I'm 30 years old and I have a fuckton of catching up to do in pretty much all the important life areas. Even a cursory glance at the New Members posts shows most guys are way ahead of me and younger than me too. The thing is I don't know what to work on first; I have a hard time prioritizing goals. I guess I'm looking for advice.
Here is what I want to work on:
Financial life/Career: I've freelanced for 5 years but I earn only $2k in a good month and $1.2k in a bad month. Ideally, I want to earn minimum $3.5k monthly by the end of this year. I'm in the embarrassing position of still living at home at 30...this can't go on much longer because it's pathetic.
Women Life: I've only had sex with 3 women in my life. My number would be higher, however, any time I got into situations to have casual hookups in my 20s, I was too wasted to do anything. Furthermore, since turning 18, I have only actually been single for a total of 3-4 years.
Social anxiety: I thought this was something I'd grow out of, but I'm still socially anxious despite first identifying it as a problem well over a decade ago.
Persistent depression: I view myself and the world through a negative lens and I'm rarely in a good mood.
Fitness: I've never been fat, but I've also never been in shape. My heavy drinking habits resulted in the typical skinny fat physique for pretty much the entire last decade. I'm also a lazy cunt who hates exercise. I've never had notable muscles mas nor seen my abs. I keep using excuses like, "well people who get in shape often get depressed so it's hardly the cure for my mental struggles."
The problem is I have so much work to do that it's hard to know where to start. My initial intuition is that striving to achieve my financial goals should be non-negotiable at the outset. It is not acceptable to be living at home at this age (although it's remarkably common here in Dublin because rental costs are fucking insane).
Another intuition is that seeing as I have no self-esteem due to social anxiety and depression, I have no business trying to get laid before I address those issues. However, it's tricky to set specific measurable goals with mental health.
Thanks for reading and for any advice you guys might have.
Here is what I want to work on:
Financial life/Career: I've freelanced for 5 years but I earn only $2k in a good month and $1.2k in a bad month. Ideally, I want to earn minimum $3.5k monthly by the end of this year. I'm in the embarrassing position of still living at home at 30...this can't go on much longer because it's pathetic.
Women Life: I've only had sex with 3 women in my life. My number would be higher, however, any time I got into situations to have casual hookups in my 20s, I was too wasted to do anything. Furthermore, since turning 18, I have only actually been single for a total of 3-4 years.
Social anxiety: I thought this was something I'd grow out of, but I'm still socially anxious despite first identifying it as a problem well over a decade ago.
Persistent depression: I view myself and the world through a negative lens and I'm rarely in a good mood.
Fitness: I've never been fat, but I've also never been in shape. My heavy drinking habits resulted in the typical skinny fat physique for pretty much the entire last decade. I'm also a lazy cunt who hates exercise. I've never had notable muscles mas nor seen my abs. I keep using excuses like, "well people who get in shape often get depressed so it's hardly the cure for my mental struggles."
The problem is I have so much work to do that it's hard to know where to start. My initial intuition is that striving to achieve my financial goals should be non-negotiable at the outset. It is not acceptable to be living at home at this age (although it's remarkably common here in Dublin because rental costs are fucking insane).
Another intuition is that seeing as I have no self-esteem due to social anxiety and depression, I have no business trying to get laid before I address those issues. However, it's tricky to set specific measurable goals with mental health.
Thanks for reading and for any advice you guys might have.