tandaleo's log

[tandaleo]

Hello everyone I am tandaleo

So for the first 18 years of my life I have been very introverted and more interested in my computer than my social and sex life but I believe that now is the time to change this. I have already stopped playing video games and watching porn and started regularly body weight exercising and meditating which greatly helped my mental health. I have also made some friends in high school so I have some sort of a social life. However, I am still a virgin and want to get laid.

For that I think that I need to improve my style (most of the stuff in my wardrobe was bought by my mother which is kind of sad when I think about it), get myself some good tinder pics and follow Andy's guide. I have already gone out and made photos of some outfits. I still need to change my glasses for contacts, get a good haircut (would love some suggestions) and get some accessories.

I am in my last year of high school and would like to get some good scores on my final exam so I can go to the chosen faculty (Computer and Information Science). I do not actually know what exactly I want to do in the future, but I think that learning programming and computer stuff can only help my, while IMO most of the other stuff that I could go and study is useless.

I am also a pretty good chess player (2300+ ELO) but still need to get my first norm for an international master so this seems like a good goal to set for myself. It might be a bit overambitious but we'll see.


tldr:
Below I have laid out what I think are my goals at the moment.

Short term goals:
-Continue to do my good habits (exercise, meditate, nofap)
-Improve my style
-Follow Andy's tinder guide
-Lose my virginity
-Finish high school and decide on college.
-Get my first norm for a chess International Master


Long term goals:
-Gain financial and location freedom (10k per month)
-Get laid at least 50 times

 

[tandaleo]

So last week I went to some stores and took a few pictures, but only later realized that the only clothing that I took pictures of was from Radical's guide and so probably looks good on me anyway. Still I am gonna post them so you guys could maybe tell me if I got the right sizes and whether I should get one of the leather jackets or not.

I know that I still need to either change my glasses or get contacts , a new haircut and some accessories. So I would like some advice on the first two and a pointer to where I can buy decent accessories in EU specifically Slovenia.

tandaleo

 

[Manly Cockfellow]

You look great in leather jacket 3

To me it's definitely the best one for you

 

[ovnidos]

Style is much better ! You've got baldness pattern going on ? if so go on minoxidil 5% IMMEDIATELY, and also use it on your face to gain a beard that will get you a jawline.

Then go in some gothic shop and buy some rings and a necklace, if you find not anything too gothic, go Amazon. For your haircut, check the hottest guy in your class and do the same haircut as him, basically.

Lastly, go to the gym if you got the possibility, or go to the street workout park, i know there are some in Slovenia. Go do some workouts, eat well 2g/kg of protein and go get some GAINZZZ.

You're at the best place on the internet if you want to get laid, and I personally knew guys with the same profile as you that got laid on their first year here. Got get these girls and update us daily and everything will be fine my G.

feel free to ask anything gym related.

see you on the other side, future pussy slayer

 

[tandaleo]

Style is much better ! You've got baldness pattern going on ? if so go on minoxidil 5% IMMEDIATELY, and also use it on your face to gain a beard that will get you a jawline.

Then go in some gothic shop and buy some rings and a necklace, if you find not anything too gothic, go Amazon. For your haircut, check the hottest guy in your class and do the same haircut as him, basically.

Lastly, go to the gym if you got the possibility, or go to the street workout park, i know there are some in Slovenia. Go do some workouts, eat well 2g/kg of protein and go get some GAINZZZ.

You're at the best place on the internet if you want to get laid, and I personally knew guys with the same profile as you that got laid on their first year here. Got get these girls and update us daily and everything will be fine my G.

feel free to ask anything gym related.

see you on the other side, future pussy slayer

Thanks for the kind words man!

I don't think I am balding, am to young for that yet, just think that I have a big forehead lmao.

Will try to find a goth shop. I checked amazon for some stuff but I just can't really imagine how the stuff that I buy is gonna look.

As far as the gym goes I quit last year because I didn't really like it. I usually didn't even have enough motivation to go to it in the first place. So I bought a pair of gymnastic rings, hung them in my back yard and now I workout on them every day.

 

[ovnidos]

I have been very introverted and more interested in my computer than my social and sex life but I believe that now is the time to change this.

That the moment some guys gonna be passive aggressive with you. I’m gonna be just aggressive, go to the fucking gym or street workout park, you complaining to be a loner then your first fucking move is to train alone in your back yard ???

You want an autistic tips ? Go to the gym ask the biggest guy for a squat spotting and guess what you’re gonna be friends. Next time you see him say hi and check hands. and he’ll coach your for fucking 0€. And you gonna progress 10x faster. That’s what happen all the time at the gym.

Man the more you put in the more you get out. Rn you’re putting near 0% into your physical transformation and no that’s not because you said you train everyday that’ll believe you. Guys here are solid as ROCKS they put get their ego on the front line EVERYDAY !!

Read the logs of some guys and you’ll understand what some guys here went through and did get out successfully. All did crazy amount of work surrounded by the an aura of iron will.

We all believe in YOU that YOU can achieve great things. If you put the work in, the first 18years of your life can only be a bad dream in a few months.

BUT YOU GOTTA PUT THE WORK IN and stop wasting your time in doing rings in your mommy yard

 

[Squilliam]

As far as the gym goes I quit last year because I didn't really like it. I usually didn't even have enough motivation to go to it in the first place. So I bought a pair of gymnastic rings, hung them in my back yard and now I workout on them every day.

A lot of the things we do in self improvement are not because we like them. We do them because we are DISCIPLINED to do them. I don't "like" having to go to the gym. I don't "like" having to spend 3 hours in office hours trying to figure out a difficult homework assignment. I don't "like" risking rejection with girls. Motivation only lasts for so long, what you need is DISCIPLINE.

I'm not a fitness expert but you're not going to make optimal progress on your physique on some gymnastics rings in your backyard. Find a gym in your area that is affordable and join it.

Hugo is right, check out the logs of some of these guys. Look at MakingAComeback for example. He's been busting his ass for damn near two years now, grinding and hustling hard. You won't get the results if you don't put in the work. How badly do you want it?

Look at my motto, it's 100% true. "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life."

Do what is harder and out of your comfort zone, and life becomes easier. Do what is comfortable and easy, your life becomes harder.

 

[AskTheDom]

Hello everyone I am tandaleo

So for the first 18 years of my life I have been very introverted and more interested in my computer than my social and sex life but I believe that now is the time to change this. I have already stopped playing video games and watching porn and started regularly body weight exercising and meditating which greatly helped my mental health. I have also made some friends in high school so I have some sort of a social life. However, I am still a virgin and want to get laid.

For that I think that I need to improve my style (most of the stuff in my wardrobe was bought by my mother which is kind of sad when I think about it), get myself some good tinder pics and follow Andy's guide. I have already gone out and made photos of some outfits. I still need to change my glasses for contacts, get a good haircut (would love some suggestions) and get some accessories.

I am in my last year of high school and would like to get some good scores on my final exam so I can go to the chosen faculty (Computer and Information Science). I do not actually know what exactly I want to do in the future, but I think that learning programming and computer stuff can only help my, while IMO most of the other stuff that I could go and study is useless.

I am also a pretty good chess player (2300+ ELO) but still need to get my first norm for an international master so this seems like a good goal to set for myself. It might be a bit overambitious but we'll see.


tldr:
Below I have laid out what I think are my goals at the moment.

Short term goals:
-Continue to do my good habits (exercise, meditate, nofap)
-Improve my style
-Follow Andy's tinder guide
-Lose my virginity
-Finish high school and decide on college.
-Get my first norm for a chess International Master


Long term goals:
-Gain financial and location freedom (10k per month)
-Get laid at least 50 times

Look man, I'm not going to lie.

You are smart as fuck, but also weak as fuck.

There is going to do a lot of physical but also mental training in order to achieve your goals, especially in a tiny country like yours ( although you can get laid easily in LJ if you have the looks and game)

Your IT skills will get you the best opportunity also to look for other places to work (with all due respect, unless you work for yourself, I don't see SLO as a way to make a lot of money, have you considered studying german as well?)

The future big goal in dating for you is that you need to look good and start to get your mind right about women and dating ( even if you get a match, do you know what to say and why?)

There is a million of steps to do, so one by one we will get there

 

[tandaleo]

I have been very introverted and more interested in my computer than my social and sex life but I believe that now is the time to change this.

That the moment some guys gonna be passive aggressive with you. I’m gonna be just aggressive, go to the fucking gym or street workout park, you complaining to be a loner then your first fucking move is to train alone in your back yard ???

You want an autistic tips ? Go to the gym ask the biggest guy for a squat spotting and guess what you’re gonna be friends. Next time you see him say hi and check hands. and he’ll coach your for fucking 0€. And you gonna progress 10x faster. That’s what happen all the time at the gym.

Man the more you put in the more you get out. Rn you’re putting near 0% into your physical transformation and no that’s not because you said you train everyday that’ll believe you. Guys here are solid as ROCKS they put get their ego on the front line EVERYDAY !!

Read the logs of some guys and you’ll understand what some guys here went through and did get out successfully. All did crazy amount of work surrounded by the an aura of iron will.

We all believe in YOU that YOU can achieve great things. If you put the work in, the first 18years of your life can only be a bad dream in a few months.

BUT YOU GOTTA PUT THE WORK IN and stop wasting your time in doing rings in your mommy yard

As far as the gym goes I quit last year because I didn't really like it. I usually didn't even have enough motivation to go to it in the first place. So I bought a pair of gymnastic rings, hung them in my back yard and now I workout on them every day.

A lot of the things we do in self improvement are not because we like them. We do them because we are DISCIPLINED to do them. I don't "like" having to go to the gym. I don't "like" having to spend 3 hours in office hours trying to figure out a difficult homework assignment. I don't "like" risking rejection with girls. Motivation only lasts for so long, what you need is DISCIPLINE.

Fuck I really needed to hear this shit from the both of you. And really thank you ovnidos for getting this angry for my sake. It really means a lot.

My main problem right now is that I just don't think that I want things enough right now. I still spend a whole bunch of time on my computer just mindlessly playing chess or reading some dating advice while I should be out getting things done. Because of this I at first tried really hard to rationalize working out on the rings but in the end understood that I am just making excuses for myself.

When I was going to the gym I didn't really have a clear plan of what to do, and didn't really want it enough which made skip a bunch of workouts and I didn't make progress. Another problem was that I was away a lot because I played chess tournaments and didn't make the gym a habit. In the end I just quit thinking that the gym is not for me. This is probably me just rationalizing shit again but now I am going to stick to the gym and keep myself accountable. I should probably start doing daily reports here to do so.

There are really 2 options for the gym. One is 20 EUR per month but you have to sign up for a whole year. The other is 35 EUR per month and cancellable any time and also a bit fancier. I think should just go to the first one so I have an extra incentive not to quit and I don't think that I am going to move out of Ljubljana anytime soon.

I also don't really know what kind of a program to follow besides just doing PPL, mainly what exercises should I be doing and how, so I guess I would need some advice on this. I am thinking about going 3/4 times per week to start and then probably increasing this once I get into a habit.

 

[tandaleo]

Look man, I'm not going to lie.

You are smart as fuck, but also weak as fuck.

There is going to do a lot of physical but also mental training in order to achieve your goals, especially in a tiny country like yours ( although you can get laid easily in LJ if you have the looks and game)

Your IT skills will get you the best opportunity also to look for other places to work (with all due respect, unless you work for yourself, I don't see SLO as a way to make a lot of money, have you considered studying german as well?)

The future big goal in dating for you is that you need to look good and start to get your mind right about women and dating ( even if you get a match, do you know what to say and why?)

There is a million of steps to do, so one by one we will get there

Thank you for writing all of this I appreciate it.

You are so fucking right with your first statement. I for a long time thought that being smart and having talent is enough to be successful in life. But only recently have I come to understand that just being smart and having talent means shit all if you don't have the discipline and the strength to back it up.

I am in LJ so I think that it shouldn't be that hard to get laid here, will just require some persistence.

I don't have any IT skills yet as I am only finishing high school and IT seems to me like the most useful study so feel free to maybe suggest something that might be more useful than IT. I was also thinking about going somewhere with Erasmus. I agree that SLO isn't a good place to make money so I was indeed thinking of relocating somewhere but more towards the south (Spain, Portugal, maybe Italy) , as I would really like to have warmer weather. Germany and Austria are also options, especially as I am already learning German at school, but it's my worst subject by far and I really don't like it, which may also just be due to the terrible way the school system teaches languages. Again as the guys up top wrote I shouldn't do things because I like them so I should probably think about it more.

As for dating I agree, but that is why I am here right?

 

[AskTheDom]

I was indeed thinking of relocating somewhere but more towards the south (Spain, Portugal, maybe Italy)

So as I'm from Italy, and lived both in PT and Spain, these are countries that you can relocate once you have a skill and people pay for your work ( see it as a free lancer) - as employment goes, not that amazing...
I know, languages at school are awful

 

[ovnidos]

Cool but even tho you agreed with me whats your next move ? Gym 20€/month go for it. Then regarding dating ? Are you planning to install apps ? Are you planning to take pictures ? Even regarding chess

Let’s go let’s go !! Move fast and bravely !!

I was like you before, I see me in you tbh, that’s why perhaps you think I’m over investing in you by getting angry.

So goals are really cool but now you need to make ACTIONS to reach the goals. What’s your plan?

Hmu on private messages and I’ll send you gym programs and nutrition plans (for free Ofc) because I believe in you