Ravi, Year 3: Self-Improvement Log - Data-Driven, Incremental Growth [DISCIPLINE]

[Radical]

I said I don't really go for IG.

Reasons for this?

You arent at a stage to be turning down contacts for whatever reason

 

[Ravi]

I said I don't really go for IG.

Reasons for this?

You arent at a stage to be turning down contacts for whatever reason

I think I got an IG from a girl in month 1 and the boys laughed at me for being a cuck, lol. I think they advised me to push for numbers or nothing, so I did that.

Very true. I won't do that again. Even if she just chatted casually on IG, like even for 1 day, I would have enjoyed that and gotten a lot from it.

MAC

 

[Radical]

Reasons for this?

You arent at a stage to be turning down contacts for whatever reason

I think I got an IG from a girl in month 1 and the boys laughed at me for being a cuck, lol. I think they advised me to push for numbers or nothing, so I did that.

Very true. I won't do that again. Even if she just chatted casually on IG, like even for 1 day, I would have enjoyed that and gotten a lot from it.

MAC

Numbers are preferable yeah but walking away with nothing is hardly a victory
If you push for a number and she stands firm on only giving IG, then take the IG. You can unfollow etc if she doesnt respond to a DM

 

[Ravi]

I think I got an IG from a girl in month 1 and the boys laughed at me for being a cuck, lol. I think they advised me to push for numbers or nothing, so I did that.

Very true. I won't do that again. Even if she just chatted casually on IG, like even for 1 day, I would have enjoyed that and gotten a lot from it.

MAC

Numbers are preferable yeah but walking away with nothing is hardly a victory
If you push for a number and she stands firm on only giving IG, then take the IG. You can unfollow etc if she doesnt respond to a DM

Good point and I do agree. I will do this next time.

This week has actually been like the best week for approach ever. Yesterday the girl talked, and today, same thing. In June they would not say 1 solitary word lol.

All going in the right direction.

MAC

 

[Radical]

Someone who hates taking IG and called you a cuck

I smell a Crisis

 

[Ravi]

Yes I think it was actually him lol.

I have 1.6k followers on IG and a tonne of travel photography. I am gonna start using it and putting daily stories on there.

If the ladies wanna give me an IG, it may even be good for me, as my IG is kinda interesting.

MAC

 

[Radical]

If you have a cool IG and you look good on it, its a nice thing to link for tinder

Keep pushing for numbers, just dont turn down alt forms of contact if a number isnt forthcoming

 

[Ravi]

For sure Radical, will go out every single day lol, 7 days a week baby, wherever, whenever, we're meeting women!

So I took Crisis_Overcomer 's advise and hit up a bunch of freelancers on Fiverrr who design websites and get them looking great. It's super cheap tbh and I will find one that I like and get him to do the site up. Again, all I am looking from it right now is to be able to upload an article a day, and to display my free FB group and socials, so people can get interesting info on the daily.

Other than that, as Crisis, Andy, and a few others have said, I will be using the rest of my time: answering questions on FB & Reddit, networking, and studying quantum & circadian biology, breathwork, nature tempering, neural plasticity and brain conditioning, and spirituality among other things to solidity the overall framework I have been developing for 12 years

Also, my weight is dropping steadily now, 211lbs this morning, damn I may be under 210 this week. This is getting hard for me to process. I can't believe I am here :-/ God damn, I may be under 200lbs soon. My body is getting better and better through hard ass work and discipline.

Gonna knock out a quick article now, and then gonna just play guitar and get to bed.

Keep hammering,
MAC

 

[Ravi]

THURS 30/09/2021
ACTION POINTS

(1) Biz: Write & Post article, post on FB groups for 1hr, post on Reddit for 1hr.
(2) Cold Approach: 2.5hrs
(3) Life Admin: outsourcing tech stuff, tasks for parents
(4) Video Work: Edit float tank video
(5) Hobbies: Guitar & Read QB

Keep hammering,
MAC

 

[Ravi]

Oh shit, wanted to say, I was driving yesterday and I had a few synchronicities happen. I saw my angel number (329) randomly on a motorway exit, and then the car in front of me had a number plate ended in MAC!

This is usually a sign that I am on the right path and need to keep working.

This song came on that I hadn't heard since my teens, and fuck me, it hit a chord. It was Green Day's Basketcase, and when he talks about how neurotic he is, how he saw a psychiatrist and was told he felt shit because he is not having sex, and when he "went to a whore...she said my life's a bore", and to "quit your whining 'cause it's bringing her down". LOL. Man, I saw an escort like 3 months ago as I was getting bummed about turning 30 still a virgin, and I was telling this chick about my lack of experience, she was also kinda weirded out by it. But in my case she was super sweet to me, so it was good. Man, Billy Joe Armstrong, American poet, in this song he's self-deprecating, eludes to an increasingly neurotic culture, and a collective crisis of identity and connection which would be amplified tenfold as the decades to come. I am grateful for the music of the 90s and 2000s, it was richer in substance and helped many of us from then form a deeper identity and be a bit more worldly IMO. I have a younger brother and the music he listens to is interesting but also just a different vibe. If I was a kid in this era, I would be entirely different as a person, and I am not sure I would be excited by the life that I would be living. Before social media, before much was going on with the internet, our culture was more human, more wholesome, and it was so easy to be blissfully unaware back then. There was no comparison between all the other folks out there. You were so ignorant to much of it, so you could do your own thing and be your own person IMO.

Back then, when I was 18-19 and going to clubs, there genuinely was no red pill or lord forbit, the dreaded black pill, there was nothing like that online, so I was blissfully unaware and truly, truly thought I would just somehow find a girl. I remember speaking to loads and loads and I was so sure someone, somewhere would be a good fit, but the more I met, I kinda of began to realise the world that existed outside of me was very different to the one my nerdy ass was living in. The other people were not interested in reading literature, playing music, drawing, painting, writing short stories. And CERTAINLY NOT the women. Some men kind of appreciated it, I found some good mates at Uni, but from the female side of things. they didn't resonate with this energy. It was more about getting drink and partying with them. They were very insecure about their perceived status and behaved very tribally, only wanting to know certain people, etc. We all have seen this play out.

I listened to that song and just laughed my head off. Fuck man. It brought back a lot. People have gone through this sort of tumult since the beginning of the world. You won't beat them, so you join them, strategically.

What matters is that you are happy. We'll need to play the game, but from there, when we've built ourselves up, I am sure we can make choices as to how we want to live. If I got rich, I would look at building a fortress out in nature or moving to the countryside. In 15-20 years I want the only concern that is left for me to be based on family.

My creative outlets mean a lot to me and I will keep tinkering away at them. I have only played guitar a day or two a week, and this makes me kinda sad. We do these things because they are sacred to us. I absolutely CRINGE that I used to think being interesting as a person would make it easier to find a girl. This is an example of very irrational behaviour being exhibited by people, which we are all prone to.

Gotta work.......later.

MAC

 

[Ravi]

Working away, did my morning routine, did some life admin / errands, and went out to approach for 2hrs. Was out for 1hr45, did 1 approach which was quick she had a bf and that was that. I saw one girl who looked interesting, her whole energy, we both looked at each other but I was under the kosh of AA so just kept moving.

So, that was me for today.

Tomorrow will try again, also going for a few beers with my best mate, I'll try to talk to some ladies in the pub, lol.

Just gonna work for the rest of the day, head down and focused.

MAC

 

[SamJ_]

This song came on that I hadn't heard since my teens, and fuck me, it hit a chord. It was Green Day's Basketcase, and when he talks about how neurotic he is, how he saw a psychiatrist and was told he felt shit because he is not having sex, and when he "went to a whore...she said my life's a bore", and to "quit your whining 'cause it's bringing her down". LOL. Man, I saw an escort like 3 months ago as I was getting bummed about turning 30 still a virgin, and I was telling this chick about my lack of experience, she was also kinda weirded out by it. But in my case she was super sweet to me, so it was good. Man, Billy Joe Armstrong, American poet, in this song he's self-deprecating, eludes to an increasingly neurotic culture, and a collective crisis of identity and connection which would be amplified tenfold as the decades to come. I am grateful for the music of the 90s and 2000s, it was richer in substance and helped many of us from then form a deeper identity and be a bit more worldly IMO. I have a younger brother and the music he listens to is interesting but also just a different vibe. If I was a kid in this era, I would be entirely different as a person, and I am not sure I would be excited by the life that I would be living. Before social media, before much was going on with the internet, our culture was more human, more wholesome, and it was so easy to be blissfully unaware back then. There was no comparison between all the other folks out there. You were so ignorant to much of it, so you could do your own thing and be your own person IMO.

Nice man, I'm a Green Day fan too. They definitely have some really deep lyrics to some of their songs. I think American Idiot is super prophetic.

Back then, when I was 18-19 and going to clubs, there genuinely was no red pill or lord forbit, the dreaded black pill, there was nothing like that online, so I was blissfully unaware and truly, truly thought I would just somehow find a girl. I remember speaking to loads and loads and I was so sure someone, somewhere would be a good fit, but the more I met, I kinda of began to realise the world that existed outside of me was very different to the one my nerdy ass was living in. The other people were not interested in reading literature, playing music, drawing, painting, writing short stories. And CERTAINLY NOT the women. Some men kind of appreciated it, I found some good mates at Uni, but from the female side of things. they didn't resonate with this energy. It was more about getting drink and partying with them. They were very insecure about their perceived status and behaved very tribally, only wanting to know certain people, etc. We all have seen this play out.

I listened to that song and just laughed my head off. Fuck man. It brought back a lot. People have gone through this sort of tumult since the beginning of the world. You won't beat them, so you join them, strategically.

What matters is that you are happy. We'll need to play the game, but from there, when we've built ourselves up, I am sure we can make choices as to how we want to live. If I got rich, I would look at building a fortress out in nature or moving to the countryside. In 15-20 years I want the only concern that is left for me to be based on family.

My creative outlets mean a lot to me and I will keep tinkering away at them. I have only played guitar a day or two a week, and this makes me kinda sad. We do these things because they are sacred to us. I absolutely CRINGE that I used to think being interesting as a person would make it easier to find a girl. This is an example of very irrational behaviour being exhibited by people, which we are all prone to.

Gotta work.......later.

MAC

I think you're definitely mistaken if you think that being interesting as a person does NOT make it easier to find a girl. Why would it not? I mean by itself it's not gonna create sexual attraction, that's true, but I think it helps later on. You're right that women are really superficial when it comes to what they want in guys, but if you actually think about it, we as guys are even moreso, at least I am sometimes lol. Sexual attraction is just pretty much instinctual. You mentioned you had extreme anxiety back then that you've been able to mostly overcome, so don't assume that your results will be the same now. It is strange that all of the girls you talked to when you were younger had no interest in creative pursuits tho, while the guys did, in my experience it's typically the exact opposite. Maybe it's a cultural difference between the US and UK? Honestly if you have no luck over there in years and you're really, really serious about this, you could always try moving to the midwest US or some other part of the world.

 

[Svadhishthana]

Oh hey, I was a Green Day fan too as a kid.

I fell asleep while
Watching Spike TV
After ten cups of coffee
And you're still not here

Dreaming of a song
But something went wrong
And you cant tell anyone
Cuz no one's here

Left me here alone
When I should have stayed home
After 10 cups of coffee
I'm thinking

Nobody likes you
Everyone left you
They're all out without you
Having fun

MAC, I think a more likely explaination of women's disinterest in your interests in the past has less to do with what they care about, and more to do with the fact that they weren't attracted to you. Or maybe you just only hung out with boring women. But my guess is that they got desperate vibes from you, and were trying their best not to encourage you. Also possible that you're suffering from a selective memory.

I expect women in your life will become more interesting as you become more attractive and successful.

 

[Ravi]

Damn dude that's awesome!! For sure, god, there is so much to their stuff. There are definitely many awesome artists of those eras, people who made an enduring contribution and whose work can definitely enrich ones life a whole lot.

It is these little things that can add a whole lot of soul and richness to life. I was listening to some pretty bleak Elliot Smith songs earlier, which i try not to do, but fuck me was this dude able to feel. I can't believe he wrote so beautifully and captured some of the subtle frailty of life we have all experienced in fleeting moments. This level of thoughtfulness is something that is one of the most captivating parts of the human experience.

Eh, you're probably right. I don't know. Can't say I really mind man. Even if most of the women in this country are not interested, I only need to find one who will give me a chance and I will do my best to find that 1.

For sure, we'll talk about this next year if it's still like it currently is. I am open to it. I'll get this move done first, will go out 7 days a week for minimum two hours a day, and if after a whole year of that, if we're still here, I will sadly have to leave this country and go elsewhere.

We can have that discussion in Oct 2022. I still have 12 months before then.

I'll be OK either way.

MAC

 

[Ravi]

Oh hey, I was a Green Day fan too as a kid.

I fell asleep while
Watching Spike TV
After ten cups of coffee
And you're still not here

Dreaming of a song
But something went wrong
And you cant tell anyone
Cuz no one's here

Left me here alone
When I should have stayed home
After 10 cups of coffee
I'm thinking

Nobody likes you
Everyone left you
They're all out without you
Having fun

MAC, I think a more likely explaination of women's disinterest in your interests in the past has less to do with what they care about, and more to do with the fact that they weren't attracted to you. Or maybe you just only hung out with boring women. But my guess is that they got desperate vibes from you, and were trying their best not to encourage you. Also possible that you're suffering from a selective memory.

I expect women in your life will become more interesting as you become more attractive and successful.

Hmmm, that makes a lot of sense. I would accept that, and I have no problem with that.

Yeah. I an open minded to this possibility. So much work to be done yet, better to just wait for a few more months and see.

MAC

 

[Ravi]

Yesteday was solid man, got my shit done, played guitar for 2hrs in the evening and did some singing practice, inspired by MattsCrib , I would like to improve my voice. It's just a fun hobby for me, it would be cool.

Started with some orthotopic work, wore the myobrace to sleep last night. Woke up feeling clearer, calmer, and really motivated. Should be starting with an ALF expander in 3-4 weeks also.

FRI 01/10/21
ACTION POINTS

(1) Biz: Write & Post article, post on FB groups for 1hr, post on Reddit for 1hr, post 2 TikToks
(2) Cold Approach: 2hr
(3) Video Work: Edit float tank video
(4) Hobbies: Guitar, Singing Practice

+other life stuff.

Going for a few beers tonight. Will approach obv.

....Don't expect much ;-)

MAC

 

[Ravi]

Oh, morning BW was 211.0 today. SO CLOSE TO BEING UNDER 210.

Being under 210 is a big deal for me. Fuck. It may happen next week.

One day I'm finna ascend and be a CHAD

Next steps:
1) Get to 185lbs. Should be lean enough for abs.
2) Hop on a gram a test a week
3) Hair transplant and extensive facial plastic surgery
4) ???
5) Be anointed Lord MAC of Chadsbury and obtain occasional OLD matches
6) PROFIT

MAC

 

[Ravi]

Just had 35mins to approach, had to take me mam to the doc's, and then run her errands. Got 1 approach in! 0/1.

Approched a hot Indian girl. She was fine, but she was like very head in the clouds, like she was gazing around and not making much eye-contact, not sure what was going on with her but she was so pretty. I kept rambling on.

I then got a fucking stonk on.

Asked for her number, she said no, and I wished her well and kept moving, now with my cock causing me to have to widen my gait and skip down the road with my brain in baby making mode.

Biz stuff earlier was solid, posted 2 TikToks, wrote and posted an article, now gonna eat dinner and spend 2 hrs on Reddit and FB Groups answering qs. Will sing, play guitar, and then gonna see my bro for a few beers in the pub. Will do some casual approaches in the boozer!

Cheers,
MAC

 

[SamJ_]

Oh, morning BW was 211.0 today. SO CLOSE TO BEING UNDER 210.

Being under 210 is a big deal for me. Fuck. It may happen next week.

One day I'm finna ascend and be a CHAD

Next steps:
1) Get to 185lbs. Should be lean enough for abs.
2) Hop on a gram a test a week
3) Hair transplant and extensive facial plastic surgery
4) ???
5) Be anointed Lord MAC of Chadsbury and obtain occasional OLD matches
6) PROFIT

MAC

I think you should think long and hard before getting a "hair transplant" and "extensive facial plastic surgery." You obviously are extremely insecure about your looks but I think you look great. You're assuming that women are rejecting you cuz they think you're ugly, I don't think that's true, I think it's cuz they can sense that you're insecure as fuck and think that getting validation from women will be the key to a happy life. You oscillate between anger and resentment toward women and saying you're gonna give up again to being willing to have extensive surgeries to change yourself for them and think that will bring you ultimate happiness? Neither attitude is healthy. Tbh I think you've gotta learn to accept yourself as you are, keep doing what you've been doing and recognize you can be happy now as you work toward your goals. Resenting your own appearance or resenting women is guaranteed to end very badly, believe me.

 

[Radical]

I think that was a joke post SamJ_