Striker
Member
- Joined
- Jul 27, 2021
- Goal
- Lose Weight
- Age
- 26
I could not think of a way to title this post better so apologies if it's misleading. Obviously you want to take yourself and your self-improvement serious but I'm talking about more in a social interaction sense.
I really want to improve my social skills as right now while I'm passable in this regard I don't think I'm ever viewed as the most interesting or entertaining guy to hang around with. I'm just kind of there.
And I think I figured out a huge reason is because I'm always so serious and uncomfortable being the butt of a joke. I don't really know why but I'm just super uncomfortable when people are taking the piss out of me even though it's normal and I do it to other people. For example if someone brings up girls and we're joking about the girl a friend pulled I might join in but then if someone did the same to me I'd get self-conscious and want to change the subject. Or when someone brings up something embarrassing I did a few years ago, people find it funny yet I struggle to joke around it and want to change the subject because I take myself too seriously and I don't really know how to go from feeling embarrassed to not being phased and enjoying the spotlight.
I met a guy this weekend and he was so comfortable saying and doing stuff that opened him up to ridicule and he just came across as a really fun guy to be around because he didn't take himself too serious. I read somewhere on here before about speaking with no filter and this guy defo had that as well as just being able to make people laugh by doing stuff I'd avoid because I'm uncomfortable being made fun of. And I went away from that night thinking he was fun to be around and my general opinion of him was very positive, the exact kind of impression I want to leave.
I think I need to try and speak with no filter more as well as become comfortable being in the spotlight of people joking about me to level up my social skills but it doesn't come natural to me at all.
Just curious if anyone has any thoughts on this or any advice in general about how to be more interesting/entertaining socially.
I really want to improve my social skills as right now while I'm passable in this regard I don't think I'm ever viewed as the most interesting or entertaining guy to hang around with. I'm just kind of there.
And I think I figured out a huge reason is because I'm always so serious and uncomfortable being the butt of a joke. I don't really know why but I'm just super uncomfortable when people are taking the piss out of me even though it's normal and I do it to other people. For example if someone brings up girls and we're joking about the girl a friend pulled I might join in but then if someone did the same to me I'd get self-conscious and want to change the subject. Or when someone brings up something embarrassing I did a few years ago, people find it funny yet I struggle to joke around it and want to change the subject because I take myself too seriously and I don't really know how to go from feeling embarrassed to not being phased and enjoying the spotlight.
I met a guy this weekend and he was so comfortable saying and doing stuff that opened him up to ridicule and he just came across as a really fun guy to be around because he didn't take himself too serious. I read somewhere on here before about speaking with no filter and this guy defo had that as well as just being able to make people laugh by doing stuff I'd avoid because I'm uncomfortable being made fun of. And I went away from that night thinking he was fun to be around and my general opinion of him was very positive, the exact kind of impression I want to leave.
I think I need to try and speak with no filter more as well as become comfortable being in the spotlight of people joking about me to level up my social skills but it doesn't come natural to me at all.
Just curious if anyone has any thoughts on this or any advice in general about how to be more interesting/entertaining socially.