Gabriel's log

November 22nd

Primary goals

• 4 rounds of prospecting
• No studying. A lot of mental masturbation and thinking
• Wakeup time: 7:45 am.

Secondary goals

• No pmo: success
• Approach: no
• Sun gazing: no
• Night routine: no
• Gym 3/4

Most notable thing was that I talked to a bunch of guys at a cafe. They were discussing a script for a movie about an argentinians politician.I overheard the convo and it was quite interesting

One of the guys was a writer, another an historian, another a psychologist, and they were talking about different aspects of the main character's life, psychology, etc.

I felt quite off tbh, too rigid. These guys made some humorous comments to break the ice, while I was too tense and logical. Gotta improve that next time.

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This just happened. Approached a 34 year old woman, hot, my type. The approach went quite well. I was walking behind her so I walked faster, got in front of her and then turned towards her.

The set hooked and I created some connection, attraction and even some sexual tension... after the convo I had a boner lmao. And she told me I have very beautiful eyes.

She was an English teacher, so I riffed of that a bit, acted like I didn't know how to talk then said I was kidding

I also did some objection handling, she didn't wanted to give me her WhatsApp, only Instagram. I was way more persistent than usual but she had some rigid limiting beliefs with giving her phone number to strangers.

So only got her Instagram.

But overall I'm happy with how the interaction went. Back in the day I used to only approach girls my age. Now I don't give a fuck. And I'm coming across as more mature to older women which I like.

I also liked this girl, she is an English teacher (one of the professions I find more attractive in women) and she used to study art.
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Sometimes I'm my own worst critic. Women respect me more, are more attracted, I connect more, have better game, longer interactions, more social freedom.

I haven't had results in a while and that makes me doubt my value. I have to have more faith in the process, trust that I did the work and improved, and that if I play the numbers game something's going to happen.

Having one girl I see in the regular would be a game changer. That would make me less needy. I can't just supress my need for sex and intimacy. I'm pretty sure that if I had one girl my mind would be more clear for work.

I'll be honest, I've been totally unfocused these past two days, and frankly this past week.

Game is cool, but it also puts you in a mindset of focusing on superficial stuff. It's the cherry on top. And when you leave it at that secondary level of priority you enjoy it more.

Too bad I don't have a woman to be intimate with. Bro, there are so many worse things in life... stop being ungrateful. Just trust that there's a reason why this is happening and God will grant you the right woman as a reward for your efforts.

I believe in healing but I also think grind is fundamental to the male existence. The problem with hustle culture is when that grind is inauthentic and purely selfish or materialistic. When your purpose is outside yourself, spiritual and pragmatic, grindset comes naturally.

Grind comes much more authentically when you need to bring food to the table. Or when other people depend on you. When you have to survive.

Also, if you start getting into the rabbit hole of 2030 agenda and shit, or AI, an internal alarm sounds for me and I'm like "Bro I have no time to waste".

The problem isn't grind, but souless grind.

We as men need problems to solve, something to fight against, something BIG that scares us...

Just some random, inspired thoughts.

I'll go back to daily updates. This past week I slacked off at updating daily.

I've been focused on 1) prospecting from two accounts 4 times a day (100 messages a day) 2) studying video editing. I'll have to keep doing this for the time being.

Also I'm dealing with other personal issues that have tested me emotionally.

Using instagram to prospect is kind of a pain in the ass too, I feel my braincells burning every minute I spend in that god-forsaken place.

Went to the gym 4/4 last week. This week 2/4 so far. Dietwise, I'm eating whatever just so I gain some weight and some strength. It's hard to eat a caloric surplus eating clean or maybe I'm too fucking lazy.

I just approached a girl after not having done anything for a week. I'm glad I had no hesitation, at least for solo girls in a lot of situations my AA is largely non existent even after a week of non approach. But my game do suffers from lack of practice. She said she had a boyfriend etc, for contextual reasons I decided not to persist. But I also stumbled into my words a bit and she made a weirded out face. Girls are totally unforgiving to even the slightest hint of hesitation.

I've had some situations to approach but I was in a completely different headspace and the approach would have totally sucked ass.

Feeling quite frustrated with lack of success with girls tbh but I'm not giving myself any chance to be low energy. I'm using it as fuel to do all the other boring and annoying shit I have to do that's more important.

I was just about to watch porn and jerk off but didn't do it. Took the conscious decision of controlling my sexual impulses.

Then I reflected: is my desire to approach girls similar to watching porn? My internal feeling is that it isn't. Approaching is a decision that comes from my rational, higher functions. Although our ability to backwards rationalize stuff knows no parallel.

As I'm becoming more ""traditional"" I'm asking myself whether having sex outside marriage is good or even useful at all. I don't know.
But daygame overall I feel has a net positive value for me.

I may adhere to Zherka's philosophy of being a "social player" but remain sexually monogamous or celibate. Or maybe something in between. Approach women, game, but fuck only one or very few girls with whom I have a deeper bond.

I think there's no discussion about becoming more attractive and developing options. Unless you live in some isolated place with negligible modern influence, or are part of some religious minority that dates traditionally, you have to play by the rules. Otherwise you'll be cucked.

Women are going to be sluts regardless. And besides, I sincerely believe male promiscuity is fundamentally different than female promiscuity.

Game has its darkness, but persuasion, learning to push people's buttons, being aggressive and persistent is an inescapable part of life.

I believe game is only a tool, neither good nor bad. Even if you want to do good in the world, you have to inflict pain, there's no question about that. I recall my cousin who's a pastor was preaching constantly on family meals and made everyone uncomfortable. When I was a kid my parents painted him (ironically) as a devil but now I think to myself "what an alpha male with a set of balls".

Guilt is a largely unresourceful emotion. It also makes you easier to manipulate. Being amoral is trash, but I also think guilt comes from weakness a lot of times. Being moral a lot of times is about being cold and dispassionate.

So that's it for philosophical discussion.
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I did one approach today. My inner game today was atrocious. Felt totally closed off and alienated. But it has mostly to do with outer pressure (semi stressful shit I need to deal with and has been weighing on me for weeks).

But, surprisingly, my outer game is still improving. The girl was hottish with huge tits. Got her number. She was training to be part of the military. Left her family and everyone behind to pursue that carreer. My guess is that she's crazy and has daddy issues (and needs an strong alpha Male to fuck her brains out lol). Some highlights:

-Told her I didn't believe she was in the military, she looked inoffensive.
-Disqualified myself saying I was the opposite of that, that I was a musician (not false).
-But also balanced that saying I wanted to buy a gun in the future.
-Asked if she likes shooting people, if she was a psychopath. She laughed and said that she only did practice shooting, but shooting is "cute"(lmao)
-Randomly talked about David Goggins, but in a way that I related the navy seals hell week stuff to her experience.
-To which she replied they push you psychologically. I asked her if she liked being pushed to which she said yes and I told her she was crazy.
-Asked her if she was like that all the time or only when working, and watches romantic movies in her free time. She said she wasn't like that all the time.
-Told her I like that despite being in the military she still remained feminine. This seemed to land.
-I sort of interrupted her before she was about to tell me she had to go and went for the close.
-For ONCE I remembered to frame the date instead of straight up asking for the number. Asked her if she was allowed to drink, what's her favorite drink and pitched a drink sometime somewhere.
-She gave me her number herself and told me to text her. This NEVER happened to me in the past.

This wasn't an approach session or anything, just running errands, but still the volume was really high. I skipped a few a girls which I totally regret. I need to combine both the high volume philosophy with game. I want to prove Game deniers/skeptics wrong lol.

I feel I'm having more solid interactions and number closing more frequently. I think if I do more volume and start texting leads I will have some results.

My guess is my inner+outer game is good enough to have some results with cute girls in the short term. Even when my game was trash and autistic I fucked cute girls from daygame just from playing numbers game...

But I'm still far from getting long lasting results with the women I actually want. That's why I largely quit this shit. And I should probably not give too much attention to daygame interactions.

I have some ideas for building long lasting relationships with high value people and it largely involves busting my ass in video editing. Being more valuable brings you closer to higher value people.

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Tomorrow I have to confront something and plant my feet on the ground. Win or lose I will be able to better to focus and go back to having structure.

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I thought that my failure in life so far doesn't have to do with being lazy, being dumb, etc.

It's a simple mathematical equation of "thought energy". Most people are able to visualize stuff for a few seconds. Obsessed people keep the object of their obsession in their mind's eye 24/7.

My thought energy is dispersed. For two reasons:

1) not choosing ONE thing. Part of that is shiny object syndrome. But it's mostly about being a pussy and not going all in.
2) lust. Even if I don't fuck girls, I waste a lot of mental energy thinking about them, how to become more attractive, how to seduce them. This the problem with daygame. Online dating when done right is a leads machine that saves you a lot of mental effort. Focusing on building my social media, making money and then paying for a photoshoot and tinder platinum or whatever would have been a far better strategy

The reason I'm broke and haven't achieved anything is that for most of my adult life, my bank account hasn't been and obsession. How to do my job better hasn't been an obsession. Meeting deadlines hasn't been an obsession.

What do I obsessed about? Women. What has that given me? Mostly nothing.

What other things did I obsess about? Art. Philosophy. Music.

What did the ancients call these ?

MUSES (women!)

My brain has been feminine for most of my life...

Beauty. Pleasure. Ornamentation. Subjectivity. Emotion.

Instead of...

Function. Foundations. Measurable goals. Objectivity. Logic.

This is where I need to shift my mind towards.

Really interesting reflections, I always appreciate reading your posts.

That's sounds like a solid interaction, and you did it despite your inner feelings, so good work. I'm going to try remind myself to follow your example to frame a date instead of just a number, sometimes you read so much game shit like me you forget fundamentals.

Right there with you with the lust. So much of my mental real estate is devoted to pickup/women/ getting laid, when I have quiet days at work or days off where I'm not at the gym, I'm like, what the fuck am I doing?

Try to give more time over your other obsessions (music, art, philosophy) as those are things that you can actually control and can use to build your inner game, maybe.

Sisyphus said:

Even if you want to do good in the world, you have to inflict pain, there's no question about that.

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What do you mean by this?

Spazdig said:

Really interesting reflections, I always appreciate reading your posts.

That's sounds like a solid interaction, and you did it despite your inner feelings, so good work. I'm going to try remind myself to follow your example to frame a date instead of just a number, sometimes you read so much game shit like me you forget fundamentals.

Right there with you with the lust. So much of my mental real estate is devoted to pickup/women/ getting laid, when I have quiet days at work or days off where I'm not at the gym, I'm like, what the fuck am I doing?

Try to give more time over your other obsessions (music, art, philosophy) as those are things that you can actually control and can use to build your inner game, maybe.

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Thanks bro.

Same, read too much game stuff and I forget to apply the basics. Some things like framing the date just work.

Yes, it's hard for me to not be obsessed and I think it's a good thing actually. It's about directing that obsession towards something positive/constructive. "An idle mind is the devil's playground" the saying goes. I think men need to be busy most of the time to keep their sanity. This is one reason why imo people that make a lot of money and retire lose their minds.

Being obsessed about work/business solves a lot of mental problems. This is why quitting everything and focusing on meeting women ("get laid first, then get the rest of your life handled") is tricky for a lot of us, even if it makes sense logically. We need to feel we are building something, going somewhere... it's a primal thing. Women are designed to be a side quest.

Ali said:

What do you mean by this?

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Even if you have the best product in the world, you have to sell it. What's one of sales main predicaments? Touch the prospect's pain points.

If you do a non profit, you still have to "sell" your idea and convince people.

If you stand for something, anything, people are going to disagree, you'll have "enemies". You'll make people uncomfortable.

If you want to have an impact, you have to be in a position of power.

If you want to change the world you can't do it by purely non violent means. The Christian religion didn't expand solely through missionary work. Christianity won souls also thanks to ('just') war.

If someone invades your house what are you gonna do? Invite them to drink tea? Sure, you can turn the other cheek and allow your family to get taken advantage of.

Dealt with my shit but will probably have to continue to do so. There's no resolution, only more stress. But I guess I'm gettiv used to it. Perhaps I'm making this to big in my head. The only thing left is to keep working.

Getting back at it.

December 20th


Primary goals


Work: 6h 3m.

Wakeup time: 6:30 am.

Secondary goals

Gym: 2/4
No pmo: edging.

Approach: didn't go out

Sun gazing: fail
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Need to stop other people waste my time. Need to stop complying to other people's agendas and do my own thing. I'm too much of a pleaser. And I use "commitments" as an excuse to waste time.

December 21st


Primary goals


Work: 10h 3m

Need to go back to distraction free blocks though. But I had to do very repetitive so I guess it wasn't bad to listen youtube videos while doing that.

I listened to David Goggins. I also listened to an old RSD video they made about the times where they where cancelled (it will be almost 10 years wtf). These guys are so underrated.

Wakeup time: 6:30 am.

Secondary goals

Gym: 3/4
No pmo: success.

Approach: didn't go out

Sun gazing: fail

December 22nd


Primary goals

Work: 12h 41m

Wakeup time: 6:30 am.

Secondary goals

Gym: fail 3/4 this week
No pmo: edging.

Approach: didn't go out

Sun gazing: fail

December 23rd


Primary goals

Work: 5h 41m (41 minutes again wtf)

Wakeup time: 6:30 am.

Secondary goals

No pmo: success

Approach: didn't go out

Sun gazing: fail

Got paid for some of my editing work. Grind is starting to pay off