Date Log - Short Indian Girl from Hinge:
Date was at 2PM. I got to the coffee shop at 1:55 PM. It’s crowded as fuck in there and it looks like no open seats. Crap, not good.I texted her “Im here”, and then turn my head and see her walking towards me. We say hi to each other and I lean in for a hug. She is receptive to this. I mention that the place is too crowded so we should go to the boba shop two minutes down the road. She agrees, we head there. I ask her about how her day is going so far and she says good and that she was studying. I say the same thing. She also asks me my major.
We get to the boba shop. She asks if I have a usual order, I say no and that I will just try something new. We both order and I pay for us both. We get our drinks quite fast and we then sit down at a three seat table right next to each other but also still facing each other.
So I start asking about what she likes to do for fun. She says cooking, traveling, and dance.
She seems the most passionate about traveling so I ask her if she went anywhere recently and she said she went to California and that it was really nice. She also told me about places she wanted to visit like Australia. I mention in 2023 I went to Mexico and Japan. I talked about how in Japan there were a lot of culture shocks like no trashcans. We kind of bonded over that topic. She also asks me about my hobbies. I mention dance, cooking, and photography. She said she was also getting into photography and brought up traveling again. She showed me some pictures she took on her trip and I showed her some of my pictures too. I didn’t do my usual arm around her shoulder thing because it was still like 20 minutes into the date.
Bit of a silence here but I just bring up cooking. I let her talk a good bit about how she started helping her mom with cooking at like 6. I mention how I first started around a year post quarantine. We just talked about favorite foods and stuff like that. One mistake I think I made was being a slight bit too descriptive and saying that I have a hard time finding recipes cuz I am concerned about macros and Im big in the gym which led me to say some shit I probably shouldn’t. She ask me when I got into the gym and I say Fall 2022 because I made a lot of unhealthy choices over the summer so I wanted to fix it. I put a positive spin on it to recover. She doesn’t think much of it (or at least that is what I think). She talks about the stuff she likes to cook, then asks me and I just answer with stir fry.
Ok so this is the first part where I break the touch barrier. So I mention what I like to cook and then I say “oh I have some pictures” and she says she would like to see them. So she leans in and I show her and I get my arm around hers. I move it slightly around her shoulder/back area while I am scrolling my food folder to show her. Overall no resistance here, good stuff. She also sees that I bake and she was especially wowed by the fact I made cheesecake from scratch. She said she wants to learn how to make it sometime so I say we can do that together some time.
Move on from this part. We start talking a bit more about upbringing and just how we got to where we are in school. She mainly brought this up because during the travel convo I mentioned I am from California I think I got a bit too vulnerable and just talked about how toxic I thought my school was but she seemed to have had similar experiences. A lot of stuff I said she seemed to agree with too and not just a “yeah” and nod but she also talks about general toxicity she has dealt with especially among other indian students, esp in the more cultural dance focused clubs. My initial way of dealing with this situation was just making jokes about how my family can be toxic and we just laughed over stereotypes in the fam like that one person who beefing with everyone and the one person always asking for money. I almost got way too personal here about my family experiences so in a panic I steer the conversation towards more positive topics like clubs that we like to divert away from the dance clubs she said she left. I bring up the baking and dance clubs I am in. We both yap a bit about clubs. I bring up how I entered a competition to design merch for the club and that my design lost by like a few votes. She asks me if she can see the design so I pull out my phone again. I use this as another opportunity to break the touch barrier. This time I touch her shoulder first but quickly streamline down to her thigh and she is still showing no resistance. She leans in a little bit while I show her the design. I use the scrolling time to get closer. I show it to her and then pull away.
At this point we both finish our tea and I suggest we head out. We do just that. We get to the street crossing that can lead to my place. I pitch the pull but I kind of get nervous due to other people being around. So I didn’t push the agenda as hard as I should have. She didn’t have many logistical blockers either because she just said she was thinking about seeing a friend and that friend she was not sure was going to even show up. I just say screw it and hold her hand and walk her to where she wants to go. I thought it would be convenient that if I am not getting sex I could just get to the other side of campus so I can head over to the closely grocery store to get stuff for week’s meal prep. We just talk about whatever tbh mainly stuff about campus as we pass by certain locations. I get her to where she needs to go. I say I had a great time. She says she feels the same way. So I lean in and kiss her on the lips. End of Date
Reflections:
I haven’t been on a date in so fucking long I definitely got super rusty on my game plan. I tripped on my words a lot I still have no idea why I do that. Could just be cuz I have the horrible habit of talking too fast. I need to practice speaking a lot slower.
I was actually a lot more attracted to her than any of my past dates in October and November so I definitely was feeling some degree of pressure on myself to close her. There’s also the “holy shit I am on an actual date”, cuz literally 3 girls flaked on me before this (forgot to update the black chick, she flaked and I gave up on her for being way too difficult).
I also matched with her on Hinge back in Fall 2022 on my shit profile so I couldn’t get nearly as much compliance out of her as I could do now with some pictures switched out for better ones.
Mentioned this in the actual event log but being too vulnerable probably isn’t too good. Like mentioning I made poor diet choices at one point so I got into the gym because of that. Idk if that’s DLV, because after all I am 10x better looking now.
The family thing idk about, could be a good bonding topic with other brown girls and get them to be more vulnerable but I probably won’t do this with other girls since some girls refuse to date brown guys just cuz their families are toxic. I know women who are just totally single because of this.
I do feel like I did a good job making it feel truly like a date but I definitely didn’t push hard enough to come back to my place which was a mess up on my part. That’s definitely the worst thing I did.
Overall vibes of the date were good. She was a sweet girl. Didn’t seem too heavily comfort cuck. She was receptive to my touch. IDK If comfort cuck girls are like that where any sort of touch they are like “oh naw”.
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