I set a primary goal for 2022 to earn €6k per month, but three days into the year, I've realized how little I care about it. It's not motivating me to seize the day, get out of bed, and get to work. I'm not sure if this is some pandemic-induced apathy or a wider issue with setting bad goals. I guess I'm looking for advice on this.
For further context, I am self-employed and I work remotely. In 2021, my primary goal was to earn €3500 per month after years of paltry earnings and barely surviving. I achieved that goal, which was nice, but it didn't exactly make me happy or turn my life around. The rewards from my work are pretty much entirely monetary. I don't feel any great passion for it, but I don't feel a passion for any kind of work really.
I set other smaller goals for 2022, such as reaching 10% body fat and increasing my lay count by 2, but I am struggling to feel motivated to achieve these either. If I was to really admit to myself what the biggest issue I face in my life is, it's isolation, not low income or a slightly pudgy abdomen. I'm just an incredibly isolated person in work, in my hobbies, and in my woman life. I complain about isolation, yet I only ever feel any desire to interact with people after I drink a few beers, so that's why I didn't set any goals to specifically address isolation.
In summary, I don't really know what the fuck I want. It's like I'm setting goals that merely just mimic what I see on corners of the Internet like this. In the same way the average person might chase goals that society at large convinces them they want, such as a certain career, I chose goals that aren't authentic to me; they are authentic to people that own or frequent forums like this or Good Looking Loser. I see guys slaying it with women and think, I should try to increase my lay count because that'll make me happy. I see pictures of six-pack abs and think, I should want this. I read about location independent income and think, that needs to be me.
I'm 31 years old and completely lost. Nothing feels authentic to me. No goal feels really worthy of jolting me out of bed to get to work with any sort of zest. I lack the elusive life mission that drives so many successful men. My current self-employed work is not my life mission, but I don't know what is despite years of analyzing and trying to figure this shit out. The older I get the less clear I become.
I'm going through the motions every day feeling lethargic and thinking it's all a fucking pointless waste of energy. I don't give a fuck about the clients I work for or the work I do for them, all I want is to finish the project and get their money. I'm lost guys, and I need direction.
For further context, I am self-employed and I work remotely. In 2021, my primary goal was to earn €3500 per month after years of paltry earnings and barely surviving. I achieved that goal, which was nice, but it didn't exactly make me happy or turn my life around. The rewards from my work are pretty much entirely monetary. I don't feel any great passion for it, but I don't feel a passion for any kind of work really.
I set other smaller goals for 2022, such as reaching 10% body fat and increasing my lay count by 2, but I am struggling to feel motivated to achieve these either. If I was to really admit to myself what the biggest issue I face in my life is, it's isolation, not low income or a slightly pudgy abdomen. I'm just an incredibly isolated person in work, in my hobbies, and in my woman life. I complain about isolation, yet I only ever feel any desire to interact with people after I drink a few beers, so that's why I didn't set any goals to specifically address isolation.
In summary, I don't really know what the fuck I want. It's like I'm setting goals that merely just mimic what I see on corners of the Internet like this. In the same way the average person might chase goals that society at large convinces them they want, such as a certain career, I chose goals that aren't authentic to me; they are authentic to people that own or frequent forums like this or Good Looking Loser. I see guys slaying it with women and think, I should try to increase my lay count because that'll make me happy. I see pictures of six-pack abs and think, I should want this. I read about location independent income and think, that needs to be me.
I'm 31 years old and completely lost. Nothing feels authentic to me. No goal feels really worthy of jolting me out of bed to get to work with any sort of zest. I lack the elusive life mission that drives so many successful men. My current self-employed work is not my life mission, but I don't know what is despite years of analyzing and trying to figure this shit out. The older I get the less clear I become.
I'm going through the motions every day feeling lethargic and thinking it's all a fucking pointless waste of energy. I don't give a fuck about the clients I work for or the work I do for them, all I want is to finish the project and get their money. I'm lost guys, and I need direction.