Thrice said:klondike said:Can’t go wrong with AF1’s
Yep its a classic! Total white or with black logo what do you think?
I like white + black logo... I'm getting these soon to replicate some influencer's outfit, we'll see how they are
Thrice said:klondike said:Can’t go wrong with AF1’s
Yep its a classic! Total white or with black logo what do you think?
Paid Renegade said:as well as black combat boots
Bman said:If I'm wearing a metal shirt I'm most likely wearing boots
Paid Renegade said:a pair of jacked arms
pancakemouse said:Maybe they're tense because they can sense your hatred for women through your body language, eye contact, and tonality.
Thrice said:Wow they pick up all that as soon as i open the door in 0.001 seconds
Thrice said:Mystique creatures, wonder why good looking criminals and handsome serial killers have so much success if woman are so good at "sensing" stuff
september said:Ultimately if you actually want to succeed, you have to do the thing required to succeed. And here it's to improve your vibe, by doing and believing the things that make you feel like a winner.
tdan187 said:I just tell you this though to say that i get it and i've been in the exact boat but it's not good / healthy for you man and it truly is in your head.
I want to see you succeed instead of sit around bitter at girls forever.
tdan187 said:Why not just try to go get laid? What's stopping you from doing that now?
tdan187 said:Someone who doesn't love me and just tries to abuse me
It's more complicated than that, because trauma bonds are a pretty emotionally powerful thing. It's not even just looks, there is this emotional attachment. I was starting to feel the same thing with the crazy girl I went out with.Thrice said:It sucks beign stuck in this toxic relationships, knowing that it's a lack of option that keeps you hooked, i think girls know when you don't have many other options and use that as levarage
MakingAComeback said:Demons and toxicity can be solved dude, working on it, and it does get better
LOOKS are king, improving them, A LOT, I feel makes the other aspects of this journey easier because you get these little signs of hope
tdan187 said:If i saw you in person we could probably dial it in significantly in just a single day. As in what it is you're actually doing wrong.
Squilliam said:It's more complicated than that, because trauma bonds are a pretty emotionally powerful thing. It's not even just looks, there is this emotional attachment. I was starting to feel the same thing with the crazy girl I went out with.
Squilliam said:I agree that you shouldn't wait. Make a profile with the best photos you have, and keep trying to meet girls while you're working on yourself.
Thrice said:Live is different, the likelihood to find a coach here in Italy is super small, what we do is super niche, normal people consider us strange
Thrice said:When I'm alone i look like a creep even more
Thrice said:Imagine having a date and telling a girl i deliver pizza for a living
september said:When you "fail" at something like this, like 5% of the damage is done by the actual thing, and 95% is done by your reaction to it. So just setting up and maintaining a good frame avoids 95% of the damage.
Thrice said:But girls don't know and don't care, they don't want a guy that delivers pizza, it's disgusting for them
september said:Thrice said:Live is different, the likelihood to find a coach here in Italy is super small, what we do is super niche, normal people consider us strange
Daygame is niche and strange everywhere. Not just Italy. Though if anything isn't "natural" daygame more common in Italy? I heard women travelers always get hit on there more than any other country in europe.
Anyway, daygame is niche, but walking up to someone you find cute and saying hi is normal.
The difference between the two is that we're low status nerds who systematized the shit out of talking to people. Meanwhile, cool naturals strike up conversations with strangers all the time for whatever reasons and no one finds that weird.
You wouldn't find it weird to be approached by a dude with a super happy vibe who's super well calibrated and in tune with your emotions, and depending on the context, acknowledges the approach as being a little weird, but brings a fun energy and engages you in a conversation, right?
You'd just think that's some really cool social well-calibrated dude.
That's who we're trying to become in daygame.
Anyway, you don't need to find a coach, just wings. Find a Game Global telegram group for the nearest city in Italy and meet up with wings from there and try to absorb their vibes.
Thrice said:When I'm alone i look like a creep even more
creep = low status (= uncool)
there's literally no difference between these terms
try to think about why you believe it's low status to be alone. Surely cool guys walk around alone sometimes right?
Thrice said:Imagine having a date and telling a girl i deliver pizza for a living
girl: hey so what do you do
guy: *timidly* uhmm... I... well... I'm working at a pizza place... *looks away* I deliver pizzas... yeah... *nervous chuckle* I know I know it sucks, I wish I wasn't doing it... *rubs back of head*
vs
girl: hey so what do you do
guy: *serious face* I'm the CEO of Balenciaga
girl: really?/come oooon
guy: no/yeah I'm just fucking with you. I'm actually out there saving the world by delivering one pizza at a time. What about you? You look like you're in fashion
basically the difference is VIBE and FRAME. The objective reality of who you are barely matters compared to how you feel about it.
I'm going to quote myself because I'm a genius:
september said:When you "fail" at something like this, like 5% of the damage is done by the actual thing, and 95% is done by your reaction to it. So just setting up and maintaining a good frame avoids 95% of the damage.
as for:
Thrice said:But girls don't know and don't care, they don't want a guy that delivers pizza, it's disgusting for them
I'm not saying they care 0%, but girls care about beta traits way less than you think. Girls don't WANT to be attracted to alpha traits like status, looks, social skills, confidence, etc. So they only ever talk about how they value beta traits like having a job, good relationship with family, and so on. Which makes us nerds think that's all they're attracted to, until we get redpilled. But in reality they barely give a shit about beta traits when it comes to who they're fucking, especially the younger they are.
But hold on isn't pizza delivery low status? And girls are attracted to status?
yes, to a 5% extent it harms you that you deliver pizzas.
the other 95% is caused by YOU TREATING YOURSELF AS LOW STATUS FOR DELIVERING PIZZAS.
People's brains are wired to be lazy, and to avoid actually doing the hard work of figuring out if you're high or low status, they instead judge you on two things:
- how do you treat yourself?
- how do others treat you?
there aren't other people on an online/cold approach date (except for serving staff, which is why it's so important to treat them well and be liked by them). So basically how she views your status is almost solely based on how you treat yourself.
So if you think delivering pizzas is shameful, and no one will ever date you because of it... she'll pick up on that. She'll think, wow he can't even be confident around ME, a SILLY LITTLE GIRL - there's no way he'll hold his own socially in a larger mixed gender group - no way he thinks of himself as a leader - my body is giving me a disgust response to any sexual threat he displays, to make me avoid having sex with him - I better run away and go find an alpha chad to fuck.
If instead you think delivering pizzas is the most awesome thing in the world, and you'd confidently be able to fire back at any argument someone tried to make against your job while smiling and remaining unbothered - then she'll think, wow this guy is really cool. I guess pizza delivery is cool too, since a cool guy is doing it!
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So basically just believe in yourself. Which means doing the actual work of rewiring away all the negative beliefs and working towards being more positive and awesome with regards to yourself and your abilities.
tdan187 said:Besides how do you know it is? How many girls have you really tried to fuck who rejected you for that reason?
september said:So basically just believe in yourself. Which means doing the actual work of rewiring away all the negative beliefs and working towards being more positive and awesome with regards to yourself and your abilities.
Squilliam said:You don't get to complain about not getting laid if you don't even try.
MakingAComeback said:LOOKS are king, improving them, A LOT, I feel makes the other aspects of this journey easier because you get these little signs of hope