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Living the dream/ Phase 1 - The first crossroads

Ali said:
With the girl who I'm going to hers on Thursday I sent her a message saying id love to invite her to mine but I don't have my own place right now
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Yeah that might actually be my go to until I move. Ideally I can get the date near where they live, then after having a drink at the bar I can say that I'd usually invite them for a drink at mine but I don't have my own place right now, but we could share some wine at hers if she's down? Then it'll either be yes or no from there
 
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Nice chilled day doing a few cleans today. Another customer came through from my door to door efforts last week.
Giving out leaflets and cards has significantly improved my customer uptake for houses when I'm going door to door and they don't say either yes or no but ask for details.

Roof cleaning: my body is battered today but I want this to become a major part of my business, I could do one of these a week do nothing else and still make a comfortable living they pay so well.

Will hammer the doors tomorrow, Friday and Saturday.

Diet was good today. No workout but did a sauna session.

Norwegian Girl I was seeing tomorrow has rescheduled to Friday
 
I think I got dehydrated on Tues and am now suffering for it a little.

Also ended up talking to a hot Spanish girl until 3 in the morning which was not smart but it was fun at least.

Workout felt grim and had a migraine after.

Rescheduled again with the super hot girl. I actually said that's ok and left it after she asked to reschedule again and deleted the chat to move onto better prospects but she hit me up with a double message so we're currently booked for Monday eve.

Not too productive but after my workout I think I've got over the dehydration.

Will bring electrolytes and up the water next time, as it keeps creeping up on me even with loads of water.

Diet was good today
 
Went over to Norwegian girls, had a nice time but didn't end up sleeping with her.
She has a kitten so her flat was really warm, started watching a horror film (which didn't really put me in the mood) then almost fell asleep lol.
She also didn't return or open up to me touching her, which I didn't really know when to initiate.
Found out she's on beta blockers so maybe less sex drive I'm not sure.
Not really too worried as it was fun hanging out anyway.

In a surprising turn of events the super hot girl invited me over to hers tomorrow as she's dog sitting. Quite a good development.

Accountability:
After doing the roof clean and a few other big jobs towards the end of last week I really slacked off.
Getting a load of money in such a short time made me way to lax with getting new jobs.
So I ended up talking to girls, saw the milf from the other week again and staying up late while doing so.

When I've been on a roll in the past it's because I've been locked into a groove and just do things because that's my routine.

Improvements:
Make a brochure of all the services I offer so when I do door to door during the daytime and less people are in I can post them through.
I think a picture of me in front of my branded van (when I get it) will be good and I'll go for a personal local guy type of angle.
I also want to emphasise all services equally as I prefer the bigger jobs.
This way my door to door time will become more efficient.
I can add a qr code to my website too.

Ask existing customers for referrals.

Turn it into a game: I like this approach. It's weird knowing that theres never going to be a ceiling for how much I get done in a day, there will always be more to do but this can lead to a lack of focus.

Aug/September: I'm gonna try to get 100 new customers by the end of the month.

How?: door to door mon-sat for four hours a day

Motivation:
I think checking in with positive people to share how/what I'm doing and vice versa is really good for me. Also just getting structure and routine so my brain starts to see closing a sale or completing a job as one of its main sources of reward is good to.
Accountability doesn't work too much as I just won't check in and I'll use it to procrastinate.
I also want to let go of the idea of a perfect days work as I'll justify doing nothing and starting the next day perfectly instead of having a sub optimal day.
 
Hit my 4 hrs door to door. I was grumpy but it went very well, got 7 new customers now.
Pretty deprived area actually, had more success with the bigger houses.

Workout done

Ended up talking to the flamenco dancer on the phone last night, was fun tbh, too bad we missed eachother.

A solid day
 
Got my door to door.
8 new customers!

Finally went on the date with the very attractive girl, had a great figure too. She's quite far away and also living at home FFS these logistics.
I didn't go for the kiss and just had a goofy hug at the end lol even though I saw her open up to it, she said she had a good time and wants to see me again.
I was a bit tired and we talked over eachother a lot but I think she was a bit nervous actually. These first dates all feel the same but minus the offer to go to my flat. Might suggest something more active going forwards.
Still talking to the flamenco girl, might actually meet her in London next Tues which will certainly be an interesting day out.
 
Door to door done.
Quieter today but that's how it goes.
Have a cold too, I think from Norwegian girl :(
The hot girl went from being quite slow to message to almost sending too much after our date. It's still proving difficult to get together with our schedules but now she's apologising all the time for it too.
The girl who was my second lay reached out to me today, predictably because her relationship is apparently not going well - I'm not fond of this behaviour.
M also stopped talking to me now that she can't have sex with me, these women just want one thing lmao.

A good day, hopefully I'll feel better tm and get to the gym
 
Felt worse today, luckily the weather is nice out.
Going ahead with my London date with the flamenco girl on Tues.

I've closed the loop with Norwegian girl as I don't feel a vibe.

Feeling way more engaged with my business this week, the accountability has been very effective
 
Second coffee date with the really hot girl this morning. I didn't vibe too much with her, she's very into horse riding and her dogs which is cool but not my thing right now.
This makes 4 girls I've seen but I wouldn't want to see if casual sex was removed from the equation. I'm gonna keep going down this path for now. Maybe off the apps too.
I've been as nice as possible each time.
It has been just very nice to to stress about getting laid as a metric for how my life is going and I can say it's felt effortless messaging these girls and setting up dates.

This week:
Keep the business momentum up 4 hrs door to door m,w,T,f,s
Workout ×4 cardio ×2
AM I'm gonna get out early in the sun barefoot and eat some dha too every day
Diet: cut back the calories a little now that I'm feeling better
 
Cleans done
Door to door done
Workout done
Four new customers today.
Really enjoyed having a nice compact round to do all my jobs efficiently.
Had my coffee out in the sun this morning stood on the grass and ate some dha too.
 
Fantastic date in London with the flamenco dancer.
She's only got a week left in the UK so it was just a bit of fun.
Very hot, intelligent, great body and lively to talk to. Got very hot and heavy at some points even in public.
Sat next to her because I said it was getting cold, said I had an intrusive thought about kissing her neck, she asked if I wanted to kiss her and I said yes then we were off, felt very natural. She started moaning too and got very handsy.
She actually took notes when I told her what I like over text and followed through, even wore a nice skirt because I said it accentuates the hips.

Really nice day off and this will be good going forwards with the kind of women I want to have something more serious with in future.
She has set the bar high haha
 
A busy day of cleaning.
Starting to outgrow the car setup now which is a good problem to have.
Time to really dial everything in this month while I still have plenty of daylight to get both jobs and door to door done.
 
Thunderstorms all day today so not much I could do door to door.
Got a good workout in and meal prepped for the next few days.
After losing today and taking Tuesday off I want to go out on the weekend to get it back.
 
Four hours d2d done, 4 but hopefully five new people as one came up to me and said her window cleaner had stopped showing up.

Hard going today as I found out there were two cleaners already operating on the estate I was in.

Mood was quite foul but I began to go faster through people when they said no and started to feel less irritable.

Good workout and diet today

Will hit it again tm and Sunday, try to get ahead on next week and book plenty of jobs in.

I really want another advertising stream that I can have helping me out in the background even if it's much less effective another trickle of leads would be very nice.

So many of my customers are on an 8-weekly basis but by the end of this month the numbers should really start to compound in a noticeable way.
 
2hrs d2d done. No luck today. Was very good for me though, constantly asking why am I doing this, what do I want?

This will take some time, a lot of home service business people on YouTube advertise this as a get rich quick endeavour but the UK market seems pretty saturated.

I'm going to get to a good number of customers and get good equipment to make it easy if I just keep going, that's pretty cool. But it is more work than I thought 😆

I think 4hrs d2d 5 days a week is a solid number to where I can grow to a good size by Christmas.
Otherwise I'm gonna get more creative, even just an extra stream of five more customers a week would make a massive difference and save me so much time.
There are plenty of window cleaners who don't use door to door sales or just use it as a secondary method so I'm gonna find them and see what they do.
 
How I'm going to make next week as productive as possible:

Cleans AM
Door to door 4hrs 5 days PM
Workout ×4
Find and invest in one alternative marketing method
Go to two socials
Keep using the apps to set up dates
Eat healthy
Skincare
Mental: Get up straight away (no screen time) one point of gratitude, one thing I like about myself every day. Play some guitar, go out in nature. Have my morning coffee while grounding.
 
Failed today completely.
I couldn't get out of bed this morning and missed my cleans.
I feel like there's some depression setting in living back at home and want to get myself out to a big city up north again.
Life is just passing me by here.

I'm picking up some work on the week and moving my customers to Saturday's to save up as quickly as possible.

Going on a hike today to really think about what I want and what I'm willing to put years of work into to achieve.
 
Got a decent job and moved my cleans onto Saturdays.
I aim to save 1k each month.
Will post my other goals once I've made some good steps forwards.
 
Spent more time thinking about what I want and why.
I've been playing guitar a lot again and it's made me feel much more grounded.
I think an element of depression has set in again living at home but lifted now my plan to leave is back in effect. Really felt this last week after that amazing date in London then coming back to a small town.

I've spoken to a few people and now I'm looking at Sheffield.

Before I move I'd like:
£3k in savings
My car well serviced and running well
To have abs (more)
A side hustle if I want more cash
My guitar skills back
A job lined up that is decent has has a short commute
Build social freedom

I treated my tine in Nottingham like a sprint to try and get laid. Had some good success and then ended up working and experimenting with my business while still paying the contract for an expensive city centre flat that no longer served me.
I was fortunate to have 'solved' a lot of my women problems very quickly and shifted into dating a few girls at once which was awesome and I had some very rewarding relationships.
Once I was sleeping with a few different girls each week my goal became to spend as much of my time as possible doing what I want, which is where the self-employed angle really gained momentum.
Originally I was gonna do this with guitar teaching but felt the financial pressure start to mount and just decided to make money as fast as possible gutter cleaning.
At first it didn't matter if I ran out of money but dating M was so fun I wanted to stay in the area for as long as I could. This cost me some time in the long run but some of my favourite memories are defrosting my car in the morning and her coming out in her dressing gown with a coffee for me.

This time round I want to do things more holistically. Not worry about bills and build a social circle as well as a dating life and getting to enjoy things like making music with people again.
 
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