JamalHash123
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- Jul 27, 2020
Hey boys
I've been smashing out sum cold approaches and getting good results. around 160 approaches and 6 lays.
However, contrary to GLL's mantra of "edgy>all" I got 4/6 lays when I was wearing dressier outfits (oxford shirts/chinos/loafers or a suit).
Now...I do live in a very cosmopolitan city (think New York/London) where wealth/classic menswear is positively correlated with status (contrast LA/SF).
I didn't track my results re: what I was wearing but my gut says that I probably only did 30% of my cold approaches when wearing "dressy" outfits but I actually got the majority of lays when wearing dressy outfits.
Small sample size but this suggests that I overachieve when I'm in a dressy outfit.
Several theories as to this:
1. I'm in a city where dressiness is correlated with status because wealth and a high status bougie job (ie jobs in which suits are mandatory, ie finance/law/consulting) is correlated with status and it generally costs more to look good when being dressier (again, think NY vs Chris's LA or even Sydney/Melbourne where dressing up is 'gay' or 'too much')
2. I'm not muscular enough to generate visceral attraction from an edgy outfit (I actually have a rather skinny frame so I barely look like I lift even in t shirts)
3. I'm more comfortable in dressy outfits (it's more my style) and this is subcommunicated in how I talk to girls (I don't think this is true because I actually enjoy wearing t shirts and shorts more, but I get treated much better by the general public/salespeople when I'm in dressy outfits so this can contribute to my confidence)
4. I look too young and the dressy outfits help me look older
5. I'm not hot enough and I need to rely on the "wealth" angle rather than the "hot" angle to get lays (possibly but unlikely, 3/4 of the "dressy" lays were first night bangs)
I think it's a combination of the above tbh.
Note that I do have a baby face so I look very young (girls routinely ask me if I'm 21/22).
Obviously the one thing that jumps out to me is that I need to get more muscular. It's inexcusable that I routinely get asked "you actually go to the gym???"
Now I will note that I definitely noticed that I got a lot more girls looking for BFs when I was in a dressy outfit. IE girls that weren't DTF when they came out on a date with me. Obviously that's because dressy outfits convey more of a boyfriend angle and also imply wealth.
Thoughts? Thx.
I've been smashing out sum cold approaches and getting good results. around 160 approaches and 6 lays.
However, contrary to GLL's mantra of "edgy>all" I got 4/6 lays when I was wearing dressier outfits (oxford shirts/chinos/loafers or a suit).
Now...I do live in a very cosmopolitan city (think New York/London) where wealth/classic menswear is positively correlated with status (contrast LA/SF).
I didn't track my results re: what I was wearing but my gut says that I probably only did 30% of my cold approaches when wearing "dressy" outfits but I actually got the majority of lays when wearing dressy outfits.
Small sample size but this suggests that I overachieve when I'm in a dressy outfit.
Several theories as to this:
1. I'm in a city where dressiness is correlated with status because wealth and a high status bougie job (ie jobs in which suits are mandatory, ie finance/law/consulting) is correlated with status and it generally costs more to look good when being dressier (again, think NY vs Chris's LA or even Sydney/Melbourne where dressing up is 'gay' or 'too much')
2. I'm not muscular enough to generate visceral attraction from an edgy outfit (I actually have a rather skinny frame so I barely look like I lift even in t shirts)
3. I'm more comfortable in dressy outfits (it's more my style) and this is subcommunicated in how I talk to girls (I don't think this is true because I actually enjoy wearing t shirts and shorts more, but I get treated much better by the general public/salespeople when I'm in dressy outfits so this can contribute to my confidence)
4. I look too young and the dressy outfits help me look older
5. I'm not hot enough and I need to rely on the "wealth" angle rather than the "hot" angle to get lays (possibly but unlikely, 3/4 of the "dressy" lays were first night bangs)
I think it's a combination of the above tbh.
Note that I do have a baby face so I look very young (girls routinely ask me if I'm 21/22).
Obviously the one thing that jumps out to me is that I need to get more muscular. It's inexcusable that I routinely get asked "you actually go to the gym???"
Now I will note that I definitely noticed that I got a lot more girls looking for BFs when I was in a dressy outfit. IE girls that weren't DTF when they came out on a date with me. Obviously that's because dressy outfits convey more of a boyfriend angle and also imply wealth.
Thoughts? Thx.
