RussianSlimGuy
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- Feb 5, 2022
Hey everyone here.
I'm back in big city among a lot of girls and time for excuses is over.
I was choosing between doing AA program or just hitting on girls. Latter gives me more motivation and energy, but for a couple of days I was just trying and wasn't able to actually do it. And even if I was, it wouldn't have been consistently.
It will be better to just do at least something (asking for time) and move from there.
I started straight from Day 4, as I tried to attempt approaches (asking time) before and failed. I needed to start this now from serious action and not promises.
So, Day 04 - Complete
I asked girls for the time 8 times, it took me 3 hours and 11km of walk.
Before I did my first one and was psyching myself for it, two actions were still in my head - just ask for time and leave. Or force myself to say 'You're cute'. Somehow former felt like a waste of time. But I broke a deal with myself - I will do first approach with the time and then can do whatever I want. It was a right call - I don't think I would've overcome the bigger fear of the latter. I need to take it one step at the time.
1. Walked for an hour. Saw girl moving alone towards me, approached. She was distracted in phone, had trouble understanding me. But she was nice and tried to be helpful and told me the time after my 3rd ask.
After I did first there was this very cute girl passing. After a minute I convinced myself to run after her and say hello, I catched up with her in about 2 minutes. When I was right near her I noticed her airpods and that she was chewing gum - it intimidated me so much that I passed her without contacting. That was such a dumb excuse. After I felt creepy to attempt again and so let her go.
But I haven't went after some girl like that before, so it's kinda progress.
Then back to AA program.
2. Two girls, neutral. Asked for time, one of them gave it to me.
3. Cute girl, had big headphones. She was really really nice - even before I asked her for time she was smiling and responsive. It was such a great interaction. I really wish I could have said to her that she is so cute and try to talk with her.
4. Funny. Two girls with bags. One of them took phone from the bag of other and shown it to me. Theme was very strange and I didn't see the numbers. I was hit with anxiety and tried to laugh, thank and leave but she saw my confusion and read it aloud to me . We laughed and I left. Great interaction, but I tried to end it quickly as I "don't want to waste their time".
5. Cute girl with glasses. Nice, friendly and smiling. Should have said to her that she's cute afterwards.
Day done, but it didn't feel very hard to continue so I tried to do a couple more
6. Two girls, neutral and kinda wary. Got time and left.
7. Friendly girl, said the time and smiled.
8. Two girls, couldn't answer but shown me time. Thanked and left.
Learned:
- It really gets easier after some initial interactions.
- With these "normal" questions it's easy to approach two girls even among other people. Single girls were manageable when isolated, still have a huge anxiety when people were around.
- Some girls are really nice and happy to answer you. That is what I need to see more.
Still really want to say some compliments or have a talk with some girl. I'll try to do it when they will be very receptive after my initial question.
Vlog for Day 4:
https://youtu.be/9waONZ3-ppc
I'm back in big city among a lot of girls and time for excuses is over.
I was choosing between doing AA program or just hitting on girls. Latter gives me more motivation and energy, but for a couple of days I was just trying and wasn't able to actually do it. And even if I was, it wouldn't have been consistently.
It will be better to just do at least something (asking for time) and move from there.
I started straight from Day 4, as I tried to attempt approaches (asking time) before and failed. I needed to start this now from serious action and not promises.
So, Day 04 - Complete
I asked girls for the time 8 times, it took me 3 hours and 11km of walk.
Before I did my first one and was psyching myself for it, two actions were still in my head - just ask for time and leave. Or force myself to say 'You're cute'. Somehow former felt like a waste of time. But I broke a deal with myself - I will do first approach with the time and then can do whatever I want. It was a right call - I don't think I would've overcome the bigger fear of the latter. I need to take it one step at the time.
1. Walked for an hour. Saw girl moving alone towards me, approached. She was distracted in phone, had trouble understanding me. But she was nice and tried to be helpful and told me the time after my 3rd ask.
After I did first there was this very cute girl passing. After a minute I convinced myself to run after her and say hello, I catched up with her in about 2 minutes. When I was right near her I noticed her airpods and that she was chewing gum - it intimidated me so much that I passed her without contacting. That was such a dumb excuse. After I felt creepy to attempt again and so let her go.
But I haven't went after some girl like that before, so it's kinda progress.
Then back to AA program.
2. Two girls, neutral. Asked for time, one of them gave it to me.
3. Cute girl, had big headphones. She was really really nice - even before I asked her for time she was smiling and responsive. It was such a great interaction. I really wish I could have said to her that she is so cute and try to talk with her.
4. Funny. Two girls with bags. One of them took phone from the bag of other and shown it to me. Theme was very strange and I didn't see the numbers. I was hit with anxiety and tried to laugh, thank and leave but she saw my confusion and read it aloud to me . We laughed and I left. Great interaction, but I tried to end it quickly as I "don't want to waste their time".
5. Cute girl with glasses. Nice, friendly and smiling. Should have said to her that she's cute afterwards.
Day done, but it didn't feel very hard to continue so I tried to do a couple more
6. Two girls, neutral and kinda wary. Got time and left.
7. Friendly girl, said the time and smiled.
8. Two girls, couldn't answer but shown me time. Thanked and left.
Learned:
- It really gets easier after some initial interactions.
- With these "normal" questions it's easy to approach two girls even among other people. Single girls were manageable when isolated, still have a huge anxiety when people were around.
- Some girls are really nice and happy to answer you. That is what I need to see more.
Still really want to say some compliments or have a talk with some girl. I'll try to do it when they will be very receptive after my initial question.
Vlog for Day 4:
https://youtu.be/9waONZ3-ppc