colgate / bulldog
Member
- Joined
- Aug 5, 2021
- Goal
- BANG!! japanese chicks!
- Age
- 27
- Motto
- consistency. acceptance. tumescence.
- Location
- tokyo, japan
大流行 the pandemic
I graduated university at the end of 2019, and subsequently got rejected by some girl (from university) I had asked out on a date (I thought, okay, now I will focus on finding a girlfriend and building a new social circle since I have graduated university. I had (regrettably) suppressed both of these throughout university to "focus on my studies").
With that, I decided to continue with my idea of integrating into the local Japanese community.
I had a Japanese friend who was looking to move to a new place near my office. We went to tour a bunch of apartment rooms, and settled on one.
We realized we couldn't afford the apartment just by ourselves, so he was going to go inquire into the local Japanese community to see if we could get a third person to join us.
I was thinking, okay great. Things are starting to go into motion. I'm going to be constantly exposed to Japanese from now on, learn more about the Japanese people here in my city, build up my social skills, and inevitably find a girlfriend and move on with my life from there. I'm on my way to having what we would now call "moving to the suburbs and becoming parents to two cute golden retrievers". And I thought my kids would probably turn out alright here, because the city I lived in is pretty multicultural and I can raise them in a much better way than I was raised, and they'll be some degree of bilingual. Time for me to settle down.
Yeah, I wanted to be some eclectic music producer in Japan and have a bunch of idol girls singing for me, but frankly that isn't possible and it's childish anyway. I don't even know how to do that in the first place. It's time to grow up and be reasonable.
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The state is ordering all residents to stay at home. Do not go to work. Do not go outside. All travel has been banned.
There is a deadly virus with the severity of the Spanish Flu that is overloading the hospitals and thousands are dying per day.
Stay inside, stay 6 feet away, wear a mask.
My entire plans to move out are derailed and I'm stuck at my parents' house for the better part of 2020. And of course, I can't meet local Japanese people anymore and advance my social skills, let alone visit Japan now.
I stopped doing any form of Japanese for the next year or so. It just wasn't something to focus on anymore. It's best to just put it away now. It was a good run and a good arc of my life.
And given the insane response to the coronavirus pandemic in my state (let alone Japan's), I realized perhaps I should just try to advance my life in a less insane place.
I move to Chattanooga, Tennessee in fall 2020, a very lax small city in the deep south. People were friendly and not stuck in their safety bubbles, the warm Southern hospitality was refreshing compared to the coldness of the Californians, who wanted to stay in their little stuffed igloos of safety.
I was initially more excited to live here, and started talking to my Japanese friends over video calls again occasionally to share with them what life in this town is like as opposed to my previous life. I also had a huge mansion house, so I shared that with them as well.
We would joke about having them come here, but of course that wasn't going to happen given the times and the indefinite nature of the pandemic restrictions. And of course, I stopped studying any Japanese at all, and largely hit up my Japanese friends because I wanted social interaction.
I graduated university at the end of 2019, and subsequently got rejected by some girl (from university) I had asked out on a date (I thought, okay, now I will focus on finding a girlfriend and building a new social circle since I have graduated university. I had (regrettably) suppressed both of these throughout university to "focus on my studies").
With that, I decided to continue with my idea of integrating into the local Japanese community.
I had a Japanese friend who was looking to move to a new place near my office. We went to tour a bunch of apartment rooms, and settled on one.
We realized we couldn't afford the apartment just by ourselves, so he was going to go inquire into the local Japanese community to see if we could get a third person to join us.
I was thinking, okay great. Things are starting to go into motion. I'm going to be constantly exposed to Japanese from now on, learn more about the Japanese people here in my city, build up my social skills, and inevitably find a girlfriend and move on with my life from there. I'm on my way to having what we would now call "moving to the suburbs and becoming parents to two cute golden retrievers". And I thought my kids would probably turn out alright here, because the city I lived in is pretty multicultural and I can raise them in a much better way than I was raised, and they'll be some degree of bilingual. Time for me to settle down.
Yeah, I wanted to be some eclectic music producer in Japan and have a bunch of idol girls singing for me, but frankly that isn't possible and it's childish anyway. I don't even know how to do that in the first place. It's time to grow up and be reasonable.
...
...
The state is ordering all residents to stay at home. Do not go to work. Do not go outside. All travel has been banned.
There is a deadly virus with the severity of the Spanish Flu that is overloading the hospitals and thousands are dying per day.
Stay inside, stay 6 feet away, wear a mask.
My entire plans to move out are derailed and I'm stuck at my parents' house for the better part of 2020. And of course, I can't meet local Japanese people anymore and advance my social skills, let alone visit Japan now.
I stopped doing any form of Japanese for the next year or so. It just wasn't something to focus on anymore. It's best to just put it away now. It was a good run and a good arc of my life.
And given the insane response to the coronavirus pandemic in my state (let alone Japan's), I realized perhaps I should just try to advance my life in a less insane place.
I move to Chattanooga, Tennessee in fall 2020, a very lax small city in the deep south. People were friendly and not stuck in their safety bubbles, the warm Southern hospitality was refreshing compared to the coldness of the Californians, who wanted to stay in their little stuffed igloos of safety.
I was initially more excited to live here, and started talking to my Japanese friends over video calls again occasionally to share with them what life in this town is like as opposed to my previous life. I also had a huge mansion house, so I shared that with them as well.
We would joke about having them come here, but of course that wasn't going to happen given the times and the indefinite nature of the pandemic restrictions. And of course, I stopped studying any Japanese at all, and largely hit up my Japanese friends because I wanted social interaction.
