Zealhouse07
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- Joined
- Dec 9, 2020
I’m torn right now between working on my life mission/purpose and going through a pick up/party lifestyle full time.
It was and is important for me to be able to express myself without inhibition to hot women I'm attracted to and not sound like a buffoon/be awkward. I tried to get that out of my system by sleeping/partying around in college and though was moderately successful, wasn’t satisfied. I can’t confidently go out to a bar at night or alone during the day and hit on women effectively (nor have I tried [YET!]).
The business I am pursuing right now is incredibly meaningful to me and equivalent to my “life purpose” but I feel like I would do it a disservice if every fiber of my being is not 100% invested to it. They say focus on the few, not the many, and I believe that focus is a superpower. He who chases two rabbits, catches none. Whatever you do, you have to be all in, in my opinion.
I don’t want to focus on women forever, but just for 1 – 2 years to get it out of my system and be able to say I had my fun, and develop myself personally. I don’t think I can do this later because it will be awkward when I’m in my late 20’s when I have more to lose, I'll be super busy, and also when I’m a business executive and have to protect my image/reputation.
What do I mean by “pick up” phase? I want to get rid of my approach/social anxiety via the approach anxiety program and going out and challenging myself to hit on women. I want to have a rotation or be friends with benefits with beautiful women and fulfill my sexual bucket list. I want to go on fun casual dates. I want to be able to go out 2/3 times a week and go home with at least 1 girl. I think this will also benefit me personally because it will give me immeasurable confidence, character growth, social skills, charisma, etc. There are so many accounts of guys who go through the AA program and feel like they are on top of the world and can do whatever the fuck they want. Another thought is that I want to have a good time before I sacrifice my personal comforts, time, and energy towards my life mission.
I wouldn't devote 24/7 to the pick up phase, I would still work a little to pay the bills.
On the other hand, I don’t know if the “pick up” phase is even worth pursing/meaningful, or if I should even want it. There’s always the risk of catching an STD. I also sometimes feel immature for wanting this and not “taking my life seriously” in the career/business sphere (though, like I said, I would work if I went through a “pick up” phase).
I always follow the Jeff Bezos regret minimization paradigm when I make decisions – I refuse to die with regret - but I’m not sure if I will regret not going through the “pick up” phase or just continuing with my business. Will I regret pursuing women, and not excellence? Or will I regret pursuing excellence too early and not women?
Maybe I’m also blinded to other options I’m not seeing, or one/many of the above beliefs and assumptions are wrong.
It was and is important for me to be able to express myself without inhibition to hot women I'm attracted to and not sound like a buffoon/be awkward. I tried to get that out of my system by sleeping/partying around in college and though was moderately successful, wasn’t satisfied. I can’t confidently go out to a bar at night or alone during the day and hit on women effectively (nor have I tried [YET!]).
The business I am pursuing right now is incredibly meaningful to me and equivalent to my “life purpose” but I feel like I would do it a disservice if every fiber of my being is not 100% invested to it. They say focus on the few, not the many, and I believe that focus is a superpower. He who chases two rabbits, catches none. Whatever you do, you have to be all in, in my opinion.
I don’t want to focus on women forever, but just for 1 – 2 years to get it out of my system and be able to say I had my fun, and develop myself personally. I don’t think I can do this later because it will be awkward when I’m in my late 20’s when I have more to lose, I'll be super busy, and also when I’m a business executive and have to protect my image/reputation.
What do I mean by “pick up” phase? I want to get rid of my approach/social anxiety via the approach anxiety program and going out and challenging myself to hit on women. I want to have a rotation or be friends with benefits with beautiful women and fulfill my sexual bucket list. I want to go on fun casual dates. I want to be able to go out 2/3 times a week and go home with at least 1 girl. I think this will also benefit me personally because it will give me immeasurable confidence, character growth, social skills, charisma, etc. There are so many accounts of guys who go through the AA program and feel like they are on top of the world and can do whatever the fuck they want. Another thought is that I want to have a good time before I sacrifice my personal comforts, time, and energy towards my life mission.
I wouldn't devote 24/7 to the pick up phase, I would still work a little to pay the bills.
On the other hand, I don’t know if the “pick up” phase is even worth pursing/meaningful, or if I should even want it. There’s always the risk of catching an STD. I also sometimes feel immature for wanting this and not “taking my life seriously” in the career/business sphere (though, like I said, I would work if I went through a “pick up” phase).
I always follow the Jeff Bezos regret minimization paradigm when I make decisions – I refuse to die with regret - but I’m not sure if I will regret not going through the “pick up” phase or just continuing with my business. Will I regret pursuing women, and not excellence? Or will I regret pursuing excellence too early and not women?
Maybe I’m also blinded to other options I’m not seeing, or one/many of the above beliefs and assumptions are wrong.