How I squander the waking hours. Without fail. Anyway, here's my first official AA program report. Decided to completely redo Day 10 after getting kicked out of the art school in the middle of it last Friday and barely scratching out one 3-rep set while seeing close to zero approachable volume in the mall on Saturday.
Day 10
- Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
- Time, Do you know if there is a movie theater near here?, Leave
- Time, Do you know if there is a movie theater near here?, Have you seen any good movies lately?, Leave
Repeat this 5 times today, you will speak to 15 girls in total.
Told myself I'd get to the community college campus at noon. Nope. Got there a bit before 15:30, just as
a ton of people were leaving. Got my first few reps pretty easily from stragglers but then the campus was empty like I've always seen it going late like this. Ugh. At least I know there's more volume if I go earlier. Have to really kick my own ass tomorrow.
High spirits today, was smiling much of the time. I suspect the warm weather here (nearly 30 C) had some hand in this. My mood is doubtlessly directly proportional to the temperature. Regardless, I got some of the weirdest reactions today I've ever had, especially to the time question.
One of the first girls gave me some estimation then asked why I wanted to know. Another girl completely ignored me. Another claimed to not have her phone, patting her pocket (something tells me she wasn't lying though). Another blew me off in what might have been a foreign language; I did not even understand what she said. The very last girl knew neither the time, nor if there was a movie theater nearby, nor had she seen any good movies lately. "Awesome," I said to her at the end.
Sure, some of the above were probably my fault. The one who ignored me I had trailed for a while wondering whether to catch up and if it would be weird before finally catching up at the top of a staircase and, guess what, it was weird. Seems to be a good lesson here to act immediately and quickly instead of trying to manufacture some "chance" encounter that is obviously not. I have to own it. Yes, I'm running you down to ask for the time and movie theaters. And?
Similarly for the dubious foreigner. I had noticed her getting out of a car and had contrived to wait around for her to come my way in an obviously non-obvious way. Needless to say she probably noticed me beforehand and when she came close and I finally approached she wanted no part of it. It's probably not too far of a reach to make these subpar approaches and reactions an argument in favor of direct over indirect approaches. What's cool is, even though they went somewhat awry, I didn't really care in the moment. Thanks Chris!
Another memorable approach went a good deal better. This chick, moderately attractive, was coming down some stairs while I was roving about. She met my eyes twice, if I recall correctly, before I stopped her with a "hey." I couldn't keep a massive grin from my face as I went through the questions, and she mirrored, even as she walked away (during my questions, rude! but she answered them all). I had probably convinced myself she already liked me (completely possible) and temporarily lost what vestigial "need to please" I still have and just had fun with her. Would that more of my approaches become like this!
On the subject of mirroring, most girls would mirror my smile when it came, usually, around the third question. These didn't give me the same playful dynamic as the above girl. As for why, part was in my not setting of that frame, and part was no doubt in them for not having the same (suspected) attraction. Further evidence for the universal effectiveness of simply approaching more girls.
I can feel my frame solidifying, plowing through "bad reactions" without care and minimal notice. At times I feel it crumbled, like when I falsely justified my questions ("I haven't seen a movie in a long time too, that's why I want to go to the movie theater" even though I have no desire to see a movie and wasn't really asked to explain), I redid the rep.
The frame crumbled, but not nearly as much as I'd feared, near the end when it finally happened. I approached the same girl and she remembered. I hit her with the second rep and she responds normally, but as I'm walking away she asks, "Didn't you ask me for the time already, or was that someone else?" Oops, I think and say, "Yeah maybe; no watch, no phone, you know how it be," while smiling. Absolutely no memory of her, haha. Whether I had asked her today or some other day, whether it was about just the time or more, I haven't the foggiest clue. Felt compelled to pull the justification out of my ass, but it was true as I don't carry my watch or phone on these drills (probably because I'm a bitch). On the bright side, I wasn't instantly eviscerated, or at all actually. Nevertheless, I redid that rep on someone I hadn't already talked to (or who at least didn't admit it).
What this says about my campus's "approach saturation," I'm not sure. I hope that by going earlier tomorrow and hitting some good volume I can get lost in the sauce, as they say, rather than sticking out as the weirdo criss-crossing the campus empty campus and talking to every girl he manages to corner.
Whew, that was quite the post. In conclusion, good day overall, perhaps I may say even great. None of the girls had seen any good movies lately, haha.