Vic's Progress Log - What’s wrong with my Hinge profile?

[Vic]

6/10

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 2421
Protein: 113g
Gym: 0/3
Meditation: Yes
Journal: No
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: No
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: Yes
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: Yes


6/11

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 2401
Protein: 131g
Gym: 1/3
Meditation: Yes
Journal: Yes
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: Yes
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: Yes
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: Yes

6/12

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 2209
Protein: 124g
Gym: 1/3
Meditation: No
Journal: Yes
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: Yes
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: Yes
Skincare: No
No Fap: Yes

6/13

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 2542
Protein: 130g
Gym: 2/3
Meditation: Yes
Journal: Yes
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: Yes
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: Yes
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: Yes

6/14

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 2243
Protein: 122g
Gym: 2/3
Meditation: Yes
Journal: No
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: No
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: No
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: Yes

6/15

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 2666
Protein: 140g
Gym: 2/3
Meditation: Yes
Journal: Yes
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: No
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: Yes
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: No

6/16

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 2768
Protein: 146g
Gym: 3/3
Meditation: Yes
Journal: Yes
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: No
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: No
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: No

 

[Vic]

6/17

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 2490
Protein: 139g
Gym: 0/3
Meditation: Yes
Journal: Yes
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: No
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: Yes
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: Yes

6/18

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 2774
Protein: 130g
Gym: 1/3
Meditation: No
Journal: No
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: No
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: No
Skincare: No
No Fap: No

6/19

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 3035
Protein: 152g
Gym: 1/3
Meditation: No
Journal: No
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: No
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: No
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: No

6/20

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 3114
Protein: 174g
Gym: 2/3
Meditation: Yes
Journal: Yes
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: Yes
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: No
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: Yes

Notes:

Haven't updated my log in a little bit, mostly due to laziness. Ive been getting back into the gym 3 times a week again, taking creatine + Lcitrulline, and eating more protein. I think in that regard I have returned to how I was before I had my surgery and maybe even increased weight on some exercises. Like my squat I do 145 for reps now. I seem to be struggling on bench press again though.

For my first week back on the apps I spent a lot of time stressing on whether or not I was shadowbanned on Hinge because I was logged out for a month. The app still functioned like normal for me but I just wasn’t getting any matches or incoming likes. I did eventually get one match in the first week proving that I was not shadowbanned.

Second week though I got absolutely nothing. The app still functions like normal. No repeating profiles and I can switch out pics/prompts just fine. I just feel like ass not getting any matches. I was doing fine in my uni city but here in SF do women just not like me?

There has to be something massively wrong with my profile. I know Im not the best looking guy but usually my quality of matches is good. Do I want better? Yes but that ofc will take effort.

Imo it could be because:
-Headshot is too tryhard/hardstyle and most women don’t like that
-Last two pics are way worse than my first two and it turns women off
-Prompts seem douchey (I did update them after I took these screenshots)
-haven’t used boosts or bought premium
-Hinge is dead here (highly doubt this)
-The girls im hitting like on are too high SMV

I’ve been keeping a lot of this to myself for a while cuz most people I know think dating apps are dumb. I haven’t been doing inner work much this week which is funny as these are the times I should be doing more, rather than less. I relapsed to porn again and I’m having a hard time going back to Nofap. Some part of me wants to give up until I get my own place but giving up doesn’t really suit me so I want to figure out what exactly is wrong.

 

[Perseus]

SF is highly competitive as far as I know. Im not a fan of 3, why would you have coffee to go in a backyard (at least thats what it looks like). In 4 your posing looks feminine, especially leg placement. So yeah its not great. Also I have personally noticed that it takes while for Hinge to pick up after you switch locations for some reason, could be wrong on that though.

 

[GentleBlack]

SF is highly competitive as far as I know. Im not a fan of 3, why would you have coffee to go in a backyard (at least thats what it looks like). In 4 your posing looks feminine, especially leg placement. So yeah its not great. Also I have personally noticed that it takes while for Hinge to pick up after you switch locations for some reason, could be wrong on that though.

I agree with you on photo 4, the posture looks feminine. @Vic I think your profile overall lacks of energy and/or dynamism. All your photos show you in very calm situations. You can be a very calm guy but one or two photos with your friends or in a party could had more of this energy lacking.

You are absolutely forbidden to feel like an ass for not having any matches. You can be a great guy and just have a profile that doesn't meet the requirements to have success on dating apps. Don't get fooled by this system, it doesn't represent your true value.

 

[pancakemouse]

SF is the hardest city for apps in the entire country. You are getting about what I would expect for unpaid Hinge.

 

[Akilles7]

You could pay for Hinge premium and see how it goes (I’ve paid before). But I wouldn’t expect too many results from your current profile. Ngl, it’s lackluster. You’re good-looking, but that’s it. Think of it from a girl’s perspective. What does she see? “Oh a nice-looking guy who likes coffee and animals. Does be have friends? Is he social? Has he traveled? Does he workout? Is he wealthy. No. Okay.” What does she want to see? “Ooo a nice-looking guy with cool friends? He travels? He likes to party? But he also likes animals and to workout? He hangs out in expensive places? He’s ripped and likes the beach? He looks fun!”

 

[Vic]

6/21

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 3516
Protein: 173g
Gym: 2/3
Meditation: Yes
Journal: Yes
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: Yes
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: Yes
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: Yes

6/22

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 3089
Protein: 143g
Gym: 2/3
Meditation: Yes
Journal: Yes
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: Yes
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: No
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: No

6/23

Daily Actions:
Today's Calories: 2960
Protein: 154g
Gym: 3/3
Meditation: No
Journal: Yes
30 Minute Phoneless Walk: No
Electronics off 1 hour before bed: No
Skincare: Yes
No Fap: No

Notes:

Rereading my last post I definitely had a running high of panicky emotions when I wrote that. I needed to just chill the fuck out, its not the end of the world because my profile isn't doing that great. Ill have to heavily focus on making the next two pictures really good. Im going to Boston first week of July with my family so I can ask my brother to take some pics with my DSLR when I find cool spots. I thought of a close-by spot that I thought would be good but when I went to scope it out it didn't look that great at all and I also figure there needs to be a lot of people around if I want to achieve a sort of "high status" vibe to the picture.

Speaking of Boston, I went shopping at a local mall on Friday and got a bunch of new clothes for the trip. Two tops, three t-shirts, and a replacement pair of black jeans. My dad also came back from a business trip and got me this new JPG fragrance which smells really good. I also exchanged my gold chain for a longer and slighly thicker one which I think looks a lot better on me.

All being said I still think the Bay Area is a shit place to date due to how badly skewed the gender ratios are. Also women seem to have higher standards here despite being generally worse quality. Didn't think I would be saying this but I miss Columbus. The quality of women there was pretty solid and they were generally pretty pleasant and feminine. I guess it also helps I had very good logistics there with a close-by boba or coffee shops, my own place (or at least room), and abundant access to women. Here I have to drive a lot if I want to do anything. It just seems like too much of a hassle especially when you take into account the chance of a girl flaking, catfishing, and or having a shit personality.

Someone on the forums said (might have been Dom, Pancake, or Manga) said if you have shitty logistics, your main objective should be to fix them. I agree with that statement. Having bad logistics is pretty demotivating.

Ill be able to move *hopefully* in the next 6 months by the start of 2025. Im applying to 10 schools for my masters, three of which are closeby. My hope is that I get into one of the other 7. Only issue is if I do get into any of the 3 close-by ones my parents might try really hard to convince me to stay here and become a commuter student. Don't get me wrong I love my family but having my own spot will make my life a hell of a lot easier. Plus living far from home in college helped me a lot in becoming a more responsible individual. The only way I will go to one of the 3 nearby schools is if all other 7 reject me or I somehow get a gf who is based here in the Bay and get into one of those 3 schools.

My shadowing starts July 1st. To get around that whole convincing thing, Ill have to do my best to get enough approval from my supervisors and the family friend who got me the gig. Then use it to land a job and save enough money to move from that job. In the meantime Ill be working on courses and my other apps, which is what i have been doing anyways. I can't fully bank on this so once I get back from Boston Ill apply to jobs on Linkedin and Indeed even if it feels hopeless.

Oh and almost forgot to update the driving thing. I think I am fine on the highway, but I haven't started driving on it yet. Why? Mainly cuz I am overwhelmed by the thought of using a map and trying to drive at the same time. I have a setup now though so Ill just try driving my brother and I to our favorite boba spot later this week as practice. If I can crack it without much issue Ill be okay.

 

[colgate / bulldog]

All being said I still think the Bay Area is a shit place to date due to how badly skewed the gender ratios are.

check out santana row and the westfield across the street over in san jose. VERY hot girls and i had driven a girl home directly from an instadate at that mall.

also san jose state university has a lot of cute girls

 

[Vic]

check out santana row and the westfield across the street over in san jose. VERY hot girls and i had driven a girl home directly from an instadate at that mall.

also san jose state university has a lot of cute girls

I might have to set my location to SJ then. I heard SJ has a worse gender ratio than SF tho but maybe mmmv.

But I have seen baddies at those locations. Sounds like a good spot to cold approach so that'll do.