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Ravi, Year 3: Self-Improvement Log - Data-Driven, Incremental Growth [DISCIPLINE]

The Phoenix Project: Week 2 / Day 7

Wednesday 17/11/2021

ACTION POINTS

(1) Cold Approach: Talk to 5 girls (DONE, 0/5 in 3 hrs)
(2) OLD: 1hr Process (DONE)
(3) Physical Activity: Core / Bodyweight Training, Read GLL Get Laid (FAIL)
(4) Other: Email friends, call w/ accountability partner (DONE)

Notes: Fucking ass buster of a session, looooooong ass day, was pounding the pavement for 3 hrs to get those approaches. I knew I had to beat last time by 1, I did 4 previously, so I had to do 5 today. Man it was so long, freezing out too. But I DID IT!

I had a great call with my accountability partner, we did end up talking for over 2hrs!

Its almost 11pm now man I've gotta go to bed, I have put 3 as a fail because there is no more time in the day.....


I worked so hard today, truly, I worked my fucking butt off. 4hrs remote work, then 2hr drive in the car to Kingston, put my shit down, 45mins on the train to central, 3hrs of approaching walking around, 45 mins back, 8pm hits and then I had to do my weekly accountability call. There was no fluff I did all I could.


I will be back tomorrow and will hustle even harder, shit, I have a pretty girl coming to go on a date with me!!!!

Boys, I appreciate you saying you think I can get laid, I am open to the possibility, I will figure it out.

Keep hammering,
MAC
 
Running Totals:
Cold Approaches: 13
Numbers: 0
Dates: 1
Sexual Encounters: 0
 
MakingAComeback said:
(1) Cold Approach: Talk to 5 girls (DONE, 0/5 in 3 hrs)
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great job dude. keep it up and you'll kill it
 
Thanks brother you are fucking SLAYING and truly grinding your ass off something insane LOL

You will have an unreal dating life

One thing I will add to my log is the number of chicks looking at me now I've lost more weight is pretty nuts, I am often taken aback, some of them are really pretty too. It DOES NOT compute. It's the height man. Face is average, hair is fucking REKT, it's just being tall, lean, and wearing what Radical tells me to.

I had a few moments where women were like really staring, like there were 2 girls where we made eye contact, and then they just kept looking at me dead in my eyes as we walked past each other. Both instances these were small Asian girls..........they were very pretty, but yeah, just making this known to the group. This is all fucking new to me, I am coming from many years of being an absolutely obese and disgusting looking beast (remember, I had so many problems that my appearance was not something I had the time to focus on).

Processing all this change is a mind fuck man. Sometimes it doesn't feel like my life anymore. It sometimes feels like I am waking up and I am playing as someone else now.

Self improvement man.........The underdogs cheat code is work ethic. Dudes who were dealt a bad hand can still make it IMO, but they have to be willing to out work every motherfucker on planet earth. Grinding every day man. I am willing to cold approach for 12 hrs a day if needed. Make it 18. I don't even care.

The Phoenix Project will be delivered successfully, and that's final.

MAC
 
MakingAComeback said:
I had a few moments where women were like really staring, like there were 2 girls where we made eye contact, and then they just kept looking at me dead in my eyes as we walked past each other.
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this is awesome! they're literally telling you "please approach me" with their eyes. you gotta do it man
 
Interesting moment for MAC. Go to check my phone, and there's a dating first: SHE texts me to confirm for tonight....WUT?!

I never saw this happening man, it feels really good, she's a lovely looking girl, really pretty, and she actually wants to spend time with me. This is rather insane to me to process, but it actually happened, it is not a figment of my imagination, and I have attached a screenshot to prove it (obv all personal info redacted).

This feels so good as a man. Ugh. I am loving where I am right now, and it is literally only the beginning, the motivation I have to get shredded, to get professional photos done, to become proficient in cold approach, and to go on as many dates as possible is just beyond words. This is my entire focus right now and it comes first.

Sharing a pleasant moment.

MAC
 
MakingAComeback said:
I never saw this happening man, it feels really good, she's a lovely looking girl, really pretty, and she actually wants to spend time with me. This is rather insane to me to process, but it actually happened, it is not a figment of my imagination, and I have attached a screenshot to prove it
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Hell yeah brother. Feels good when girls start treating you differently. It validates the changes that you've made. Many more experiences like this to come
 
MakingAComeback said:
Processing all this change is a mind fuck man. Sometimes it doesn't feel like my life anymore. It sometimes feels like I am waking up and I am playing as someone else now.
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I know you're working super hard but at moments like this don't forget to take stock of how far you've come. You are already killing it man! I believe in you so hard.
I listen to this song when I wanna get pumped up before going out. Maybe It'll help you slay when you're out there.
https://youtu.be/aPZCGleqh7M
 
Hey bros, it's 11:17pm, man I fucking bust my ass today, I gave everything I had to give. Today was truly one of the hardest hustles I have done in a minute LOL

Goal was to cold approach 10 girls, fuck me dude, it took me 4 hours! All rejections, 1 gal was at least nice. The rest were straight rejections, didn't get past hi apart from one girl who when I said hi, I'm Mac I think you're attracti- BOOM, she was in there, "do you have a lighter?" which I do. She lit her cig, smiled and said have a good day lol.

I pushed and pushed, missed endless chances, felt waves of depression, eventually felt so numb I just says "FUCK IT" and went from 1 approach after 2 hours to getting 9 approaches in the next 2 hrs. It was then 430pm, so I stopped for dinner, got a nice rice bowl, downed a water, and had 2 and a half hrs to kill before my date. I walked around a while, went to the cinema and watched 1hr of ghostbusters lol, and then walked to the date.

She was on time. She was pretty. Very confident gal, gave me a big hug, we went to the cocktail bar. It was a lovely spot.

The first thing she said to me was "Oh, you hide your hair on your dating pictures". I wasn't wearing a hat on the date. She was not impressed and gave me a very funny look. I laughed and just kept vibing. We had a great conversation for 2 and a half hours. She was a feminist, expressed that she thought I was a very dominant male and I was not someone she would ever be with. She was a great listner and did tell me I am very interesting as a person, but she also was upfront and told me "There isn't any emotional connection here" and we went to get the bill. Her being a feminist, she actually split the bill with me, which was awesome - it was expensive!

She also expressed that I am a very patriarchal man who wants a family, and quizzed me why I didn't want to be a stay at home dad. She was an attractive lady and very confident, it was a fun time, but yeah, she was quite blunt and perhaps a little too honest at times. In truth, I respect that she was so honest, it was great to hear this stuff - I am OK with rejection provided I have been truly honest about who I am, and I did so 100%.

For guys who are losing their hair - good luck. It is a big factor, in my opinion this chick made her mind up the second she saw me. And it's absolutely OK. I am still proud of who I am as a man. I worked my fucking arse off today and gave all I could, slayed at work, did so much shit, powered through endless horrible feelings during cold approach, and also took a challenging dating experience on the chin. I am becoming a far better man and for this I am proud.

I am absolutely open and honest about who I am and told the absolute truth, she asked me TONNES of questions and probed so deep into everything. It was....interesting.

She gave me a big hug wished me well and left.

It was a good experience, obviously I felt very disappointed, but I am absolutely absolutely going to hammer 500 x harder and I will get a girl on a date who likes me.

I have another date tomorrow, hope she is a nicer gal.

OLD pics will be improved. I am losing weight. I haven't had a fucking SECOND to train, I am going to have to start doing bodyweight workouts, and fit them into my schedule somehow. But since I got to London I have hustled my fucking face off.........

I will be back tomorrow and will go hard.

Stats to follow. We are now on date 5. Only 3 more to go, and I only have like 2lbs to lose now, to complete my 1st year at KYIL totally successfully and accomplish everything that I put on the post.

I shared the above with my bros as I felt pretty bummed man. Now I am fine but 2 things which they said were super useful:

"Chalk it down to the game"
Timmy Turner

Wise words.

"Get ready for a lot more disappointment"

Crisis Overcomer

It ain't all sunshine and rainbows. This journey will truly hurt you. Especially if you are a loving and emotional type of person.

But in the end, through force of will, I have a chance. I am alive, I am in the world, I have a chance.....

MAC
 
Running Totals:
Cold Approaches: 23
Numbers: 0
Dates: 2
Sexual Encounters: 0
 
MakingAComeback said:
Goal was to cold approach 10 girls, fuck me dude, it took me 4 hours! All rejections, 1 gal was at least nice. The rest were straight rejections, didn't get past hi apart from one girl who when I said hi, I'm Mac I think you're attracti- BOOM, she was in there, "do you have a lighter?" which I do. She lit her cig, smiled and said have a good day lol.
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absolutely solid mileage. going from 5 to 10 is awesome.

you can keep increasing the approach count if you want but I'd probably recommend trying to do 10 approaches in 2 hours instead of 4 next time. My approach rate is usually 10~15/hr but I'm strolling around on a college campus.

Going 0/10 as a beginner probably sounds terrible, but I think most guys in Europe seem to have 4/50, 7/60, 3/30, etc sessions. One time someone went 1/100. So this is probably normal for now.
 
Told you this on Mike's chat, but keeping/regaining your hair is of high-tier importance.

Finasteride
Minoxidil
Nizoral
Dermarolling

Try all these for a year.
 
Maybe i give the wrong impression here with my website name but as good practice i keep 1 or 2 pics up on my tinder showing my head without a hat on

When you get your shoot you want to try and have some good shots that show your hairline

Honestly she sounds like a prick anyway. I dont like know-it-all dominants
 
YOOOOOOO! Thanks for the posts bros. Back to the grind, lets fucking go.

The Phoenix Project: Week 2 / Day 9

Friday 19/11/2021

ACTION POINTS

(1) Cold Approach: 10 Approaches IN 2 HOURS
(2) OLD: 1hr Process
(3) Date: Go on date #6
(4) Mind Stuff: Write affirmations, Visualisation, Read GLL Get Laid.
(5) Physical Activity: Core / Bodyweight Training
(6) Other: Light therapy, stretching, attend orthotopic appointment.

colgate for sure man, I really want to get it down to 2hrs, 4hrs walking around with AA is a tough one LOL. I will push my 10 approaches into 2hrs and that will be unreal progress for yours truly.

pancakemouse I really appreciate your thoughts here bro, I read your posts on Mikes chat and your thoughts on this topic were really useful for me, so I am grateful you shared your insights here. I had thick long hair until I was about 24 which is when my health problems began (all this is in the OP), and it began to get smashed from there. At 26 I decided to start doing something about it, I joined Rob English's (of PerfectHairHealth) membership site and have been working with their protocols for 3 years solid. First 2 years were just scalp massages, dermapen, and nizarol. It slowed the loss down massively, and maintained what I had got a long time. Then this year, I went through another shed, so had to amp up the protocol. For about 10 months I've been using topical dutasteride 3 x a week, do scalp massages twice a day, use the dermapen 1 x a week, and nizarol shampoo is twice a week usually. Furthermore, I have recently gotten some comprehensive lab tests (DUTCH Plus) and will be going for a micronutrient test (SpectraCell draw) to work with things on the hormonal side. Having been on his site for a while, there are definitely dudes who got regrowth and there are case studies on the internet, but it can be a lengthy process. We'll see how it goes following the interpretation of my lab tests.

Radical absolutely man, in the next shoot I will have some like that :)

Keep hammering,
MAC
 
Btw please tell me you arent still using this suit and ball cap picture. Its really not a good outfit

The ones of you in the denim are wayy better
 
Yes indeed my man I am using the demin one was the main :D

This weekend I am going to sit down and do some critical thinking on photoshoot, where I will move after my AirBNB.
 
You got it g, will send out a bunch of emails on the photoshoot from Sat & Sun, will chat to Timmy and get the number for his guy, then I will push to get this shoot done next week. Should have some nice pics from it and they will be useable.

I will OK all outfits with you beforehand, and we will set up a solid profile here.

Will update the thread I started which had the very grandiose title 'untangling the gordian knot' lol
 
MakingAComeback said:
The rest were straight rejections, didn't get past hi apart from one girl who when I said hi, I'm Mac I think you're attracti- BOOM, she was in there, "do you have a lighter?" which I do. She lit her cig, smiled and said have a good day lol.
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What did you do after she blew you off with "have a good day"? Did you just give her the lighter and let her go off?

I feel like you should have been like "hold on a second, anyway I think you're attractive and wanted to say hi." and started an interaction. You probably could have even smoked a cigarette with her and chatted.

See if you can try to be aware of these kinds of situations in the future and force the conversation anyway.
 
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