Well, I'm here after a week of Tinder Gold and the use of the boost on Saturday and updating other dating apps. The results?
A good 20 odd likes on Tinder the next morning (after thinking the boost was a scam with nothing changing in terms of like count the moment it ended).
Of these:
- A lot of them are much farther out than I put as a filter
- A few odd ones were just bot accounts shilling camsites
- A good chunk of girls that allegedly are planning to travel to the Netherlands
- The odd few "holy shit, she's hot" girls that also are verified
This translated to:
- about a third that I matched with actually responded (not the girls in the latter category above, unfortunately)
- 3 were open to giving me their number
- 2 of those were looking for boyfriend/platonic relationships
- The one open to meeting me is allegedly going to be in the Netherlands in a month (Press X to doubt)
Now, I'm currently too broke to afford more boosts aside from the freebie Gold gives you. And the dropoff in likes is VERY noticable, with maybe a like or two on Monday and nothing in the last few days. Pay to win in-fucking-deed.
Bumble has been moderately succesful, with about 8 likes, of these I only matched with 4, of which one never did anything. 1 dropped off the conversation, 1 is currently up in the air as to where it will go and 1...actually led to a date. Just now actually.
Unfortunately, no lay. When I offered to hang out at my place after the cafe we were at closed, she declined, saying she had something to attend to early next morning (a babysitting job, I was told). I am a bit on the fence as to it being true or not, but not much else I can do. Did seem open to another date, and she did mention specific days for the job, so perhaps with that I mind I can get better logistics with the follow up.
Also important to mention is that I've been following Andy's guide, in particular the messaging girls part (part 3, I think), to a autistic degree. It cuts on time twiddling my fingers and just copy pasta the message, although it does force me to use a braincell or two when I need to translate to Dutch. Hopefully the polarizing bit carries over to potential dates.
Speaking of, couldn't do too much on that front on the date itself. Did manage to hold her hand to ask about a bandage on her finger and hug her at the end of it (alongside the most awkward peck on the cheek you've ever done seen), but didn't want to sit next to me when I offered at the cafe. So all around...okay for my first date from OLD, I guess? Perhaps being more aggresive with physical contact would help, but, again, not entirely sure if the decline on my invitation was purely logistical or not.
Also set up Badoo earlier this week, but holy shit dude, the amount of girls that have nothing but selfies of their face under a metric ton of makeup and filters is frankly absurd. Face only profiles usually scream "I'm fat and extremely self conscious of it", so that's just a no from me. Maybe my ego's gotten a bit bigger with the results from the past week.
Might end up resetting my Hinge, if only because I haven't touched that shit in years (wow, my old photos were so baaaaaad), but also because you can't remove photos, only replace them. Didn't get anything from this, but also didn't really swipe on it or buy the premium options (broke af, boi).
By all accounts, I should be happy that I managed to get a date within a week of resetting my OLD accounts (ironically coming from the app I didn't pay for, lol), but somehow there's still a twinge of feeling like a failure. Maybe I'm a bit too focused on only counting a lay as a "success" instead recognizing the improvements I've made so far. Or maybe my backed up urges are yelling too loudly at me, who knows.
Oh, and my rings came in today just before the date, by some divine miracle. Got a plain silver ring and a silver dragon ring, of which I wore just the plain one to the date (because I was too much of a self conscious bitch to be cool and wear the dragon one as well). Maybe if I wore it, she would've swooned immediately, come over and I would feel less of the aforementioned twinge (probably not).
That was my weekly update, expect less exciting news next week because no more boosts.