Sonofagun
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- Aug 17, 2022
I've had Tinder, Hinge or Bumble for many years. Throughout that time the match rate has fluctuated up and down, but I've nearly always had a dreadful return. The reply rate is also abysmal, particularly in 2023. Here is an (estimation) of the stats.
- I'd estimate I get 1 match for every 80 swipes or so. Sometimes it can be 100+. It's the same on each app.
- I can deal with a low match rate, but the reply rate is also very low. I'd estimate 85% of the girls leave me on read either on the opener or within 1-2 messages. The vast majority ghost when I make the date request.
- The quality is usually OK, match-wise, with a few bonafide hot girls thrown in, but as soon as the girl is a 7 or above, the difficulty suddenly jumps 3,000%, and their likelihood of ghosting rises very high.
Here is a pretty typical result for me, from this week on Bumble in Europe (I get a flurry of matches, a few replies and then get ghosted in the first week with a new account):
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I had 150 girls in my queue on day 1. I filtered that down to less than 30 (most were ugly).
From these remaining girls I've secured 0 dates. That's pretty typical for me. I think my texting is acceptable - it's the profile that's the issue (I would guess).
I'd love to know from those guys who are doing very well, how often do you match girls? do you get a very high reply rate? Do you need to offer a 'date', or do you just invite them straight over? Etc. It would be good to understand what is a 'good' result.
I did have a couple of OK years on online dating (20 lays a year level) but the quality was really hit and miss. I'd bang a 7 one week and a 5 the next, not because I wanted to bang a 5, but that would be the only girl who would reply that week, and she'd make it easy for me so I couldn't resist. Overall, it's always felt HARD. Hard to get girls to reply, hard to get them on dates, hard to get the quality I want consistently.
I get told by male friends that my SMV is 'above average', but it's hard to believe with my results. Happy to share my profile with anyone who wants it. I feel my results are not reflective of a guy with above-average SMV. I am still not happy with my facial appearance and believe it is the root cause of my struggles, since I'm tall, with good hairline, in acceptable shape (not fat), very good fashion, but I'm hoping I'm wrong and that my profile is the issue.
This year I was going to focus exclusively on daygame, but I can't help but feel like there's potential on the apps still. I want to give them one last crack before I give up on them entirely.
Thanks in advance.
- I'd estimate I get 1 match for every 80 swipes or so. Sometimes it can be 100+. It's the same on each app.
- I can deal with a low match rate, but the reply rate is also very low. I'd estimate 85% of the girls leave me on read either on the opener or within 1-2 messages. The vast majority ghost when I make the date request.
- The quality is usually OK, match-wise, with a few bonafide hot girls thrown in, but as soon as the girl is a 7 or above, the difficulty suddenly jumps 3,000%, and their likelihood of ghosting rises very high.
Here is a pretty typical result for me, from this week on Bumble in Europe (I get a flurry of matches, a few replies and then get ghosted in the first week with a new account):
View attachment 1
I had 150 girls in my queue on day 1. I filtered that down to less than 30 (most were ugly).
From these remaining girls I've secured 0 dates. That's pretty typical for me. I think my texting is acceptable - it's the profile that's the issue (I would guess).
I'd love to know from those guys who are doing very well, how often do you match girls? do you get a very high reply rate? Do you need to offer a 'date', or do you just invite them straight over? Etc. It would be good to understand what is a 'good' result.
I did have a couple of OK years on online dating (20 lays a year level) but the quality was really hit and miss. I'd bang a 7 one week and a 5 the next, not because I wanted to bang a 5, but that would be the only girl who would reply that week, and she'd make it easy for me so I couldn't resist. Overall, it's always felt HARD. Hard to get girls to reply, hard to get them on dates, hard to get the quality I want consistently.
I get told by male friends that my SMV is 'above average', but it's hard to believe with my results. Happy to share my profile with anyone who wants it. I feel my results are not reflective of a guy with above-average SMV. I am still not happy with my facial appearance and believe it is the root cause of my struggles, since I'm tall, with good hairline, in acceptable shape (not fat), very good fashion, but I'm hoping I'm wrong and that my profile is the issue.
This year I was going to focus exclusively on daygame, but I can't help but feel like there's potential on the apps still. I want to give them one last crack before I give up on them entirely.
Thanks in advance.