Waffle_King
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- Jan 16, 2023
Advice would be extremely helpful, I'm not in a good place in life.
I'm 30 and I've never been laid. I've never had close friends. I foolishly moved across the country to a smallish city and now I hate every waking moment of my life.
(I'm seeing a psychiatrist but it doesn't help much).
I've been told I'm attractive most of my life but just cannot get laid to save my life.
I've lowered my standards so much that I've began swiping right on ugly/fat girls....still no matches.
The only hope I've ever had in life was about 3 months ago when I somehow matched with a pretty girl and managed to go on some dates with her.
I progressed things as quickly as I could and took it further each time, eventually getting her naked in the back seat of her car. (I don't drive for multiple reasons...I'm shocked she kept seeing me despite relying on her car for our dates).
I fingered her on multiple dates and even had my pecker in her mouth for 5 seconds (Couldn't stay hard due to medical/thyroid problems at the time).
Anytime I pushed for sex she would just tell me she was waiting to get an IUD/birth control implant put in first.
The day before we planned on having sex she broke up with me over text for no apparent reason. She literally told me she didn't know why but she wanted to stop seeing me. It killed me. I still think about spraying my brains all over the hood of her car at her place of work.
After a month of depression I decided to get back on the dating apps and try again. I'm getting nowhere, it's as if women decided unanimously that I'm not good enough to match with.
I just don't get it. How can I be told by virtually everyone that I'm attractive and yet bomb on dating apps? I've switch out my photos so many times, it truly doesn't matter what I do at this point.
The most success I've had when it comes to matching with hot chicks is when I was wearing a hat in all of my pics....am I doomed to start hatfishing girls now? I have a pretty bad receding hairline but keep it styled and cut all of the time.
I don't have what it takes to cold approach girls, I can't even make male friends. People treat me differently after about 3 minutes of talking to them, like they can sense that I'm lonely or weird or something.
Doesn't seem to matter how happy I come off as, if I tell jokes or try to be sociable. People don't like me after they talk to me. I'm kinda reserved and have very poor focus so I have to take unsafe amounts of stimulants just to have conversations (Overdose on caffiene daily in addition to max dose ADHD meds).
I have lost much of my desire to keep living at this point, my psyche is hanging by a thread.
*** Please don't be discouraged from giving me advice, what you say can't possibly make me hate life anymore than I do.
I've neglected everything in my life in the endless pursuit of getting laid, I have no goals or future because of this major problem.
I will not resort to prostitution.
I will not.
Don't try to convince me otherwise.
Just no.
Aside from that, is there anything I can do right now to help me get matches online?
There are no social events in this city, the only realistic way of getting laid is through dating apps.
City population of about 10k people, nearby is a much larger city but it's a chore to get there without a car.
My current avatar is the most accurate depiction of what I look like (where I'm holding a banana)
I'm 30 and I've never been laid. I've never had close friends. I foolishly moved across the country to a smallish city and now I hate every waking moment of my life.
(I'm seeing a psychiatrist but it doesn't help much).
I've been told I'm attractive most of my life but just cannot get laid to save my life.
I've lowered my standards so much that I've began swiping right on ugly/fat girls....still no matches.
The only hope I've ever had in life was about 3 months ago when I somehow matched with a pretty girl and managed to go on some dates with her.
I progressed things as quickly as I could and took it further each time, eventually getting her naked in the back seat of her car. (I don't drive for multiple reasons...I'm shocked she kept seeing me despite relying on her car for our dates).
I fingered her on multiple dates and even had my pecker in her mouth for 5 seconds (Couldn't stay hard due to medical/thyroid problems at the time).
Anytime I pushed for sex she would just tell me she was waiting to get an IUD/birth control implant put in first.
The day before we planned on having sex she broke up with me over text for no apparent reason. She literally told me she didn't know why but she wanted to stop seeing me. It killed me. I still think about spraying my brains all over the hood of her car at her place of work.
After a month of depression I decided to get back on the dating apps and try again. I'm getting nowhere, it's as if women decided unanimously that I'm not good enough to match with.
I just don't get it. How can I be told by virtually everyone that I'm attractive and yet bomb on dating apps? I've switch out my photos so many times, it truly doesn't matter what I do at this point.
The most success I've had when it comes to matching with hot chicks is when I was wearing a hat in all of my pics....am I doomed to start hatfishing girls now? I have a pretty bad receding hairline but keep it styled and cut all of the time.
I don't have what it takes to cold approach girls, I can't even make male friends. People treat me differently after about 3 minutes of talking to them, like they can sense that I'm lonely or weird or something.
Doesn't seem to matter how happy I come off as, if I tell jokes or try to be sociable. People don't like me after they talk to me. I'm kinda reserved and have very poor focus so I have to take unsafe amounts of stimulants just to have conversations (Overdose on caffiene daily in addition to max dose ADHD meds).
I have lost much of my desire to keep living at this point, my psyche is hanging by a thread.
*** Please don't be discouraged from giving me advice, what you say can't possibly make me hate life anymore than I do.
I've neglected everything in my life in the endless pursuit of getting laid, I have no goals or future because of this major problem.
I will not resort to prostitution.
I will not.
Don't try to convince me otherwise.
Just no.
Aside from that, is there anything I can do right now to help me get matches online?
There are no social events in this city, the only realistic way of getting laid is through dating apps.
City population of about 10k people, nearby is a much larger city but it's a chore to get there without a car.
My current avatar is the most accurate depiction of what I look like (where I'm holding a banana)