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Living the dream/ Phase 1 - The first crossroads

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Had a great workout, completed a window clean and had a talk with someone from a training course for plumbing and gas engineering.

Right now I'm paying off a coaching course and doing this course would add another £400 a month on top of that, add in renting and it's not really a good option right now.

If I save up for it it'll take about six months to be able to pay for it upfront.

Moving back to Nottingham with a job I like better and a cheaper place is a decent option but it still means I'll be figuring out what to do for work long term.

I could go hard with the window cleaning for a year, make good money and then look to add other skills in once I already have a business up and running. This would mean the costs are no problem and solves the boredom issue.

I'm going to need more cash to pay for everything and I think that's what this business model is best for. I can also aim to move onto the sales and management side of and take on an employee as well.

Most importantly I want to be building things rather than spinning my wheels.

Decision:

I'm going to aggressively pursue window cleaning (with my add on services) and really dominate and scale the business. I set my sights too low on the end goal and forgot about playing to win.
 
Got a plan for the next three weeks:

I've found some work mon-thurs doing 12 hrs a day so pretty intense but it gives me Friday off.
I'll use the Fridays to go door to door and for my 20 existing customers.
I should be able to save up for a month's living expenses pretty quick and cover the final payment for my flat.

On the week of the 5th aug I'll be able to go door to door again for a week as the place I'm working has a shutdown for maintenance but will up the amount I'm doing to about 6hrs a day.
I might be able to get enough work in this week to hit my escape velocity and cover all my expenses from window cleaning. If not I'll go back for another month and slowly build more customers on my Fridays.

Door to door is great but to reach the next level I'll explore other leads such as Google ads.

Systems:
Workout × 4, cardio × 2
Sleep - as much as possible
Healthy high protein diet - will eat at maintenance calories as I'll be working so much
Hot/cold every Thursday
Walk in nature once a week
Keep up my socialising
Mitigate UV, dehydration and bad weather when on jobs
Spend some time on dating apps

Otherwise I've got two pressure washing jobs lined up next week and hopefully a couple more window cleaning customers from talking to old colleagues at a work event.
Was cool going to this as last year I applied for a job that would have doubled my salary. I almost got it and the next one I applied to but not quite. The woman who interviewed me came up to me and asked if I was still with the company as she had been looking for me for other roles.
Very cool I made a good impression and it reminded me how annoying it was to wait for other people to decide when I get promoted or if I get a better job and why I want to take my financial destiny into my own hands.
 
Next week I can start going door to door again and will complete my existing jobs as well. Excited for this and it was nice going to fill up on water this evening for tomorrows work.
I think a good 6 months of focus here and I'll actually be rich. I might leave the UK long-term but not certain.

Women:
Been using the free versions of Tinder, Bumble and Hinge and as expected its been very difficult getting anything going in this area and not having my own place to invite girls back to.
More than that I remembered why I stopped using them as soon as I got a good sex life going last year and find them draining.
I've been in the cycle of: get matches, think they're not someone I'd want a relationship with, maybe I can set up a wine and fuck date, end up getting dirty messages, bust a nut and loose interest lol.
It feels very pornographic, like scratching an itch and I think its actually bad for me and has made me callous and jaded - I'm only seeking to use these women to fulfil a biological impulse and want nothing to do with them otherwise.
I thought back on the girls I have been with and I think both me and them were just using eachother.
I basically used first girl to work through my ED and had after sleeping with her felt no real connection while she used me for validation.
The women I actually feel fond of were the first girl I slept with in Nottingham because she was so upfront and easy to deal with and M and that was because she was a friend to me just as much as an fb
I never considered a relationship with M because she told me a story of how she was seeing two guys at once and didn't tell them about each other.
I'm going to take a break from the apps again and see how much I can de-sexualise my brain because I'm tired of acting in this bestial way chasing after biological impulses.

I've spent a good bit of time with religious communities and I cant help but see how in the west we are just fucking and running round in circles while the population collapses whereas there is actual life and things being built by more traditional societies.
I talked to an Iman and asked him if he thinks without arranged marriages and societal pressure men and women will simply serve their own sexual vices and he told me while societal contracts are important, the issue is spiritual. I don't really know what he meant but found it reassuring to think that women are not just a hypergamy algorithm but that a lot of dissatisfaction in the western dating world is caused by spiritual ill. I am starting to think that a lot of the women I slept with just wanted something from me (they were lustful and so was I) and that I need to filter out these behaviours from myself and filter out these sorts of women, so no more chasing booty calls for me as its not worth it to me at this stage of my journey.

I'm fundamentally using women to replace my old prn addiction without dealing with the root issue. I can rule out self love, unworthiness and being a virgin at this point so I'm going to do a long period of nofap and see what emotions come up.

Irl:
Talked to a couple women at the job I was at.
In person I'm getting interest from significantly hotter women than on my profiles.
One was only 19 and lived at home like me right now so I left it there.
The other girl was actually beautiful and kept staring at me, not trying to hide it either. She was Polish and talking to her was quite difficult, especially while trying to work.
Very encouraging though, I think the future is finding events where lots of women are and just talking to loads of them.

Had a fun date with a girl from Tunisia, very intelligent and good to talk to, decent looking but I didn't feel super attracted to her for whatever reason. Made out after the date (first time I've actually done that on a first date without just going to sex)

Goal here is to find a woman I want to have kids with and then do so.
 
Small town lay!
Managed to get laid with free tinder with my lack of logistics lol.
Went over to hers, she's a mixed race milf and very sex positive.
Said I was looking for enm and she was as well.
Talked on the sofa for a bit but her dog wouldn't leave me alone, she said I do look very cuddly and came over to get in on the action.
Escalated very quickly, ended up choking her from behind and using a flogger on her which was a lot of fun. Almost came straight away so I suppressed it and ended up not finishing but a great night none the less.
I was also fasting all day, had done a workout and was out working and actually started feeling hungry towards the end 😆

I'm also pretty confident I have ADHD now as she's the third person who I've talked to who has been officially diagnosed with it and it basically sounded like my day to day life.
At my old job when I was doing boring tasks I would start fidgeting, pacing, pulling my phone out, checking it and putting it away on loop as if it was almost painful to stand still.
I don't think it's a problem for me though as I can focus on stuff I'm interested in pretty well and am used to getting stuff done while my mind is wandering around.
I think mindfulness is very helpful in this regard.
 
Nice one man. You mind sharing what you are saying over the apps chat/how are you screening for this exactly?
 
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I've been using this copy and paste:
"Hey you're very attractive. What's one thing on your bucket list that you haven't told anyone yet?"
When they do reply it makes it pretty easy to talk to them - in this case she said go skinny dipping.

I'm trying to set up dates either at their place or nearby and ask them for a drink in about five messages.
This girl cancelled last week but I thought it was genuine so I kept talking to her when she hit me up again on Monday.

As far as screening I just swipe on decently attractive girls. Her bio said poly/enm is bi and has a lot of tattoos so I got the impression she'd be pretty adventurous.

Asked her why she swiped and she said she thought I looked cute. (This is when I was at hers)

I'm not doing anything very skillful but I am trying to get laid.
For example last night she said I could pick her up and go into town or I could bring a couple drinks over to hers so it was clear to take the second option for the best chance of getting laid.
We matched just over two weeks ago too which is rare for me as I'll try to set dates up asap.
 
I've been stuck in a rut the last week and finding it difficult to get momentum going.
Weird that I can make myself show up to jobs I dont like but let things slide when it comes to growing my own business.

I've got some jobs booked for next week and another roof clean (a lot smaller than the last one. Also will have been on three dates and got laid once this week so I'm slowly getting stuff done.

Business:
I've set up a separate bank account and an invoice system so I can track customer payments after each job.

Self motivation:
I'm going to make a spreadsheet to track things I want to do each day and build a framework so I don't get distracted or waste time
 
This week:
Door to door 5hrs mon-fri
May change slightly depending on how many jobs I get.
Saturday: roof clean
Sunday: rest

Use the apps - so far I've got three dates set up next week so I'll keep stacking them up until I get invited over again

Eat healthy
Skincare
Workout ×4 cardio ×2
 
Workout ✅
Door to door - did 4hrs but there was a heat wave so I was sweating profusely while talking to people 😆 landed a few jobs but was quite slow.
Date - seemed to go well, girl is from Norway and lives in my town. She started seeding for future dates and walked some of the way back with me. Made out at the end and she said that was nice. Cucked for pulling opportunities but she knows I'm living at home rn so maybe she'll invite me to hers next time.
Healthy diet ✅
Skincare ✅

Date tm has cancelled but seems very apologetic so hopefully can reschedule.
 
Did the bare minimum today.
Completed one of the jobs I landed yesterday and booked a pressure washing job for Friday as they were very impressed with the transformation.
I was pretty pleased after landing this next job so chilled out for the rest of the day to stay out of the heat.
Will be back knocking doors tm and hopefully another date lined up.
Girl from last night said she wants to go out on Saturday and seems very keen.
Also seeing a girl on Thursday who from her photos is fucking stunning so hoping that goes well.
 
A much more productive day.
Door to door went fairly well and I stopped being a pussy and played the numbers properly. The wide range of reactions can be a trip but I focussed in on just finding my people.
Getting my momentum back here and it's so simple yet effective.
I've also actually had the chance to use my business email as well with two new people contacting me through it.

Date went as well as possible. She has a great body, made out in the car park for ages and grabbed her ass - she was really into it. She also lives with her parents and we're 40 mins drive apart so will actually suggest getting a place where we can both stay and see what happens.
If I had a nice car I could suggest car dates although I'm too big to be fucking girls in a normal size car anyway.

Tomorrow's super hot girl has told me she feels ill so will try to reschedule. Apps have slowed down again. Will probably see last week's girl again next week too.

If I pay for the apps I can probably build some sort of small town harem here.
 
Served a plate of shit today, got 1 new customer for my efforts.
Fri, sat, Mon all booked with jobs though which is good.

Another date with Monday's girl on Saturday.
Girl from last night messaging me to say good morning which is nice.
The last three girls have all been very enthusiastic which is cool.

Slight sore throat today but want to lift heavy tm so I'll see what I can do.
 
Jet washing this morning then 4 window cleans, one of them on a massive property.
Feels good to get stuck into some actual work after a quiet week of door to door.
All customers were very pleased. One said he'll mention me to people he knows when I said I'm fairly new to the business and I realised that the best customer relations are one where you're both on the same side.
I think this is the ethos I was to carry forwards as it makes all the sales side easy when you view it as a series of positive exchanges rather than hitting X number of new customers per week.

I have the roof clean tomorrow and a full day booked for Monday as well.

Doing much better in the heat now too.
 
Today I'm seriously grateful.
I'm about 70% of the way through the roof clean, going back Tuesday to finish it. Picked up some work from her neighbours too so I'll clean their conservatory roof as well when I go there on Tuesday.
She tipped me a massive amount because "I worked hard and did a good job." And also to cover my petrol.
Actually made me a bit emotional the sheer generosity.
Slowly but surely everything is coming together.

Moved today's date to tomorrow evening as I'm super tired now.
 
A decent day for cleaning, got a new customer who came up to me while I was doing a job for his neighbour.

I've got my diet on track as I've been under eating and not getting enough protein since Friday as I've been so busy.

The physical labour has also tanked my strength in the gym so I'll have to get used to this new nerfed version of me for a little bit.

Right pec is slightly tweaked, felt it while doing pull-ups but I also felt it when cleaning the roof. I called it quits on bench as soon as I felt it. I wouldn't describe it as a pull but feels a little stretched out and compromised.

Last night's date #2 with Norwegian girl was ok, felt like I was running out of steam doing a second pub date but she's invited me to hers this Thursday so we'll see what happens.

Finishing the roof clean tomorrow! Hopefully it doesn't rain as that will mean I have to go back another day.
 
Roof clean went great!
Gave my details to a neighbour who was looking for jet washing.

I'm glad to have had more success and experience with this service since the one I had to abandon in April as it's such a good earner and UK houses are covered with moss.

Tomorrow's date has rescheduled to Friday.

Got a couple window cleans tomorrow then I'm back to door to door.

My lower back gets fried from holding the pole and standing still for long periods so I've set up my reverse hyper in the garage and will spam them for strength and recovery. Last time I went crazy with this exercise I got my deadlift to 250kg so it'll be interesting to see what I can do in a few months.
 
Ali said:
For example last night she said I could pick her up and go into town or I could bring a couple drinks over to hers so it was clear to take the second option for the best chance of getting laid.
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My bad for not replying to this for ages.

I see what you mean. I think my template that I use works well specifically for getting them on a date to grab a drink together, but is poor for that 'instant invite' over to either place. I usually the the same 2-3 message sequence then freestyle it.
 
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My bad for not replying to this for ages.

I see what you mean. I think my template that I use works well specifically for getting them on a date to grab a drink together, but is poor for that 'instant invite' over to either place. I usually the the same 2-3 message sequence then freestyle it.
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With the girl who I'm going to hers on Thursday I sent her a message saying id love to invite her to mine but I don't have my own place right now. She mentioned this when she invited me over like it was a good justification to invite me to hers. It also shows them they'll have to invite me over if they want more intimacy.

That's my reasoning anyway, I might have been able to pull her on the first date if I had my own place but this is quite pleasant too as I'm less attached to the outcome of a single date and just seeing if we have any chemistry.
 
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