sundleboro
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- Joined
- Feb 9, 2021
I'm a pretty "neurotic" guy, like a lot of us here probably. I've been doing the AA program. To get through it, you have to be willing to consistently face adversity (real or imagined) every day. That's the whole point. I've taken this approach to other things in my life too in the last year, where I try to do things that I avoid. I've only recently gotten serious about it, committing to the AA program for sure. To be honest, I'm mainly doing the AA program to face up to myself and this urge to avoid things (besides wanting more social freedom). For an extreme example, I was in a really bad place once where I wouldn't leave my college dorm room during the day just to avoid my suite mates seeing me because I hadn't talked to them in like weeks despite rarely leaving my room.
I've come a very long way since then. I have a great job, great salary, great car, but I still feel that avoidance urge.
Recently, I've taken it up a notch. Doing the AA program, doing chores I need to do, taking steps towards my career goals... It feels like I'm constantly in a state of discomfort. I've heard and read many times, here and in other places, that a life where you do things you want to do unfettered by neurosis/anxiety/etc. is one where you become comfortable with this discomfort.
So for those of you who have consistently done what's uncomfortable, done what's hard... How does it feel? Do you still feel that unsettling feeling in your chest/wherever when you do "uncomfortable" things? Or does the idea of doing uncomfortable things truly get comfortable after doing it a lot?
I've come a very long way since then. I have a great job, great salary, great car, but I still feel that avoidance urge.
Recently, I've taken it up a notch. Doing the AA program, doing chores I need to do, taking steps towards my career goals... It feels like I'm constantly in a state of discomfort. I've heard and read many times, here and in other places, that a life where you do things you want to do unfettered by neurosis/anxiety/etc. is one where you become comfortable with this discomfort.
So for those of you who have consistently done what's uncomfortable, done what's hard... How does it feel? Do you still feel that unsettling feeling in your chest/wherever when you do "uncomfortable" things? Or does the idea of doing uncomfortable things truly get comfortable after doing it a lot?