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Dating progress (getting hot girlfriend)

I appreciate the feedback mate. Height: I am 5'1, and it limits my results a lot. Tried to put 5'5 in the past and got more results, but then a lady after meeting me told me that she wouldn't have gone out with me if she knew I was much shorter than 5'5. Therefore, I decided to put the real height on the apps.

I don't run out of people on Tinder, but on Hinge, which is where I get most of my matches. Hinge here is not that popular, it's not like in English speaking countries,

I am using pro pictures: Andy from Kill Your Inner Loser jugded my profile too and told me it's on the top 20% of profiles for the pics, but that in order to get to the top 1% I need to have photos doing activities (hobbies, etc.). I have one where there's me boxing and that's it. Andy also told me that I am good looking on the pictures.

Texting: shouldn't be a problem, the sequence I am using got me around 30 dates. The problem is matches with good looking women on Tinder, which is were I have more people available here in Barcelona.

It's a picture and height problem. With the latter I can't do anything, but with the former I can.
 
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I am searching for a job in Madrid to move there. It has 3 times the inhabitants of Barcelona and 3+ times the number of LatinoAmerican women, who are short on average. This way I am going to have a larger pool of women that it's easier for me to close, both via apps and cold approach.
 
I succesfully moved to Madrid, going to start a new job next month. I realised by looking at women on Hinge (the only app that works for myself) that there are very few women in there, if any. Daygame is where I can spot them (although not that often).

That's why I started "trying" to do daygame two days ago as well as yesterday (two consecutive days). I am having approach anxiety (even if I made 728 approaches in the past). The fact that I haven't had sex with anybody from daygame in the past reinforces the thought and belief of "Why shall I do it? I have got so much proof it doesn't work for me".

As Andy Wells suggests, I am going to keep on going out often until I get myself to approach again. Thanks for your support.
 
10 approaches done today in 1 hour. My weekly goal is 30 (I am at 18 so far this week).
 
This week I have only done 17 approaches (my weekly goal is 25). Rejections got me emotionally. I went back to online game with Hinge and Bumble to see if it helps. I got 2 dates (we didn't like each other in both), now I have 2 dates scheduled for next week.
 
Your blog is inspiring and the bluntness quickness of delivery of info is appreciated and hilarious.

I believe you’re going to make it.
 
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Grande, ora sono a Milano ma potrei venire a farti visita così approcciamo insieme
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Grande tu - ti accolgo a Madrid con un abbraccione. Conosco la manager di un Airbnb per farti un prezzo attorno ai 30€ al giorno. Fammi sapere quando puoi venire e ci organizziamo senz'altro
 
After a couple of days with approach anxiety I got from the 70+ consecutive rejections, as well as having kidney stones (I have expelled them already), I was able to go out again 2 days ago as well as yesterday - without approaching. Today I was able to do 5 approaches after lowering my daily goal to 5 and my weekly goal to 20 (I guess It has lowered pressure). I am now having a black tea at a coffee shop and might go out again later this evening.

It's important to note that I went direct, which allowed me to bring out an authentic vibe and have 3 conversations out of the 5 approaches (I got 1 number, but I am not going to report numbers here cause dates are what counts). I was going mostly indirect on my last 70+ approaches. Although it is a numbers game, 3 conversations out of 5 approaches is a much better stat than my average conversation/approach ratio. That's why I will keep on being direct (it's a fun direct opener, so it's still sounds like something interesting).
 
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4 approaches done today. I have to change my weekly goal to 15 approaches because of the limit in the number of attractive women 5'4 tall or below (I am 5'1) that I am able to find in 2 hours of walking (going out 4 times a week).

Yesterday I started to do the daily exercise for trauma as suggested by Ravi @Self Improver . I am specifically referring to Anna Runkle's daily practice. It has helped me to be more centered, lighter and present. I am going to continue doing this practice daily.

It has helped me to keep on approaching even if I have experienced rejections and almost wanted to quit. Out of the 9 approaches I have done between yesterday and today, 6 were conversations. It seems that focusing on quality of the interactions helps, although it's also a numbers game.

I had a woman I approached today offering an instant date, but I didn't like her. I took her number, but I don't think I am going to text her. Don't want to take time to date women I am not attracted to from time I could spend approaching to find my hot girlfriend. When I tried the mindset "I need to get experience first", I felt not authentic and not a leader with the women I was approaching or on a date. It took 1,200 dollars of money spent on coaching and daygame/seduction courses to figure it out.

Let's get this woman goal out of the way as I want to focus on starting my business and move to my own apartment.
 
Hahah niiiice, I'm glad some folks taking my inner game ideas on board, they helped me a lot

To where I am ready to get back to a hustlin'

Keep going king

All this shit, we do for you men

For men worldwide, free self improvement, for life
 
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Hahah niiiice, I'm glad some folks taking my inner game ideas on board, they helped me a lot

To where I am ready to get back to a hustlin'

Keep going king

All this shit, we do for you men

For men worldwide, free self improvement, for life
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Thanks man, appreciate your help and support. A big hug
 
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