks. My longest streak was 11 days, then relapsed, but I didn't let it get me down and started again. The gym definitely helps.
Lessons learned: I'm starting to learn more about why I watch porn (depression and insecurity) and why it won't fix those problems.
Get Laid - This one is pretty good. I decided to go out to a club alone this weekend and just gave myself the task of talking to strangers (anyone, man or woman). I did this once before in February and it was fun (I met a cool group of people and went and sang Karaoke with them, looking back I could have made a move on the girl but pussied out). This time wasn't quite as fun but a girl did make out with me on the dance floor - I'm talking really sloppy kissing. She was definitely attractive to me and she was really filthy (like she was asking me to choke her while making out and tonnes of other stuff). That's never happened to me; before that night my bad self-esteem kinda thought "this sort of stuff doesn't happen to people like me". Definitely increased my confidence. But I was impossible to turn it in to a lay since we both lived with our parents. Also, after we stopped making out she was really cold to towards. Has anyone else had that happen? Maybe she was just looking for some fun making out and nothing else, not really gonna overthink it.
Lessons learned: Not much learned about picking up girls because I'm not really sure what it was that I did for that to happen, except that I should but my self out there more, I am worthy of experiences with women, and talking to strangers isn't so bad (I'm kinda decent at it).
WHAT TO WORK ON
Other than continuing the above. I need to:
Up my style - My wardrobe is basically empty, so I bought some clothes. Nothing special. Just the bread and butter stuff: a few t-shirts I like the look of (I used an app to tell me what colours go best with my colour palette), and some trousers (black, navy, and light wash jeans). I figured that would be a good place to start, then I can use Radical's style guide to increase the sex appeal of my look. When the clothes are delivered I'll post pictures of me wearing them. Also, I need help to decide the best style of eyeglasses. I know contacts are best, but I'm gonna have to wear glasses sometimes, so I would like to look at least decent when wearing them.
Do something about my hair - I think it might be balding so have to look at options for this.
Get started with tinder - Gonna use Andy's guide and the forum to help me with that. I also want to start tinder because I don't thing clubs are my scene; I kinda hate them and people I meet in clubs seem worse than the people my friends hook up with on tinder. I want a more efficient method of getting laid too.
Start day game - Kinda hard since there really aren't many people my age in my small town. But I can at least get better a talking to strangers, so I've started to me more open to conversations with people in general.
What I've done to achieve above goals:
Aesthetic body - Started going to the gym seriously in March. I did workout for a roughly a year before then but hated it (wasn't consistent with it at all, so saw no results). I then found a program that I really enjoyed (an Upper/Lower program); I haven't missed a day yet, my diet is on point, my motivation is sky high, and I'm finally seeing result I'm proud of. That simple change of program made I world of difference.
Lesson learned: Don't give up; experimentation is key; if something isn't working, change it to work for you (i.e. don't be a victim of circumstance or expect someone else to fix it for you); I don't have shitty genetics
Move out of parents house - Still need choose a city. That part is complicated because of work so this will be a slightly longer term goal that originally thought, but still do-able. As for more actionable steps to achieving this goal, I've started to budget and save money for an emergency fund, deposit and moving costs for when I can finally make the move.
Lessons learned: Not much expect a fair amount to personal finance and that I'm not sure I really care what city I'm in as long as its a city - anywhere is better than my home town.
Quit porn - I'm half way through reading The Easy Peasy Method book. Listened to the Your Brain On Porn and The Porn Myth audiobooks. My longest streak was 11 days, then relapsed, but I didn't let it get me down and started again. The gym definitely helps.
Lessons learned: I'm starting to learn more about why I watch porn (depression and insecurity) and why it won't fix those problems.
Get Laid - This one is pretty good. I decided to go out to a club alone this weekend and just gave myself the task of talking to strangers (anyone, man or woman). I did this once before in February and it was fun (I met a cool group of people and went and sang Karaoke with them, looking back I could have made a move on the girl but pussied out). This time wasn't quite as fun but a girl did make out with me on the dance floor - I'm talking really sloppy kissing. She was definitely attractive to me and she was really filthy (like she was asking me to choke her while making out and tonnes of other stuff). That's never happened to me; before that night my bad self-esteem kinda thought "this sort of stuff doesn't happen to people like me". Definitely increased my confidence. But I was impossible to turn it in to a lay since we both lived with our parents. Also, after we stopped making out she was really cold to towards. Has anyone else had that happen? Maybe she was just looking for some fun making out and nothing else, not really gonna overthink it.
Lessons learned: Not much learned about picking up girls because I'm not really sure what it was that I did for that to happen, except that I should but my self out there more, I am worthy of experiences with women, and talking to strangers isn't so bad (I'm kinda decent at it).
WHAT TO WORK ON
Other than continuing the above. I need to:
Up my style - My wardrobe is basically empty, so I bought some clothes. Nothing special. Just the bread and butter stuff: a few t-shirts I like the look of (I used an app to tell me what colours go best with my colour palette), and some trousers (black, navy, and light wash jeans). I figured that would be a good place to start, then I can use Radical's style guide to increase the sex appeal of my look. When the clothes are delivered I'll post pictures of me wearing them. Also, I need help to decide the best style of eyeglasses. I know contacts are best, but I'm gonna have to wear glasses sometimes, so I would like to look at least decent when wearing them.
Do something about my hair - I think it might be balding so have to look at options for this.
Get started with tinder - Gonna use Andy's guide and the forum to help me with that. I also want to start tinder because I don't thing clubs are my scene; I kinda hate them and people I meet in clubs seem worse than the people my friends hook up with on tinder. I want a more efficient method of getting laid too.
Start day game - Kinda hard since there really aren't many people my age in my small town. But I can at least get better a talking to strangers, so I've started to me more open to conversations with people in general.
