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FredBurger CH 3-Conquers his fears;

FredFredburger said:
I am already on a extreme calorie deficit I eat two eggs, two turkey hams and one stick of string cheese and a few oz of chicken everyday the same thing If I add it all up that's about 800 calories per day.
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It doesn’t make logical or physical sense for you to retain weight if you are truely eating like this. I’d bet money that you have severe metabolic syndrome.

Make sure you arnt bullshitting and you arnt cheating with food. Get a blood test and a way for testing for ketones and do a hard keto diet. Not just for your weight but also for your mental health.

 
Adrizzle said:
It doesn’t make logical or physical sense for you to retain weight if you are truely eating like this. I’d bet money that you have severe metabolic syndrome.

Make sure you arnt bullshitting and you arnt cheating with food. Get a blood test and a way for testing for ketones and do a hard keto diet. Not just for your weight but also for your mental health.

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I am probably not doing clean keto tbh I cheat on my diet once a week. I also drink coke zero. Thanks for looking out for me brother I appreciate it. I'll make sure all the extra hot sauces and other calorie free sauces are clean keto. Ill watch the video and try to incorporate some stuff to see if I see any changes.

My receipts.

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Hit Gym for back/shoulder , im getting swolle. When I look in the mirror im starting to look like a body builder
Ive always like very over developed shoulders. I'm going to try to get some of those.
I also need to get a very over developed top chest as well. to deal with gyno
Cheated on Diet today, This was not a planned cheat it was a relapse. I felt like a loser and I cheated on diet.
I went to a dance class to actually get to interact with women. and maybe meet women.

Insight on myself:
I was afraid to go to the dance class because it was at a bar, and I heard horror stories at bars. This fear was a fear that was taught to me. But that was fear talking. I learned earlier this year, if I don't go for what I want to avoid getting hurt, I am going to get hurt anyways. I have to see a daily reminder of that. I went to a dance class to meet women. Technically I met a women. The dance class instructor was talking about energy and how it flow and how contagious energy is. When she began to dance with me she told me she wanted me to look into her face and she wants to see I am confident so I can lead her. She also told me to smile. She didn't have to say it. The energy I emit is cold. Once the class was over she was doing some marketing and inviting me to her other events and she shared her Instagram with me. I plan on going to her other events so I am not alone, cause in the class I was able to channel an energy that took me out of the constant dread I feel. I ended the conversation and said my goodbye's, but when I left I could see pain in her eyes, what social ques am I missing. Why does this keep happening?

"If an eagle is raised by chickens, it will spend its whole life thinking it can't fly." "Every once in a while it will hear a caw in the sky and look up at the majestic powerful eagle always wondering what it would be like to have the ability to fly"
-I honestly don't know who came up with quote I just remembered it
 
Got a job interview for a good job that I would actually want to work at. I will be using the weekend to prepare for that job interview by making YouTube tutorials on everything in the job description.
I went to the gym hit Chest, and tri. I fucked up my back again. so I will give my back an entire week to rest. I am being very generous with the rest time im giving to my back. The first time I fucked up my back it became really swollen and I thought I would have mobility issues. But I actually felt increased mobility and strength after letting it heal for a whole fucking week.
I am going to start reading the book Never eat alone, I thought I found the book but it was only the blink notes. I really hope this book has actionable steps to networking for a good job in tech.

I cheated on my diet again. I have just been really bummed out lately. I'll listen to some David Goggins videos it will take me out of my bummed out state. Also going to dance class has really helped me be a little more positive and helped me approach a little more. I think it also has made people be a little bit nicer to me.
 
Adrizzle said:
Mr Burgers did ya watch that video?
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Yes

I may as well update log;
Hit shoulders and bicep's this morning,
Cheating on diet today due to a social event.
I haven't talked to females for about 3 days or OLD, I am slacking off.
Back to 255lbs; 60 total lbs lost since all time high; I looked back at my logs I was 259lbs on sept 14th
 
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Small update
Weight:
3/15/2023-315
Nov 8th-254.5
Nov 9th-248
Nov 18th-255
Nov 21st-248.8
Nov 22nd-245.0 LETS FUCKING GO! New low for year 2024

I changed my sleep schedule to wake up very early.
September 12th or somewhere around there. My boss berates me at the top of his lungs for 30 minutes calling me useless, car broke down same day.my coworker gave me a ride to my vehicle he was going to help me jump start it. Feeling hopeless I take one last look and I am able to find the problem and apply pressure to the battery terminal to start it. It lasted me long enough to get home. September 15th I send a message telling him I quit. Felt kinda bad for a few months. Car broken for two weeks I feeling broke, my car broke too cant fix car again I order a new ignition switch. The ignition switch gives me enough hope to take a second look. I fix my car again I never needed a new part I just needed hope. I added a piece of tape to old ignition switch which allows it to get contact which starts my car. I return new ignition switch.

Hit gym for two months I procrastinate get job. I feel useless and burnt out. recruiter reaches out to me right away to be a network engineer but then they never giv tickets for contract work. I feel scammed out of my time. Last time I try get job, dec 2023 I unemployed for 6 months, doing 100-300 applications a month . fast foward sept 2024 2 months go by, Feels bad. I Keeps grinding. I look for motivation David Goggins comes to mind. I keep pushing. I walk 7 miles one day, Feet burn. a few weeks later I start feeling a fire starting inside of me. I run 3 miles and walk 7 miles. I notice this broke my weight plateue. So I do it again, but this time harder. First I do my hour leg workout then I run 3 miles and walk 7 miles. Until im the last one still going at the park. As I lose weight and have a healthier outlook on life People start treating me nicer, they giv me free food at little cesears and shit. I see my gym crush flirting with other men. This kills my fire, and spirit . She always looks mad at me now. I fix my schedule to go to gym at 5am. There is no woman trying to annoy me at 5am at gym. I read David Goggins cant hurt me. Shit hurts my soul to read. I want to give David Goggins a hug, man went through a lot. Realise, the pain I feel aint shit. Its a pebble. Feel fire start to return. Start applying to jobs again being more proactive. I apply to a job and go directly to thier staffing company the same morning, tell them how it is. I am highly motivated and want to get shit done asap. I get a job in tech same day. It feels like I hardly put in any effort this time. I feel like I took 3 month vacation and I looked for jobs for 1 week. The reality is I was only out of job for 2 months and 4 days. Start yelling at top of my lungs once call for I got job is over. I yell till my throat hurt. People giv me weird looks, it aint matter. I still dont feel my spirit fully return. sept 22 I wake up at 2:30am and weight myself, am 245. My weight is just melted off I aint even run to melt this off. I just need to remind myself fredFredBurger, just keep going and have faith. Just believe that you are god's child and it is a literal impossiblity for you to lose as long as you dont give up.

TLDR- my grammar aint a bug its a feature
 
Nov 22nd-245.0 Lbs
12/2/2024 -248 Lbs
morning of 12/7/2024 -240.6 Lbs -new Low


Biceps-15.9
Waist-43.2
Abdomen-44.9
Neck-16

Hi again I poped back in because I really wanted somewhere to write down my progress. My I take lunch at my new job around the same time 11am and I eat a salad from my local grocery store. The salad has about 4 carbs. I have some sort of shoulder strain. Once my insurance kicks in ill go to a doctor I just need a doctor to tell me I am allowed to push myself without getting an Irreversible injury. The wight has been melting off. Usually on Saturday and Sunday I cheat on my diet. But I don't know of any food I really want to eat right now, so I have no reason to break my diet. I kind of made a friend at the gym, something the younger me would have never been able to do. I approached a guy and asked him if he was okay with taking turns using the same machine. He was cool with it. I enjoyed having a workout buddy. I feel like I am lacking motivation, I am trying to study for N+. I feel like I need motivation. I just want to level up so bad but I don't have any of the answers to push level up, its frustrating.
During the time I was shadowing at my new job I was talking to my coworker. I heard him speak to women over the phone and they liked him a lot. He likes to talk a lot. He was a lot shorter than me, skinny, has darker skin but he was really good at talking and really smart. He also told me he had a good sized rotation of women. The last day I shadowed I told him I was shy and had trouble talking to people in general I think I gave him an example of how I pissed of a women because I was shy. He told me his brother is also shy, and there is no reason to be shy. He told when he goes out with his brother he would approach random women and literary say, "Hi this is my brother, have you met him?" and then he would walk away. There is zero reason to be shy. He then started to flirt with the next caller who was a women by saying "so at what time do you get off work". Just by listening to him and having to shadow him I feel like it helped me overcome my anxiety a little bit. But I still have a long way to go. I just wish I had good mentorship. I 100% know the reason im even in this mess is because my mentorship growing up was absolute dog shit, and everyone was gaslighting me by telling me "stop blaming everyone else". Okay they are half right but those people who told me "stop blaming everyone else" were also giving me dog shit advice cause it didn't clear anything up, and it did not work and made me feel ashamed about myself. The appropriate way to take accountability would be, by saying I am not learning the things I need to learn so ,I need to start changing things. I don't know what I need to change but I need to change something. Or I wish I had known this when I was younger. but its my fault because I am looking at the wrong people for advice. So the action I need to take is find the right people whom I can mimic or get advice from. That is how I take accountability.

I went to 1 dance class this week. I was having difficulties finding motivation to go. But there was more men then there was women at this class and the other class I went to during November.
This may be because we are in the Holidays. I am to scared to approach women at the mall. The dating apps have not given me good results. I don't know how to network with other people. Studying for the N+ is hard. I still have issues getting really nervous, and having anxiety. The core of who I am, my foundation is cracked and I want to fix it. I need help.

Right now my main 3 focuses
1.Losing weight- its the only thing im doing right.
2.Studying for N+
3.I need to meet more women; seriously where are they all hiding? They need to get the fuck off Instagram and give me attention; Instagram is not real life

Ill end this post on a good note. Ive already lost 75lbs. The good news is I only have 40lbs to go before I meet my weight loss goal. There is a 50% chance I will be there in 3 months.
 
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Firstly, well done on losing 75lbs (34kg), that's no small amount and is testament to your hard work. Pat yourself on the back for that.

Lets pump that 50% up to a 80%. Keep to your discipline and diet. You can't rely on motivation, its discipline that gets you there in the end. When I lack motivation about going to MMA or the gym, as ask myself if I'll feel better staying at home or just going and getting it done, than allowing myself to chill after. Usually the answer is to go, because I'll feel like a useless pos for not going, even if it was more comfortable in the moment. Motivation doesn't get me to the gym, discipline does.

Keep going to dance class, and make friends with both guys and girls there. Its social training which will make you less anxious about talking to strangers and eventually cold approaching. It has to be built up.
 
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