Gabi
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- Dec 31, 2020
Foreword
I'm not someone who has the habit of asking for advice or any sort of help, tbh, i almost never did that, even with my parents.
I did and do every thing by myself, i became who i am, fixed my emotions[1], enhance my look, became social with a "good" attitude, all by myself*. So i'm kind of "hidding" my problems to people around me and fix them on my own. This habit put me in a situation where asking for help just feel unnatural, even if it would benefit me a lot. I get why people do it, asking for advice, and i'm always happy and proactive to help, but when it comes to me, i really can't see myself asking.
And i want to change that, i believe asking for help and including people in the process of thinking/finding a solution to a problem is a great way to create bound
So here i am, practicing "asking" for advice about the following problematic : Should i create sexual tension[2] with chick which that i'm not attracted to** or not planning to date***
My problem :
Around 2 years from now, when i started working on myself, i learned about sexual tension and practiced a lot, mainly with prolonged eye contact, and it really boosted the way women react to me. I was "practicing", with every chick i could put my eyes on, but in the process i started stopping build tension with girl that i don't find attractive, like i don't want them to believe i'm into them and let them hope that i would, one day, ask for a date or something.
But by doing that, i'm depriving myself of all this experience and ease that i could gain from practicing with them.
Nowadays, every time i avoid tension with a chick i'm like "Dude, you want to get your dick sucked or not ? Because all i see is a coward that do NO effort !"
So what do you think about this ?
PS : imo i should definitely get myself to do it, i think it would definitely be worth it
PS2 : I really recommend the yt channel The Fearless Man[3] for its content about emotions and tension, it really helped me a lot. It also speak a lot about the Slight edge[4] principle
* I never asked someone to help me with MY problem, but rather go online/read book to find solution or mimic other people that had successfully fixed a similar problem, like Andy with his tinder guide.
** if they were asking for a date, i would probably politely refuse, or really hesitate about saying yes
*** Like the girls i see every day at school, or in the building where i live
[1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVpzlE_dJZ8
[2] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TwIcL0uQ-hM
[3] https://www.youtube.com/user/TheFearlessManTV
[4] https://kyil-extra.com/slight-edge/
I'm not someone who has the habit of asking for advice or any sort of help, tbh, i almost never did that, even with my parents.
I did and do every thing by myself, i became who i am, fixed my emotions[1], enhance my look, became social with a "good" attitude, all by myself*. So i'm kind of "hidding" my problems to people around me and fix them on my own. This habit put me in a situation where asking for help just feel unnatural, even if it would benefit me a lot. I get why people do it, asking for advice, and i'm always happy and proactive to help, but when it comes to me, i really can't see myself asking.
And i want to change that, i believe asking for help and including people in the process of thinking/finding a solution to a problem is a great way to create bound
So here i am, practicing "asking" for advice about the following problematic : Should i create sexual tension[2] with chick which that i'm not attracted to** or not planning to date***
My problem :
Around 2 years from now, when i started working on myself, i learned about sexual tension and practiced a lot, mainly with prolonged eye contact, and it really boosted the way women react to me. I was "practicing", with every chick i could put my eyes on, but in the process i started stopping build tension with girl that i don't find attractive, like i don't want them to believe i'm into them and let them hope that i would, one day, ask for a date or something.
But by doing that, i'm depriving myself of all this experience and ease that i could gain from practicing with them.
Nowadays, every time i avoid tension with a chick i'm like "Dude, you want to get your dick sucked or not ? Because all i see is a coward that do NO effort !"
So what do you think about this ?
PS : imo i should definitely get myself to do it, i think it would definitely be worth it
PS2 : I really recommend the yt channel The Fearless Man[3] for its content about emotions and tension, it really helped me a lot. It also speak a lot about the Slight edge[4] principle
* I never asked someone to help me with MY problem, but rather go online/read book to find solution or mimic other people that had successfully fixed a similar problem, like Andy with his tinder guide.
** if they were asking for a date, i would probably politely refuse, or really hesitate about saying yes
*** Like the girls i see every day at school, or in the building where i live
[1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVpzlE_dJZ8
[2] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TwIcL0uQ-hM
[3] https://www.youtube.com/user/TheFearlessManTV
[4] https://kyil-extra.com/slight-edge/