Limitless
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- Dec 10, 2021
This applies to all self-development technically, but this realization hit me hard today or yesterday, and reminds me even of when I was getting great results in my early 20's. Since I've decided to improve my life again, I just log on here (I plan to do more, currently busy with a time-sensitive deadline).
One of my old PUA mentors had a rule called the 1/2 rule. The bare minimum ratio you can have for how much time you browse / study / listen / Q&A about PUA (in this case, we'll use the topic of learning seduction KYIL / GLL style, and general self-development / life improvement), so you can NEVER spend more than DOUBLE the time each week doing brainstorming / studying / NON-active ways of participating in the ("this") self-help community. The lowest (?) (shit, can't recall grammatically if I should be "lowest" or highest" ratio in this situation.
So, I'm like mega dusty with self-help and some basic things, but I plan to start this ASAP. I think once ANYBODY finds the PUA community or self-help community, you CAN NOT keep it at a certain ratio. You have to first integrate and saturate your mind with the information of that entire craft and new (or revisiting an old topic that mentally feels like learning a new craft), is a massive absorption at first.
I don't believe I have to do that, but I will limit the amount of time I spend doing NON-active information absorbing / thinking / writing / reading VERSUS ACTIVE things I could do to improve my life and such, like time active on dating apps and profiles, exercising and revamping my fashion / wardrobe. Work on my posture and tonality and how I talk and come across.
Pursue my non-seduction dreams / goals as well and ensure those are always more important deep down in my heart at all times, my mentors hae kept jealousy and neediness out of their gaming / seduction adventures because their dreams and paths took precedence over ANY AND EVERY girl they were romantically involved with / fucking / about to fuck.
Review my old goal lists and make a new in-depth goal list.
Still plan to start coaching.
So, I won't decide now, but the timing I'm getting I"ll use approximately will be 1/4 (time spent active changing my life / time spent non-active learning how to change my life). Instead of Brad P's (GLL and my old PUA mentor's rule for maximizing seduction skills results) 1/2 rule. I'll gradually reduce this until 1/2, and then after that, automate it so it will be LESS than 1/2 no matter what.
Starting professional mental therapy.
Eating way healthier.
Reading positive books and books on addiction and depression and social anxiety. Lots of positive music and shows. (Like watching Friends boosts my mood overall a lot, even though it is super cheesy).
Going to work on my non-pick up goals too, like piano, guitar, singing, acting, bodybuilding / weightlifting, etc., not all at once, very slowly and gradually, just noting thoughts off the top of my head.
Time is all we have, let's not waste it.
And a new thought about goals and the direction I want my life to go and hwo I want my life to look one day. Is by changing my goals, due to a recent new paradigm shift in the way I think... My goals and most people's goals revolve around getting and gaining and changing life circumstances / etc. But what I've always wanted more than that is to CHANGE MYSELF on the core. In the past I did to a small extent for seductive purposes. But I mean becoming the ideal version of myself. There is one in my mind I realized, on accident. Out of curiosity, do you guys have this ideal version of yourselves? WITHOUT having gotten in-depth ever tallying and quantifying this imaginary version of yourself?
I want to be genuinely a positive and bubbly person. Things and possessions and jobs and pay and even relationships and loved ones in your life come and go. Life is change. Embrace impermanence. What remains, is ME. I won't simplify or try to define myself, as current sciences into psychiatry and psychology is VERY elementary. Is it one of the most popular fields in the world where there are the MOST legitimate guesses about topics, unproven or backed by any actual verified (would be willing to bet your life it's correct, the way you could bet your life in chemistry class or math class when doing a certain mathematical problem 3 times 3 equals 9 or combining 2 chemicals in organic chemistry lab, blah blah blah).
Your goals and what you attain in your journey of self-improvement are nothing compared to the person you become in the process. But what happens when your primary goal is becoming your ideal self? How much can one change? Truly change, with ZERO acting or faking. And not always for pragmatic reasons like, "be happier so I am not depressed." Maybe because I'm Asian, that's always clashed with my goals. I believe, as Artistotle did, that the best goals or acts, are those that were inherently an end in themselves. I change to change. That is the end. There is no next step, there is no further justificiation. That is the end of the goal, and that satisfies me enough.
Okay, just ate for the first time in several days, took tylenol for a horrible headache, my psychiatrist dicked me over and hasn't sent one of my NEEDED medications in almost 30 days, I've never gone this long without it.
Gonna log off now and groom a bit, take some over the counter sleeping meds, and listen to relaxing positive music, and read some positive self-help books or watch a funny show like Futurama or Venture Bros.
One unrelated note: I won't and can't be stopped. My goals, I will achieve them. The only way I won't is if I die. End of story. Changing my life, I realize, is more important than anything in my life right now. And honestly, I will die eventually, before 40 years old, if I don't change my life. Emotionally, I can say safely the pain I feel can be described accurately as, "I am standing at the edge of hell." I've nearly died in an accident before. Physical and emotional pain activates the same parts of your brain. THe emotional pain I've felt in the past 3 years have exceeded and at times doubled, tripled, or quadrupled my near-death accident in which I had to get NEUROSURGERY and am still not recovered even though the accident was not about 7 years ago, got surgery, tons of treatment, seen tons of doctors, physical therapy. This level of progressive (AND I HAVE TO NOTE . . . SELF-AFFLICTED EMOTIONAL PAIN WILL BE THE END OF ME IF I CANNOT DRASTICALLY CHANGE THE COURSE OF MY LIFE). Self-afflicted because a lot of my problems, at least in the last 3 years, were me ignoring girl's red flags, letting areas of my life fall apart and deliberately procrastinating and not doing what I KNEW had to be done to improve my life circumstances or at least prevent it from getting worse.
It's not change or die for me. It's just Change. Because I won't let myself die. I won't fail. Nothing will stop me. I would mother fucking experience that accident 10 or 20 more times before I gave up on these goals. I've broken bones and that felt like 5% of the pain of the accident. I'm committed. This will happen. Fuck excuses. Fuck everything. Fuck everyone. Clarity. Resilience. Time to get this done.
One of my old PUA mentors had a rule called the 1/2 rule. The bare minimum ratio you can have for how much time you browse / study / listen / Q&A about PUA (in this case, we'll use the topic of learning seduction KYIL / GLL style, and general self-development / life improvement), so you can NEVER spend more than DOUBLE the time each week doing brainstorming / studying / NON-active ways of participating in the ("this") self-help community. The lowest (?) (shit, can't recall grammatically if I should be "lowest" or highest" ratio in this situation.
So, I'm like mega dusty with self-help and some basic things, but I plan to start this ASAP. I think once ANYBODY finds the PUA community or self-help community, you CAN NOT keep it at a certain ratio. You have to first integrate and saturate your mind with the information of that entire craft and new (or revisiting an old topic that mentally feels like learning a new craft), is a massive absorption at first.
I don't believe I have to do that, but I will limit the amount of time I spend doing NON-active information absorbing / thinking / writing / reading VERSUS ACTIVE things I could do to improve my life and such, like time active on dating apps and profiles, exercising and revamping my fashion / wardrobe. Work on my posture and tonality and how I talk and come across.
Pursue my non-seduction dreams / goals as well and ensure those are always more important deep down in my heart at all times, my mentors hae kept jealousy and neediness out of their gaming / seduction adventures because their dreams and paths took precedence over ANY AND EVERY girl they were romantically involved with / fucking / about to fuck.
Review my old goal lists and make a new in-depth goal list.
Still plan to start coaching.
So, I won't decide now, but the timing I'm getting I"ll use approximately will be 1/4 (time spent active changing my life / time spent non-active learning how to change my life). Instead of Brad P's (GLL and my old PUA mentor's rule for maximizing seduction skills results) 1/2 rule. I'll gradually reduce this until 1/2, and then after that, automate it so it will be LESS than 1/2 no matter what.
Starting professional mental therapy.
Eating way healthier.
Reading positive books and books on addiction and depression and social anxiety. Lots of positive music and shows. (Like watching Friends boosts my mood overall a lot, even though it is super cheesy).
Going to work on my non-pick up goals too, like piano, guitar, singing, acting, bodybuilding / weightlifting, etc., not all at once, very slowly and gradually, just noting thoughts off the top of my head.
Time is all we have, let's not waste it.
And a new thought about goals and the direction I want my life to go and hwo I want my life to look one day. Is by changing my goals, due to a recent new paradigm shift in the way I think... My goals and most people's goals revolve around getting and gaining and changing life circumstances / etc. But what I've always wanted more than that is to CHANGE MYSELF on the core. In the past I did to a small extent for seductive purposes. But I mean becoming the ideal version of myself. There is one in my mind I realized, on accident. Out of curiosity, do you guys have this ideal version of yourselves? WITHOUT having gotten in-depth ever tallying and quantifying this imaginary version of yourself?
I want to be genuinely a positive and bubbly person. Things and possessions and jobs and pay and even relationships and loved ones in your life come and go. Life is change. Embrace impermanence. What remains, is ME. I won't simplify or try to define myself, as current sciences into psychiatry and psychology is VERY elementary. Is it one of the most popular fields in the world where there are the MOST legitimate guesses about topics, unproven or backed by any actual verified (would be willing to bet your life it's correct, the way you could bet your life in chemistry class or math class when doing a certain mathematical problem 3 times 3 equals 9 or combining 2 chemicals in organic chemistry lab, blah blah blah).
Your goals and what you attain in your journey of self-improvement are nothing compared to the person you become in the process. But what happens when your primary goal is becoming your ideal self? How much can one change? Truly change, with ZERO acting or faking. And not always for pragmatic reasons like, "be happier so I am not depressed." Maybe because I'm Asian, that's always clashed with my goals. I believe, as Artistotle did, that the best goals or acts, are those that were inherently an end in themselves. I change to change. That is the end. There is no next step, there is no further justificiation. That is the end of the goal, and that satisfies me enough.
Okay, just ate for the first time in several days, took tylenol for a horrible headache, my psychiatrist dicked me over and hasn't sent one of my NEEDED medications in almost 30 days, I've never gone this long without it.
Gonna log off now and groom a bit, take some over the counter sleeping meds, and listen to relaxing positive music, and read some positive self-help books or watch a funny show like Futurama or Venture Bros.
One unrelated note: I won't and can't be stopped. My goals, I will achieve them. The only way I won't is if I die. End of story. Changing my life, I realize, is more important than anything in my life right now. And honestly, I will die eventually, before 40 years old, if I don't change my life. Emotionally, I can say safely the pain I feel can be described accurately as, "I am standing at the edge of hell." I've nearly died in an accident before. Physical and emotional pain activates the same parts of your brain. THe emotional pain I've felt in the past 3 years have exceeded and at times doubled, tripled, or quadrupled my near-death accident in which I had to get NEUROSURGERY and am still not recovered even though the accident was not about 7 years ago, got surgery, tons of treatment, seen tons of doctors, physical therapy. This level of progressive (AND I HAVE TO NOTE . . . SELF-AFFLICTED EMOTIONAL PAIN WILL BE THE END OF ME IF I CANNOT DRASTICALLY CHANGE THE COURSE OF MY LIFE). Self-afflicted because a lot of my problems, at least in the last 3 years, were me ignoring girl's red flags, letting areas of my life fall apart and deliberately procrastinating and not doing what I KNEW had to be done to improve my life circumstances or at least prevent it from getting worse.
It's not change or die for me. It's just Change. Because I won't let myself die. I won't fail. Nothing will stop me. I would mother fucking experience that accident 10 or 20 more times before I gave up on these goals. I've broken bones and that felt like 5% of the pain of the accident. I'm committed. This will happen. Fuck excuses. Fuck everything. Fuck everyone. Clarity. Resilience. Time to get this done.