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soaringbitestrike

soaringbitestrike

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So I feel like girls almost unanimously say how important is that a guy knows how to use it (his dick). I still struggle to fully comprehend what this means. I know that girls want a guy who is dominant, I know foreplay is important, and that you should be able to keep a steady rhythm for the most part. Are there any other general tips that I should know? I've been reading the articles by Andy but he doesn't have too much in regards to actually being good at sex?

Also, is there any credible guides/books/articles that you guys recommend on this stuff ?
 
soaringbitestrike said:
So I feel like girls almost unanimously say how important is that a guy knows how to use it (his dick). I still struggle to fully comprehend what this means. I know that girls want a guy who is dominant, I know foreplay is important, and that you should be able to keep a steady rhythm for the most part. Are there any other general tips that I should know? I've been reading the articles by Andy but he doesn't have too much in regards to actually being good at sex?

Also, is there any credible guides/books/articles that you guys recommend on this stuff ?
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I honestly think its funny how little there is in terms of useful content for this when it must be one of the most demanded skills. I looked everywhere for stuff due to my background. There just isn't that much that's actually worth studying

Kissing - I've found nothing particularly useful for makeouts short of maybe softcore lesbian porn, and even that is 99% acting

Dirty Talk / Dominance - Stirling Cooper has really good courses on Dirty Talk and Dominance Escalation, about as good as this content gets. Dirty talk really takes a lot of practice to do well. IMO its one of the most useful and rarest bedroom skills for either sex

BDSM / Kink - Kink University has a lot of good content on sex and kink related topics, and also a lot of useless content, but there are some absolute gems there

Oral - There are quite a few useful guides on oral in many places, there were several porn guides from the 90s and early 2000s that are still good

Theory - Sex God method has some decent stuff on overall theory and so on

Dick game - There is not that much on particulars of dick game that are great. Porn is absolutely awful for this. Stirling Cooper has some great content on this, but its dispersed everywhere and not packaged into anything easily consumable. There's a couple video guides on positions and so on, but most of that stuff is useless. The angle of your dick needs to be rubbing again the G spot, regardless of the position, if you hope to accomplish anything. Creative use of pillows or wedges can be an absolute gamechanger.

Toys - Toys can do wonders and more guys should incorporate them. The girl doesn't need to orgasm from your dick alone, if she's adding a vibrator with it and has an orgasm, you don't lose points.
 
Seconding that a lot of dick game is about knowing where the gspot is and however you're hitting it at any time.

There's a dude hunitdaysofsummer on instagram who talks about this stuff. He also polls girls in the comments about various things, and has an onlyfans with more content about it. Can't say if it's worth checking out or not. The free stuff is worth a look and basically just riff off of that.

All in all, every girl is different, and they are all sensitive in different and random places on their bodies. One gf I had in high school would get goosebumps if I kissed her on a certain spot on her back. Especially with foreplay, from kissing into sex itself, it's really just about the sensations that you are creating in her body (and your own) coupled with the psychology of the situation.

So take the lead. Vulnerability and communication are huge, you want her to feel comfortable opening up to you. Have fun with it, try things out, and take notice of what seems to be turning her on. And when you find it, don't just give it all to her, tease her. That being said if she's about to orgasm, don't stop haha.

I'll add on most girls like to be manhandled, and I hate to say this because it can also be entirely wrong, but some porn can be a decent reference for this. Maybe watch lesbian bdsm or something, but just how to grab her under her chin when you kiss or are hitting it from the back. How to play with her ass cheeks when you spank her. You can pick up on random little things. That's a whole can of worms for some though.
 
Zug said:
Oral - There are quite a few useful guides on oral in many places, there were several porn guides from the 90s and early 2000s that are still good
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Any specific guides? I definitely have a lot to be desired in this area lol.
 
soaringbitestrike said:
Zug said:
Oral - There are quite a few useful guides on oral in many places, there were several porn guides from the 90s and early 2000s that are still good
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Any specific guides? I definitely have a lot to be desired in this area lol.
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The hunnitdaysofsummer guy's guide is quite good honestly for the "business" part. But 50%+ of it is teasing them until they're going fucking crazy. That actually takes significant confidence, a lot will make comments or objections, but it really is the most important part. It really is a form of power play and denial and when you get into it can be slightly sadistic fun (in a good way). Really worth doing f it's a first time experience. Crazy long teasing the first time goes A LONG way for them remembering you.
 
soaringbitestrike said:
Any specific guides? I definitely have a lot to be desired in this area lol
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It's easier than you think.

Normal guys don't do anything special sex-wise. Especially guys in their early 20s.

Bar is very low.

Read "she comes first " that and skimming Sexgod's pdf gave me the gyst of what to do.

Just finger/eat out a girl and get yourself into the moment. It's pretty fun when you switchyour focus from performance to pleasure-seeking during sex.

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And soaringbitestrike we usually don't allow general theory questions, unless it's in your progress/action log.

KYIL forums have a pretty high intolerance to theory. Cuz for whatever reason a lot of guys would rather talk about girls than talk to them. And you can wrongly create a whole community around circle jerking.

Ask questions in your log.

You can change the title of your log if your trying to get it attention by going into the thread. Editing the first post, and changing the title of the first post. That will change how it appears in the forum.
 
Manganiello said:
Normal guys don't do anything special sex-wise. Especially guys in their early 20s.

Bar is very low.
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This 100%. The average guy is terrible in bed. The bar is on the floor. If you just finger her and make an effort to focus on her pleasure you're already doing better than the 70% of guys who just pump away for 2 minutes and go to sleep.
 
Manganiello said:
we usually don't allow general theory questions, unless it's in your progress/action log.
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Speaking for myself here, his topic and method's replying with his recommendation link we're of immense use to me.
 
I love Sex G-d Method. Solid ebook - I believe you can find it for free easily online.

Been using stuff from that for ages, always gets girls off and commenting about how good I am in bed.
 
Most girls I’ve been with aren’t that great at sex themselves either, I take the lead 99% if the time and I’m cool with that.

My ex did teach me how to eat pussy though, her main complaint was that most men just go way too hard, rubbing that clit like it’s a porn or something she taught me to lick not even the clit directly but the little skin flap that goes right over it in the circular steady motion with the some more gentle pressure of the tongue and then just keep going and going and going with a steady rhythm and that in itself is pretty much the whole thing, if she wants you to go a bit harder or go little faster whatever she’ll tell you herself, she might grab your hair pull your pull your whole head hard against her pussy which means she wants more pressure. This usually happens when she gets close to coming.

I’ve also made a hook up come just from fingering we were in a spooning position, and I was just Kaina, talking into her ear, whispering, and she said it felt super hot, and she came just from fingering. I never made a girl come like that before.

As far as sex I have my personal favorite positions and I gradually head towards doing those and see how she likes it.

Making out it seems like I’ve always been really good at that. Don’t be afraid to put your tongue in her mouth basically and switch it around. I love French kissing and very sloppy. Some girls are not into that but those that are always tell me that I’m in a really good kisser.
 
Zug said:
Kink University has a lot of good content on sex and kink related topics, and also a lot of useless content, but there are some absolute gems there
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Before they went full SJW this was THE place
 
Sexual Quantum Leap, check out their youtube channel or their course honestly everything you ever need to make a woman think you are amazing, everyone I sleep with I always get compliments after working with them, this is someone who used to be a 1pump chump with an average sized pee pee
 
imo SGM is all you need, 99% of being good in bed is letting go of your rational mind and enjoying the moment and letting your inner caveman out without reservation. only comes with practice. Especially doing dirty talk well just requires reps & not theory
 
Holden said:
imo SGM is all you need, 99% of being good in bed is letting go of your rational mind and enjoying the moment and letting your inner caveman out without reservation. only comes with practice. Especially doing dirty talk well just requires reps & not theory
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I fully agree with this take.
Or as the kids say ''RT''
 
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