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Living the dream/ Phase 1 - The first crossroads

I don't think this photo is an improvement over your current ones. The lighting isn't great and we can't see your eyes. Try to take photos in cloudy conditions or at golden hour after the sun has gone behind buildings/trees for better diffuse lighting.
 
pancakemouse said:
I don't think this photo is an improvement over your current ones. The lighting isn't great and we can't see your eyes. Try to take photos in cloudy conditions or at golden hour after the sun has gone behind buildings/trees for better diffuse lighting.
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Thanks for the feedback, I'll relegate this one and try for better pics when it's cloudy
 
OLD:
Tinder: almost had a date today but she flaked, sais she's free tm so fingers crossed. Met my swiping target but it's died down to few matches with unattractive women
Bumble: 1 match, no message, swipes used
Hinge: Sent 50 likes

Looksmaxxing:
Diet on point, (added fish and greens into weekly shop) getting some compliments about looking slimmer too. Weight will be down to 108kg by Sunday
Workout done
Got another dermatologist booking on the 28th which is a week sooner than the other one
Mewing update: My airways feel way more open and I think I've got proper tongue posture now

Had a great guitar practice and tidied my room while listening to some motivational podcasts

Tomorrow:
Workout- lower
Hopefully date
Read AA program
Hit OLD numbers
Guitar practice- start working on a teaching website
 
Went on my tinder date today. She was a little overweight and 35 but I made myself go just for experience and actually had a pretty good time talking and connecting. She also seemed pretty into me which was very validating even though I politely tried to friendzone her lol. This is a big win for me and proof of concept that even with my shit logistics and crude profile I can at least get on the ladder, a low rung but its a start. This makes 2 dates in a week and a half for me which is unprecedented. I'm also pleased to know that I can socialise and click with women, overcome my bullshit thoughts- I was honestly thinking of flaking and put myself out there. We ended on a hug and I hope I can recreate this success with women I actually want to fuck.

OLD:
Tinder: 200 swipes, got some matches and sent some template messages, I'm getting a few message me first which is cool
Bumble: Got a match, no message yet, all swipes used
Hinge: 50 likes sent, 3 matches, 2 conversations, asked one for a coffee- waiting for response

Looksmaxxing:
Diet is pretty fucking impeccable at this point: Today I ate free-range local eggs, wholemeal bread. Dinner was salmon fillet, broccoli green beans and tomatos, had some satsumas and an apple post workout
Hit a good lower body day and clawed back my precious deadlift strength
Also maintaining my skincare routine

Had a great guitar practice but haven't started on my website yet
Didn't read the AA program - wasted time on Tik-tok like a butthead

Tomorrow:
OLD quota, send messages, ask out for drinks ect
Maintain good diet
Upper body then 5k run in evening
Sort out passport stuff for Friday
Guitar practice - start website
Read AA program
 
Been feeling quite stagnant and overwhelmed the last few days so I will focus on weekly and monthly goals and try to take consistent small steps.

OLD:
Tinder: didn't boost on Saturday as i got loads of matches thurs/fri and found it hard to wade through all the messages, I'm getting some attractive girs match with me.
Bumble: all swipes used, 1 match, no message
Hinge: 50 likes a day gets me about 5 matches but the convos dont seem to go as far as on Tinder right now, will up to 100
I might have a few dates lined up through my efforts: there could be one on Tues when i'm back down in Brighton and hopefully a couple next weekend. Will try using boosts weds/thurs to line something up for the weekend too.

Looksmaxxing:
Diet is healthy but my weightloss has stalled, I'm getting my diet program this week though so it should start dropping again

I've procrastinated on my guitar teaching website
Also lost a few potential dates because i'm too far away - location needs to change

This week:
Loose 1kg- down to 108- priority
Hit OLD numbers
Start and finish guitar teaching site
Get new pics early on the weekend
Go to 2 social events
Apply for 5 jobs in cities
Sort out family shit in Brighton
See dermatologist on Fri

I've made a new female friend who is very good looking and talking to her makes me less nervous and should help on dates
 
OLD:
Tinder: all numbers met, hopefully got a date this Saturday. Another girl seems straight up dtf but also sais she's working this weekend ffs. Ran a boost weds and today to try and get dates for the weekend- seems to be working although I definitely get less matches compared to fri/sat/sun boosts.
Hinge: numbers met but fewer responses than on Tinder
Bumble: Got a match and am talking to her but have given more attractive girls priority
I have another date lined up tomorrow, she's pretty but also a Christian so could be a prude which doesn't help when I dont know what I'm doing haha

Looksmaxxing:
Weight has fell off: been 107kg for the last two days which is great: surpassed my goal. Gonna have my diet plan consult on sat and roll down to 100kg in no time
Diet: adhered to and healthy

Tomorrow:
Work on early shift
See dermatologist at 4
Power nap
Hit OLD numbers
Date at 7 - if she flakes ill go hang out with my friends
 
August goals:
Drop weight from 107 to 104kg
New Tinder pictures
Stylemax
Keep looksmaxxing
Dickmaxxing
Hammer OLD and beat my 2 dates per month number
Find place to move out!

What I did well last month:
Lost weight
New tinder pics
Saw dietician
Saw dermatologist
Had 2 dates

What needs to improve:
Find a place to move out - stop dragging my heels on this.
I turned down a date because I was tired - this was plain lazy
More consistent posting on here - will be every day

This week:
Hammer OLD
Drop to 106kg
Maintain healthy diet and skincare routine
Pre-emptively stop hairloss
Gym ×4 Cardio ×2
8 job applications
Research side-hustle
Go to female friend's birthday party on sat- try to get a number as there's a great ratio
 
Good work!

Turned down a date because you were tired - that's poor.

But you owned up and told the truth, which I respect.

Manage your energy better dude and tighten it all up.

MAC
 
MakingAComeback said:
Turned down a date because you were tired - that's poor.
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I needed to hear this. I thought I was too good for the process. This was retarded

OLD: Numbers hit, trying to set something up for the weekend
Ordered a cool jacket so will get more photos when it arrives.

Looksmaxxing:
Had a meeting with dietician today. Scales said I've gained muscle and no fat so body comp has improved. We will increase the defecit and keep moving the weight down
Diet is healthy too
Mewing: my palate actually seems to have expanded which is really interesting
Skincare: got a proper routine on the go so will maintain
Workouts are all good

Been using the bathmate and interested to see what will happen

Did a big meal prep today too after my workout
 
Hit my OLD numbers. tried to get a girl from tinder out for a drink, she seemed down but then she made up some excuse about doing her friend's hair so will un-match. I actually got a few matches from some very attractive girls when I was in Brighton over the weekend and they replied to my messages which is cool.
I might try a match.com profile and see if that's any good.

Looksmaxxing:
Workout done before work this time which feels good to get a jump start to the day
Defecit maintained
Skincare routine done
Healthy diet
Used the bathmate for 10mins too
 
OLD: All numbers hit, ran a boost too.
Started a match profile and sent 50 likes. Less good looking women there but they all seem local.

Looksmaxxing continues
Cardio done
Defecit maintained
Used bathmate again

Seemed to burn through my time so fast today, need to devote some time to side-hustle development.
 
OLD: numbers hit, asked a girl for a drink this weekend, another sais she's free next week so will see.
Looksmaxxing continues: will add dermarolling and nizarol shampoo into routine.
Took a day off from the bathmate
Defecit maintained
 
OLD: Numbers hit, hopefully got a date on Sunday.

Went out and met a good friend/mentor today. He's a combat vet, has a PhD in neuroscience and a fit wife. Talked about moving out of my small town and onto better things. He said I'm capable of finding my way and I told him to stop being fat lol.
Saw a female friend too, its crazy how many guys she has after her. She got absolutely shitfaced and threw up but still had someone to drop what he was doing and drive her home at 3 in the morning!

Workout done.
Defecit maintained.
Used bathmate
 
OLD: Tinder numbers hit, missed on the other apps.
Date later today seems locked in

Friends birthday party was ok:
Talked to this one girl for a while but she bounced without saying anything.
Ask for number: failed
The bar in oxford was really cool though, so many absolute stunners.
I definitely get lost in crowds and don't have that extraverted ability to talk to loads of people but it was good fun to get out.

Looksmaxxing:
I won't drink much for a while now
Been in a hard defecit for the last two days
Skincare routine maintained

Moving out stuff:
I could keep my job and move to Oxford which is decently sized but expensive af. Or risk taking a hit to my salary and go somewhere bigger. Its time to get serious about this - I will be out of the house by October even if I have to wing it.
 
Date 3: she's a bit bigger than in her pictures. Great vibe and conversation but I'm not that attracted to her so it feels a bit platonic. Happy I got another date in though, I was super nervous but felt more chilled out and made just a nice human connection with her. She actually took the train down to see me too. Faced my demons and feel content.

OLD: Numbers hit, working on new leads.

Social: Asked the girl from last night out, she says she's not looking to date as she's just come out of a relationship. Pleased that I asked and my intentions were obviously clear.

Looksmaxxing continues: I'm going to be super healthy this week and treat myself well. I want to limit social drinking too: I use it as a crutch but holy shit if I drink too much I get waves of anxiety and this bleak dread just oozes into my mind; not very fun lol.
Also I smoked a cigarette on both nights - won't do this again, I deserve to be healthy
My weight stayed the same - I'm following my diet plan still so hopefully I'm just holding onto water weight and glycogen and the fats still coming off.

Job search failed: I've at least told one of my best mates about it and my folks know too now and seem pretty supportive which is really cool.

I finish work early on Fridays so I can drive into Oxford Fri,Sat,Sun and do day approaches at least 3 days a week. Even if I just compliment one woman it'll be a start. If I bottle it anyone reading this please call me a cunt haha
 
OLD: I took a day off after yesterday's date going well and feeling drained, will be back on it tomorrow.

Looksmaxxing:
Cardio done
Harsh defecit today so I can hit 104kg by the end of the month
Skincare done, my face actually feels smoother.
If I can sort out/kinimise the bags under my eyes and get lean I think I'll actually be in a really good position- then it'll just be my mental bullshit holding me back- which I know I can overcome.
Researched hair-preserving shampoo from MPMD, will also find a good dermaroller to buy tomorrow.
Looked into tanning peptides as I'm very pale and burn easy, not keen on injecting but they seem interesting.
Got a dickmaxxing routine on the go which I'd highly recommend to people who've gone through years of sexual repression as it makes me feel more potent.

Pretty slow day and the early shift 5am start was brutal after a weekend of drinking/socialising/date

I've been 28 for a month now! But I am moving slowly forwards.
 
OLD: Hit all numbers, trying to get dates on the weekend so will be boosting Wed, thurs, Fri.

Looksmaxxing:
Defecit maintained, batch cooking done for the rest of the week. Diet healthy.
Skincare routine maintained
Bought hair-preserving shampoo
Bought some collagen supps.
Looks like a bit of money for a proper dermapen so will do more research.
Still interested in tanning peptides.
Will look into getting an ear piercing.
Dickmaxxing routine maintained, I think I'm making small gains but it could also be the fat loss at this stage.

Life stuff:
Car needs fixing up
Overtime offered at work- will be used to pay to car and more improvement products

Anxiety is still high, probably clearing alchohol from my system - optimism is returning though
 
OLD: Numbers hit, ran a boost, asked 4 different girls out this weekend but they all sound busy. On Tinder I'm no-longer blind swiping to try and get the algorithm on side so I'm sending 300 likes now instead of 200 random ones.

Looksmaxxing:
Defecit maintained
Diet healthy
Skincare routine maintained
Still mewing
Dickmaxxing done
Not sure how effective at-home dermapens are so holding off buying one for now.

Listened to motivational stuff on ig and it actually helped so I'll try to add a daily point of gratitude.

Gratitude: I'm grateful that I have the opportunities to face my fears and grow as a man.
 
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