No, not the original OF Girl from the Shrine adventures. This is actually the 3rd, top 1%, 6 figure only fans girl who has taken interest in me. Starting to feel like Austin is some sort of mecca for these girls.
- OF Girl 1 = approached me at the Shrine munch when I had no status whatsoever there yet. Very sweet, flirty. Already had a BF and crap logistics, never got out on a proper date. Ended up escalating to a kiss a munch a few months later. Then the tension died, she started flaunting her big ego more, and we just stayed friends.
- OF Girl 2 = she came to my munch. Very kind, sweet, and flirty to me all the time. Lovely personality. Wanted to play, but shes chubbier than I like. If she lost weight, I’d hit it in a heartbeat. So I friendzoned her.
- OF Girl 3 = Friend requested me on FetLife out of the blue. For this report, we’ll call her Vegas Girl just to not be confusing.
I’m not really interested in seeing Vegas Girl again. Rather, I’m interested in getting advice on how my frame should be when the next big egoed, top OF Girl comes around, because apparently this is an archetype I’ll be attracting.
So Vegas Girl… Friend requested me on Fet. She’s petite with a thigh gap and perky little boobs. She’s 29 but looks 20. Looks really innocent. Thought she was hot, so I immediately opened her.
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During texting I thought she was looking for some validation of her physical beauty, so instead I genuinely commented on things that intrigued me about her.
She looked like she wanted to do the get to know you thing over text, so I told her I like getting to know people in person instead. She was compliant and said it was ok we wait till we meet.
I looked up her socials, in addition to her Only Fans, she also created content on YouTube. She 64.2K subscribers on channel where she made mukbang videos for a long time. Then she stopped and she had a video explaining to her subscribers that she wanted to have a better relationship with food and was dealing with depression.
Checkin the night before with a “looking forward to seeing you tomorrow”. She responds in kind.
Morning of I ask her to wear a skirt or dress. She says she normally wears jeans, but she’d wear a skirt for me. 30 mins before the date she texts me she is on her way but no skirt because she spilled her drink on it. Whatever, that’s fine. When she shows up for the date though, she is not wearing anything cute. Its jeans that are not even shapely, a white crop top that looks like the equivalent of a man’s wife beater, and a baseball style overshirt. Felt like her regular everyday clothes. Was real disappointing.
Was very compliant on the hug. After getting a drink she sat down very close next to me, rather than across, and didn’t have to tell her to. She actually started touching me first during the date, playing with my bracelets and arms.
From the “must have connection” comment in the setup, I was expecting someone with some emotional depth. Not the case. While we talked, she was very aggressive in her questioning. She didn’t seem to like silence or a pause. She was also very hard to read on emotions. She was mostly flat, except from the occasional time she would laugh and smile, and then flat again. She also wanted to move to sexual conversation pretty quickly.
Some information I learned about her during the date:
- She has 2 sisters. One of them has 10 kids. She said she never wants kids and does not like them. She said she has no motherly instinct at all.
- She started camming 10 years ago but she had never had sex. She cammed for a long time before actually ever having sex. Then in her words, “just decided to start having sex one day”.
- She makes 10K a month with Only Fans doing cam streams. She does not respect these guys at all. It was kind of uncomfortable the way she talked about them.
- The part she hates about the job is having to look at herself for so long while editing.
- She’s really into exhibitionism, being degraded, and humiliation.
- She does not want a relationship at all because she “get’s bored too fast.”
- She had a “fuck buddy” but he stopped seeing her because he found a different person. I asked why he couldn’t have two. She said apparently he wanted something specific.
- She’s moving to Vegas in a few months for no reason at all. Zero. In fact, I tried to discover any sort of motivations for anything in her life and it seemed she doesn’t have any.
Though I was not entirely enjoying her personality and cold, clinical way of asking questions, she was hot enough to have sex with and I thought she was DTF, so I went for the pull. No resistance.
When we got back to my place she checked out the apartment while I put on music. Then she sat on my bed. I went over, stood over her, and kissed her. No resistance. Pushed her back on the bed and started kissing her. She just laid there and was not very enthusiastic. I started kissing on her neck and asked if I could leave marks which she said no because her fans don’t like seeing marks.
Some more kissing and still not very lively. I called her out on it and she said she’s being “reformed”.
I asked what that meant. She said “I’m being a good girl and not having sex on the first date.”
I thought she was just being playful so I said, “What are we doing right now then?”.
“Not having sex”
Ok, she’s serious. Well, what now? I asked, “What would you like to do this evening then?” You know, still trying to be on the same team here. She didn’t know. So I just went back to kissing but she was still pretty dead. Well this certainly isn’t fun.
I laid down. She sat up against the wall and just started asking more questions about stuff. Like what music I liked. Told her metal and she asked me to put some of my music on. So I put on some avenged sevenfold. She asked about the backdrop stand I had up. I told her I do photography, boudoir mostly. Showed her some of the photos I’d taken and she commented on how hot the women were. Learned that she’s been with 4 women.
I told her to come lay next to me. “Oh you like to cuddle?” I ran my hands over her body. “You like to be touchy, huh?" Yes. I like emotional and physical intimacy, woman. “This is going to sound bad, but I didn’t use to like to kiss, hug, or cuddle at all. Like I had sex with a guy and he wanted to cuddle, and I was like uhhh I gotta go… but I’m not like that anymore.” What the fuck.
I kept touching her. I told her to take her top off. She said she’ll pull it up. I played with her tits some and bit on her nipples till they were super hard. Nothing. Still no enthusiasm or signs of enjoyment. At this point I’m more annoyed than turned on. In fact this is a pretty big turn off. But I could feel a little movement from my dick when I was sucking on her tits. I contemplate if it’s worth it to frame battle this girl, which inevitably will not be a turn on at all. Called her out again of the lack of emotion. Then she mockingly made some movements and pulled her shirt down.
We chatted a bit more. She asked what turned me on. I told her a few things. She asked what turned me off. Having really bratty behavior…
She asked about tattoos. So I stood up and took off my shirt and showing them off. Then back to more kissing, touching, and trying to ramp things back up.
I had stood up, got a drink of water, and told her to come to the edge of the bed. She complied.
Told her “ok, no sex, but let’s take these clothes off”
“Why?”
“So at least I can have something enjoyable to look at.”
“No. I think it’s more fun to make you wait.”
…
“I want to have sex at Shrine.”
“Oh… IS that what you want?”
Shakes her head with a pouty face,“Yeah I want to do it in front of everyone. Will you?”
What the fuck. Is this some sort of weird power play? She knows I’m a leader in the community. Like is she trying to be “the one who actually gets him”. I think that’s just my ego talking.
I told her maybe. Depended on if she turned me on enough for that.
“Oh. That won’t be too hard.”
I laughed “Oh really?”
I was not into this. So I just laid down. I called her out asking why she came back with me tonight if she didn’t want to have sex.
She said “I wanted to see where this guy lived.”
Ok…
She said “What’s the rush anyways?”
“No rush. I don’t mind. I was just curious why you came back then.”
“Do you normally sleep with girls on the first date?”
“Depends.”
“On?”
“How I feel about them. How they feel about me. In general, yes I tend to.”
“I don’t like one night stands.”
“I don’t care for them either. Sometimes it just happens. I’d rather have something ongoing.”
She then started asking about how many other girls I was seeing. I said 2.
“Why don’t you actually date them?”
“Doesn’t really fit my life and I’m leaving in March anyways. Not really fair to them.”
“You could take them with you.”
“For a girl to be that level of commitment, they’d have to check a lot more boxes.”
“Like what?”
I told her various things.
She then went on about not wanting to be in a relationship, getting bored of guys, and been dating but not really her thing. She’d just rather have the freedom to fuck them. I also learned she had been on some dates recently and been telling the guys no for sex on the first date and then getting blocked. Ok…
She asked if I ever get attached.
“Not really.”
“Why?”
“People come and go. Everything ends eventually. That’s ok”
She thought it was sad. I felt pretty peaceful about it.
Somewhere in the conversation she mentioned something about people getting turned down or whatever and that’s why you “have a roster” of other people you can go hook up with.
She asked “Do you have a roster?”
“Yes”
“You do? THAT’s why you don’t get attached!”
“Do you have a roster?”
“Yeah sorta.”
Then again, fuzzy on how we got here, but she ended up asking if I ever had a stalker. I told her no, I never really had that problem.
“Do you want me to be your first?”
I stopped touching her and looked her dead in the eyes with
I will fucking destroy you eyes.
“Hahaha I’m just kidding.”
We made some light jokes and she told me about a guy that reversed image searched her and called him a fucking weirdo. I did not care much for how she talked about other people.
It was starting to get towards my bed time and I was getting annoyed. She asked what I was doing for the rest of the evening. Told her I was going to sleep which she judgingly made comments about going to bed so early. She said she still had to work and do a stream later. She asked if I’d walk her back to her car. I said yes.
On the walk back I was just over this date. She started again with the cold and clinical way of asking questions. She asked if I what I do when I take girls on dates, as in the ones I’m seeing. Told her I don’t really do that. She was a little taken back. Told her going on dates is a privilege that must be earned first. She asked how. I told her by having good behavior. She couldn’t really believe it.
She also asked about what my favorite book was, noting that I had a lot. I told her Viktor Frankl’s Man Search for Meaning. She asked what it was about and I told her. “That’s sad! I was expecting you to say some happy book like How to Get Rich or something.” Oh brother… there’s no depth to you is there.
We finally make it back to her car. We go to give each other a hug and she says “I had a lot of fun.” I felt my body tense and cringe a bit. I did not. We kiss and she asks if she’ll see me at Shrine. Told her I’ll be working, mostly.
On the way home I didn’t really care we did not have sex. I was just more confused of what just happened. After waking up this morning, I was actually grateful we did not have sex. I did not really like that girl’s personality and lack emotion or empathy. I kept putting up with it because 1) she was hot, 2) something about being challenged like that makes me want win, conquer, overcome. And on top of that the ego status bump of “I’m the one that fucked her. I’m not like those other guys.” Dumb. The battle does not turn me on at all. But part of me still wanted to put my dick in her. In fact, had I fucked her, it would have been more out of being so god damn annoyed with her. Not healthy and how I want to feel at all.
Shrine is Sunday. Part of me is interested in seeing just what she’ll do to try to turn me on. Especially since I’ll be seeing OF Girl 1, and most likely OF Girl 2 and half dozen other girls I’ll hug throughout the night that I’ve friendzoned. Like a bunch of feral cats vying for my attention. Again, my own inflated ego talking.
Reality is, I’m working 3 shifts with only an hour break in between 2 of them, then probably going home to sleep after my last one. I got shit to do on Monday that I like have good sleep for. Plus I already have 2 other women from FetLife I’m setting up dates with, one from Feel’d, and the hot boudoir model from a few weeks ago is returning from her trip so I need to pin her. I don’t have the time or energy for drama.
Vegas girl and I could have had a real nice time, but she had to play games, so on to the “roster”. Obviously a lot of red flags. Just chalking this one up to having sub par game, her being a poor broken girl that really needs someone to love her, and I next time I’d like to end the interaction much sooner.
Looking for advice on 1) insight of what happened, 2) if I wanted the lay, what game would have been more optimal, 3) in the future, how should I engage these only fans girls that I seem to be attracting?
