Zug
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- Dec 7, 2021
Squilliam said:Zug said:This really seems like a convoluted way of asking public permission to not do something you didn't want to do anyway.
You're right. After doing the first day of the AA program and making myself unbearably anxious and dreadful, I don't want to do this.
As I mentioned, GLL said that guys with moderate to severe social anxiety shouldn't be doing the program until social anxiety is worked on.
So for now, I'm going to continue socializing with women in other environments, like in the rock climbing gym, because the street is way too intimidating for me right now, and I'm pretty sure I reinforced my fears.
Every time you run away from something, you are actively reinforcing that fear.
I'm more than willing to believe it is possible that someone isn't ready for the AA program, because the stress of it exceeds their ability to recover and adapt within the typical SRA model. Even in that case, your goal would be a program that has a goal of getting you ready for the AA program. If you followed some workout program where the first workout was to squat 90lbs, but you're incapable of doing that - FINE. Then you need to find a program that is capable of getting your squat to 90. The last thing you want to do is tell yourself 'squatting just isn't for me'.
Its understandable that you're so unadapted that you're not capable of doing it yet, but it's not ok to use that as an excuse to not work on improving your weakness. Create your own program that is going to get you ready for AA. Your day 1 can be the last thing you did, your day 30 can be the start of the AA program. Create a progression between that day 1 and 30. It is ok to be weak, not ready, or unable; but it is not ok to not try to fix the weakness.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YhtwTe2G5e0