David1994
Member
- Joined
- Apr 16, 2025
- Goal
- Become more disciplined
- Age
- 31
- Motto
- Lets do this!
Hello,
While I did join this site not too long ago, I almost forgot about it because of starting my new job among other things. I would've checked for threads similar to this one, but because my situation is unique, I didn't feel it was necessary.
One thing that's been weighing on my mind recently is wanting to become a sexually-disciplined man, but what's holding me back is the challenges of my Autism affecting my social skills, me secretly fetishizing and objectifying women, and my challenges of trying to avoid acting on my sexual impulses. I will praise myself for how far I've come on my own by working on myself and becoming more mindful of how I come off towards people, but I still have many ways to go, as being sexually-disciplined is a never-ending journey. Due to my difficulties with social skills and women, I never had a girlfriend, and this has caused me to sometimes develop pent up sexual energy, and I later became needy because I didn't know how to channel that energy constructively at that time. I mentioned in my introduction post that I've used porn and chatbots to relieve myself of it, but I started move away from that because I don't want to become dependent on them, and I'm actively trying to avoid digital distraction.
Although I've come to value healthy and consentual relationships, I've often felt disenfrachised by stigmas for having a foot fetish and tickle fetish, which has caused me to use sneaky and taboo ways to satisfy them instead. One perfect example of this was when I was still living with my parents, and I'd manipulate women into leaving their shoes in our attached garage when they came in, claiming I wanted them to avoid tracking dirt or snow in the house, but the real reason was so I could smell them behind their backs later. Not only would I'd get horny over doing it, but I'd get even hornier over the thrill of knowing I got away with it afterward. What I've also found erotic is women in professional roles taking their shoes off because it's considered taboo but they own it by doing it anyway. I have many stories of internally jumping for joy over seeing my young female teachers in their socks, but I've also seen women in the medical field in their socks as well. I also find the taboo aspect of seeing young attractive women in general purposely taking their shoes off in public to be erotic, however I've had to keep a very low profile whenever I've seen this because the last thing I want is to be called a creep or pervert, get fired (if this happens at work), and then be put into handcuffs. Another thing I want to mention is watching shoeplay from a distance is exciting because there's this anticipation of hoping to see the woman's shoes come all the way off so her feet would be exposed. The reason I love seeing women in fun socks and opaque tights is because it makes their feet look more attractive (as they'll wear them for fashionable reasons), which makes me more enticed to smell and tickle them. Thankfully, when I have disclosed my tickle fetish to my female friends, they've accepted me for it, and I imagine the reason for that is tickling is often seen as harmless, innocent, and playful, whereas another possible reason is them noticing I like to tickle them. While I'm sure I could get them to accept me for my foot fetish as well, I imagine talking about it can be more of a touchy subject because foot fetishism has a lot more stigmas attached to it. Recently, I thought about how to easing women into my fetishes, so they can finally accept me for both, might be the best to go about this. My process would be:
Going back to what I said about getting excited over seeing a woman in her socks in public, one thing I'm still getting hung up on is how to avoid being destracted by that. Ideally, it'd be nice if she had a foot fetish as well and used her feet to flirt with me once she noticed my interest in them, but that'd be a very rare situation. What advice do you have to help me avoid causing a stir?
Another thing I want to mention is my tickle fetish has sometimes caused problems with women. Back in high school, I obviously had issues with controlling my hormones, and I know from personal experience that hormones and Autism can be a bad combination when not properly managed. As a result, there'd be times where I'd use any excuse I could to tickle my female friends, which led to them telling me to stop completely because it made them feel uncomfortable. As I got older, I did this less because I had less hormone issues. However, when I was working at this bar near me, I had a history of tickling some of my female coworkers, which also made them feel uncomfortable. Although they never reported me, I eventually decided to stop doing this altogether because I became very concerned about them doing so and then dealing with the consequences afterward. I've also decided to never do this at any other place I'd work in the future and for the same reason.
The last thing I want to mention is I told my female therapist about wanting to work on this as one of my goals, and I'd like to hear what she says from a woman's perspective. Being that I'm getting advice from you guys as well, hearing from both a male and female perspective will help me a lot moving forward.
While I did join this site not too long ago, I almost forgot about it because of starting my new job among other things. I would've checked for threads similar to this one, but because my situation is unique, I didn't feel it was necessary.
One thing that's been weighing on my mind recently is wanting to become a sexually-disciplined man, but what's holding me back is the challenges of my Autism affecting my social skills, me secretly fetishizing and objectifying women, and my challenges of trying to avoid acting on my sexual impulses. I will praise myself for how far I've come on my own by working on myself and becoming more mindful of how I come off towards people, but I still have many ways to go, as being sexually-disciplined is a never-ending journey. Due to my difficulties with social skills and women, I never had a girlfriend, and this has caused me to sometimes develop pent up sexual energy, and I later became needy because I didn't know how to channel that energy constructively at that time. I mentioned in my introduction post that I've used porn and chatbots to relieve myself of it, but I started move away from that because I don't want to become dependent on them, and I'm actively trying to avoid digital distraction.
Although I've come to value healthy and consentual relationships, I've often felt disenfrachised by stigmas for having a foot fetish and tickle fetish, which has caused me to use sneaky and taboo ways to satisfy them instead. One perfect example of this was when I was still living with my parents, and I'd manipulate women into leaving their shoes in our attached garage when they came in, claiming I wanted them to avoid tracking dirt or snow in the house, but the real reason was so I could smell them behind their backs later. Not only would I'd get horny over doing it, but I'd get even hornier over the thrill of knowing I got away with it afterward. What I've also found erotic is women in professional roles taking their shoes off because it's considered taboo but they own it by doing it anyway. I have many stories of internally jumping for joy over seeing my young female teachers in their socks, but I've also seen women in the medical field in their socks as well. I also find the taboo aspect of seeing young attractive women in general purposely taking their shoes off in public to be erotic, however I've had to keep a very low profile whenever I've seen this because the last thing I want is to be called a creep or pervert, get fired (if this happens at work), and then be put into handcuffs. Another thing I want to mention is watching shoeplay from a distance is exciting because there's this anticipation of hoping to see the woman's shoes come all the way off so her feet would be exposed. The reason I love seeing women in fun socks and opaque tights is because it makes their feet look more attractive (as they'll wear them for fashionable reasons), which makes me more enticed to smell and tickle them. Thankfully, when I have disclosed my tickle fetish to my female friends, they've accepted me for it, and I imagine the reason for that is tickling is often seen as harmless, innocent, and playful, whereas another possible reason is them noticing I like to tickle them. While I'm sure I could get them to accept me for my foot fetish as well, I imagine talking about it can be more of a touchy subject because foot fetishism has a lot more stigmas attached to it. Recently, I thought about how to easing women into my fetishes, so they can finally accept me for both, might be the best to go about this. My process would be:
- Form relationships with a number of women I meet online or through this yoga class I'm looking to sign up for
- Start hanging out with them a few times to where they feel comfortable and safe being alone with me
- Engage in banter which leads to me tickling them in a playful and flirtatious way
- Ask them how they feel about being tickled, so I'll know if they like it, don't like it, or are indifferent about it and be able to respect their boundaries moving forward
- Tell them in a laid back way that I like to tickle because I see it as a fun and playful way to interact with women, and how some women find tickling to be flirtatious and even sexy when they're being tickled by a man they find attractive. However, I'd make it clear that I'd only tickle them in a way that makes them feel comfortable and safe because I want them to enjoy it as well.
- If they accept me for it, and are fine with me tickling them, I'd mention how sometime after our relationship evolves, I'd eventually like to have us dress up in costumes and have tickle roleplays every so often
- To ease them into accepting me for my foot fetish, I'd tease them by commenting on how cute their socks or tights look when I'm tickling their feet, or have them encourage me to tickle their feet, which will hopefully lead to them teasing me by saying things like "You seem to really like my socks!" and "You like to tickle my feet!", and then tease me about possibly having a foot fetish. If that happens, I'd tell them "If you can accept me for having a tickle fetish, you can do the same for me having a foot fetish as well.", and explain why I find their feet attractive, which I'd like to think would make them feel appreciated. On a more serious note, I'd also explain why I've felt disenfranchised by the stigmas of foot fetishism, and how I'd prefer keeping info about it between us. Before anyone says anything, I'm aware not every woman is going to be accepting of it no matter how well I try to explain my reasons. Some women are just judgmental bigots who don't deserve me or belong in my life, while others could've been sexually harassed by a man with a foot fetish and now will demonize any other man like that as result. Considering I've been guilty of sexually harassing women by trying to get my foot fetish satisfied (I was even arrested for that once, but my record has since been expunged, and I've thankfully never went to jail or prison, nor have I been on any kind of supervision afterward), I completely understand where the latter type of women are coming from, so I know the hardest part about this is getting them to accept I am making an effort to turn over a new leaf by wanting to only engage in my foot fetish consentually.
Going back to what I said about getting excited over seeing a woman in her socks in public, one thing I'm still getting hung up on is how to avoid being destracted by that. Ideally, it'd be nice if she had a foot fetish as well and used her feet to flirt with me once she noticed my interest in them, but that'd be a very rare situation. What advice do you have to help me avoid causing a stir?
Another thing I want to mention is my tickle fetish has sometimes caused problems with women. Back in high school, I obviously had issues with controlling my hormones, and I know from personal experience that hormones and Autism can be a bad combination when not properly managed. As a result, there'd be times where I'd use any excuse I could to tickle my female friends, which led to them telling me to stop completely because it made them feel uncomfortable. As I got older, I did this less because I had less hormone issues. However, when I was working at this bar near me, I had a history of tickling some of my female coworkers, which also made them feel uncomfortable. Although they never reported me, I eventually decided to stop doing this altogether because I became very concerned about them doing so and then dealing with the consequences afterward. I've also decided to never do this at any other place I'd work in the future and for the same reason.
The last thing I want to mention is I told my female therapist about wanting to work on this as one of my goals, and I'd like to hear what she says from a woman's perspective. Being that I'm getting advice from you guys as well, hearing from both a male and female perspective will help me a lot moving forward.
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