whiteknite321 said:
Hey guys,
Today was my first ever attempt at cold approaching and the grand total of approaches is a whopping zero. I walked for about 40 minutes to a park and wandered around for a little bit before coming back. It was unseasonably warm today and I felt pretty good because of it and wanted to jumpstart my approaching (I was originally going to start at a nearby university tomorrow afternoon, but that's still on the itinerary.)
But I pussied out on all the girls I walked past. In my defense, I counted only 4 girls during the whole trip who were young and attractive enough that I'd approach normally, (and my standards really aren't that high, just a lot of 40+ year olds here.) Still, I had opportunities and missed them.
Like I said, I'm going to a nearby college campus tomorrow afternoon where the pool of girls will be much better and much younger. I'll keep you updated on that tomorrow.
You have no idea how many doors just opened for you. Don't stop. Also how big is your college campus? If you're willing to, message me which school you go to. You don't want to be known as the guy who does that, one of my friends became that guy. But my college campus is huge, and he's a very socially unadjusted person. I doubt you'll have that problem. Just don't do too many in the same spot. Study dates are great too. I've gotten lays from that.
Funniest date I ever got was a girl who was lost asking for directions, I asked for her number and said it was in-case she got lost again lol. You'll probably also get A.I.'s (approach invitations), pay attention for those. don't miss em. A girl will smile a lot and giggle and look away then look back at you and keep doing the same. It's usually a conscious act. (I spent 8 years in college getting 3 bachelor's degrees, I was just trying to avoid the work force) I also wish I joined a frat, so if that's not somethign you're against, consider it, find out one of the popular frats (don't join a lame one, defeats the purpose if your goal is to get laid)
Depending on your major (I'm more familiar with the hard science majors), you can get a study date going on. Do not call it a study date. Just call it meeting up to study. Most girls will be willing to meet you at your apartment too. If you live on campus then your apartment complex has a study room somewhere. One problem I made was constantly asking girls out on a formal date rather than to "hang out", which is lame and sets the wrong tone. Hide your condoms in your pillow for easy access. Have only one chair for her to sit in (this is for a normal hang out, not sure if you can do this on a study session), something I learned cuz some girls will not sit on your bed. Do not simply put a lot of stuff on your extra chairs, girls will move it.
You can also turn up the heater so they remove their extra clothing so it's easier to escalate. And Radical is right, this is only a failure if you quit cold approaching.
College bars are a good place. You can also approach less attractive girls and use them for real study sessions.
Note: I had like 30+ dates from girls I met on campus, and these tricks I also learned from my other dates, the more unattractive a girl is, the more bitchy she is, I don't understand why, that's just my experience. I've never had an attractive girl turn my down rudely or go around telling people about it. So, don't approach unattractive girls unless for practice and you're sure they don't have connections to you. Or if you're forming a real study group. Also, if the class is hard enough, there will already be study groups.
The library is a great place to pick up girls, in my experience. Gym too. I've banged 2 from the gym, I think 2 from the library. Use Tinder too, I recommend. Like physics, chemistry, organic chemistry, biochemistry, etc., those all have study groups always. Befriend guys, they'll usually know hot girls. Gym approaches intimidate the shit out of me, library scares me a bit.
Edit:
Long story short:
1. Don't aim low, always aim high. Hotter girls are actually nicer.
2. Don't be afraid to make a move. I lost a ton of lays and potential dates with really attractive college girls cuz I was scared.
3. Assume a girl is into you if she doesn't cut communication.
4. Pay attention to your surroundings. For girls who are interested trying to get your attention.
5. Always make your room presentable every single day before leaving it. Subconsciously, you're telling yourself that you expect sex to happen.
6. Always have condoms with you, ALWAYS.
7. Don't be afraid to simply ask her to hang out when you just meet her. Just ask what she's up to right at that moment.
8. Have a default "date" option for when you ask a girl to hang out in texts or on the phone (probably text), or for when you meet her and if she agrees.
My default was to show a girl a really nice view in a a building that nobody ever goes to.
And my default for texting was mini-golf. Probably should try the bar from now on, mini-golf gives too much of a boyfriend vibe but I did it cuz I genuinely enjoyed it.
i've taken like 50 girls on mini-golf, they're always surprised how good I am LOL.