Ravi, Year 4: Self-Improvement Log - Data-Driven, Incremental Growth [FAMILY TRIGGERS]

[AskTheDom]

Surprised by this. I'm in a group chat with some other daygamers and from what I hear daygame in Poland is hell - chicks will not hook up easily. These are seasoned daygamers that were doing well in other countries. It's just a small reference set of daygamers though so I'm not sure.

Probably they are all in warsaw and are bad/average at daygame - what "doing well" means in other countries? I'm sorry but most of people I saw that claimed to be "good" at game was mediocre to be gentle.

 

[Crisis_Overcomer]

I would say, that interaction, when I locked eyes with her walking back from cold approach, was the most raw physical attraction for a girl I have felt in my fucking life. It knocked my fucking socks off.

And that's exactly your problem with cold approach. You seem to expect all approaches to be magical like that.

I was listening to your approaches from yesterday. In neutral/OKish set, you psyched yourself out and didn't even try to go for the close.

That's not how CA works man. A girl that is enthusiastic is almost always a troll. If you have tons of positive reactions you're either a huge fish in a tiny pond, you approach girls that are way below you in terms of looks, your volume is shit, or you just lie.

You need to make peace with the fact that 80% of the girls you approach will be neutral and a little bit skeptical.

I'm happy about the story you shared. But I'm now worried you will think, "That's how it should be." No. That's not how it works.

 

[AskTheDom]

And that's exactly your problem with cold approach. You seem to expect all approaches to be magical like that.

I was listening to your approaches from yesterday. In neutral/OKish set, you psyched yourself out and didn't even try to go for the close.

That's not how CA works man. A girl that is enthusiastic is almost always a troll. If you have tons of positive reactions you're either a huge fish in a tiny pond, you approach girls that are way below you in terms of looks, your volume is shit, or you just lie.

You need to make peace with the fact that 80% of the girls you approach will be neutral and a little bit skeptical.

I'm happy about the story you shared. But I'm now worried you will think, "That's how it should be." No. That's not how it works.

The enthusiastic "YESS DADDY" girl set will happens once in a while, more often if you a giga chad, but even there, it's hard.
All of us that have been involved in dg we called it "a gift from the DG gods" to give an idea how how often it happens.

For that, you don't need "game" just to not fuck up.

Then there are the majority of sets which will be NO girls (bf-husband, not into you, not into dating, mentally destroyed by their ex)

Game is played with "maybe" girls, good game and luck will tilt to yes

 

[Manly Cockfellow]

A girl that is enthusiastic is almost always a troll.

I actually think it works the other way even more often:

A girl that is trolling you is almost always enthusiastic

Girls that aren't interested don't waste the time and energy it takes to test/troll you
(they just continue on with their lives)

I admit it takes rock solid inner game to let her tests and trolling bounce off of you like bullets off of Superman's chest, but when you do it, and when you see her go, within a matter of seconds, from acting like a troll to acting like Superman's eager little submissive, it's a magical thing that you will never forget

All it takes to cause this switch is refusing to let her behavior affect your sense of security and confidence in yourself
(which is the whole point of the test: to make sure you're not a wimp)

Sometimes all it takes is saying no
https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=42115#p42115

Obviously you will have to feel this confidence and security at a deep subconscious level

Easier said than done I know, but also something I truly believe anyone can achieve with enough time and with the right practices, such as healing through intentional (i.e. purposeful) use of psychedelics, lots of meditation, lots of therapy to fix attachment issues, and another one of which might be the new tool Quintus showed you, hypnosis!

Seems like a very generous guy and glad you were open to trying something new

 

[Self Improver]

Amazing progress Ravi. I recently watched the podcast that you had with Andy, it's the one where you're currently in Hungary I believe.

You might not know it, but you're motivating guys that you might not even know, like myself.

Keep it up big bro!

Damn thank you bro, that is AWESOME TO READ

THANK YOU

Ravi

 

[Self Improver]

THE IRONWILL PROJECT: WEEK 31

MONDAY 31t July

ACTIONS

(1) MONEY:
-Daily client work
-Content: 5 Long Form / 15 reels
-FB: 15 posts scheduled
-MasterMind Week 2 w/ V
-Offer work: High Ticket / MM / Info
-Bootcamp planning: Supporting Scotty & Ketan with the bootcamp Scotty is putting on, me and Ketan assisting, talks on self improvement, etc
Others: Substack, Life Admin

(2) MUSCLES:
-Gym: Chest & Triceps (DONE)
-OMAD, DHA, Supps (DONE)
-Stretching & Movement (DONE)
-CT – 5m (DONE)

(3) MINDSET:
-N / A: This is content day. Work only.

Notes:

Feel really abundant, in flow, and like I healed a lot the past few days.

Shoutout Quintus for the hypnosis. Gave me a lift, man.

Appreciate it.

Watched the videos from Manly. Fuckin spot on. This is what I describe when I talk about how something just feels wrong. I never feel at ease when talking to women. With men, I feel at ease and at one, and its why I have so many friends and a great life. With women, something went wrong inside. These videos, explained it a lot. And helped me understand what is going on inside me. Broken attachment. Damn. Thank you Manly, you changed the world with that one. I will study this shit and work on it.

I already feel better just understanding this.

Time to work boyos.

We will succeed and we will get rich, live a crazy life, and leave a legacy.

KEEP HAMMERING

MAC

 

[Self Improver]

BIZ VLOG - GOING HIGHER LEVEL

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AafNJ_5fkrI

Offer doc will be posted for copy critique

Thanks
R

 

[Self Improver]

THE IRONWILL PROJECT: WEEK 31

MONDAY 31t July

ACTIONS

(1) MONEY:
-Daily client work
-Content: 5 Long Form / 15 reels
-FB: 15 posts scheduled
-MasterMind Week 2 w/ V
-Offer work: High Ticket / MM / Info
-Bootcamp planning: Supporting Scotty & Ketan with the bootcamp Scotty is putting on, me and Ketan assisting, talks on self improvement, etc
Others: Substack, Life Admin

(2) MUSCLES:
-Gym: Chest & Triceps (DONE)
-OMAD, DHA, Supps (DONE)
-Stretching & Movement (DONE)
-CT – 5m (DONE)

(3) MINDSET:
-N / A: This is content day. Work only.

Notes:

Feel really abundant, in flow, and like I healed a lot the past few days.

Shoutout Quintus for the hypnosis. Gave me a lift, man.

Appreciate it.

Watched the videos from Manly. Fuckin spot on. This is what I describe when I talk about how something just feels wrong. I never feel at ease when talking to women. With men, I feel at ease and at one, and its why I have so many friends and a great life. With women, something went wrong inside. These videos, explained it a lot. And helped me understand what is going on inside me. Broken attachment. Damn. Thank you Manly, you changed the world with that one. I will study this shit and work on it.

I already feel better just understanding this.

Time to work boyos.

We will succeed and we will get rich, live a crazy life, and leave a legacy.

KEEP HAMMERING

MAC

EVENING CHECKIN:

Worked hard man. Its 1230, gonna go to bed.

Grinding.

-Daily client work (DONE)
-Content: 5 Long Form / 15 reels (HALF DONE - Reels, I shot and this is set. Long form, I have shot on Sat, done the titles, edited the vlog, but didnt upload, do thumbnails, descriptions, etc)
-FB: 15 posts scheduled (FAIL)
-MasterMind Week 2 w/ V (DONE)
-Offer work: High Ticket / MM / Info (FAIL)
-Bootcamp planning: Supporting Scotty & Ketan with the bootcamp Scotty is putting on, me and Ketan assisting, talks on self improvement, etc (SOME DONE)
Others: Substack, Life Admin (FAIL)

(2) MUSCLES:
-Gym: Chest & Triceps (DONE)
-OMAD, DHA, Supps (DONE)
-Stretching & Movement (DONE)
-CT – 5m (DONE)

(3) MINDSET:
-N / A: This is content day. Work only.

Notes:

Did my best man. Was hard work.

Put hours and hours in. Couldnt get it all done.

Will be back tomorrow.

The girl I approached, I messaged her today, she has sent 4 messages, which I've not read yet. Cool. Would really enjoy going on a date with this person, but won't get my hopes up.

Will just keep working every day!

MAC

 

[Self Improver]

THE IRONWILL PROJECT: WEEK 31

TUES AUGUST 1st

ACTIONS

MONEY
-Client checkins & Chew / Myo
-Content: Finish LF (5 Thumbnails, Descriptions, Uploads Scheduled)
-Short Form: 10-15 on YT (Already blasted FB & IG yesterday lol) [Meeting my content accountability for the week, ahead of my weekly call with Radical, Crisis, Hank Moody, Paw, and when he eventually returns, The Dom]
-Offer Work: High Ticket Doc / Medium Tier / Info Product

MUSCLES
-Gym: Chest & Biceps (DONE)
-Ice Bath (5m)
-Nutrition: Hit good protein & kcals today

MINDSET
-CA: 10 Sets
-Online: Do Process
-Study: Learn more about broken attachment, review posts from Manly, watch videos

Notes:

Currently, I have 1 lead, which was the stunning woman with the tattoos. She is sending me a bunch of voice notes daily, which makes me feel good.

This is such a rare experience for me, that they have some interest in getting to know me.

I love it when they express some kinda sincere interest. Super rare stuff. Happened ONCE, so far, that was Lou.

I am watching the videos from Adam Lane Smith. This has been something of a revelation for me (thanks Manly). It explains a lot. Why, I always feel a certain level of unease with anything woman, why I have this tension inside me at the thought of the subject, why my experience has been quite difficult and often left me feeling like something is not right inside me. When I describe things like, "faulty wiring", in this log, it feels a lot like what Adam Lane Smith describes.

This, I think, I am understanding how to resolve.

It feels very similar to the Letting Go technique, where we accept and sink into this inner tension, and feel it, allowing it to wash away.

Very good stuff.

Another day, another opportunity to be better.

MAC

 

[Self Improver]

THE IRONWILL PROJECT: WEEK 31

TUES AUGUST 1st

ACTIONS

MONEY
-Client checkins & Chew / Myo (DONE)
-Content: Finish LF (5 Thumbnails, Descriptions, Uploads Scheduled) (DONE)
-Short Form: 10-15 on YT (Already blasted FB & IG yesterday lol) [Meeting my content accountability for the week, ahead of my weekly call with Radical, Crisis, Hank Moody, Paw, and when he eventually returns, The Dom] (DONE)
-Offer Work: High Ticket Doc / Medium Tier / Info Product (FAIL)

MUSCLES
-Gym: Chest & Biceps (DONE)
-Ice Bath (5m)
-Nutrition: Hit good protein & kcals today (DONE)

MINDSET
-CA: 10 Sets (PART DONE: Got out, later than usual, less volume, could only do 2 sets. 0/2)
-Online: Do Process (DONE, no leads atm)
-Study: Learn more about broken attachment, review posts from Manly, watch videos (FAIL)
MAC

Evening checkin:

Got in last night after approaching, around 7pm. Was SMOKED from the hustle.

Lay in my bed listening to podcasts. Couldnt sleep until midnight. Brain wouldnt shut off.

Got up, feeling fine.

Today, did my client checkins, and then V went on a looooooooooooooong thread about business, which is very valuable but eats up a lot of time.

Did a client call.

Now, finishing some client work, and then,

The girl, my current lead, is down to meet me on Friday. I'm gonna pin her down and give her the deets. I'll ask her to come meet me, we'll go for a walk, drink some wine, and chill. I'll try to pull, and will bring the best vibe I can. I'll leave it with the game gods.

 

[Self Improver]

THE IRONWILL PROJECT: WEEK 31

WED AUGUST 2nd

ACTIONS

(1) MONEY:
-Client Work (IN PROGRESS)
-Client Calls (DONE)
-Offer Work: To start soon...........
-Life Admin: This is overdue as fuck. Will crack into it.

(2) MUSCLES:
-Rest day
-OMAD (DONE)
-Ice Bath - 5m (DONE)

(3) MINDSET:
-CA: 10 Sets

Notes:

Sinking into abundance and wholeness.

Feeling good, flowing with life.

Enjoying the process.............Like I promised my mens group I will do!

Ravi

 

[Self Improver]

THE IRONWILL PROJECT: WEEK 31

WED AUGUST 2nd

ACTIONS

(1) MONEY:
-Client Work (DONE)
-Client Calls (DONE)
-Offer Work: To start soon...........(FAIL)
-Life Admin: This is overdue as fuck. Will crack into it. (SOME DONE, SOME FAIL)

(2) MUSCLES:
-Rest day
-OMAD (DONE)
-Ice Bath - 5m (DONE)

(3) MINDSET:
-CA: 10 Sets (DONE)

Notes:

Sinking into abundance and wholeness.

Feeling good, flowing with life.

Enjoying the process.............Like I promised my mens group I will do!

Ravi

So, did my best, worked hard.

Ultimately, time got the better of me.

Will rise early tomorrow and try again.

Offer work: still lingering on. UGH.

V want me doing like a group mastermind. He wants me doing a full product launch, multiple-week seqeunce and buildup.

I also led the call for his MasterMind today. Awesome. He trusts me with his own product, which speaks volumes.

Otherwise, hustled man.

CA:

1 kinda awkward, first set
2 this was a non viable target - trans person.
3 she was not investing at all, wouldn’t ask any questions, mild attempt at sexualising or creating tension didn’t work, so I dipped. Two girls sitting by drinking next to bud also watched the entire set and were commenting on it. As I walked off I heard them say, ‘I think she had a boyfriend’ lol
4 she was hot, but not investing at all, I think it’s cause I started too platonic, fuck! Feedback appreciated. Should I have stimmed??
5 HARD BLOWOUT - very brutal (I was a bit embarrassed actually, she also started recording, bitch)
6 another blowout, she was going to get her train
7 super stand offish, don’t think she understood what I was saying

Self Analysis:

1 - Opener, far too bunched together. Not a good vibe. Not grounded. She had a BF.
2 - Trans person. They had a very extravagant style from the back, but when I saw them, I respectfully ejected.
3 - Opener, still a bit bunched together. She vibed a little. No investment, by which I mean, didnt ask me shit, didn't hook. One word answers. She eventually asked me where I am from. I kept hammering and this was lame. Shit set. Assumptions and assumptions, but it doesnt vibe. Pure one way interaction.
4 - Platonic as FUCK, no intent, lame as fuck. Tonality, weak as fuck. Seeking rapport. Not good. Teased a little. Couldnt get her to invest. I should have talked slower, teased, brought some sort of spice. Lame fucking sets today. UGH.

The rest not really recorded
5 - HARD blowout. Bitch. She then started taking pics and recording me. That's her right. They are allowed to be like this. That's day game.
6 - Blowout, due to waiting for train
7 - She was just a miserable bitch, I did this as a hail mary, lol

Tonality: Lame as fuck today.

Vibe / Energy: Fuckin lame.

Notes:

Just need to speak slower.

Need to find ways to give them less and tease them into investing more.

I dont like wandering around and having platonic conversations with these people everyday.

Need to bring something....

I'd rather make them feel, and get them to fuck off if they cant handle it, than just engage in weak sessions like this

Next session:

Push more - tease, make them opt in more, legit nothing to lose, it's rare to pick up a single contact anyway, most days its zero. Better to actually strike out but play with intent.

Leads wise: online, is super slow. Swiping on all the apps daily, I may get 1 match a day. Of those who respond, we're talking gold dust. It's rare. I still have one lead, that gal I talked about above. She's agreed to a date on Friday. Will be a great time........if she shows, lol.

Just gotta keep hustling man.

Bed shortly. Up at 5am tomorrow grinding in the gym.

Tomorrow, gotta get this life admin done, get my offers sorted, and fuckin push.

Day game, will be better tomorrow. Tease and disqualify more. Tonality must be better.

Bad tonality, leads to fuckery of the highest order.

They are already not investing for shit, and are barely ever attracted.

Pancake has banned me from using the term low SMV males but I just wanna say..............FUCK YOU for banning my number 1 theory Pancake lol

The God DAMN MOUSE even got himself a lay last night

When, if I ever get my first day game lay, this will be 13 years of approaching, literally 7000+ women into the void lul

I was thinking about the old days, before I came to Europe and my dating life went to shit, how it used to feel to go on dates, how it used to feel getting the odd lay, this is an experience I now can only just remember, the feelings, the sensations, they were so interesting. I hope I can feel those things again one day.

Just don't know.

Is what it is!

MAC

 

[filbko]

5 - HARD blowout. Bitch. She then started taking pics and recording me. That's her right. They are allowed to be like this. That's day game.

How do you react when a girl is vicious and insults you without any reason? Do you treat her the same way she treats you?

"They are allowed to be like this." ---------->>> Yes, they are, but in that case, you are also allowed to be like them.

 

[Self Improver]

5 - HARD blowout. Bitch. She then started taking pics and recording me. That's her right. They are allowed to be like this. That's day game.

How do you react when a girl is vicious and insults you without any reason? Do you treat her the same way she treats you?

"They are allowed to be like this." ---------->>> Yes, they are, but in that case, you are also allowed to be like them.

OK so in general, I can't advise rules, best approach is always what Andy says

However, for me, as an individual, as a guy who is on the journey like you are, my own approach:

-If they physically assault me, I will defend myself. If they assault me for just saying hello, which has happened a few times in clubs, I return the same energy back. A few weeks ago, I said hello to a girl, and complimented her dress. Her friend walked up to me and slapped me really hard. I slapped her back. She backed off.

In the past, when this used to happen, I just used to take it. Not any more. If a chick assaults me, I'll defend myself and use appropriate and reasonable force.

Anything else, it's fair game.

They can be verbally abusive, and do any manner of very mean shit.

I give NO FUCKS.

Mentally strong people in life do not tear others down, this is a sign of a weak-minded person, which most women are.

They can record me, take pictures of me, spread bullshit about me, all day.

Call me whatever they want. I don't care.

At the end of the day, I am just a man trying to find a companion. I will not apologise for this, and refuse to accept that I have to live this life alone, for no reason.

Unless they can put a bullet in my head, I will be out here grinding daily. They will have to learn to deal with it and recognise my ass is gangster. It takes a lot to stop people like me.........lol...........

MAC

 

[AskTheDom]

Pancake has banned me from using the term low SMV males but I just wanna say..............FUCK YOU for banning my number 1 theory Pancake lol

You should thank him because in my books that count as negative self talk, and you know what happens if you do that…

 

[AskTheDom]

How do you react when a girl is vicious and insults you without any reason? Do you treat her the same way she treats you?

In general, taking photos of someone and posting online it’s against the law in Europe, assuming macdaddy didn’t do anything weird so she had reason to “record evidence”

Now, a woman slapping you it’s a crime, I wouldn’t slap back because reality is if I slap her back in the heat of the moment, she might meet God and I might go in jail.

But remember, low Iq people will always act low Iq, no need to lower yourself to these levels

 

[pancakemouse]

Pancake has banned me from using the term low SMV males but I just wanna say..............FUCK YOU for banning my number 1 theory Pancake lol

You should thank him because in my books that count as negative self talk, and you know what happens if you do that…

It's not just negative self-talk, it's legitimately untrue. We put his photos on https://www.photoeval.com recently. His best photo got a 6.3, my best got a 5.0.

MAC LITERALLY more attractive than me and wider appeal.

 

[Crisis_Overcomer]

When, if I ever get my first day game lay, this will be 13 years of approaching, literally 7000+ women into the void lul

Dude, relax.

You haven't been approaching 13 years in a row, most of your approaches were crappy, and weren't you at like 5,000-6,000 approaches a few weeks ago?

As mentioned 84932849032483248320 times, lots of room to grow. Plus, you must make peace with the fact that your early attempts were like trying to build muscle with pink weights.

 

[Self Improver]

THE IRONWILL PROJECT: WEEK 31

THUR AUGUST 3RD

ACTIONS

(1) MONEY:
-Client Work
-Offer Work:
-Life Admin:

(2) MUSCLES:
-Gym: Legs & Shoulders (DONE)
-OMAD (DONE)
-Ice Bath - 5m

(3) MINDSET:
-CA: 10 Sets
-Debrief
-Online process
-Study Game

Others:
-Weekly Content Call

Notes:

Keep working.

Pics attached.

BW: 187.1lbs. All time low.

End of each session, I do some extra work for biceps, shoulders, and glutes, to add to the total weekly volume for these muscle groups.

Body progress pics on Sunday.

Let's keep working.

Body is too close to average rn.



Do not look like I lift yet + facial fat.

Need to shred 15 more lbs IMO, and then gain muscle. This will ofc take many years.

Date, seems on for tomorrow. She is replying, super pretty IMO, and seems like a great gal. I am always a bit sceptical, every date the past 10 months I've been ghosted after. I won't be upset if this happens again. She was still nice enough to at least reply to me seems to be open to hanging out. Gotta just enjoy these little things in this fucked up game. You need to keep a little faith in women, despite how hard that truly is, and the inventive ways they will find to disappoint you, lol.

Back to self improvement.

Back to the hustle.

Speak later.

-R

 

[Thrice]

We put his photos on https://www.photoeval.com recently. His best photo got a 6.3, my best got a 5.0.

hey Mac, can you the countries of the girls who gave you higher ratings? This is a way to find out where your looks appeal the most