How do I get over self limiting beliefs?

[Kronos1]

I've been out of college for a year or so, but I always felt like there were some cool factor to each person. Growing up from a Middle Eastern background I feel like I missed out on some of that and most of the guys I would see in my college hooking up were mainly white or black guys. I know that even if I'm at a disadvantage in the States. How do I get out of my head about self limiting beliefs and create my own vibe, aesthetic, or abundance mentality?

 

[SIGMA_1234]

By telling yourself that you're the man.

Sorry to be a douche but how we roll around here is that it's better to create a log detailing your consistent progress, then everyone else helps out.

We really can't give you any specific helpful advice because... I noticed you're new around here. And also we don't know if you're already got looks, what your social calibration looks like, and what your experience with girls has been yet.

 

[Kronos1]

Alright I'll jot some stuff down for a log.

 

[Zug]

You don't. At least not through some mental trick you practice in your apartment.

You need to start doing small things you find difficult, uncomfortable, or wildly incongruent with who you are. You can pay attention to how you're feeling AS you're doing the thing you identify as something you're incapable, and how you're still doing it anyway. As you do that the beliefs get weaker, and your self-confidence goes up. Repeat with things that are more difficult and more uncomfortable.

Eventually the self limiting beliefs become so incongruent with your experienced reality that they become ludicrous.

 

[Squilliam]

Eventually the self limiting beliefs become so incongruent with your experienced reality that they become ludicrous.

Yep this is the essence of it. You cannot logically convince yourself to unlearn a belief when your real world experiences are completely contradictory. Your brain reacts far more strongly to real world evidence.