Morrigan1998 said:
MakingAComeback said:
That's awesome bro!
OK so your point, well I cannot address this in a respectful manner, this is simply insanely far off the mark and lacks even a basic grasp on the fundamentals. No offence intended. I would not expect anything better from a man without any experience at all.
Sometimes, we do not know, what we don't know. Unknown unknowns.
That's just human nature.
I am glad this approach worked out for you all the same, and wish you well.
Really glad to hear this, Ralph!
I love Self Improvement. As you know from lurking, I am a dog, and this was the path I chose, to take the crooked timber life gave me and try to make something special out of it.
I will not stop until the job is done and I thank you for the support.
We don't actually mention the aforementioned user on this forum, it's against our forum rules. We refer to them as Lord Voldermort. I've edited your post dude.
MAC
Bro I'm just genuinely curious what do you even do so differently and how much of a difference do you think "game" can even make, I ask because I more or less still just follow what Chris from GLL used to preach which was to more or less be direct and hit on girls, along with working on your appearance.
Sure bro so, as the readers of the log know, my ass has been approaching chicks since I was 18, and did many thousands that way. Legit approached 4000+ by the time I was 25 and not a damn thing happened for me.
My appearance was not always bad, but I did have anxiety, inner issues, and these were tough to deal with, but didn't stop me. I worked on them, as well as myself, for years.
By age 29, I had been through a lot of shit, and after approaching so many women, without even getting a date, a match on the apps, or even a text, I kinda internalised that I am somehow screwed up inside.
That, was not the case. I came here, got help, got coaching, got mentoring, and I did start to improve my dating life.
But it was SO MUCH deeper than the numbers game, dude.............
I have done 5,000+ approaches, it may be near 7k honestly.
That, is fine for many guys, but it is not the full picture.
For me, I have had low self esteem for most of my life, struggled with the way I look, and this kind of kept me trapped within myself and not able to bring out the energies needed to succeed with women.
95% of this shit, is vibe.
Numbers game, atleast for me, didn't do anything for my vibe.
The stories we tell, about why our outcomes suck, just depend on the individual and their random conclusions. IMO, if a guy can really get his vibe together and just become cooler as a human being, girls, well, at least some anyway, will like him.
That part, however, is a rabit hole that goes exceptionally deep, and you have to do work on yourself, and figure out how you became like that in the first place. It is not as simple as just run the numbers. You have to go deep inside yourself, start to heal yourself, love yourself, and also, find aspects of your masculinity and bring them out, because that is what women are actually attracted to.
As an inexperienced guy who has not done the work, you may not be able to process this: this path is not linear.
There are no simple solutions.
You can run the numbers, and still fail.
You can looksmaxx, and still suck.
The thing that was, and is still, holding me back, was not social freedom or ability to run the numbers.
It was, and is, the fact that somehow in life, I got so wounded by my bad receptivity and bad treatment by women, that I suppressed who I am as a person and came to the world contracted, rather than expanded, and got into a pattern, that became a personality, and then the aspects of my masculine core that I would need to navigate the journey, got buried deep inside.
Case of breaking down the barriers I put up myself
Case of convincing myself that, I am enough, and that, in fact, women like me
Case of healing
And above all........
Unlocking the charisma, sexuality, and masculinity, that IS there. Not being a sexual man, not having that energy, not being able to tap into it, like, at all, is, imo, why things are the way they are.
Sexualisation, and coming across as a sexual threat, matters possibly above all else. There is no running the numbers game that can create that, if it is not in place.
That's my opinion, and thank you for your curiosity. I don't really have the time to break these things down for people at this stage, as I am heavily involved in figuring my own situation out, but I thought I'd share this once. Often, when people, such as yourself, are extremely inexperienced and have not done the work (in general, a guy who has not gone all in and lived and breathed this, for years, is a mental masturbating bullshitter), it is a poor use of time to discuss anything with them. They often wouldn't get it, or are too arrogant to think outside of their own paradigm.
Part of the individual male, solving his own problem, is understanding that many people will just not understand or be able to comprehend. Guys grow to the extent that they have to. Many who did the basics, got results. They will parrot that until the end of their days, because they have confirmation bias.
But what about the cases where the basics were exhausted, and didn't work?
That is where we just have to go deeper.
Alright, no more cluttering up my log please.
-MAC
