Solid day of hustle. Lotta work, lotta fun.
Up early, at my first client call at 830, in Williamsburg. One of my agency owner clients. This was a powerful deep dive session, done on his rooftop overlooking the NYC skyline.
Next, ran over to do a hour long consult, with a founder I find interesting. I went, purely to give value, and learn more about him. He ended up asking to join IronWill - I didn't pitch him, but this is a biz win. As we hung out in his place, his housemate, who is an actor on the HBO show The Gilded Age, was rehearsing for their next episode.
That was a bit of a flex ;-)
Next, hung out with my brother Joe of DatingUnchained:
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Very kindly, Joe took some photos of me. I didn't ask, but my friend of many years helped me out, which is why I am gonna plug him in this post right here. Thanks, Joe!
After all that, it was time to get to work on myself.
I had a Dante coaching session, my 3rd this month, and got some solid work done.
The first set I did, was this gorgeous Iranian girl, who stopped, loved the validation of course, and then exchanged a fake number with me. The learning here, was the sets need WAY more man to woman energy, and to be WAY more polarising. Let's keep it real: I'd rather they split, than waste my time with fake numbers. Be masculine and a leader, or get cucked.
Here, the issue is, my sets just don't have vibe, I'm not using the techniques that would allow me to generate real emotion.
The lower your SMV, the less you can "be yourself" and just be social and calibrated.
And the more you have to really slap them with techniques and tricks, and make them feel.
Otherwise, it's just like what has happened the past 2 weeks - endless fake numbers.
The next, was a really hot chick from Iceland. As above, she absorbed the validation, while not really giving any depth in her answers, and not really being engaged. I did call it out, but she was quite a nice woman and was pleasantly going on with it. Turns out, she was a flight attendant, was in NYC for 3 hrs, and was getting off shortly. She enjoyed the ego boost, exchanged her number, and won't be back most likely.
The next two sets, were blowouts. I battled a little on the first, but she wouldn't engage. I battled firmly and strongly on the other, but her blowout was very strong and harsh - simply way outside my market, I was a "hell no" for her.
Finding a gal who will chat and be in a genuine romantic interaction, is like finding a needle in a haystack. It happened once, miraculously, during the past few weeks of day game.
"Don't have high expectations. Your SMV and base value is too low to do well here. But outside of the US, you will find the occasional miracle. I have to be honest with you, so you don't get your hopes up"
-Dante
FINALLY, some damn honesty in this space.
I would rather be outwardly told the truth, than be misled for years by the swathes of coaches and mentors I had going through this game.
I am glad Dante is honest with me. We know the facts. If I had even a minuscule shred of SMV and physical looks, I'd have seen it in the apps, or in approaches.
There IS still a way to create outcomes if your looks are garbage and you're in the 4/5 range in the eyes of woman. Sheer brass balls and relentlessness.
With enough sheer grinding, you eventually meet a chick who can look past poor looks and SMV, and can listen to what you're communicating, understand you are human too, and can be persuaded to be open to getting to know you. In 200+ dates, I did see one or two, who were open to getting to know me.
I think I
may now at the stage The Bastard was at, when he got to the point he was unable to compete on the market anymore. Like that legend, I'm glad for the outcomes I did create the first few years! Getting priced out the market, is ultimately coming for us all. You have to do what you can, with what you've got, before your time is up. Feels like, my year was this year, looking at what sort of quality I got in Mexico & the USA.
And I am sure inner peace will follow.
I hope we as a forum can embrace truth telling & honesty and push back on pieces of shit who straight up lie to Low SMV men in particular.
It IS possible to get outcomes. But it will be 1000 x harder, you'll have to go to great, great lengths, and it's ghosting, flaking, and next to no retention. As well as very low quality more often than not.
...But if you stay in it for long enough, while your product is able to get something, you'll have the possibility of finding a miracle.
The more you read my posts, and actually know the truth of how this works. Plus, it makes it that much harder for you to be misled. Most won't drop their ego, and will keep telling themselves a dream about things working out. Truth is, it takes an incredibly strong person to gut up and accept the realities of the market place and do the work anyway.
We all have a choice with how we spend our life. You can fight back, or just stay in the slow lane and rot.
Back tomorrow.
-MAC
