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Lex' AA log

Day 8 repetition.
Yesterday I was taking a flight back to my home country in Western Europe.
I would spend the entire day sleeping upon arrival.
Anyway, am continuing the programm today.
Repetition of day 8 till I don't feel shame anymore or barely.
That way the AA Programm is gonna take longer but be hopefully more efficient.
 
Day 8
Managed to complete day 8.
Finally completed day 8....
Dressed more seriously (nice suit) when goin out the street. Tried some weed to experiment a bit zith my mental attitude through drugs. Just weed.
Either I wasn't aware of the women's reaction or interpreted it differently but I used to be way calmer when approaching girls. One girl would laugh or smile at me after replying to my questions.
Took me more than 25 approaches today.
 
lexluther_999 said:
I tend to be aggressivewhen approaching and have a way too serious look.
Friends female and male would regularly point out that I am approaching people in a way to harsh manner. That is, I should learn to calmly approach and ask someone when on parties instead of almost yelling at them.
I tend to be rather mouthy when doing any approaches. I might be talking way too loudly and look way too serious.
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Being calm during the interaction is important, but that all stems from confidence.
As you get more volume in i think you will learn how to mellow out a bit.
 
Day 9
Chris citation: ' In the end, "what you say" doesn't even matter compared to how you look and how you say it.'
The most important skillet that I am slowly starting to realize myself.
Went to a small city today.
Most of the restaurants still have some Form of restriction or are closed.
It was a bit weird to ask for that just any women on the street.
I would focus on the non hazardly /non hectical moving targets.
It took me a lot of time to accomplish asking four girls. I couldn't repeat it 4 times.
Also I couldn't ask the girl after she replied that she didn't know where the restaurant was. This was really too much.
Its really pushing unnecessarily but I am starting to understand the concept of the programm.
Social freedom by allowing yourself behaviors that might lack cultural interpretation and might be regarded as either nuts or high in confidence thus higher status but than it really needs to be brought over by high levels of confidence and some signals of status
Seriously the questions start to become worse and worse.
I admit having failed today as I didn't manage to approach the first girl.
I did approach the second however.
Anyways, I feel like having to either go over every week and then analyzing the failures or trying every time to make little by little progress and spending a day on meditating and cognitive behavioral analysis to handle my opened woundd

Honestly I couldn't ask
 
Took one day off to work on tinder.
Have a scheduled date for tommorrow.
Bought the book you can't afford the luxury of a negative thought.
Recently realized through a few years of self therapy the necessity of a life philosophy propagated/advised by a bunch of psychologists in order to have a value system for the assessment of valuable life outcomes.
https://youtu.be/RZRLDoQMd3g
 
Took a day of today for a date. Managed to do some of the drills in the programm. Will be back on track tommorrow.
 
Day 9
The last few days have been really hard. I had to take off in order to focus on my certification exams.
I would barely approach any women during that time. I must admit that even thinking about this topic made me barelly be able to focus on my examination and job. I was literally in a minor depressive episode for the last few days. I could literally feel the drwback from from doing this.
Or maybe it was just the depression.
Anyways, I managed to accomplish the task . It took me 9 approaches.
2 of the three girls i appraoched for the last question would not reply but run away disturbed. I really dont know what it is. The third girl actually was smilling after replying to my question.
I think this AA programm can really stab holes in your body especially if you experienced trauma from past social stigma. It is putting all the bad ideas about yourself up again.
I decided to do the simpler version for now and only work some days on the hard tasks. Like repeating the task five times. I really couldnt do it.
Luckily I managed to aproach the first girl I saw today , otherwise i would have failed the task again today.
 
Day 10.
Managed to complete day 20 after having fucked up the previous day.
Man... It was really hard.
A depressive episode kicked in recently reminding me of all the past failures and my hometown is really not the place to stick to at all cost.
Been going to another small city to do the programm for today.
Approached 9 women. All relatively young.
I was neae a movie theater before I asked them the question so that it seemed easier and more plausible.
I simply wasn't able to do the random asking without reference to the place.
One tip I would allways advise is to dress as good as possible.
Am trying to jump into the 40 days of discipline from Victor Pride before he went slightly off track.
It makes things definitely way easier to start the day like that.
Approaching was better and I felt way more secure.
Being able to act like interest din the girl was still not easy given that my entire life's success with women was based on playing not interested at the start.
In that sense it took me really a lot in order to complete it today
I did not do the challenge I must admit.
The first girl was easy.
Second as well.
The third question was really a bit hard but I managed to do it and repeat the entire ccycle 2 times consecutively.
Agiqn in one case the girl would smile.
The other simply felt scarred and tried to leave.
I don't know what that is and how I am supposed to play the innocent guy here.
Anyhow I am getting sometimes pissed by this.
In one case I had to ask a question forefront before asking here what time it is.
I managed to get a girl to show me the fire ti on and then I asked her for the time and direction of a specific location but only once I felt safe.
That is, once I got the vibe that she is okay with that.
I think this is a very important aspect of any approach even though I'm just a beginner here.
 
Don't stress too much. Day 10 is a tough one and weeds people out, as does Day 11. I remember asking this one hot girl in a teen-dominated store about movie recs. She was just confounded. The cashier was like, Sir do you need help??? Just push on, don't introspect too much if you can help it.
 
Day 10 ( trying the challenge)
NO t enough girls outside to ask the question.
Repeated it three times though. It worked out better though.
I must admit that it helped me to meditate a bit and drink a little before I went to do the drils today.
Didn*t manage to approach these girls 5 times for each of the questions, but i managed to getting more relaxed when doing this.
 
Day 11
I continued straight onto driils of day 11.
asking for cell phones.
I approached in total 9 women in order to complete one cycle. The challenge was really a bit harder this time as you really expereince her realizing that you are trying to flirt with her....
Most of them would smile in a slightly ahamed way I guess.( or horny) Anyway getting more and more used to overcoming the rejections respectively not seeing them as a threat anymore.
Even though i wish had done the challneges as well of doing it five times it was honestly getting a bit too late an most stores are closed.
Yes I know it doesnt but i still dont feel comfy enough to make myself a fool. But i should get used to it.
 
Do every challenge. They are there for a reason. Not everyone can complete all the challenges, but they do push your progress even farther.

Highly advocate for doing them
 
lexluther_999 said:
Do every challenge. They are there for a reason. Not everyone can complete all the challenges, but they do push your progress even farther.

Highly advocate for doing them
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AGREE.

The challenges are extra growth points.

Honestly the days that felt the most gratifying were the ones where I did the challenge.
 
Day 12 (failed)
Didn't manage to complete the challenge.
Today I was really not feeling in the mood.
At least I wanted to be honest.
I k ow that's not an excuse.
I approached 4 girls and 3 of them got really scarred because it was midnight.
In conclusion I did not complete the task of asking for a candle store while saying that I am a sweet guy...
 
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