Upstart's Progress Log - New 90 Day Goals

[Zug]

One of the best mindsets I've seen on the forum, especially among guys who are still newer.

Mad respect

 

[Upstart]

I MADE HER PAY FOR BEING LATE.​

I finally got a date from Facebook dating. I haven’t pulled that off since 2022.

She was 34 y/o. Black, skinnier in person than online. Definitely looked her age despite the make up.

I drove over an hour to get there.
She was an hour late. I thought I got stood up, tbh. She texts me 40 minutes after our appointed time (7pm), saying something came up that got in her way.



I understood.
But I texted back. "Tea is on you tonight. I was about to go home."

She calls up saying she'll be there soon, apologizing for running late.

She arrives.
I hug & greet her.
She apologizes.
I say, "It’s all good. What held you up?"

"Oh, I went to get my nails done before coming."

I’m thinking: YOU WHAT?!!


You did not just make me wait for that. I thought it was a legitimate emergency.

So after getting her reason, I felt fully justified in making her pay for my tea.

I said, "Okay cool, you got us then?"

"Hm?"

"You’ll pay for us both, then. You got my tea right?"

She says, “Oh no, I don’t pay for dates, but how about this, we split it half and half.”
I said very casually, "No you pay, or I go home." And literally started walking away.
I stop to look at her.
“Up to you. I’m good either way.”

She looks around, “Well alright..sure.”
Me: "Okay, bet."

I was smiling the whole time, but dead serious.

The rest of the date proceeded as normal, albeit a little stilted at first. we had our tea, then went on a small walk outside. We were in the Domain in Austin, so we checked out the Apple store before going back to our cars.

This is the power of having options.​

I knew I was going out on a date the next day, and fixing to clap some cheeks afterward.
With that in mind, I could stand on business in the moment.

In fact, I thought she should be offering to pay for the tea, simply to make up for her tardiness.
I don’t know what it is about older women, but they try to treat you like you ain’t nothing just because they got a few years on you.

At the end, she said "I’ll text you when I get back."
I said: "Same. Have a good night."

She hasn’t texted.
And no matter what, I will not text first.
If she don’t, I won’t.

If I got nothing else from this date, at least my balls grew two inches today.

And I got a free drink.

One of the best mindsets I've seen on the forum, especially among guys who are still newer.

Mad respect

Thanks man! Really appreciate your advice!

 

[Upstart]

I MADE HER SQUIRT...TWICE (w/ pics)​

March 1st, 2025

Today's Selfie

I've been tired all fucking day tbh. And my arms hurt.

I didn't even bust a nut and I'm DRAINED.


We went to a ramen place last night.
Ate and talked and split the bill. That shit was like $20, her order was $30!
I was wearing my cool guy glasses, and my Naruto shirt.
She couldn't help but to take a pic.

This isn't the pic, this is from 2022

Anyways, I already invited her back to my spot on the previous date so, she went back home to pack an overnight bag then drove nearly an hour to meet me back at my spot.

We put on Rain Man, then she got changed for some love-makin'.

I was super relaxed and she was high from smoking before coming over.

So we started super slow. No kissing or real touching yet, I simply laid on her before starting massage her back.

Then we got into it. When I got hard, I just went right to work, I knew I'd get soft again if I didn't take that opportunity, so I went in RAW.

I was pumping for a good long time before I went a little soft, so I was happy my dick was working.

Basically, my problem is that my dick is used to the vice grip of my hand, so even raw sex doesn't do much for me. In the future, I'll be masturbating with a lighter touch.

I asked her if she’s ever squirted before and she said no, that she’d probably have to drink lots of water beforehand. Otherwise, she just gets really creamy.
I said, "We’ll work on that someday."

Who knew someday would be today.
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I actually tried to think of my favorite porno to stay hard while fucking her, but it was actually taking me out of the moment and into my head, thinking of touching myself with my hand instead of staying present.

I got out of my head and back to the moment. I tried to relax a bit, but I still couldn’t be erect fully. No worries.

I’m glad I have this problem instead of premature ejaculation. This is more of a mental thing.
She even said I set a new record of staying hard this time.
I thought so too.

I didn’t want to go down on her again because of the taste from last time lol.
So after a lull in the action, I massaged her a little more before starting to finger her.

Now this part is key:
I simply asked her what she’d like me to do.

She asked for 3 fingers in her. I was like…"For real?! I mean all right. As long as it doesn't hurt"
My hand felt weird and kinda strained, but I went to work with it.

Then I started touching her clit at the same time. She liked that.

Then she asked me to lick it at the same time I was fingering her. She REALLY liked that.

At this point, she was moaning loudly and screaming my name.

I kept going until she said, “Right there!” And I kept up the pace.
I couldn’t lick any more so I was using my thumb to stimulate her clit.
She was pushing me back a bit. Twisting and writhing.

Then the clear stream of fluid shot out.
From where, I don’t know.
I kept going.
She had clenched her legs around my hand.
When more fluid drizzled out, she kicked me off.
“GET OFF OF ME!” she screamed (not in a bad way tho )
I lay on my back on the floor, she lay slumped on the side of my bed, pussy leaking.
There was a puddle on my sheets.


SHeeeeeesH!

I sat back in awe. Smiling and laughing.
I had given her a screaming, squirting, orgasm.
And she was too tired to move. 10 or 20 mins passed.
I wondered, Did that really just happen?!

Listening to her and taking my ego out of it made this all possible.

I told her I wasn’t going to bust a nut. I knew once I said that, I could not go back on my word.
One of those things I’ve learned over the years.

We cuddled, I asked if she was okay with pics and recording.
She was fine with it as long as her face was covered. I said "Dope", and snapped a couple pics and vids.

I’ve ALWAYS wanted to do that.
I’ve had dreams where I get close to doing it, but I always, without fail, wake up before I get the chance.

I asked her about her fantasies.
She said she wanted to ride my face and have full control over the motion.



I would most surely die of suffocation or break my neck. (she's a big girl)

I told her, "We can try that someday as long as you don't kill me."

I told her about some of my upskirt type fantasies.
It was dope to be open enough to tell her.

In the Morning: The Second Cumming​

I start massaging her back and we got into it again.
I enter raw and just do a few strokes, we both agree that stroking is the only thing I need to work on. It’ll just take some time.

Then I start fingering her again. This time she’s in doggy position and I’m blasting her with 2 fingers stimulating her clit with my thumb. She moans and screams an tells me when I hit the right spot.
Then BOOM.

“Get off me!” She screamed.
She came AGAIN.

No stream this time, but I think she used it all up last night.

She asked me, “How? How did you do that?”
“Do what?” I said.
“I just came again.”

I said “Wow, I couldn’t tell.”
I genuinely didn't believe it, but she was slumped over again like before.

“Are you sure you don’t want breakfast?” I asked.
“This is my breakfast.” ( referring to the massaging and the sex)

We fucked all over my bed last night and I wasted 4 condoms lol.

But I felt like a G afterward.

I sent her home, a happy camper.

Afterward, I was tired and drained the whole day, Couldn’t focus for shit. Had no energy for anything. Barely got anything done.

But it was worth it. I gained hella EXP from this. I’m currently trying to secure a second option from the apps, so I can at least have 2 in rotation.

This was a good week, all things considered. I feel like I actually grew.
From standing up to a woman and making her pay for being late to a date, to making a girl cum TWICE. I never would’ve imagined this shit happening at the beginning of this 90 day challenge back in December 1st.

90 DAY CHALLENGE RESULTS​

The goal: Get ONE single date and MAYBE get laid ONCE.
The result:

• 4 dates with 4 separate women
• 9 dates overall
• Laid 3 times with one girl.
• Learned the squirting orgasm technique

March 1st marks the end of my 90 day challenge and it all started from me shifting my thoughts from a downward death spiral to an upward positive spiral. I wonder what else I can accomplish if I keep going with this shit.

All I did was find 10 things everyday to be thankful for.

Looking back at my past 90 day challenge where I felt like an utter failure, I think my mistake back then was underestimating how much negative thoughts get in the way of success.
I didn’t have a growth mindset and I wasn’t thinking of solutions to my problems as they came up, only issues.

For these next 90 days, I want to:

• focus on improving my dating photos
• smash a cute/hot girl
• improve my finances and business
• then I'd like to incorporate more cold approach when my job lets off for break.

I think that'll be doable.

In terms of money, the best place to start is by actually looking at my bank account and savings.
Then accept where they are.

DEEP in my mind I probably think:
It’s so difficult and next to impossible to become rich from being a cartoonist. How can I possibly catch up to these young youtube and tiktok millionaires in a market that’s completely cooked?

Now, I know I can find a way.
If anyone can, it’s me.

 

[Upstart]

Life is pulling me in so many different directions, I can't stop moving.​

Today's Selfie:​

Get a load of this guy.

Dating app matches come in waves. Some days or weeks are dry, then a LOT of matches all at once. Most don't pan out into dates. But I like that I can collect exp just from messaging multiple girls constantly.

Some, I hope work out, others I don't really care for, but luckily, I have a fuckbuddy to hold me down while I try to build my rotation. She's even treating me to dinner next time. On HER birthday.



In the coming week, I'll be doing a self photoshoot, going out to different locations in the domain and downtown Austin to take dope photos for my dating profile and instagram maybe approach some girls while I'm at it. It'll be the week of SXSW so parking might be horrific.

I'm gonna get a haircut soon, then use every tip and trick I've learned to takes several great pics every day for 7 days. At the end, I'll review them all and use the best of the best for my profile and the rest for instagram, I'm really trying to optimize my online dating presence to make shit happen. Of course it'll come with a whole new set of quality problems, but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.

I'm 188.5lbs. Nearly to my goal of 187. I should hit it by next week!

As much as I want to fuck, I don't think I can handle more than 3-4 girls in rotation while also trying to run a successful comic business.

But I promised I wouldn't lose momentum ever again so I'm just gonna figure this out.

After my photoshoot, I'll have no problem getting even cuter matches online.
I'm glad I'm getting results even now.
Most have been thickk black women, some thin, but mostly black.
Most responses are generally warm to lukewarm unless I do something in my text game to get better results.

When I think about the girls I actually want, they tend to fall into the category of asian, latina, & white. It's just facts, I can't deny it. I may be able to make up the difference with cold approach tho.

Unfortunately, I also have to create an AWESOME comic and try to make money with.

All the meditation and focus I did to attain this reality is finally bearing fruit and it's sort of exhausting.

Life is coming at me like an endless flow and I can't seem to find a moment to just sit and contemplate it like I used to. Thinking actually slows me down.

I want too much and I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get it ALL.

Not for the thing itself, but for who I'll become as a result.

 

[Adrizzle]

Congrats on the results of the 90 day challenge!

The old Spider-Man hand is very effective. Get good at it, I never go down on girls just a good finger blasting but also my mouth is better used whispering dirty things in her ear.



There a few WW/KYIL dudes who kick around Austin. @MILFandCookies Ed, Ronnie. I know Joe would know good photo spots.

Make a comic about dating as a man. (Have you seen hoemath, he makes shitty pen drawings to explain red pill stuff)

 

[Upstart]

SHE WAS NEARLY IN TEARS.​

"YOU'RE THE ONLY MAN WHO'S EVER MADE ME SQUIRT."

"You're like a drug to me."

"I love it when you're aggressive."

Sheeeeeit.

I'll explain in a min, but check out the fresh cut. (unbrushed)


I had a choice between a $10 student barber and the $40 one and I went with the latter because I wanted their professional advice.
They gave me a good cut, so I took pics for future reference. They give me extra tips on how to take care of my hair, which is exactly what I was looking for.

I also did a little mini photoshoot with my Hunter X Hunter fit.
Not great lighting wise, and my tripod handle was in the way.
Not dating profile worthy, but I might enhance, crop, and post to instagram.

I realized I'm at a crossroads in my life​

I'm caught between major career progress and an abundant dating life.
And I want BOTH.

I grew up drawing and writing constantly. Trying to improve my craft to a level where I could make good money from it. Because of that, I completely neglected my social life.

Now that I have the opportunity to embrace that side of life, I'm also getting MAJOR career changing opportunities at the same time.

I really should lock in and knock these opportunities out of the park, but I promised myself that once I got my dating life started again, I would never let that momentum go down.

Or else I'd have to start over from zero (again), learn the new dating meta (AGAIN) And that is too excruciating a process if you don't have the money to shortcut it.

But if I lock in on my comics career, I would have the money to shortcut it in a few years, I just don't want to wait that long.

It's just gonna take some better planning for now.

THE GIRL​

I made her cum so hard she was basically convulsing on the bed.

RULE 14 of the 16 Commandments of Poon​

"14. Fuck her good"

"Fuck her like it’s your last fuck. And hers. Fuck her so good, so hard, so wantonly, so profligately that she is left a quivering, sparking mass of shaking flesh and sex fluids. Drain her of everything, then drain her some more. Kiss her all over, make love to her all night, and hold her close in the morning. Own her body, own her gratitude, own her love. If you don’t know how, learn to give her squirting orgasms."

That's basically what happened last night.

My sexual confidence had gone WAY up dealing with this girl. I don't fear ED anymore, and I don't even feel like I need Cialis for help, but I am willing to try it someday.

Now I truly see the difference between sex and masturbation, sex is pleasing your genitals by yourself. Only your hand, dick and eyes or thoughts are involved.

Sex is a full body workout.
It requires everything you've got, and more.
I feel so drained the day after a good fuck. That's how tiring it is rn.

I want to work towards dealing with more women who are more my type.

The first time I fingered her to an orgasm she flew off the bed, and was down on her knees ass up.
I spanked it and didn't even give her time to rest. I started to lick around her vulva and clit.

Then we 69 and I finger blast her until she cums again, that's when she convulsed. She seem like she was gonna cry until it all came out.

She's so tired and satisfied by this point, she says "do whatever you want". I jerk off and finish on her stomach. Making sure to wipe her off with paper towels.

(No getting preggers with my sperm, betch.)

I tried to leave in the morning. She would not let go. We fuck again. I set a new stroke record. I make her cum (with my fingers) again.
I try to leave to the point where she's grinding her ass on my dick and I grab her by the tit and her arm and force her with my strength into the bathroom so she can wash up.
She can't resist.
She gasps at the audacity.
She's loves it.

She tells me, "I love it when you're aggressive."

She gives me big hunk of her birthday cake to take home. It was a delicious carrot cake a coworker made her.
She also bought me dinner on her own birthday.
It was thai food. Fucking delicious, from a place called "Madam Mam's".
I've never had thai before.

We also watched Tropic Thunder, her favorite comedy movie which I'd never seen. It was HILARIOUS. I'd only seen clips before, but this was funnier than I expected.

UNFORTUNATELY...​

I know this won't last.

I don't want it to last.

But I'm thankful to her for getting me back into the game and I show it by being completely devoted to her pleasure when we meet up.
I actually started with a full body massage this time. Learned on youtube.
My emotions are almost completely shut off to her, yet I fuck her better and better each time.
Weird dichotomy of emotion there.

PHOTOS​

This week is THE time to lock in and get these photos right. I got my haircut & shaved my chest.

I'll be taking a shirtless photo, and several more photos in dope spots around Austin. I've even got my clothes planned out and ready to iron. I just have a few more preparations to make and tips to read before I go out there.

I'll take HUNDREDS of photos, then I'll choose the best of the best, ai enhance them and share them with y'all on here for critique. Then I'll optimize my profiles for the best results and go from there.

So far, I only plan to keep the dog photo and the white shirt photo (my profile pic)

I need:

• a good portrait
• a social proof photo with a friend.
• a shirtless physique photo
• a photo in a dope spot in austin

The rest are optional, which I'll upload to instagram.
I'll probably take a new motorcyle photo with different fit as well.

Congrats on the results of the 90 day challenge!

Thanks man, Imma keep it going!

 

[Upstart]

First photoshoot results:​

Shirtless photo​

Shot on Samsung Galaxy S8 (Highest 12mp settings)

I was nervous doing this by myself, but luckily almost no one was out on a Monday morning.

I took hundreds of photos until my phone ran out of space.
These are the unedited raws. These are the ones I thought looked good enough.
It's quite likely that none of them are profile worthy.
I may do another shirtless pic at the end of the week.
I tried to remove most of the pics where I looked really angry but the sun was in my eyes so I was squinting a lot.
I think I can change that in face app.

Only in the last pic do I feel like I filled out the frame properly. I feel like the first or last pic has a lot of potential if I edit them correctly.

AM I COOKED, CHAT?​

Any feedback is appreciated, I'll be doing portrait headshot in a fancy location today.
Shouldn't be too difficult.
I hope.

 

[Zug]

I think you look good and the picture idea has potential. I got 0 useable pics out of my first few shoots. It's not about attractiveness or technical photography skill, it's about how to frame the photo and put elements together to make a good profile photo.

I don't think you have any idea how to smile, your facial expressions look like you're smiling at an enemy you're planning on killing soon.

Imagine a funny joke and laugh, that will be close to a natural facial expression.

For shirtless pics I think it's better if it's an "action shot" as those look far less staged and phony. If you can skateboard, take some pics or video skateboarding. Or just make it look like you are if you can't.

If you can do so while people are actually in the background and looking at you all the better.

 

[Upstart]

THEY SAID I COULDN'T SHOOT PHOTOS THERE. I SAID, "FUCK EM."​

( Day 2 Photos Below)​

I drove a fucking HOUR to get to RH warehouse in the Domain today and I was NOT leaving without something.

I asked if I could take some dating photos there and they said I couldn't because of company policy.

I said, "All good. Mind if I take a look around?"

"Sure!"

Me:

I already had my phone and clicker on me. Unfortunately, I had to leave the tripod in my car, but I found a solution.

I found some great lighting and a nice angle and propped my phone in a bush.

I took over 400 photos today. A bit of spray and pray.
These were the best I got (unedited):

Some without the glasses:​

Again I got this all from a Samsung Galaxy S8 12MP camera.

I followed Red Beard Rants Core 4 Criteria:

• Grooming
• Lighting
• Location
• Fashion

The top two pics are my favorites, but I wonder which would work better on my profile.
I'd say this shoot was successful despite the almost setback.

BUT I do have a sunk-cost bias.

It could be that NONE of these photos actually work.
But I want them to work because of the effort I put in to get them.


I've got so much more other stuff to share, but for now, all online dating progress is halted until I finish these photos this week.

Discussion topics (before I forget)

• I simped (YESTERDAY)
• My former friend is secretly my biggest hater.
• I experienced fishy pussy for the first time.
• The girl explains how a full body orgasm felt for her.
• A job opportunity which fell from the heavens. (RDCWorld1 (famous youtubers) called)

Remind me to talk about all this stuff later!

So much is happening all at once, and I've got no time to stop!
I'm taking my friend out on Thursday for a social proof shot.

Luckily, I already have a decent dog shot.

I want to get at least 4 more pics this week.
Though all I really need is the social proof photo.

notes to self

• Wear red with Social photo
• Do a water shirtless pic.
• Do a true profile headshot
• Do a new motorcycle shot with a new fit

I don't think you have any idea how to smile, your facial expressions look like you're smiling at an enemy you're planning on killing soon.

Imagine a funny joke and laugh, that will be close to a natural facial expression.

Now you see why I don't smile
I feel like I need someone there to get me to laugh.
Thanks for the feedback! I'll use that for the second shirtless shot attempt.

 

[kratjeuh]

Background and fashion can still be massively improved but you’re doing great by taking action.

Attached a pic below with some small FaceApp and colour edits.

 

[Bman]

I feel like I need someone there to get me to laugh

Try putting your favorite comedian on full volume on your phone while taking pictures. Then as they tell jokes and you laugh or smile, take photos.

The these photos are decent in terms of quality, lighting, and fashion. They are good beginner basic photos. One of them could be used on your profile for now. Basically fuckboi lite, which is fine. You need fuckboi lite before you learn how to develop your own archetype.

To improve them, you'll need to add intrigue and edge with unique fashion, more interesting location, or more interesting activities.

 

[Zug]

You're taking big steps and making a ton of progress on these. You'll have some good photos soon if you keep improving like this.

Great job

 

[Akilles7]

Background and fashion can still be massively improved but you’re doing great by taking action.

I second this.

@Upstart, you get your fashion on point and get some pics in high-value settings . . . pshhhh sky's the limit G. Really like the sunglasses + chain. Gives me Young Dolph vibes (RIP).

I prefer these pics where you're looking well-to-do, business-focused with a thug edge over the skater ones. I think a more adult look suits you better over a boyish look because you have pronounced masculine features. But you gotta tailor your appearance to the market of girls you want.

 

[Upstart]

Thanks guys!​

It's so weird, whenever I look at example dating photos, they look deceptively basic.
I don't quite know what my archetype is, but I guess it would be an artist.

I draw comics and I like anime.

Zug mentioned in the past; billionaires, athletes, vampires, werewolves, etc.
There's so much I don't understand still.

Should I wear a shirt with a design? Anime shirt? Two chains? Hawaiian shirt? I dunno.

My style is still pretty basic. Mostly graphic tees and regular pants. Got bracelets, rings, etc.

Tomorrow, I'm treating a friend to lunch for a social proof shot. He's got experience using a DSLR so he can snap some good shots as well.

Today I was busy with a different friend, so i didn't take any shots. Except for a few at home

I might have to do two shoots, just to make up for it.

These were additional outfit ideas for the week but I might scrap them.



I might use this fit for the social shot though. Glasses plus 2 chains might be lit.




My buddy knows a place in town with a fountain and a nice red background. I'm gonna try a to get a headshot pic in that setting with this fit.
I wonder if this gives off the "edge" vibe. I'm gonna use it today.

Try putting your favorite comedian on full volume on your phone while taking pictures. Then as they tell jokes and you laugh or smile, take photos.

The comedy strat is genius!
Lol @ "fuckboi lite"

Here is my genuine smile. I took a pic while laughing at Bill Burr and Jon Lovitz roasting each other.


My smile is cooked, chat.
Mainly because of my severe underbite.
But to be fair, this is a bad angle, and a selfie at that.


NOTE to self: go to the River early friday morning for a second shirtless photo for Bumble/Hinge

I prefer these pics where you're looking well-to-do, business-focused with a thug edge over the skater ones. I think a more adult look suits you better over a boyish look because you have pronounced masculine features. But you gotta tailor your appearance to the market of girls you want.

I really haven't given much thought to my market preference, yet. I like girls who are alive.

Background and fashion can still be massively improved but you’re doing great by taking action.

Attached a pic below with some small FaceApp and colour edits.

Yooo thanks for taking the time, man!

You're taking big steps and making a ton of progress on these. You'll have some good photos soon if you keep improving like this.

Great job

Little by little, man! Thanks!

 

[Bman]

So artist would def be an archetype, and one that gets laid, but I want to help understand archetypes better. They are more than a set of clothes or interests. They speak to attractive qualities about your personality that you then use clothes and interests as signals to everyone else about who you are. When a woman sees the clothes you wear or the hobbies you engage in, she thinks "oh, he must be this type of guy."

Here is an excerpt from @AskTheDom and I's upcoming book:

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"What Are the Archetypes Women Find Attractive?​

The Bad Boy: Tattoos, chains, leather jackets, and rugged boots. Bad boys have always been attractive because they embody a universal human trait: the need to rebel.

The Gentleman: Tailored suits and impeccable grooming define this archetype. It signals maturity, stability, and social acumen—traits often associated with CEOs, lawyers, and high-status professionals.

The Athlete: Physical fitness has evolutionary and reproductive appeal. Interestingly, there are more millionaires than men with six-pack abs, making fitness a rare and desirable trait.

The Spiritual Yogi: If you prefer white linen and yoga, you channel a sense of calm and introspection that appeals to the spiritually inclined.

The Promoter: Always appearing in Instagram stories and posting about the latest hotspots, the promoter blends elements of the gentleman and the bad boy with a vibrant social life.

The Surfer: Exuding freedom, fitness, and a laid-back attitude, surfers have a natural allure. However, mastering the art of surfing is no easy feat.

The Protector: This category includes muscular men, MMA fighters, military personnel, and archery enthusiasts. Women often seek safety, and nothing feels more secure than a man who can handle himself in tough situations.

The Lover: Romantic Latin love songs were written for this archetype. You’ll find him at bachata and salsa nights, effortlessly charming his partners.

Of course, this isn’t an exhaustive list. Archetypes evolve with cultural shifts—being a rapper in the ’80s wasn’t as attractive as it is today. If you doubt the influence of these archetypes, just look at what’s trending in romance novels (Fifty Shades of Grey started as a book, after all), pop culture, and social media influencers.

Mix and Match​

Like most aspects of personality, archetypes aren’t rigid categories. You can—and should—blend elements from different archetypes. This juxtaposition adds depth, mystery, and intrigue to your persona.

Imagine being an entrepreneur by day and a protector by night. Congratulations—you’re Batman. You’re welcome.

Brandon naturally embodies three distinct archetypes: the bad boy, the spiritual yogi, and the gentleman. When he dresses in all black, with ripped jeans, a chain around his neck, and leather bracelets on his wrists, people don’t expect him to be calm and centered. Likewise, when he’s in a three-piece suit, they don’t anticipate him rolling up his sleeves to reveal a collection of tattoos. This subtle contradiction sparks curiosity, and as we discussed in earlier chapters, curiosity is highly attractive.

The key is authenticity. Brandon isn’t faking these archetypes; they’re natural extensions of his personality. He is a rebel, a spiritual seeker, and a gentleman—when he chooses to be.

When selecting your archetype, don’t just pick one based on perceived attractiveness. Choose something that aligns with who you genuinely are. Women can sense inauthenticity, and nothing is more unattractive than someone pretending to be something they’re not."

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When you know your archetype, then you can start to craft photos that tell the story of that archetype above and beyond, "this is a good looking guy".

Bad boy:


Spiritual:


Gentleman:



The through line of all these is my rebellious nature, not one that says "fuck society", but rather "I lead my own life."

Depending on your archetype, there will be types of woman that you naturally attract all the time. My bread and butter is always:

Good girls: Women most likely working in a professional field where they must pretend to be hyper masculine all day and wish nothing more to be feminine. They likely come from a middle class background, caring parents, but were sheltered in some way (over parenting, strict culture, religion, Disney parents, small town). May have felt like the odd one in there family and feel a little shame for it. They are sweet, agreeable, like being told what to do and crave the structure and leadership of a masculine presence (akin to a father figure). Secretly they crave freedom, expression, and exploration, not just in the bedroom, but in life like a rebellious teenager would, but have never had the courage to do so.

Free spirits: Woman who crave the fringe and escape from the status quo. Wanderlusts, spiritual seekers, alternative girls. They may look totally different from one another, but their desires are all the same: finding their place and finding themselves. They are open minded and willing to experiment, again, not just in the bedroom, but in life. They want someone who will not judge them, lock them down or try to trap them, and will support their expression.

Dating apps are pretty much marketing. You need to understand the psychographics of your target customer.

The problem is you're a newbie. You don't know your customer, and more importantly, you don't know yourself. That's why when I wrote the archetype guide long ago, I said you have to get around 20 lays under your belt before you have some data to work with about the type of girls you attract, and then back engineering your way into an archetype that is congruent with your personality.

Until then, you just run fuckboi lite - black clothes, some accessories, basic pictures. There is nothing to be ashamed of running fuckboi lite in the beginning. We all do...



...Even me.

 

[Zug]

I said you have to get around 20 lays under your belt before you have some data to work with about the type of girls you attract, and then back engineering your way into an archetype that is congruent with your personality.

100% this, eventually I realized 98% of the women attracted to me were all after a very similar constellation of qualities I possess. I started leaning into it a little more and got more results. I enjoyed letting that part of me develop further, and I kept promoting it further and leaning into being more polarizing this way. I don't know if this applies universally across archetypes, but the more I leaned into being what I wanted for the people that wanted that in me, the more polarizing I became.

I started getting more outright negative interactions (online only, not IRL), but the positive interactions also become far far more positive. Interestingly enough, the more I leaned in, the better my match rate, response rate, and date rate became from all the apps. I couldn't quite figure out why that was, but afaict, its because the more I leaned in, the more authentic, real, and interesting I appeared, even to women not into what I was.

Your goal is not to become an asshole, but stop trying to appeal to ALL women of ALL ranges and interests. You probably have 3-5 potential archetypes available for you, try them all on and see how they feel. See the type of women who respond to it. If you're lucky, the archetype you like and the women you like will sync up perfectly, then start doubling down in this area. Read and consume everything on how to take that part of you to the next level.

For me my archetype that worked best was leaning into the older male, adult, has his shit together, owns more than 1 suit, dominant in an out of the bedroom, kinky and experienced archetype. I loved being this and the more unapologetic I became about it, the better I was. I noticed I kept attracting younger kinky girls into older dominant guys, so I just kept leaning into this more and more overtime. The more I leaned into my archetype, the more I enjoyed being it and the more interests it unlocked for me.

 

[Upstart]

Friday, March 14, 2025​

Turned 29 Today.​

(New photos below)

I really wanted to do nothing today, but I can't stop moving.

I counted 29 things to be thankful for.
My daily practice is 10.

Woke up with my trapezius muscle aching. It still aches as I write this. I didn't even work out yesterday.
I also didn't eat last night, so I could look good for my second set of shirtless photos today, lol.

It worked.
I checked the scale. I'm down to 187.8lbs, SUPER close to my goal weight (187-185lbs).
I'm so stoked! All I did was watch my calories and do some bodyweight workouts at home. I've put in so much work towards cutting, today is my cheat day.

I went to the river early this morning for photos.
Kind of an overcast day, but not bad at all for some pics.
The sun peaked out for a few choice shots. I literally can't decide which one is best.
Location isn't ideal, but I can upgrade that in another shoot down the line.





My first concept was me taking off my shirt, but none of those pics turned out any good. And that's after taking 5-600 pics.



I feel like a pro would've made good use of this lighting and my physique.


Like I said, I took two sets of photos yesterday.
The social proof photo and the profile shot.

My buddy next to me is an absolute DAWG with the ladies.
I have no idea how he hasn't caught any STDs by now. It must be divine blessing.
He lost track of his body count in the 80s.
I bought him lunch and we went out to a nice location for a shoot.

I think the first one came out best. Looks golden. Fountain in view, no cars, good composition.




Then we took a hundred profile head shots, only a couple of which turned out any good. I kept telling him the light was too harsh, but these didn't come out too bad. I think I may do this outfit again with a better background at some point.



I snapped a few of my friend as well and he actually preferred the set up on my phone compared to his Iphone.
Maybe it was just in the right spot.
He's actually really photogenic from years of practice.


I came back later at golden hour for a few more pics, which turned out WORSE.


Ken the Friendly Fuccboi


My smile does look better in softer light so that's something to take note of. But the orange hue of everything looks gross.

I think this outfit would be GREAT at a higher end location. Same with the shirtless photo. But this is the best I can do with my current phone, set up, and time.
I'll go get those photos early this summer in May.

Next up, is editing the photos and changing them on my profile. I wonder if I should delete and restart my profiles? Maybe that would help capitalize on my new pics.

I'll keep the dog photo and the fit photo because they seem to balance out the fuccboi look.
If I had to keep ONLY one it would be the dog pic. It's the linchpin. (and the only photo I've taken with a dog lol)

The problem is you're a newbie. You don't know your customer, and more importantly, you don't know yourself. That's why when I wrote the archetype guide long ago, I said you have to get around 20 lays under your belt before you have some data to work with about the type of girls you attract, and then back engineering your way into an archetype that is congruent with your personality.

Until then, you just run fuckboi lite - black clothes, some accessories, basic pictures. There is nothing to be ashamed of running fuckboi lite in the beginning. We all do...

Now I get it!
I basically have no choice but to use generic fuccboi edge in my pics, until I get enough feedback from girls to lean into my actual archetype. Thanks Bman!

100% this, eventually I realized 98% of the women attracted to me were all after a very similar constellation of qualities I possess. I started leaning into it a little more and got more results. I enjoyed letting that part of me develop further, and I kept promoting it further and leaning into being more polarizing this way. I don't know if this applies universally across archetypes, but the more I leaned into being what I wanted for the people that wanted that in me, the more polarizing I became.

Your goal is not to become an asshole, but stop trying to appeal to ALL women of ALL ranges and interests.

Makes 100% sense now

 

[Upstart]

Time to EDIT! ​

Out of thousands of photos I took this week, I got maybe SIX new usable photos.
Out of those six, I only consider TWO of them really profile worthy.


I got enough good pics to use on my different profiles. Pics for hinge, Tinder and Bumble
I want to restart my accounts to make the best use of these, but I'll go with what I've got for now.


I tried one more motorcycle pic today, but I aborted because the lighting and clothes and especially the background were all OFF.


I've already edited these somewhat. I'm gonna do a little bit more in Facetune then post to tinder and all the rest. Then see what happens.

Wish me luck y'all. Thank you so much for all the feedback!

 

[Upstart]

PHOTO EDITING​

The editing in Google Photos is POWERFUL.
You can use it to quickly upgrade your pics.

I got this result (especially on my arms) using the "POP" slider in Google.


Maybe I overdid it...

FACETUNE is a BETTER than FACE APP.​

Face App can add a nice smile to your face, but it looks fake if it's up close.

I got a 7 day free trial on Facetune to use their AI retake photo feature to change one of my pics from
This ------> to this:

Looks way less try hard lol.

Amazing feature.

Right now I have more photos than I know what to do with.
I don't know which ones are optimal to post. And I have even less idea what my bio should be.
I know for sure I need the dog photo, friend photo & fancy portrait shot, but all others, I'm unsure about.

The old glasses photo has always performed best, but I don't know if I should keep it or delete it.

Here's my current Hinge stack and Tinder Stack.
Tinder won't let me remove my old glasses photo without also deleting my verification. It seems redundant to have it on there basically twice.


Here's my bio. I'm trying to figure out a way to make it more clever. And have clever prompts. Maybe I'll have an answer by the end of the week, for now I'm back to work.

I'll be swiping everyday to see what I get!

 

[Upstart]

The past couple days, I've been fiddling around with my profiles, deleting and rearranging the pics.​

So far, I've removed the shirtless pics to see if I get more hits that way. Maybe they're not the most optimal.
I seemed to have gotten more consistent results with my old profile, but I think adding the three best photos and removing the two less good ones will do some good.

I also changed my height from 6'0 to 6'1.
My buddy advised me to do 6'2, and he's same height as me (6'0). But I didn't want to get called out lol.
Still working my way towards a pro photoshoot one day. It would be dope to go with Dating Unchained, or Wingmen Plus. I just need to make the money for it.

Some things I wanted to talk about.​

I've noticed TWICE i've been on a date with a girl who looked like a CLONE of someone I dated before, but the second time they are much cuter.

The 18 yr old white brunette girl I dated last year compared to the 24 yr old I dated this year who was waaay cuter, looked like her sister. I even asked to make sure.

Last week I went out with a 24 yr old girl who looked like a cuter version of the toad girl I dated earlier this year. She was nice, and liked anime, but it didn't go past a first date.

Just a weird coincidence, but I see it as my SMV getting a little higher.

THE GIRL DESCRIBES HER WHOLE BODY ORGASM​

I fingered the FWB I'm seeing into an orgasm twice in one night.
The second time, she convulsed like she had a seizure.

When I asked her what happened, she said (paraphrasing):

"it felt like all the energy in my body and extremities were being pulled down to my vagina, and when I came, all the energy burst back into my hands and feet causing me to shake it all out however I could."

I thought that was amazing, completely different from how guys feel it.
I wonder if other girls feel similar...