Hannan’s Log | GLL’s Lone Club Program

[hannangame]

Hey I am starting the gll aa program. Please give me tips as I do this.

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That was my original post this down here is edited: 10/28/22
Edited again 11/8/22
I started the program a year ago but was really really inconsistent.
I've recently since a couple of days ago started logging here consistently
for the past 4 weeks, I have been doing AA drills consistently and repeated the high 5 drills and the ABC for fun multiple times since I couldn't do day 21 for a while. I didn't log any day before 21 because it was so easy, and I didn't wanna write. But now I will. I wrote about my earlier drills in my paper thought journal but ill use this to journal specifically about my girl thoughts and issues. I wasn't committed to being active before; I am now.

Well anyway, I wanted to update my first post with a summary of me or just some details.

I am currently 19 almost 20, A virgin, (NOT ANYMORE) that has gotten head from two different girls, both roommates, and one girl consistently still gives me head, I almost fucked (DID) her, and made a post about "where I couldn't put it in" a few days back. The other roommate I don't talk to her at all, she gave me head first and was less close to me. Both of these girls were Innocent, Virgins who had never kissed, and so was I.

That's literally all my sexual experience and it all happened a semester ago so I'm pretty new.

I wanna be confident and sexier.
I'm in jujitsu and work out often.
I'm getting better.
Im pretty social but don't have many "real" friends
As in someone that I can talk to about my problems, my friends would judge me and my parents would get mad at me about my issues. So I hope I can talk with one of yall.

I go to a public UNI with 60,000 people, plenty of girls.
I am pretty social, became social 2 years ago, ever since working in sales for a summer. Before that, I was a loser who got bullied so much. It made me become antisocial, fat, and depressed. I was bullied for my race, weight, mannerisms, just everything, and didn't fight back. Now I don't get bullied, but still am a little sensitive and have pretty big mood swings.

At some point I took anti depressants, but I don't anymore.

 

[D4vidDG]

Pretty much what Chris recommends on his website:

1. Ask yourself if you really need the program or you can force yourself to do 1 approach a day. I think the second option will take you to your goals faster. But keep in mind everyone's pace is different and the AA program also has its advantages

2. Make it your first or second absolute priority and have a clear goal in mind. Remind yourself of this goal whenever you lose motivation.

You'll need to spend a lot of time and energy on completing this, and you'll get stuck. Everyone does. So you need to have your priorities organized and a goal that pushes you in the worst scenarios.

3. Be kind to yourself on bad days.

4. Ask for help here.

I think the best advice you can get would be from Manganiello. He's a fucking legend and he completed the AA program.

Good luck

 

[Manganiello]

Pretty much what Chris recommends on his website:

1. Ask yourself if you really need the program or you can force yourself to do 1 approach a day. I think the second option will take you to your goals faster. But keep in mind everyone's pace is different and the AA program also has its advantages

2. Make it your first or second absolute priority and have a clear goal in mind. Remind yourself of this goal whenever you lose motivation.

You'll need to spend a lot of time and energy on completing this, and you'll get stuck. Everyone does. So you need to have your priorities organized and a goal that pushes you in the worst scenarios.

3. Be kind to yourself on bad days.

4. Ask for help here.

I think the best advice you can get would be from @Manganiello. He's a fucking legend and he completed the AA program.

Good luck

Agree with all of this.

Tho this should be the number one thing going on in your life for the next 3 months. Before anything else.

Set a schedule that allows you to do the drills everyday. Before class/work or after. And stick to it. Don't allow yourself to go home until you do the driol.

Shit does get hard. Allow yourself to fuck up a few times.

Remember Chris's sayings.
All you have to do is all that you can.

...

Build up some credibility by getting to week 2 or 3. Then find some people who are also doing the program. DM them and get a WhatsApp group going with them.


And the only rule you need to follow:
Don't take a break longer than 2 days.


Most people who start the AA program don't finish. So you have to ask yourself. Why will you keep going when everyone else is quitting?

 

[hannangame]

How do I do the online dating part when I get little to no matches. I can’t follow half the program. So I might just do the approaches. Does anyone have any tips?

 

[notAndy]

How do I do the online dating part when I get little to no matches. I can’t follow half the program. So I might just do the approaches. Does anyone have any tips?

Dude, online dating is a tiny part, not "half the program".
Don't let a lack of success online deter you from doing the drills. I'm doing the program without any online dating and still do my drills.
Skip to day 4 and get out there and do the first drill today. No more putting things off (I presume you haven't done anything since your first post).

Good luck, man.

 

[hannangame]

So I've just started doing the program again and am stuck on day 21. I've been repeating the same days 15-20 for a week or 2 inconsistently.

I have a couple of questions and am seeking advice on a few things.
1. Should I try to journal all the previous drills I did here or start from now?
2. How can I grab a random woman's arm without the risk of being charged with assault? And how should I grab it, should I be gentle, or stern?
3. I do these drills in a college town and some girls came up to try to do the same drill on me, it was a good interaction. However eventually people will know for a guy who does these drills, how do I stop and overcome that?

Okay let me give yall a little info about me, I am a virgin but have gotten head a couple of times and cuddled with a few girls in the past year. ZERO experience before last year.
I lie and tell my friends I am not a virgin so they don't judge me. Only my best friends know that I'm a virgin. People probably believe I talk to women, I think. Right now I have this one girl that gives me head 2-3 times a week pretty easily but she isn't sexy, just a little cute. I have no problem asking average girls for their number and even on dates, but I never follow through because I am busy or they aren't hot enough. At this point, I might not be hot enough for hotter women though so maybe asking out mid-girls might be the move. The problem is I always seem to want an innocent girl since I'm fairly innocent too. But they're hard to do things with.

So based on my pictures and questions, what do you guys think I should do?

 

[hannangame]

Howdy, well I skipped day 21, I might do it Thursday night at the bars near where I live. The problem is I have to pay cover, well it is what it is.
No one has been responding to my questions which is sad, but I hope soon some of y'all will realize how special I am, and begin to start talking to me and helping me.

Day 22 went well, it was pretty easy to do, but something I realized is I tend to clasp my hands when talking to a more attractive girl. I also stand too far away sometimes, maybe I should practice going closer. Fuck it ill do that next time. I have an example of how I put my hands sometimes, lmk if it looks weird.

I did extra sets on girls that I thought were too attractive not to use to lower my Approach Anxiety. Some laughed, some were weirded out. I really don't care though, one girl really seemed to give me "fuck me" eyes and It got my ego a little up

I was trying my best to fuck with them. Suspenders are a funny topic so I would ask them why are they laughing in a stern voice sometimes, or be like I really hope my ass doesn't show. Things of that nature. I try to make good eye contact and speak in a masculine voice, in a cool sly kind of way. Don't know how it comes off though.

I don't feel like any of these drills are hard at all. I really don't have trouble approaching women even hot ones. I fail at expressing interest and polarizing the conversation, bc then I can be rejected. So I gotta work up to the harder drills till they start helping me at parties.

The last thing please someone experienced try to answer some of my questions from my last post, I really need the 3rd one discussed.

Btw I also have a personal journal for not aa stuff, like my goals and things of that nature. Should I do it here or keep it to myself?

 

[hannangame]

Day 21: I feel really disappointed in myself, but ill touch on that later. I finally did it, I've been stuck on this day for like 3 weeks, out of anxiety and being high constantly or just going to parties. Doing the drill was really easy, like easy as fuck. I never have a problem going up to a girl and having a non-sexual interaction. Like its not hard at all.
I would go up to them squeeze and either ask them a question or say let me through. Sometimes I would start a conversation.

I did the drill pretty quickly, It was Latin night on a Thursday.

I was sober, I don’t wanna do AA drills drunk or high, bc my main reason for doing AA drills is to not have anxiety while sober.

The drill wasn’t the part I'm disappointed in myself about.
I kinda feel like there's something wrong with me.

After doing the drill or during the drill some girls would start making conversation back or start dancing very close to me.

Let me give an example
2 really cute Hispanic girls, I approached these two girls early in the night, squeezed one of their arms, and asked them how long they had been at the club. They ended up eating skittles from a bucket, and I squeezed the other arm and made a joke about them getting high as fuck. We talked for a little after that. I soon left to do more drills. The bar had an upstairs rooftop section that was more lit, so I got in line to go up to it.
These 2 girls appeared behind after I had already made random friends and cut in line.
I chatted with them again and they offered me a sip of their drink so I sipped a little. After that, I left them once more to cut further in line. I made it to the rooftop way before them. I saw them an hour later with 2 guys dancing, and when they noticed me, shortly after, they left the guys they were with and started talking to me, when the beat dropped I ended the convo by just starting to dance. They both started dancing and one got a little closer and turned her back toward me.
She was not grinding on me but it felt like she wanted me to make the first move. She was shaking her ass in front of me. At this point, I had already completed the drill, and was offered free shots before, and took it.
I probably got 2 free shots and a pen hit, not bad as a guy who wasn’t even asking or trying to get drunk.
Well with these 2 girls I didn’t make a move. I knew I probably could but didn’t.
Some other guys came and start grinding on them. They didn’t pull the girls, kiss them or go back with them, I probably had a better chance than them.
I didn’t make a move but these guys did so they got to grind on them.
I left bc I didn’t wanna sit there and watch these cute girls ground on.
I started dancing with another random group after.
I see these girls later and try to walk past them without talking to them.
And then they tap me on the shoulder, asking me if I'm leaving right now, and I lowkey get scared but didn't show it. I acted like what they said didn’t register and said a straight "no" with little emotion.
I tried to get far away from them.



I saw them last at 2 am at the end of the night, they're talking to another guy but with little interest, they're far apart and don’t seem to be flirting.
I don’t stick around, but I feel like even at this point I could've approached them, and got their number.

I think they might've liked me bc they tried to talk to me 3 times without me engaging first, and maybe cause when I do the drills I'm pretty fucking confident with them because they're not sexual drills. I talk in a calm cool collected way with girls when I'm sober but can never hit on them. When I see interest I get scared and don’t know what to do. I try to act like I don’t care or try act like I'm too cool to show emotion. Maybe I'm scared of being hurt or being rejected if I give emotion.

I have a hard time telling a girl she's cute or something like that.

I have to be 8-10 drinks deep before I hit on a girl, but at that point, I keep drinking till 14-16 and blackout. SO I CAN'T DRINK. If I was offered more drinking (I was only offered 2 free ones) I would've blacked out after doing the drills. I shouldn't have drunk tonight but whatever.

I'm disappointed for 3 reasons,
1. I didn’t make a move
2. I drank and got high.
3. I was a loser tonight who didn't take risks.

 

[Antonio44]

The drill wasn’t the part I'm disappointed in myself about.
I kinda feel like there's something wrong with me.

Bro nothing is wrong with you. You just lack experience and are nervous. This is normal. The women are nervous too - remember this. If they aren't being approached they will worry it's because they aren't attractive enough.


Sounds like these girls 100% liked you. Next time, when a girl is standing close and the two of you are having a conversation, just put your hand around her waist/on her side when talking with her. Do it casually, do not let your hand go too low/near her ass. If they don't like it they will just move your hand away subtley. Sometimes I grab them by the waist as the approach in a club but this is more pressure/strongly direct.

Other things you can try - when dancing near a girl, give her a hi-five and spin her then pull her closer to you. Then as before you can put one hand around her waist.

Don't forget to enjoy it while doing it.

 

[hannangame]

I've been doing day 23 over the span of 3 days bc of time constraints related to Halloween partying. I've just been going in between tasks and doing the drill since it's so easy.

I probably went up to 50 girls and did the drill. I tried to be funny with it, and sometimes I tried to be serious like I deadass believed I needed to go to sesame street. I would tell some girls my friend Elmo was telling me to pull up. And that the cookie monster was waiting on me. They would find out, others would still try and help.

I did more of the drill while 3 drinks deeps at a football stadium and sometimes I went to groups of women like 4 at a time. I still count that as 1. I also went up to groups of milfs.

It's Halloween weekend so I've been less consistent with drills, and partying more.
A girl gave us a ride to a party tonight, my buddy knew her and was vibing with her. I told him to go for her and it was obvious she liked him. He wouldn't make a move though. I teased her here and there and she seemed receptive.
She started to touch my beard and I stopped her, I let her do it for a little. She asked multiple times even when I said no, so I grabbed her arm and put it down while smiling. It wasn't rude, at least in my eyes.

He’s my Best Friend, so I rather not have drama because of this girl, I for sure could have escalated from there. I dont if I would have escalated tho, even if it wasn't my best friend’s good friend that might be interested in each other. I get scared when a girl shows heavy interest and dont know what to do.
I'm really confident talking, but not confident being flirty and sexual with a random girl.

Should I have made a move? Or is it better to respect my friend, that might like her? She also could've been trying to make him jealous. And I would not wanna lose this friend.

The first party was lame, so I and my buddy walked to a different one. In the process of walking to the other party, we saw 5 different ones and walked up to each one we saw. It was fun, everyone somehow accepted us, even kickbacks with 12 people. We finessed drinks from a lot the people.

We finally go to our party, and there were a lot of hot girls, that I didn't talk to.

Why?

Overall it was fun, but I'm literally partying and getting fucked up and not going for women. I feel like I'm better with women stone sober. I feel like restrict myself when drunk so I don't seem sloppy, I don't know tbh.

 

[hannangame]

AA Program:

I did day 24 and day 25 pretty easily. I did the challenge on day 25.

I am beginning to realize the philosophy of the “numbers” game. Some girls like me approaching and seem really happy, some seem freaked out or scared.
Some seem uninterested, and some seem like they want me to stay and talk to them for longer.

I'm getting better at approaching women from far away. I start with a wave and a smile and go right up to them. The wave helps with them being shocked, giving them a little time to think.

I even tried yelling YOO really loud to get a girl's attention with headphones in. I also approached a girl talking on the phone, and when she told me she was on the phone I ignored her and kept doing the drill, and got a surprisingly positive response.

I went up to girls with guys with them, the guys would usually answer the question on day 25 and say nothing on day 24, but I would keep asking the girl until she gave a response, it usually matched the guy's response, so I didn't count those.

I approached a very hot girl, and she gave me my most positive response, she was laughing and stayed talking to me, I told her I had to run and hoped that she has a nice day.

I'm kinda afraid of doing the hard stuff later on: it's been really easy so far

Dating:

I asked a girl out for food in person, and then my first message to her was canceling and rescheduling for another time because I was gonna be out, she didn't respond to me rescheduling. Sad, she seemed interested in person.

I asked a girl out to work out, and then she canceled a couple of hours before, kinda bummed me out. I said okay and that's that.

There is one girl who really likes me who I could hang out with, but I don't wanna rely on her, become complacent and needy, and then lose her too.

I asked a Muslim hijabi on a date and got a soft rejection, she might not like me or she won't go on dates, IDK.

Question: when asking a girl out, should I say wanna go on a lunch date with me, or wanna go get lunch with me. As in should I use the word date.

Tinder:

No success, but I haven't changed my pictures from the post I wrote before. I gotta see what I can fix. I also don't pay for anything. If yall can, comment on yall feel about my simple bio: Pakistani Cowboy

 

[hannangame]

AA program:

I just did day 26, this one was by far the hardest so far. I felt so weird asking girls "who's your daddy" and could tell they found it weird too.
I got soo many negative reactions today, I felt ugly and had to take a break.
But these rejections are similar to hitting on girls. So there's value in doing them.
Numbers game.
This drill is probably harder than getting a number tbh.
The fact I have to say "daddy" is so funny yet creepy.
But I have to so I did it.
I probably did 20-30 girls and got 10 actual responses to the question.
For some women, I repeated myself 5 times.

I'm doing this on my college campus. Do y'all feel like it's too risky to do on my campus? I'm afraid of being "that guy." My campus does have 60,000+ students, so at least 30,000+ girls. I might do 2000-3000 girls max in the AA program, which would mean 1/10 girls would know me as "that guy."

Girls:

Finally had sex and came, last time I got soft, because I was trying to fuck a virgin.
Her getting hurt made me soft.
I wrote a post about this

 

[hannangame]

AA program:
I completed day 27. It took me two tries.
The first day turned out to be very bad. I felt very insecure after receiving bad reactions. It made me feel ugly as fuck and like a creep. I stopped and didn't finish. Girls would move away and get scared, and when I started flexing they would just leave. I'm not too muscular but I do got muscles, though my loose shirts were hiding them.

The second day was way, way better. I had a fire outfit on and was feeling myself. I also started tapping girls with the back of my hand when they went past me, instead of my fingers. Using just my fingers seemed creepy and unnatural.

I also realized that there is a difference between scaring a girl and creeping her out. A girl can be scared and still show interest. I scared a girl and after the drill, I told her “Its a beautiful day out today, and I hope you have a nice day” she told me I made her day, even though she was frightened when I went up to her.

That was really eye-opening.
A lot of girls who were scared still seemed interested in the conversation, one even apologized. The key was to not care that they seemed frightened. Like me not making a face or seeming insecure. Doing the approach after surprising them in a calm cool and collected way eased the tension of the surprise most of the time.

Mental health:
I feel so fucking ugly sometimes, I might make a post here about rating my face or ask someone in the dm here to rate me. I might also make a post on r/truerateme. Idk, I’ve just been feeling bad.

I’ve seen so many girls with guys, and it makes me feel bad every time.
I just gotta work harder. I’m a sophomore at Uni, and I'm thinking about joining a frat next year or trying to become a club promoter. Just to have events to invite girls out to. Anyone got tips on how I can get started promoting clubs?

Girls:
Right now i really only have the confidence to ask out girls that seem pretty interested in me, and usually, I only start convos with mid girls, I do think I can do better though, some surprisingly cute girls have shown interest in me, but I was a virgin at the time and scared, next time I will escalate and go on a date.

I went on a date with a mid Hispanic girl, that I was about to cancel. I asked her out 3 times in person, and then never followed through with it, I would always cancel. But this time I was too late and didn't want her to hate me. She's not ugly, but she's not a baddie, id give her a 6 rating. She's probably also a virgin, I have little experience so I like innocent girls for now.
The date went well, there was good physical contact that was natural.
I didn't kiss or fuck her, but I think I could in 1-2 more dates.

I'm also off tinder until I get better photos, I was getting no matches, and have no pics with women.

 

[hannangame]

AA program day 28:
It took me a while to do this one because of exams and other responsibilities, I did this drill about 4 different times. The first 3 times I didn't have enough time to do it but today I did them all.

I would reset it each time, so I spoke to 30ish girls for this drill.

I did the challenge 5 times in total. Only one girl was weirded out; others stayed talking to me or told me they had a boyfriend.
If they told me they had a boyfriend, I would ask, them if they would fuck their boyfriend if they wore nerd glasses.

Girls:
I went on a date with another mid-girl, she was down for a second date, but I ended up hanging out with the girl I fuck often instead.
After meeting her the same day, I asked a fine girl out over Imessage and got no response. Sad.
I have to ask out more girls on coffee dates.

Class:
I'm slacking really hard in class and I need tips.
I just feel like it's pointless, a lot of my classes are just busywork to pad up the curriculum. It blows.

Mental health:
I fucked up badly.
I haven't done any drugs or jerked off since the start of November. But this weekend I fucked up. I've been high all day Saturday till Monday and skipped class Monday.
No gym, No studying, just drugs, masturbation, and overeating bc of the munchies.
I feel guilty and bad.
It sapped my motivation and made me skip the gym. I also slacked in my classes, doing jujitsu, and doing the AA program.

I jerked off so fucking much. Probably to hide against the thoughts I get when I'm high.
I realize that I don't have a purpose, I have no way to make money, and my parents are getting older and older, while I'm wasting time.
I cannot be watching shows with girls, just to fuck them. That's a waste of time and fun.
My dates have to be more fun.

But there are only 2 things I can do, give up and feel bad.
Or pick myself back up and continue the struggle of life.

 

[hannangame]

Okay howdy guys.

I took a break after day 30ish.

I started back up recently without the logging because I had stopped and didn’t really want to log on here. I logged some days on my iPad Pro with handwriting, but it’s not text so I didn’t post it here.

Day 46 was not too hard, I did the day 2 days ago.

I also did the last part of day 46 again, 10 times, while high.

Usually I can’t talk to girls while I’m high, but I was smooth as fuck, like I’ve never had better convos. No one knew I was high bc I had eye drops. But I am surprised, bc I usually am not social when high.

So I did day 46 sober and then the last part of it again high the next day.

But now do I start approaching girls or should I do week 7 and 8. No one on here seems to have done it. And I wonder why?

Why haven’t you guys done 7 and 8.
Is it not helpful to do so?

Btw the reason I stopped was bc I had a girlfriend, my first sexual relationship. But I'm interning for 6 months and won’t see her, so I kinda broke up with her. Currently I don’t have a woman so i started it back up, had to repeat some days that I did, but after a week I was where I left off on AA. And now I finished week 6.

Btw I only did half the club/night driils bc I am 20 and don’t wanna pay cover.

 

[hannangame]

I’ll give you the tldr first

-Got very drunk at a Intern party
-I was closed off because I felt embarrassed and hurt when people made jokes about a story I
had told them.
-Then I got high
-Saw the girl intern I liked flirt with someone else
-This made me angry
-Went to sleep at the hosts house
-Couldn’t sleep cause I was thinking about the girl
-Woke up, everyone was leaving
-I was still pissed so I tried to drunk drive
-Others interns restrained me and stopped me,
-Everyone is mad at me and I need help


Yesterday at a game night with all the interns I got very drunk and made a fool of myself.
I am afraid that my reputation, my relationships, and my full time opportunity to work at the company where I was interning, have all went to shit.

I was overly eager for alcohol and people made fun of me for that, and it made me feel bad and I drank more.

My ego gets hurt when people make fun of me and I generally don’t take them well. Like other people get made fun of too, I just don’t know how to joke back when they do. I can either be aggressive or silent.

I might just have to practice.


At a certain point the girl I liked and whom I was closest to seemed to like the host.

It was their first time hanging out and she seemed to talk to him more than me, this made me jealous and in a bad mood.

I’ve been rock climbing with her and got a membership a while back with her. But I guess she sees me as a friend.

Then my edible hit while I was very drunk.

Seeing her so close with another guy pissed me off and at this point I was so fucked up that I couldn’t really speak coherently, I was also so emotional so I stayed silent for a while.

I told the host that I needed to sleep so he took me to a room and I went to bed, i kept thinking about the girl and went back to check in on everything.

At this point everyone one but me and host were leaving the house to go back home.

I tried to drunk drive home because I didn’t want to stay at the house anymore.

People had to physically restrain me and take my keys away.

I made one of the others girl cry cause for some reason she talked about astrology and I was like astrology is bullshit. (She is very upset with me now and I feel like she might report me to HR)

They asked me why I wanted to go home and I was like I just want to.

I didn’t verbally say what was bothering me, the people thought it was a discussion about religion we had earlier.

I was upset at someone saying haram, haram, over and over again since I was Muslim.
He was saying that as a joke but I didn’t like it.
I told him I didn’t like it and he stopped but I let it go on for too long, cause I don’t know how to respond to jokes. This wasn’t the thing bothering me.

In my head I was pissed about the girl liking the other guy and not liking me.

They eventually as a group had to drive me home because I would not stop resisting until I had my way.

Someone drove my car, and someone took another car and dropped off the person who drove my car home.

Now I feel like all the interns hate me, I fell like they will spread shit about me, I feel like I might get fired.

What the fuck do I do?

I feel like a complete fucking loser ruining so many things in one day.

The reason I’m posting this on here is because it was related to my mindset with this one girl.

 

[Tragedy]

For sure you need to take full responsibility for what happened and how you behaved.

So:
1) Try to heal the social situation in the most humble way and without finding excuses for your behavior, and you better mean it. Even if it was due to alcohol it's still your fault for having drunk that amount of alcohol. Full responsibility. You might also find some nice gesture appropriate to the situation and the person (offering lunch, helping on something...)

2) Identify the issues that brought you to this bad result (alcohol, drugs, ego, whatever..) and come up with a plan on how to solve those issues for them to stop happening again. For this you might require someone's help.

 

[Zug]

You're young and stupid still, and made young and stupid mistakes. This is the process of growing up. This is what its supposed to look like, big failures and big lessons leading to big changes. Identify all the mistakes you made and why, write them down, make a list. This is one time where dwelling on failure is useful. Understand this is what it feels like when you act like this. Then remember that the next time you're in a similar situation.

You telling a girl Astrology is bullshit, then chewing a guy out for saying Haram multiple times is a very clear cut example of both cognitive dissonance and lack of social skills. I'm not insulting Islam, but I'm sure you realize many people in the West view Islam like you view Astrology. How can you demand respect for your beliefs while insulting others? It doesn't work that way. If you take your faith seriously, then understand you are a representative of your religion. You actively represented your beliefs in the worst light possible. If you want people to respect your beliefs, then they need to see you being smart, disciplined, happy, productive, and socially integrated. They need to look up to you, not be embarrassed.

Stop inviting girls you have a sexual or romantic interest in on platonic activities under false pretenses. This is lying, both in word and action. Have some courage and make your intent known in the future. This is what leads to the bullshit you went through and being placed in the friend zone. You need to risk rejection for the possibility of success.

Stop letting your emotions control you. You felt stupid and embarrassed at the house, that's why you wanted to go home. You were willing to risk your life and other lives solely to partially assuage your feeling of embarrassment. Get your emotions under control. Stop being controlled only doing what you feel, start doing what you THINK is correct.

Your ego is hurt when people make fun of you because YOU realize you are not living up to who you could be. When they ridicule you, it RESONATES with you because it is TRUE. There are two elements to dealing with this. The far more important one is to stop acting in ways that make you look bad in your own eyes. Start living up to your ideals and when people make fun of you it slides off because its so obviously meaningless.

There is a social skill element to dealing with jokes at your expense, or the Haram statements, etc. Calling people out into a hard confrontation is a last resort. Clever use of light humor, wit, and clever reversals is far far more effective and socially calibrated. When you social roadblocks with strangers and mild acquaintances, calling out bad behavior is not a useful tool. That requires a pre-existing relationship and informal social contract to ever be effective, and even then light humor is far more effective. Calling people out is a last resort. If you're too much of a pussy or unskilled to be able to do subtle call outs with humor and wit, and instead sit there in silence just stewing, then you've abdicated the right for formal callouts imo.

 

[hannangame]

I’m also worried since this was a work environment, do you think I’ll get fired?

It’s my first ever internship in my field, I’m also someone who isn’t old enough to drink legally.

I’m the president of the intern organization, I think the girl who I told astrology was bullshit (not the girl I liked) might make me step down or something privately.

But she was also the girl who supplied the alc and weed to me, so she might not.

We planned to meet in 2 days to talk it out, but she also said she wanted someone else there to be with her, when she talks to me. Idk what she intends.

 

[Squilliam]

I’m also worried since this was a work environment, do you think I’ll get fired?

It’s my first ever internship in my field, I’m also someone who isn’t old enough to drink legally.

I’m the president of the intern organization, I think the girl who I told astrology was bullshit (not the girl I liked) might make me step down or something privately.

But she was also the girl who supplied the alc and weed to me, so she might not.

We planned to meet in 2 days to talk it out, but she also said she wanted someone else there to be with her, when she talks to me. Idk what she intends.

Nobody can tell you if you're going to be fired. I would say it's not likely, especially if the girl supplied drugs. That rules out any possibility of her going to HR or something like that. And in general, companies don't really want to fire people. It puts them at risk for lawsuits and in general is just a huge hassle. Firing is a last resort.

The girl probably wants someone else there just as a witness in case there are any false claims made about what happened in the meeting. Or maybe she is shaken up by your behavior and feels slightly unsafe around you. I wouldn't fixate on the reason, it's not important.

You're young. Mistakes happen. Let this be a valuable lesson. Before I quit drinking I had numerous instances when I was around your age where I behaved recklessly and in some cases I had to actually make phone calls apologizing to people the next day. It's embarrassing and sucks, but eventually it'll be in the past.

I've heard about this kind of stuff at my employer. I worked an internship at the same company last summer, there were some parties/drinking events. But those were hosted by the company, not by interns. It sounds like this was hosted at an intern's house or something?

In general you shouldn't be getting recklessly wasted at this kind of event. It's an intern event of professionals, not a frat party. Granted, this does sound more casual than my case because it sounds like a house party as opposed to a company organized event. But regardless, I think a lot of this behavior wouldn't be acceptable at a normal party either. Really getting so wasted that you do shit you regret is not good in any context.

It being work related just adds insult to injury. I personally live by the idea that you shouldn't intermingle your professional and personal lives. Some may disagree but I personally live by this.